Today, my mother told me to 'quit having a pity party'. I was just diagnosed with depression. I've lost my boyfriend, my job, my academic standing, and I just got rejected from every graduate school I applied for. And my mother thinks I'm a cry baby. Great. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I told my mom that I struggle with depression. She then told me that she thinks that I always seem to suck the life out of a room. FML
Today, my wife and I received confirmation that she has postpartum depression. When sharing this with the family, my mother exclaimed "I told you she was a psycho!" Now my wife is crying louder and more often than our newborn. Thanks, mom. FML
Today, my mom found out that I've been having counselling behind her back for the past 4 years. I broke down in tears explaining everything. Her response was, "So you go and bitch about me behind my back?!" And she wonders why I'm depressed. FML
Today, going to my psychiatrist's appointment for my PTSD and depression, my mother yelled about how useless I am and how I torture her existence with my "abnormalities." She told the doctor how much I've improved and become such a delight at home for her and our family. FML
Today, my mom tried to give me a pep talk to boost my self confidence. Somehow, it ended up turning into a conversation about how much of a loser I am and how I have no friends. FML
Today, I found myself crying in the bathroom because I started to feel lonely and depressed. My mother came into the bathroom, hearing me cry and gave me an hour long speech about what a beautiful human being I am… And to not forget to lose weight. FML
Today, my mother once again called me to remind me what a disappointment I am despite having two degrees, a house, a professional job and having never been unemployed at 25. FML
Today, my mom sternly told me that she would no longer make doctor's appointments for me, since I need to do them myself. I've been staring at the phone for thirty minutes, crying from anxiety. I'm 27 and the most pathetic man alive. FML
Today, I told my mom that I was taking antidepressants because I hate myself. She said "That's not surprising. You hate everybody. And, you're kind of a bitch." FML
Today, my dad told me that I'm a weak and negative person because I suffer from depression and anxiety, then he told me to just snap out of it. FML
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zp5 4
Your mother is awful.
CrazyManNo9 29
Living well is the best revenge. Show them all by stepping up. Do deal with the depression. It's neither easy nor fun.
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fmfreakinlife 3
fyl
legonut4 0
become a hobo
randiZ25 0
nicely done, I like the way you went in debt there.. I wish I could be as analytical as you...
fanuvlb 0
I'm sure the word you were looking for was "depth" not "dept".
Kesler_17 0
I'm sure the word you were looking for was "debt" not "dept."
fakeaccountX 6
I'm sure the word you're looking for was "combo" not "breaker".
that1guyyy 12
lol randy every comment by you I see you trying to smart or clever but you end up failing miserably. I suggest you stop commenting for your sake.
Lancer_doosh 0
Yeah do the world a favor Randy and just accept the fact that you are one dumb ************. haha.
The_Moustache 6
Nice 'stache 19.
randiZ25 0
yes that was an epic fail by me... * hangs head low* ( I'm a girl btw)
macskapingvin 0
We presumed you were a girl from the depth of your fail.
dkocz 0
aww, it's alright... you are still in school and you still have so much time:) work through it, girl! study &&talk to your counselor:)
5t3ff1k4h 47
71 - There are intelligent women out there. They do exist... There are even a few on this site!
Hidan_fml 0
Toughen the **** up, you Jashin damn cry baby! Jashin will smite you!!
budge10 0
douchebag
DahkLohd 4
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YDI, cry-baby.
DahkLohd 4
Don't get mad; get even. Make up a story that you caught your dad banging another woman. When she cries, call her a cry-baby.
randiZ25 0
genius
standards 0
ur so mean
DahkLohd 4
@41 - You're so right! Like, seriously, who would expect the Dark Lord to be mean? FYL for not getting a joke when you see one.
relaxfreak 0
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^Aweome! I agree, Life's too short to be sitting at home crying about everything in your life that has gone wrong! We can't let ANYTHING in our lives to hinder us...especially if the events were brought on by our own selves!...Bad Grades, Not getting accepted into grad school, Loosing significant other..! If we were to all stop and complain about everything wrong in our lives we would ALL die of depression!... WE need to see the beauty in EVERYTHING so we can stay happy and motivated to live a great and fruitful life! If you dont like the advice or cynicism your mother gives you then dont talk to her.. you seem old enough to live on your own so move out...If you dont have the funds to move out, then just dont talk to your mom, avoid her! YOu have the right to happiness and you know the actions to achieve happiness so get to it!
