Today, my boyfriend is trying to get me to cut my hair, wear different clothes, apply my makeup differently, and even change my morals and values to match his mother's. FML
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Hi, this is OP! I can't believe this got posted! Anyway, he has always been a huge mama's boy and thinks that her way is the only way. She is a rather rude and opinionated woman, and has raised him to think that there is only one way to do things, and that's her way. I did talk to him and explain that I am not his mother and that I like myself just as I am and don't plan on changing, and he got pretty upset about it. We are now over, but it doesn't bother me much since this has been an ongoing issue for awhile now, and he just can't accept me for who I am. He was always trying to tell me that I should cut my long hair super short because his mom cut hers that way, and even asked me what I would do if I woke up with short hair, which concerned me. He also told me he and his mom didn't like my choice of clothing so that I should dress like she does, that I should wear my makeup like hers, and that my opinions, morals and values should be exactly the same as his mother's. It was just too much, and he got really upset when I told him no. He even suggested I quit college and my decent-paying job and get a job working with his mom for minimum wage and to draw welfare like her. He also always expected me to drive him everywhere, buy him everything he wanted, and baby him. I think I dodged a bullet, and I feel much better without all of the pressure to change.
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earlytermination 34
Ugh! What were his good qualities? Seriously, what attracted you to him? I'm glad you got out, he and his mom can have each other.
Mynamewontfi 40
Kill his mother, wear her skin and truly become her. Bet he's gonna regret asking you to change.
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magickiss87 22
RUN! Mommy issues much?!?! Besides, you are who and how you are. If he is trying to change everything about you he isn't into you as a person. Why waste your time? You deserve someone who is going to appreciate you and everything about you.
Bryce8 11
I mean, a person that doesn't love you for you and wants to mold you to what they like better is a person not to be dating, especially to be more like his mom, that's pretty weird.
withered 30
Looks like you are dating Oedipus. You know this is a red flag, don't you?
devi_916 39
Sounds like this guy needs a lot of therapy.
amberBueker88 7
Nope! Never would I let someone tell me who to be!
bellajayzz 6
That's gross!!......who wants to date their mom?
ChickenNug 17
Norman Bates?
alrightyo 2
RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
Thekbking 11
the guy definitely had mom issues and sees his mom as the perfect role model for his lover. which is ******* creepy as hell and he needs therapy or else he will never keep a girls love and attention. I can understand falling for a girl who kind of reminds u of ur mom, but not trying to find a clone or make a clone out of a girl to resemble ur mom. should have seen the red flags earlier. good for u that u dodged a big bullet.
LoLoLibra1 14
Run!!!