Today, I decided to come clean with my daughter about her adoptive status within my family. Just after I told her she was adopted, I realized that I have been telling her stories about me giving birth to her. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I decided it was time to tell my daughter that she had been adopted. Not only had she known for 5 years, she found out from my drunk sister. FML
Today, I overheard my parents arguing over who had to tell me that I'm adopted. FML
Today, my mom told me that she had great news: we were going to meet my biological parents. I didn't know I was adopted. FML
Today, my Dad sat me down and told me that I was adopted. I was unbelievably shocked by this revelation and asked him why he'd never told me this before. His response was, "I didn't know!" FML
Today, I'm in the process of adopting a child. When I called my mom to tell her the news, she just said, "Oh honey, don't adopt, it's the worst decision you'll ever make." I'm adopted. FML
Today, my Dad sat me down and told me that I was adopted. I was unbelievably shocked by this revelation and asked him why he'd never told me this before. His response was, "I didn't know!" FML
Today, my husband and I told my parents that I finally managed to conceive. My mom burst into tears of joy and said how great it was that she's finally going to be a "real" grandma, all within earshot of our adopted and now-devastated daughter. FML
Today, I found out the joke I’ve been telling for 15 years is true. I am adopted. FML
Today, I found the phone number of my biological mother after years of searching for her, and gave her a call. I introduced myself by name and said, "I'm your daughter." There was a pause at the other end, followed by, "The one I aborted or the one I gave away?" FML
Today, my mother, who is 75 years-old, just told me and my sister that we were adopted. I'm 45 years-old and my sister is 49. FML
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tiffanyheart 0
Now by keeping that secret from her for so long, you've taught her that being adopted is something to be ashamed of. You should have told her she was adopted from the start and you adopted her because you love her. Adoptive parents take a child from biological parent(s) who for one reason or another feel they can't or aren't able to raise their child. That is a gift, or it should be. Clearly if you think adoption is something to keep secret from your child then you deserve it. **** your daughter's life, indeed
BethanyKimberly 4
you probly should have let her know when she was younger.
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Comments (115)
blacklite69 0
Why the **** would you lie about that? That's ******* horrible. You obviously don't love your kid much.
jessxoxo28 5
ewww, i wouldnt want me real mom telling me about my birth... y would u do that to ur adopted daughter? anywayz, that was stupid of u to do. u knew she would find out someday...
murder1215 5
I wish my parents lied to me about my adoption. It gets real akward when people say " you look so much a like " or " birthing looked like it was hard"
notbuyingit 0
Do yourself and especially your poor child a favor and immediately go to family counseling. You clearly have issues dealing with reality and now you have given them to a child. I am an adoptee and cannot fathom the betrayal that your child is now feeling. But I promise you they are feeling betrayed. I realize that you probably have no grasp of the thoughts that can go through an adoptees head. There is a huge amount of fear that can go along with this level of betrayal. Seek help for yourself and your child (and like it or not, that is how the courts see it). GET HELP.
miyon_fml 0
Wow, just wow. I dont know what is worse, that you lied about giving birth to her or that you "didnt" remember lying to her about it when you told her she was adopted. You stated "just after I told her...I realized I have been telling her stories.." So either you just decided on the spur of the moment to tell her and forgot about all those birth stories or you prepared yourself to tell her and some how completely forgot about the years of lying. I dont believe either of these and think you might have just added that in to make for a FML. If you did forget about all those stories, ie lies, then there is no way this is a FYL its a FML for your daughter.
DameGreyWulf 1
[shrug] Some people have issues with being adopted, especially through adolesence. Like... "Who cares, you're not my real parents!" stuff. And then of course, what happens if they find out their real parents are a couple of sleazeballs? Not very nice for a child/teen to think about... But of course, that's just some people, aaand lying to your child like this chick did is completely unacceptable.
alex1432 9
you stupid bitch why would you ******* lie too your own daughter about giving birth to her... geeze what's with this generations parents!?
greeneye_fml 12
YDI liar.
midnight_rain 0
YDI YDI YDI YDI!!!! How the hell is this an FML? Stupid lying bitch, you want people to feel sorry for you because you lied to your daughter? Are you freaking kidding. I hope your kid hates you for that.
nonynony 0
I'm not going to jump all over the OP for lying--I don't agree with it, but it's your decision to choose what you tell your daughter. But what I CAN'T understand is how you could be so stupid about it. If you knew in the past that there was any, any chance that you'd someday tell her she was adopted, why in the hell would you make up stories about her birth?? That's what makes the story change from "you kept this from me way too long, Mom" to "you ******* lied to my face."