Today, I had to tell the third guy that my mother set me up with that it wasn't him, it's me. Apparently my mother thinks if she sets me up with enough guys, I will "date the gay out". FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my homophobic mother is arranging to set me up with a wealthy 46 year-old man who has agreed to marry me. I’m 19, a lesbian, and I’ve been in a committed relationship for the past couple of years. My mother will stop at nothing. This is the fourth guy she's tried to set me up with. FML
Today, I had to tell my ex-husband I’m a lesbian. I’m not, he just keeps trying to win me back, but it worked, he now thinks there’s no chance for us. Unfortunately, he mentioned it to my mom, who “always suspected” and is now obsessively trying to set me up with every lesbian she knows. FML
Today, at 18, I finally told my mom I was gay. She spent the rest of the day bringing up my "future wife" at every possible chance she had. FML
Today, my mom went to a psychic. The reason? She has convinced herself that I'm gay, even though I've told her that I'm not, and never have been. The psychic disagreed. Apparently, I'm bi-curious with one of my guy friends. Guess who my mom believes? FML
Today, I found out that my mother has been telling everybody that I’m a lesbian, because both of her best friends have at least one gay child each, and she was feeling left out. This explains why people have been treating me differently the last few weeks. FML
Today, my girlfriend's mother insisted she's not homophobic, but however people only 'turn gay' because they were sexually abused, or are 'making it up to get attention'. She informed me I'm the former and my girlfriend is the latter. Uh huh. FML
Today, my mom decided to tell me about her new boyfriend. I know him. I've slept with him. FML
Today, I called my mom to see how she was doing. She quickly hijacked the conversation and said that she's signed me up for a dating site, because she feels bad that I can't find a decent man. I've been dating my boyfriend for seven months, and she's seen me with him multiple times. FML
Today, a female friend of mine keeps telling people we’re dating. No matter how many times I told her I'm gay and only attracted to men, she won’t take that for an answer. She’s actually arranged for me to meet her parents next weekend. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me that my mom paid him to date me. FML
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Top comments
Waxwell 21
You need to tell her to her face that she needs to stop. It's completely disrespectful to not only you but also to the people she is setting you up with. She won't change until you confront her.
LogicalCore 6
I'm sorry your mother can't accept you for who you are, I have the same problem. :(
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Comments (39)
vikky538 29
One day your mother realizes OP. Stay strong.
Olafur 29
Homophobic bitch. Sorry about that. I hope she will soon get it through her thick skull that being gay is not bad... and that having your parents set you up with someone is never a good idea.
hshaneberger 14
I am so sorry your mom can't accept you and thinks she can change who you are. I hope things get better op.
sparkledoge 29
Maybe if you give your mother enough books she will read some common sense in.
TWayne95 13
I thought the Australians were one of the most accepting nations of sexual orientation
chosha_fml 27
#27 We are. The vast majority of Aussies support marriage equality, too, even if our government is dragging its feet. But there will always be some stuck in old prejudices. Hopefully OP's mum will be one of the many parents who can't accept their child's sexual orientation at first, but then become super supportive once they do.
theonecasey 27
Sorry but your mom sounds like an ass
aspecialspecial 21
Well it could be worse, she's probably just having a hard time accepting it. Talk to her about it just don't be too harsh this is one of the tamer responses that I've seen.
DoomedGemini 38
Would you look at someone who got kicked out and say "it couldve been worse"? This is still very disrespect and extremely hurtful for op. Op has every right to feel upset and angry, whether it could be worse or not.
kennethlwinter 3
Thank you. "It could be worse" is such a shitty, uncaring thing to say to anyone.
aspecialspecial 21
@32 I didn't say they didn't have the right to be upset, I'd suggest reading my comment before you assume and then put words in my mouth, what I said was cautioning op to not take it too badly. They can feel upset and angry should they chose. @39 fun fact but maybe you should read my comment again, I said that because it could be MUCH worse that they should atleast cut their mother some slack. I'm sorry that I try to understand every side of the story rather than one.
DoomedGemini 38
The only story we need to know is the mother continuously has tried to "force the gay out" of op. It's acceptable to need time to process this, trying to change their sexuality(which you can't) isn't, especially continuously. You literally tell op not to be harsh and try to make them feel like their anger or hurt is wrong because "it could be worse". That's really how it seems, whether you mean it to or not. They really SHOULDNT cut her some slack. At this point, it doesn't seem like it'll change. You think at this point they haven't tried to talk to her? Maybe giving her an ultimatum will make her see op is who she is. Maybe cutting her out of her life will. Maybe nothing will. Op shouldn't have to put up with this. It can really hurt and tear a person apart trying to continuously deal with something like this. It's passive, sure, but it's still aggression towards her. Op needs to do what's best for her. That's not "taking into account" anything. Not how other people have it or anything.
OPGDivinity 11
I agree with the mother. Sorry op
PhantomKitty 26
Why would you agree that forcing a lesbian to date a man will somehow magically turn her "straight?" There is no such thing as changing a person's sexuality. I have been the victim of many such attempts by my own mother, and none of those worked either.
TMO2142 25
Ok i have to ask. Does she mean sexuality out or happyness?
AleyahRose123 6
Sexuality
Hinup 11
I would have loved to be 1 of your dates. not because i want the gay out of you, but to listen to your story <3