Today, after months of planning, my boyfriend told me he's changed his mind and doesn’t want to move with me to where I got a job. Why? He doesn’t want to live that far away from his mother. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, after a year of living with my boyfriend at our new place, he told me that he wants to sell our house and live in a trailer, so he can be closer to his mom. FML
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Today, I told my boyfriend of nearly a year that I finally told my mother about him, and that she wants us to fly out so he can meet her. He said “OK” with a blank expression. I went to work, and when I got home, he and all his stuff were gone. He left a note on the fridge, saying, “Sorry, I can’t do this anymore. All the best.” FML
Today, I learned that my 29-year-old boyfriend won't stay the night at my house because he lives at home with his parents and doesn't want to have "the discussion" with his mom about me. FML
Today, my boyfriend broke up with me, claiming moving in was a bad idea and he is the type who needs his privacy. It was his idea to move in, he had to convince me. Now we are stuck, under lease together for the next 6 months. FML
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Top comments
julfunky 29
Wow, the amount of people who believe wanting to live near your family is a red flag is ridiculous. His partner is not the only person he’s allowed to care about. Though the waiting 8 months to tell you that? That’s ridiculous.
QueenSaru 28
This. And OP also doesn't say how far they were planning on moving. There's a huge difference between 'an hour' (or a few hours) and 'other side of the country/thousands of miles' away. I agree he should have mentioned it earlier, but it's also possible that he thought he would be okay with the distance but as D-day arrive, he realized it's a huge issue for him.
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Comments (24)
magnumpeyote66 6
I hope you realize that it is time to throw out the whole boyfriend You deserve better
Trinity Fenwick 7
dump him NOW...
NostalgiaFreak9 43
Get a lawyer and fast, it sounds to me like he lied about his age when you met him.
TxKitten79 10
How did you jump to that conclusion???
NostalgiaFreak9 43
It was a joke.
daddycaitlin 13
I have the same problem with my fiancé. Mommas boys are hard to deal with.
Helmut Arias Rodriguez 21
He’s got a point
daengh 15
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there.
Rae Miller 10
RUN. RUN THE **** AWAY!!!!!! No amount of time will make him less dependent!!!!!! It took me 10 years 11 months to figure this out. RUN THE **** AWAY!!!!
Sofia94_fml 15
And how do you know its not his mom that's dependent on him?
julfunky 29
Wow, the amount of people who believe wanting to live near your family is a red flag is ridiculous. His partner is not the only person he’s allowed to care about. Though the waiting 8 months to tell you that? That’s ridiculous.
chosha_fml 27
That’s my feeling, too. If this was something important to him, he should have told her long ago.
QueenSaru 28
This. And OP also doesn't say how far they were planning on moving. There's a huge difference between 'an hour' (or a few hours) and 'other side of the country/thousands of miles' away. I agree he should have mentioned it earlier, but it's also possible that he thought he would be okay with the distance but as D-day arrive, he realized it's a huge issue for him.
tounces7 28
It kinda is a red flag if he prefers to be closer to his mother than his partner. At some point you've gotta live on your own.
QueenSaru 28
Except I really don't feel this is an 'either or' situation? Technically if you're living with someone you're living closer to them than someone else, but that doesn't mean you need to cut all ties with your parents and move outside visiting distance.
A Frenchy in Eire 31
There is nothing wrong with wanting to live close to your family but it sounds like the boyfriend is just using that as an excuse because he's having cold feet about moving. It's not like they planned this a week ago. To give him the benefit of the doubt though: there is also the possibility that his mother's circumstances changed recently (health issues, etc) and that she needs support.
alycion 39
We have multiple ways to travel. I moved states away when I was 17. I still saw my family plenty. But uprooting your entire life for your partner’s job is tough. And sometimes people chicken out. People get scared about losing the familiar support, like Mom. I hope he had a last minute change of mind and didn’t just hold off on saying something. And if it’s just cold feet, he may follow soon after.
831curmudgeon 7
Consider yourself fortunate to have found out before you started living together. Now you can move on to a new job, new place, AND a new boyfriend.
RichardPencil 32
You only have one mom, but you find girlfriends and jobs anywhere. You need to find a job closer to his mom.