5t3ff1k4h 47
57 - You do know that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, and OP can't help it herself no matter how hard she tries, right? How dare you! If she could find happiness herself, she would. With a clinical condition such as Major Depression, which is what she more than likely has, she would need a medication (as DocBastard suggested, Zoloft is a good choice) and/or therapy. My brother attempted suicide twice last year. His depression got that bad. I can't get over how many people are trying to tell OP to suck it up and that depression doesn't matter. It's just bloody ridiculous.
relaxfreak 0
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clinical? Clinical, is a term Doctors use to to make something sound crazy serious! It's a fraud. Im sorry about your brother killing himself, but it's sad to use depression to say was the root cause of the suicide. There are SO many people in awful situations in life that would love to be in your and my shoes in life. They are those living without clean water, and escaping the civil wars of their lands, and if they were to be in our shoes they would be ecstatic! We are selfish beings who claim that our lives suck! We need to see the beauty in our lives. like I said before, we could all claim awful things in our lives and use those as an excuse to not live on or an excuse to be "depressed" but why?! We are merely on this planet to live the best life we can and we shouldnt let bumps in the road cause us to give up or to not move on. Yes, your brother could have lived through some shit but who doesnt?! I know so many people who have lived terrible and I mean TERRIBLE lives, but they still smile and see the beauty in small things because when it comes down to it, we are all here living and breathing the same air so we can all be happy and see joy and ecstasy in even the shittiest of situations. And for the "Zoloft"... that is crazy, Pills make people become zombies and "check out" from life.. Pills are the worse thing we can put in our bodies.. Eating healthy, exercising, going outside, having friends, meeting new people, reading books, taking walks, listening to good music, these are ALL better ways to get ourselves out of our selfish and self-centered minds.. Depression, my friend, is a JOKE.
relaxfreak 0
Ps. You should research the pharmaceutical companies.. trust me, they are not making pills in the masses to "help" people..
collegegirl87 0
Her brother isn't dead. He attempted suicide.
relaxfreak 0
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Thank you for the clear up.. If he attempted TWICE, then that makes me wonder why he didnt actually go through with it.. Was it merely for attention.. :/ Please, everyone who feels they are Depressed and that life just isnt a great thing, go out and get out of your skin and see those who are ACTUALLY suffering. Go to a homeless shelter and give all that you can, Go to an orphanage and hug those who dont have family, give money to build a well for those who dont have access to clean water... You will see how such a small act can actually help and make someone of less fortune feel so amazing and loved! Depression is for those who are self-occupied.. Do righteous actions and the feelings of happiness will follow.. If we wait for happiness to come without any effort on our parts, then that is a lost cause and will never happen. We must find the beauty in life.. so EVERYONE PLEASE stop complaining about the shit in your life and go out and make a difference! Starting loving others and the love for yourself will come!
5t3ff1k4h 47
First off, he attempted twice and survived each attempt because I caught him once just after the act and once during. Yeah. Don't ******* assume. Major Depression is a serious condition, hence the term "clinical". I understand that many doctors prescribe unnecessary drugs, but in many cases depression can't be overcome simply by "sucking it up". I have had depression before also, and was prescribed a medication. Did it clear up the depression? Yes. Don't assume what my life is like. I know my life is better than many people's, but I also know there are many people whose lives are better than mine. You don't know me from a hole in the ground. It's a good idea to try to be optimistic, but that's not the be-all-and-end-all, and the solution to any depression. Exercise certainly helps, as does eating well, but these aren't solutions. Not all pills make people become zombies. Have you tried them all? Didn't think so. Even if you had, every person is different. Once again you can't assume. If a person is depressed, they're typically withdrawn and don't enjoy the same things they used to. They'd have little to no interest in social activities, thus hindering the "going outside and having friends/meeting new people" part. Do you not think? Depression is not a joke. At the risk of sounding like a total bitch, I really do wish you had someone in your life who's depressed, and possibly suicidal. Now, I realize that's a horrid thing to say and I want to take it back now that I've said it. But the point in saying it was that if that was your situation, you'd better understand depression and not be so quick to poo-poo it. Depression can happen to anyone; it's not just for the "self-occupied" as you put it. My father's one of the most generous men I know and he's severely depressed. My stepmother's got the same deal going for her, and she's just as giving and generous.
