Today, my boyfriend is trying to get me to cut my hair, wear different clothes, apply my makeup differently, and even change my morals and values to match his mother's. FML
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Hi, this is OP! I can't believe this got posted! Anyway, he has always been a huge mama's boy and thinks that her way is the only way. She is a rather rude and opinionated woman, and has raised him to think that there is only one way to do things, and that's her way. I did talk to him and explain that I am not his mother and that I like myself just as I am and don't plan on changing, and he got pretty upset about it. We are now over, but it doesn't bother me much since this has been an ongoing issue for awhile now, and he just can't accept me for who I am. He was always trying to tell me that I should cut my long hair super short because his mom cut hers that way, and even asked me what I would do if I woke up with short hair, which concerned me. He also told me he and his mom didn't like my choice of clothing so that I should dress like she does, that I should wear my makeup like hers, and that my opinions, morals and values should be exactly the same as his mother's. It was just too much, and he got really upset when I told him no. He even suggested I quit college and my decent-paying job and get a job working with his mom for minimum wage and to draw welfare like her. He also always expected me to drive him everywhere, buy him everything he wanted, and baby him. I think I dodged a bullet, and I feel much better without all of the pressure to change.
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earlytermination 34
Ugh! What were his good qualities? Seriously, what attracted you to him? I'm glad you got out, he and his mom can have each other.
Mynamewontfi 40
Kill his mother, wear her skin and truly become her. Bet he's gonna regret asking you to change.
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LyricaSilvan 30
If he's expecting a woman exactly like his mother, he's going to have a long, lonely life.
ShizuTheKawaii 10
he won't be that lonely, he'll have his mother to keep him company!
worldclassrager 41
Usually men looks for girls like their mother...so in this case if he can't find is motherish figure try to transform them into one...
corky1992 33
Dump him. No one should expect their bf or gf to change THAT much or even at all. They should like you for who you are.
thatonetribute 31
Tell him that if he doesn't like you for you, he can date him mom. In sorry, OP. That really sucks.
Countryboy1996 18
You're dating the wrong guy honey.
katelng09 16
Your boyfriend is Norman Bates. Psycho.
Spudnik 21
That's a special kind of creepy. Dodged a bullet indeed, OP.
saskuni 12
He sounds like he will never go anywhere with life anyways
1daidr3am3r 1
tell him to jump in a shallow lake head first. you are fine the way you are.
homtravel 10
After reading your full story, he sounds kinda psychotic. I understand how people usually relate their partners to their parent figure but changing you totally is just too much. Hope you meet someone who loves you the way you are!