Today, my boyfriend and I are looking at places to stay to meet for the first time. I figured renting a small vacation apartment would be ideal because he's not able to help pay because he isn't working and I'm not rich. He's telling me he can only be comfortable in 4 star hotels. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my boyfriend told me he needed to reconsider coming to see me for financial reasons. I'm the one paying for the airfare, giving him a place to stay, and covering his expenses while he's here. FML
Today, I’m in Las Vegas on vacation with my boyfriend and his dad. After staying in his dad’s dirty, dusty, toilet-broken Arizona cabin, we’re now in a cheap, shady, smoke-filled Vegas motel. I’m picking the hotels next time. FML
Today, after working another double shift because I want to buy my boyfriend a really expensive anniversary present, I get to his apartment to find him calculating in how many paychecks he'll be able to afford a Caribbean getaway. For himself. FML
Today, my boyfriend took me on a romantic weekend away at a hotel. What is he doing now? On his computer looking up stuff on Craigslist while I am watching t.v. alone. FML
Today, and for the past few weeks, I've been dating a new guy. Things were going well, we had planned a romantic weekend getaway, but when we got to the hotel, we found out that our reservation had been cancelled. The hotel was fully booked, and we had to spend the night in separate rooms at a sketchy motel. FML
Today, my boyfriend gave me an ultimatum: either cancel my amazing work trip or stay with him. I chose the trip and he assured me he’d be gone by the time I got back. His issue? My boss thought it’d be cheaper to get an AirBnB instead of getting us all hotel rooms, and that men are also going. FML
Today, I told my unemployed boyfriend to pick a town anywhere in the country that he thinks he can find work in. I offered to find myself a job there, find a flat, and pay for rent, bills, and food while he looks. He said I was selfish for wanting him to hurry up. It's been three years. FML
Today, I travelled across an ocean to visit the guy I'm dating. He lied to me about his apartment; he lives in a dorm with a twin-sized bed and a bathroom he shares with eight guys. Just now, after taking three trains from the airport to his "apt", he asked me to edit his essay while he goes to class. FML
Today, I got back from a romantic vacation at a fancy hotel with my boyfriend of 6 months. After a steamy love session, I confessed that I was in love with him. Later, when I got out of the shower, all his stuff was gone and I was stuck with the entire week's hotel cost and no ride home. FML
Today, I'm on vacation. I spent $4000 to surprise my boyfriend on a trip to Hawaii. We have been together over a year. Turns out, he hates the outdoors. He's mad at me for bringing him here and is upset at everything. He's in the room reading, I'm at the bar drinking $10 Mai Tai's. FML
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Cebolamole 13
Red flag...
False_Stupidity 42
Tell him that he can pay for it and he will change his mind.
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Cebolamole 13
Red flag...
polsen4273 8
I was going to say that.
Oh_No_Not_Him 25
Red Flag, Flashing lights, Siren, Warning Flares, the works! It's a pretty risky undertaking expecting to be alone and vulnerable with a "boyfriend" you have never actually met. I understand that you may have spent years getting to know him online and even over Skype etc but it's surprisingly easy to put on a front when you are miles apart. Hopefully he'll be a great as you clearly think he will but do remember: 1) You only know what he has told you about himself. Meeting friends/family, seeing the way he interacts with you and other people around him, all of these things give clues that we normally get to see _before_ we are alone with people. 2) The fact that he can't/won't pay but wants something from you that you can't really afford. That isn't the behaviour of a boy in love who's eager to meet up with you in person. That sounds more like someone out for everything he can get. Go carefully OP!
Monday_funday 25
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Why are you dating someone you have never meet?
Rei_Ayanami 18
Internet dating. It is not uncommon, but usually done by younger people.
9a_z1 11
Is it common to book an apartment together for your first meeting though? And have one person pay for it all? I know online dating can be a brilliant stepping stone on the way to offline dating, but it sounds like OP is just booking herself a one way ticket to Sketchy Town here
Oh_No_Not_Him 25
This is the thing that concerns me - a friend of mine is currently in a relationship that came from online dating, but it started with a few "dates" just like any other might. It took quite a few of those dates to find anyone reasonable from all the freeks and wierdos who "like"d her profile. And all of those seemed reasonable enough on the phone. No matter how well you think you know someone online, locking yourself away in a room or apartment on your first personal meeting is a pretty risky first step.
