Today, I decided to come clean with my daughter about her adoptive status within my family. Just after I told her she was adopted, I realized that I have been telling her stories about me giving birth to her. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I decided it was time to tell my daughter that she had been adopted. Not only had she known for 5 years, she found out from my drunk sister. FML
Today, I overheard my parents arguing over who had to tell me that I'm adopted. FML
Today, my mom told me that she had great news: we were going to meet my biological parents. I didn't know I was adopted. FML
Today, my Dad sat me down and told me that I was adopted. I was unbelievably shocked by this revelation and asked him why he'd never told me this before. His response was, "I didn't know!" FML
Today, I'm in the process of adopting a child. When I called my mom to tell her the news, she just said, "Oh honey, don't adopt, it's the worst decision you'll ever make." I'm adopted. FML
Today, my Dad sat me down and told me that I was adopted. I was unbelievably shocked by this revelation and asked him why he'd never told me this before. His response was, "I didn't know!" FML
Today, my husband and I told my parents that I finally managed to conceive. My mom burst into tears of joy and said how great it was that she's finally going to be a "real" grandma, all within earshot of our adopted and now-devastated daughter. FML
Today, I found out the joke I’ve been telling for 15 years is true. I am adopted. FML
Today, I found the phone number of my biological mother after years of searching for her, and gave her a call. I introduced myself by name and said, "I'm your daughter." There was a pause at the other end, followed by, "The one I aborted or the one I gave away?" FML
Today, my mother, who is 75 years-old, just told me and my sister that we were adopted. I'm 45 years-old and my sister is 49. FML
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tiffanyheart 0
Now by keeping that secret from her for so long, you've taught her that being adopted is something to be ashamed of. You should have told her she was adopted from the start and you adopted her because you love her. Adoptive parents take a child from biological parent(s) who for one reason or another feel they can't or aren't able to raise their child. That is a gift, or it should be. Clearly if you think adoption is something to keep secret from your child then you deserve it. **** your daughter's life, indeed
BethanyKimberly 4
you probly should have let her know when she was younger.
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Comments (115)
mollie1 0
op sounds like she needs medication and a psych evaluation. psycho nutjob- f your childs life.
hk_fml 9
I think you guys are being a little harsh on the OP. Yes, she did lie to her child but it's more than clear that she loves her to death and treats her like her own. I dont think hounding her and calling her a monster is the way to go. OP, you need to make up for lying to your daughter.
Ye_Editor 0
Mastapeace, don't tell the OP "it's OK." It's NOT. That child is likely NOT going to be fine - she's been lied to about her very creation, the very core of her being. Her parent has betrayed her trust at a level deeper than anything else she could ever do. You clearly are not adopted, that's why you can cavalierly "lol" about this. You have no idea what you're talking about. This is not about whether the child was better being adopted or not, or if her birth parents could have been terrible people. This is about HER MOTHER - her adopted mother is her only real mother - LYING about giving birth to her and then turning around and saying she lied, it never happened, and her daughter is not really hers. Because at this stage of the game, that's how this revelation plays out. The OP should set up some child therapy sessions IMMEDIATELY, apologize more than profusely and continually - she's done something that will be with her child the rest of the child's life. This is not an "oopsie" that goes away when the parent says "my bad" and thinks SHE has an FML.
Ye_Editor 0
#36, the OP is getting what she deserves. On top of what she did, she has the gall to say FML when it's clearly a YDI.
I_am_stupid_also 6
I was told when I was 13 years old because the situation was a little messy. Probably the same in this case. It didn't bother me, I just felt sorry for my parents. I turned out fine. It's probably no big deal, but like anything else some people might react badly to any situation.
driedpeaches 0
you're just a dumb ass. Hopefully being adopted she won't catch whatever it is you have.
I_am_stupid_also 6
Being an adoptive parent is about the best a person can be. Calling such a person a dumb ass because they made a mistake while they were trying their best to be a parent makes you about as low as you can be.
JanisEvans 10
What??? Being an adoptive parent makes you a good person how? It most likely makes you a biologically infertile person, but other than that??? The OP clearly is one of the most sucky parents out there... Who's the dumbass now?
jadetothes 0
i was adopted and my parents never told me - up until two years ago they didn't tell me because my birth mother was - and still is - an addict they thought by keeping it from me they'd protect me they did it out of love and i forgave them, they are my parents after all dont be so quick to judge - every situation is different.
BlueberryPies 0
I, too, am adopted, and my adoptive parents have never intentionally led to me to believe that they were anything but that. I love them with all my being & could never imagine being with another family, but they were always up-front about my being adopted. When you tell your adopted child that they are, in fact, adopted is your choice, but lying to her all this time with false accounts of how you gave birth to her is just terrible and wrong. It may take some time for her to forgive you for this, but you absolutely deserve it for not being honest from the start.
Poeticnobody 0
I agree...you have indeed taught her to resent that which is central to her life. By lying to her face, you have probably also caused her to mistrust you and her entire family, no matter if it was done in the name of love. I'm sorry, but I'm an adoptee, and I would be incredibly angry at you for this. It's a common error that I hope you regret and fix. Give her space and let her come to you if she needs help; she'll need to learn to readjust to her environment and you.
FoundManyLemons 0
Wow, you're a bad person. Do you ALWAYS LIE when it's a little more convenient than the truth in that very second? I suspect you have a lot of soul searching to do, assuming you still have one. YDI though.