relaxfreak 0
Your'e right, I Should not have assumed the facts about your brother and Im sorry for that. As for the other comments, I stand by what I said. Have a good day and I hope you see the beauty in life. Our lives are miracles! We are on a Planet in the middle of the solar system! How crazy is that?! I cant imagine life without the wonder and excitement about our existence and in this I gain happiness. I feel I need to spread happiness to people and to show them the truth of ourselves. I just wish others saw life the same way I do, if so, our world would be a better and more peaceful place. But you are right, I do not know everyone and I dont know everyones situation and it was wrong for me to assume. But I am an optimist and I only think positively. I'll send you positive energy through this message to you and your family. I hope you, your step-mom, dad and brother can one day be content and happy with yourselves and your life:)
5t3ff1k4h 47
*facepalm* That's all fine and dandy, but many more people out there will prove you wrong and hopefully prove that depression can't always be overcome by "sucking it up" and "thinking positively". Those types of "solutions" didn't work at all for anyone I know. Why should I think it'd work better for anyone else? I appreciate the optimism overall, but sometimes people should be realistic as well... no?
relaxfreak 0
I see how realistic people are and they are sad. I choose to be delusional and insane if that means happiness;)
AntoshaChekhonte 6
**** this. You're too thick to really understand. How about you take your "mind over matter" attitude and give a seminar to my mom, who's tried to kill herself three times and has had major depression my entire life? Tell her that while she continues to deal with my dad's death (they were together 25 years), my sister's deployment to Japan, and the deaths of her parents, her brother, and almost everyone important to her except her two kids. Or you can just shove your unhelpful, condescending opinion up your ass so far that you can vomit it out? If I hurt your feelings, just go ahead and suck it up, like those of us fortunate enough to not suffer from mental illness often tell those who do suffer. Which, sadly, keeps their suffering long, silent, and even more painful. 5t3ff1k4h, I'm really sorry to hear about your brother. My mom's tried to kill herself and has always had depression. "People" like this person just don't get it and don't want to.
PaperCandles 0
5t3- thank you for speaking for the rest of us educated and people who struggle with depression. it is very very true that depression cannot simply go away, and even medications dont always work or they make things worse. to 'relaxfreak', stfu douchebag.
stacers 0
Seriously, relaxfreak, do some actual research before you talk out of your ass.
5t3ff1k4h 47
Thanks, guys. It's nice to see there are still some intelligent people out there... Thank you for using your heads and understanding a simple concept. :)
spudzman78651 0
you aggervate me and relaxfreak
nerdface89 2
@relaxfreak, the 'clinical' refers to the fact that the depression is caused by an imbalance of chemicals rather than from life events. In this case it is not possible to simply 'suck it up' or 'look on the bright side' because these patients (if you like) are deficient in the chemical which allows them to look on the bright side and experience pleasure in the first place. And for your information, the medications prescribed act to increase the release of these deficient chemicals in order to regain the balance. They do not turn any feelings off and therefore do not just 'turn people into zombies', which you would know if you bothered to research your opinions and misconceptions in the slightest. Don't talk about things you don't understand, or you wind up looking like an ignorant bitch. Coming from a pharmacist, which I am myself, I am very much maddened by your view that the pharmaceutical companies create mass loads of drugs for their own gain without the wellbeing of anyone in mind. If yoiu hold that attitude, how about when you or any member of your family becomes ill, we hold back the medications and refuse to treat, because after all we don't have your wellbeing in mind anyway so what's the difference to us? I didn't think so. You'll be the first wanting our mass produced, horrific medications when something goes wrong.
OhShuttup 0
go hug a tree #82, you psychotic hippy!
