Normally I would say not to jump into divorcing or breaking up with someone but In this case I think that's exactly what OP needs to do not only is he cheating but he's doing it with someone from their marriage counseling class a place where they are suppose to be trying to save their marriage and by the sounds of things OP'S husband has no interest in doing that.

At first, I thought they should work it out. But, #30, you completely changed my mind!

Really, what difference does that make? Cheating is cheating.

Cheating is cheating and wrong either way, but there's a special hell for a person who takes money to save a marriage and deliberately tears it apart instead.

you've commented a lot on this FML, seems like you're talking to yourself

Had an ex-wife who did something very similar. Spent a long time being angry both during the remainder the marriage and for a couple years afterwards. When you are able to finally walk away emotionally and not just physically you make yourself a lot happier

to actually move on be happy, you kinda have to move on and be happy..

What impeccable logic. Must have taken deep thought to come up with that.

I don't think that's any worse. They're just as bad

cheating is cheating no matter what genders are involved

It is worse when you find out the whole basis of the relationship was a misrepresentation, even down to the sexuality of your partner. Not only was the relationship over, but what you had was only a cover for his real preferences. I'm not judging the lifestyle I'm suggesting that would be a deeper betrayal.

Just because someone cheats on their partner with someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean their relationship was a cover up.

It's called bisexuality

And if it was with the same-sex partner it's homosexuality or bisexuality. If it wasn't something you knew about your partner before that can be a bigger betrayal

I agree with you ab I've been cheated on a lot and the most painful time was and still is when a guy cheated on me with another guy and I had no idea he swung that way it made me feel like something I did made him like guys that it was my fault

To be honest if I found out that my SO was gay or bi or trans that way I believe I would have more sympathy for him than if he cheated on me with another woman.

Are you stupid or something?

if you're bisexual, you are bisexual whether your partner is the same sex or not, you're still bisexual, you don't change preference. cheating is cheating, whether it's with the same sex or not, there is no worse betrayal in a relationship, cheating is cheating

NO SHIT.

I agree, and I'd also like to ask who thought that a bunch of people struggling with their marriages should be part of a group like that? Maybe it's just me, but I think that a set up like that is bound to lead to trouble, because people whose relationships with their own partners are at a low point are exposed to people they might see as more sympathetic than their own partner. Individual counseling is the way to go, IMO.