Today, I learned that my husband is attracted to obese, unhealthy women after celebrating my weight loss of 175lbs and improving my overall health. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I officially completed my weight loss journey, only for my wife, who'd previously threatened to divorce me if I didn't lose weight, to tell me that she realized she liked me better when I was fat and that "you don't know what you have until it's gone." FML
Today, even after loving him unconditionally, my originally 340 pound morbidly obese husband, who within the past two years lost almost 200 pounds, left me because now, he "can do so much better". FML
Today, I found out that my husband thinks I'm fat when I caught him slipping diet pills into my morning smoothie. FML
Today, the guy I've recently started seeing confided that he's relieved I'm on the heavier side, and that he has a thing for watching chubby women eat. I just reached my ideal weight after losing 40 pounds. FML
Today, when my mother-in-law told me I was losing weight, my husband started laughing. FML
Today, it's been six months since I got married and my wife has since gained over forty pounds of unhealthy weight. She's not depressed, she's very happy with the marriage, she's just "comfortable" now. We are in our early thirties, and we started off as workout partners. I've been going to the gym alone. FML
Today, after losing twenty pounds to please my husband, the only comment I received was, "At least now only your personality sucks." FML
Today, my husband said he thinks of me as more of a roommate than a romantic interest, and he’s wouldn't be that attracted to me unless I lose another 20 pounds. I was just celebrating that I’d lost 5 pounds already in April. Stress makes it harder to lose weight. FML
Today, it's my sixth month of working out 5 days a week, watching what I eat while my family eats like kings, and only losing 2lbs. It's also the day husband said he misses my 20 year-old body and no longer finds me attractive, but that's okay because he "loves me anyways and it's good to know where we stand." FML
Today, my wife filed for divorce because I gained 170lbs due to an accident that paralyzed me in one part of my body, rendering me unable to work out regularly. According to her, I deserve to be “desired” and “there’s nothing there anymore.” Nice to know the past 12 years were nothing but a lie. FML
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Leviathene 34
You are magnificent for undertaking this big step in your life. You don't need his negativity impacting your health. You need to have a serious talk with him about where you two stand in your relationship, because your health comes first.
almost_there44 26
So I'm guessing he was still contemplating if he wanted to be with you at the 174 mark, but once you were down 175, he could really see the changes. The best thing you can do is leave him. I am not one of those that call everything abusive, but watching My 300-Pound Life showed me that the people closest to you are your biggest downfall once you start the journey. Husbands will leave their wives because, "she's not fat anymore. She's getting too skinny even though she's still 200 lbs overweight." It's their own insecurities, mostly. Having lost 80 pounds, I can tell you that if I was in a relationship where my husband doesn't FULLY support my getting healthy, I would be out. My life is worth more than you wanting to get off to an obese woman. And yes, he has a preference for bigger women (because I know some will defend him), but she didn't lose the weight overnight. He has every right to like whatever, but it seems like OP is surprised at the turn of events.
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almost_there44 26
So I'm guessing he was still contemplating if he wanted to be with you at the 174 mark, but once you were down 175, he could really see the changes. The best thing you can do is leave him. I am not one of those that call everything abusive, but watching My 300-Pound Life showed me that the people closest to you are your biggest downfall once you start the journey. Husbands will leave their wives because, "she's not fat anymore. She's getting too skinny even though she's still 200 lbs overweight." It's their own insecurities, mostly. Having lost 80 pounds, I can tell you that if I was in a relationship where my husband doesn't FULLY support my getting healthy, I would be out. My life is worth more than you wanting to get off to an obese woman. And yes, he has a preference for bigger women (because I know some will defend him), but she didn't lose the weight overnight. He has every right to like whatever, but it seems like OP is surprised at the turn of events.
almost_there44 26
Wow, haven't written this much on here before, this one really annoyed me.
Elizabeth Burley 22
I couldn't have said it better myself! I knew a guy who preferes bigger girls and I had lost 50 pounds and he had stopped talking to me. So ignorant and rude! But we do it for ourselves, not for them. We want to be healthy and look good for us to make us feel better. But preach it girl! You took the words right out of my mouth.
Leviathene 34
You are magnificent for undertaking this big step in your life. You don't need his negativity impacting your health. You need to have a serious talk with him about where you two stand in your relationship, because your health comes first.
Nathan Kreitlow 2
First of all, how do you not know your spouse's type? Everybody has one. Also, nowhere in here does it say he isn't still attracted to you or that he put you down.
almost_there44 26
Are you the person who can't take a hint when somebody doesn't want to talk to you? Do they have to spell it out? It clearly states that OP lost 175 and her husband is attracted to bigger women. So clearly OP isn't considered near her death bed enough for her husband.
ThatGuy9679 13
Read between the lines
Friesian 7
It’s possible you losing weight makes him feel insecure or afraid of you becoming more independent. I know some men that go after ugly or large women because they think they don’t have to really worry about anyone else wanting her, so she won’t ever leave him (my former best friend comes to mind). He may be afraid of you leaving him now. Or if he’s a big boy could possibly be super jelly of your weight loss.
DanielleinDC 34
Congrats on all your hard work to improve your health and lose weight/fat. I am surprised that your husband's preference for obese women didn't come out during your journey; I mean, he had to see notice that you were getting smaller, didn't he? He didn't say anything before you reached that goal? If he's not attracted to you, you may have to end the relationship. You lost 175 pounds. Losing a couple hundred more shouldn't be a problem.
mooman36 15
Congrats on losing the weight and being healthier. I would query if you were big when you met your husband, since that was probably a clue, and his reaction in the bedroom might have been another... It's probably time you sit down and have a chat about your future together.
thatslifeiguess7 16
Well get a good lawyer, a divorce and find a woman seriously women are better
Seymore Collins 7
Not everyone looks good when they lose the weight. Just sayin'
DarkAngelsBlade 25
Just for the record, you may have been unhealthy and obese, but not all fat people are unhealthy. Many overweight people are not unhealthy, they're just fat, and while that my have some medical conditions tacked on in the distant future that doesn't mean anything. However, good on you for doing what you want in life, even if you weren't unhealthy you decided to change your lifestyle and work on yourself. He is allowed to feel and be attracted to whomever he wants. It may feel terrible, but if y'all aren't compatible anymore then look into moving on.
Simi TheSimtown 6
You don't need him, you're worth more than that