Today, my parents have deliberately ruined my last 2 relationships, because they want me to get back together with my ex simply because he is my son's dad. Apparently, my son needs his father more than I need a man who won't beat me every time he gets drunk. FML
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Today, my parents are so in love with my ex, they still think it’s my fault she felt unloved enough to cheat with another man. They constantly try to convince me to take her back and become stepdad to the child she conceived with the guy she cheated on me with. FML
Today, I told both my boyfriend and my son that they needed to start spending more time together. They both asked why and what they did that I feel the need to punish them. They’re so similar, even I forget they’re not father and son, and yet for some reason they hate each other. FML
Today, I found out that my father, who very recently lost his wife, decided that drunkenly hitting on my long-time boyfriend's mom was a good idea. FML
Today, my son got in an argument with my boyfriend, packed up his stuff, and moved in with his dad. Not five minutes later I saw my boyfriend doing his stupid happy dance. When angrily confronted, he admitted he orchestrated every argument for months until he got the result he wanted, my son gone. FML
Today, I finally got a restraining order against my violent ex. My mom now keeps finding ways to tell me how shitty I am for breaking the "poor boy's" heart and how I didn't deserve him anyway. FML
Today, my parents lectured me about how my girlfriend will ruin my life, because she's a single mom, a recovering alcoholic, and has chronic health issues. Apparently, I should be with their friend's rude, trashy daughter, who can't keep a job, and goes on a drunken, drug-fueled bender every other week. I'm 31. FML
Today, I found out that after reuniting with an old boyfriend, getting close with his two year old son, and moving closer to him to properly be a part of their lives, he got back together with his ex-wife. FML
Today, I found out that my mother has been purposely wrecking every relationship I've had since junior high because ''no one is good enough for her little girl''. FML
Today, I decided to visit my dad. I haven't seen him in a while so I wanted to give him another chance to be an actual dad to me. Apparently, getting drunk and getting it on with his girlfriend while I was there was more important than spending time with his daughter, who he hasn't seen in almost a year. FML
Today, my dad told me quite bluntly that, while he loved me, he never planned to have me. My mom baby-trapped him by sabotaging their birth control methods, and my existence ruined his life irrevocably and caused the functional alcoholism he has suffered with for 40 years. FML
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smallandroid 26
You're doing the right thing for both you and your son, OP! Stay strong, hopefully your parents will eventually give up, or you will find a relationship that they finally can't ruin!
UnidentifiedFun 37
Keep the relationships on the DL if you can so that you can give your son a better example of what it is to be a man. It takes barely anything to be a 'father' but it takes a lot to be a Dad.
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smallandroid 26
You're doing the right thing for both you and your son, OP! Stay strong, hopefully your parents will eventually give up, or you will find a relationship that they finally can't ruin!
lunar999 23
Unfortunately that may never happen, if they want their daughter to be going out with a woman beater they clearly aren't above ruining a perfectly good guys chances.
Ms_ValS 27
Your parents have serious issues OP. Make sure they have no information on nor access to your future boyfriend. Also, explain to your future boyfriend that your parents are insane, just in case. On a side note, kudos to getting out of the abusive relationship in the first place. Marriage isn't always the answer.
Mpii 11
I think that now that Op knows that they are actively ruining her relationships it will be harder for them to do so.
jakers8424 18
Tell them that you want your son to have a real father
cheeeksss 29
Precisely. A father is not rewarded that title, it is earned. By merely ejaculating sperm does not make that boy his son. He doesn't deserve him. OP, at this point I would suggest to not update your parents about your dating life (if it's really that terrible) because you honestly don't need them trying to disrupt your relationships. You deserve better than that.
JohnTheDonJuan 11
I think you may be a little confused about biology... Yes, the simple act of ejaculating does indeed make him the father. Now if you mean, he's not a "dad", that would be more understandable. But biologically speaking, he is the father.
NeonSteps 14
your son? or your sons dad I'm a little confused, could someone explain?
Vitani_Verci 24
Her ex is the father of her son, so her parents want her to be with only him. However he's a piece of shit so OP is doing the right thing by not being with him.
corky1992 33
I thought she explained it pretty clear..
noisyboy4000 23
Your parents need to stop being insensitive and irrational. You deserve someone who'll make you and your son happy. The fact that they want you get back together with your abusive ex is just incomprehensible to me
Schmavid64 13
Not to be rude but are your parents aware of what he did? If they are I think you need to have a long talk with them about why you're never going back to him and that if they keep sabotaging your relationships then you may need to remove yourself from their lives for a little while.
insecurewife07 3
Exactly! I can't imagine they know the full situation... If so they're really shitty parents.
vitty_z 16
Unfortunately, there are people out there who think this way. For instance, I'm half Italian, and they really like their traditions/religion. Divorce is a sin, and it took a real long time for my Aunty to finally have the courage to face both her abusive husband and her parents. They did come through though, be strong and persistent OP!
derperbear 8
There are several people that do not give a shit of their child is being abused. People think that a kid's biological mother and father should be together even if one of them is a piece of shit.
UnidentifiedFun 37
Keep the relationships on the DL if you can so that you can give your son a better example of what it is to be a man. It takes barely anything to be a 'father' but it takes a lot to be a Dad.
Medieval_Unicorn 24
Of course including but not not limited to: polos, grilling, cornhole, socks with sandals, and the ever necessary insufferable dad puns
laurenemilyy 17
You're doing the right thing OP. Hang in there. Maybe next time you have a relationship keep it behind closed doors for a little bit so that your partner realises who you are and doesn't give up no matter what your parents do. Best of luck!
zainman13 26
My sympathies for you OP. Stay strong
Geckosrock99 33
They obviously don't care about your feelings, OP. Whether they know what your ex did or not, what they're doing is incrediblly childish and selfish. In your position, I would cut ties with them. With attitudes like that, they don't deserve to be in your or your son's lives. You deserve happiness, and if that's without your parents, so be it.
DoomedGemini 38
Maybe you need to try to cut them out of your life. Not respecting your choices is bad enough, let alone wanting you to be with an abuser. You are doing what's best for both you and your son by not being with him.
kirasant 19
Yeah, its an ugly thing to have to say, but if your parents are willing to endanger you like this, you need to just walk away from them. This is abuse, pure and simple. They are taking your control away and putting you in danger to satisfy their own wants. I would say you should see if you can get them into family counseling, but if they want you back with a wife beater, that may be a lost cause. Good luck, OP and remember that you need to protect your son and yourself above anything else.