Chernobylz 4
I dated my wife online before I met her in person. We've been together for six years and have a child. It's not how you meet, it's that you meet that matters.
doemetoch 28
It seems a bit... odd to call him her "boyfriend" before they've ever met though. I mean, I get online dating, I've been in a relationship with a guy I'd met online and daily talked to for at least half a year before meeting, but there's no way I could consider him my boyfriend before we'd met. Even if you live far away, even if you take a looong time to talk before meeting, I don't see how you can consider it an actual relationship at that point.
Chernobylz 4
An actual relationship? It is an actual relationship if both of them take it seriously and want to be together. Just because how they met is different from the norm doesn't mean it has any less value.
9a_z1 11
I just know from experience that for every heart-warming marriage story out there, there are 10 people who find manipulating others online so easy that they do it without thinking. Which means it's worth treading carefully and playing safe and I hope OP realises that.
lukian_fml 29
Did you make her pay for a 4 star hotel the first time you met?
cara_marie0303 18
It's not really uncommon. Like others have said: Internet dating. I happened to meet my husband on a video game. We dated before meeting in person. I agree, it can go way wrong sometimes, but in cases like mine, it went absolutely perfectly. (:
girlvsocean 2
Yes, but did you make your wife pay for an expansive room, knowing that she didn't make a lot of money?
Punkgirl4554 20
God, I have this friend who got engaged to someone she never met in person. He lived in Cali, us in Michigan. She's my best friend, so I was happy for her, but she only knew the guy for a short short time (less than a year). he ended up cheating on her and they stayed to get her, but she cheated on him and they broke up. We weren't even out of high school yet, but we just graduated and she's engaged again to, at least a guy who lives near us.
False_Stupidity 42
Tell him that he can pay for it and he will change his mind.
Darkness_Hate 29
Pretty sure he's not living in a 4 star hotel since he's not working, tell him to deal with it ( you don't have to pay for someone's high standard).
fariss 14
Aside from him being an inconsiderate whiny little bitch that he is, i know how good it feels to meet your ldr partner for the first time ( assuming its ldr? ).
Isamermaid 17
That's unfortunate. I had a long-distance relationship. We met on the internet (11 years ago) when I was 14. And now we've been living together for 3 years (I moved 900 miles from home). All that mattered was getting to see each other, and getting to touch each other. Location didn't matter. Tell him not to complain since he's not paying for it. And if he's still unreasonable, rethink him....
fabulousfiasco 12
I met my internet guy in person at the end of 1999. We are married with a 9 year old. So yes, it does work sometimes!
pandalover69 26
Most people on here aren't concerned about internet dating, people are concerned because this guy seems sketchy. He doesn't have a job and he's not paying for anything but he wants to meet her in a really nice hotel. That's not a good sign. Did your husband make you pay for a 4 star hotel for your first meet up?
AshleyLuvsFrank 12
Agree 100%. By far the best comment/advice.
Tyrax 16
OP, no. You do not STAY with someone you are neeting for the first time, especially with that kind of attitude. Basic safety precautions, OP. You meet in a public place, restaurant or amusement park, bowling alley, something. If you are both traveling, stay in separate rooms at the very least. Different buildings is safer. This one doesn't sound worth your time anyway. Total moocher waiting to happen.
Lalala579121 28
Sounds like the boyfriend already is a neet, so OP will not be able to neet them. Unless neeting is more like knighting for neets?
interesting33 37
the knights who say "ni"?
gracehi 33
You haven't even met yet and he's already freeloading off you. So that Nigerian prince finally got a girlfriend. Good for him.
DJRy 13
I'm dead. Lmfao.
BLDYRBBT 16
Damn I was hoping to use the Nigerian Prince reference
mariri9206 32
If you've never met him before, don't stay in the same room/apartment with him. And bring friends with you because you never know what could happen. All the advice out there for meeting someone from the Internet for the first says the same thing - meet in a public place. Make it a group event. There's safety in numbers and, since you've never met him before, you don't know what he's really like - he could be completely different. It's better to be safe than sorry.
interesting33 37
Exactly, look at some of the videos on ThinkUknow (it's a website). It might not apply, you may have known him a long time, but always ALWAYS be careful when meeting someone in person.
Atmey 5
Take him to 5 star, that'll show him.