PedoBearSaysYES 0
stfu you guys freak has all the right ideas going for him. I mean who the **** cares if everyone you care for is dead,dying or has disconnected from the world. who cares if you've lost your home, job or any real meaning in your life. just ****** look at the goddamned bright side of life. like omg were like totally life in space when like no one else is! and we all have unicorns and magic ******* faries. seriously tho asshole u make me sick and you don't deserve this false happiness in that fake world u've created to obviously deal/run away to. you deserve to suffer like all those people you call self ****** centered. you don't know shit. and i suggest you off your self and stop polluting this "beautiful" world with your disgusting self. I want you to look into the eyes of some you love most (probably ur self tho) and watch them die because you were too late to save them then have everyone say you killed them and tell me that the world is still amazing. you don't have a clue what real life is and how horrible and painful it can be. how the kindest and most generous people suffer while scum prosper and thrive. you say help the less fortunate? why don't u actually do it and tell them your views? I'm sure they'll thank you.
crazycornn 0
#82 - either you're on a bipolar high, or you're just a very happy person (probably the first one though) either way, I respect your opinion, but some people really are mentally ill when depressed. not everyone, but some people really do have a mental disease. if you did a CT scan on them you'd see that their brain was seriously messed up. it's a hard thing to understand unless you actually experience it.
valdancer99 0
you right! suck.it.up
EvilCupcake8361 9
anti-depressants are overrated
EvilCupcake8361 9
anti-depressants are overrated
maxisis_fml 6
Ooooo. An Internet fight! *grabs popcorn* p.s sorry about your mom OP. hang in there
roadie42 21
Depression is a terrible thing. I've been there, and I've known people who've been pulled much deeper into it than I have. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. I'm glad that people like 5t3ff are still fighting that awful stereotype that depressed people are just pessimistic losers who can't be bothered to appreciate the good life they have. It makes me sad how ignorant some people can be, but it makes me happy that I have some allies out there ^_^
osamabinhiding 0
oranges
heartless_fml 6
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I agree with your mother. suck it up, cupcake.
koolkool994 28
Do you realise how hard this is for OP? Having all of these things as one giant rock dropped on OP's head? Some people can get over this shit easily, OP can't, like me
xjennyxisxcutex 0
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you are a cry baby
Eleex99 0
**** you bitch
NightGod 0
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Put on your big girl panties and get over it. Oh nos, a boy left you, move the hell on and stop using that as a crutch to let the rest of your life go to hell. You lost your academic standing and got rejected from every grad school you applied to? Hmm-wonder if the two are related? Get your ass back in gear and study.
Mashit13 2
if you knew anything about depression, mabey you'd realise what a concited ass you really are ☻
PaperCandles 0
im sorry i meant 157
ninapillsbury 0
how do u know her boyfriend left her mabey he died what the hell is wrong with you
CrazyManNo9 29
Living well is the best revenge. Show them all by stepping up. Do deal with the depression. It's neither easy nor fun.
zp5 4
Your mother is awful.
SisyphereanTask 2
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Did it occur to you to deal with your problems instead of whining about them to anyone within earshot? Sh!t happens. Deal with it 'cause there's a lot more where that came from. BTW did it occur to you that your problems are your fault? Why would a grad school want someone with low academic standing? Why would your bf want to deal with a whiny brat who thinks the world revolves around her and who blames everyone else for her problems? Oh, and get therapy for your depression, it works better than just popping pills and the therapist is paid to listen to you whine about how f'd your life is (or isn't!)
emilyxorawr 3
There is only one thing to do..... Go to your dad.
archevaldhoratio 0
well your wrong, do you know anything about depression? looking at this comment clearly not. have you not thought that one day you will have something shit happen and everyone will just tell you to get the **** over it plus if you don't like people talking about problems why go on this website? get over yourself
Mashit13 2
#17 and #109 Did it ever occur to YOU that it's not her fault? that perhaps life really did just screw her over? Plus, neither therapy nor pills are a sure-fire thing, and it's a matter of what yoou react best too. I doubt you have the expertise to really give that advice. plus, you can't say that coment was 'nearly all true'! You have no idea if it's true! mabey OP HAS sought help. Mabey she is dealing with these problems. And it's not like she's using her depression as an excuse, she's just stating it is one of many problems in her life, like any other illness or condition you can contract. Also, a lot of people who've dealt woth depression feel insulted when peoplerag on the depressed and have a right to express that. And, if you hadn't noticed, this sight os called 'f my life', not 'let's talk of my outrageos fame and fortune'. This place was LITERALY MADE FOR WHINING. If you can't handle it, join the latter site. get bent S.O.B.s☻
PaperCandles 0
lol! awesome :D
SengBoi 0
You are amazing I agree 1000%
BigBagel 0
this sounds fake. or it's the story of a crybaby that gets everything handed to them.