Today, my parents have deliberately ruined my last 2 relationships, because they want me to get back together with my ex simply because he is my son's dad. Apparently, my son needs his father more than I need a man who won't beat me every time he gets drunk. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my parents are so in love with my ex, they still think it’s my fault she felt unloved enough to cheat with another man. They constantly try to convince me to take her back and become stepdad to the child she conceived with the guy she cheated on me with. FML
Today, I told both my boyfriend and my son that they needed to start spending more time together. They both asked why and what they did that I feel the need to punish them. They’re so similar, even I forget they’re not father and son, and yet for some reason they hate each other. FML
Today, I found out that my father, who very recently lost his wife, decided that drunkenly hitting on my long-time boyfriend's mom was a good idea. FML
Today, my son got in an argument with my boyfriend, packed up his stuff, and moved in with his dad. Not five minutes later I saw my boyfriend doing his stupid happy dance. When angrily confronted, he admitted he orchestrated every argument for months until he got the result he wanted, my son gone. FML
Today, I finally got a restraining order against my violent ex. My mom now keeps finding ways to tell me how shitty I am for breaking the "poor boy's" heart and how I didn't deserve him anyway. FML
Today, my parents lectured me about how my girlfriend will ruin my life, because she's a single mom, a recovering alcoholic, and has chronic health issues. Apparently, I should be with their friend's rude, trashy daughter, who can't keep a job, and goes on a drunken, drug-fueled bender every other week. I'm 31. FML
Today, I found out that after reuniting with an old boyfriend, getting close with his two year old son, and moving closer to him to properly be a part of their lives, he got back together with his ex-wife. FML
Today, I found out that my mother has been purposely wrecking every relationship I've had since junior high because ''no one is good enough for her little girl''. FML
Today, I decided to visit my dad. I haven't seen him in a while so I wanted to give him another chance to be an actual dad to me. Apparently, getting drunk and getting it on with his girlfriend while I was there was more important than spending time with his daughter, who he hasn't seen in almost a year. FML
Today, my dad told me quite bluntly that, while he loved me, he never planned to have me. My mom baby-trapped him by sabotaging their birth control methods, and my existence ruined his life irrevocably and caused the functional alcoholism he has suffered with for 40 years. FML
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smallandroid 26
You're doing the right thing for both you and your son, OP! Stay strong, hopefully your parents will eventually give up, or you will find a relationship that they finally can't ruin!
UnidentifiedFun 37
Keep the relationships on the DL if you can so that you can give your son a better example of what it is to be a man. It takes barely anything to be a 'father' but it takes a lot to be a Dad.
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xGoldColossus 7
Tbh if i were you id keep my parents out of my personal life as much as possible from now on. Don't let them know you're dating anyone. Hell if you have to make them think you're lesbian to get them off your ass. Jk about that last bit. Maybe. Seriously though I'm sorry OP that's shitty
LifeTrolls 16
Beat your parents for every time he beat you. See if they ask you back to there house.
messymessiah 11
Do your patents know he was a violent drunk? They need to get their heads straight. You need to have a stern talk with them
jude_iscariot 7
Your son certainly doesn't need THAT father, or he'll learn the same bad habits. You're doing right.
light_specks 3
Witnessing domestic violence is actually tremendously traumatic for children -- it has the same effects in terms of bad psychological outcomes as if they were abused themselves. You did the right thing by leaving when you could and by staying away from him. If you parents keep sabotaging your chance to actually raise your son in a healthy home, maybe they need to go.
Witchylady 18
Don't let your parents anywhere near your relationship. Move cities if you have too. Stand your ground and don't let them win. I am glad you had the strength to get out of that awful situation with your ex. You deserve a wonderful relationship and don't let anyone tell you differently
sillygirl247 14
That sucks ass
MenAreFromVegas 5
If only your parents valued your well being as much as they pretend to value your child's. It seems more that they can't stand to have you in a happy relationship, if you're not miserable you don't need them as much, they think. This is abusive levels of meddling. Your parents deserve to be screamed at for as long as your lungs can physically handle.
JKPwnage 27
You need to seriously talk to them about that. And congrats on leaving the abusive relationship.
Sparx1_1 16
This is how children with an abusive family member learn to become abusive themselves. It's not just the abuser that influences them. It's also the people who take the side of the abuser against all common sense. I was in a similar situation and I haven't spoken to my parents and sister and her husband for over 10 years now because of the drama they caused. My kids are better for it and have grown into decent men - something that likely would not have happened if I had allowed my family to be in their lives.