Today, after a year of struggling to get over my anxiety disorder so that I don't have a panic attack every time I go to see my boyfriend, I've been informed that his anxiety has now flared and he gets anxious when texting me. It's a lose-lose, and I'm now causing him the same hell I've felt. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I went to the hospital for constant dizziness and insomnia, and was diagnosed with anxiety. I figured out that the main source of my anxiety is not my job but my boyfriend, who has avoidant personality, which makes him constantly refuse almost everything that I request. He's a guy who just doesn't know how to show his love. FML
Today, I realized the only time my boyfriend actually makes a little bit of time to see me is when I'm having a full mental breakdown/anxiety attack. FML
Today, my boyfriend shared with me his anxiety about death, so I shared with him one of my ridiculously irrational fears. He thought I was making fun of him and now won't talk to me. FML
Today, like every other time for as long as I can remember, even the slightest suggestion that someone doesn't want to be around me sends me into a major panic attack. I've been in therapy for three years to try and handle my anxiety. FML
Today, my anxiety has been so bad, I have had vivid dreams of my boyfriend of 6 months cheating on me. This is not the first time these dreams have happened, and I know for a fact he is not cheating. My anxiety is going to turn me into the crazy girlfriend from hell. FML
Today, I went to see my girlfriend to talk about my anxiety, because it's been a big issue. She broke up with me instead. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he loves me. Instead of saying it back, I had a panic attack. FML
Today, I found my boyfriend passed out on the floor. Then I passed out, due to anxiety of seeing him passed out. FML
Today, after I got a cat to help with my anxiety, it turns out he also has anxiety. FML
Today, my boyfriend is blaming me for his recent diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. Apparently, I should have just kept on tolerating all of his explosive outbursts, instead of "forcing" him to start couples' therapy with me. FML
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cardin06 15
How did you even start dating?
mssileas 25
And has any of you ever considered you actually don't need to be in a relationship? I mean obviously you can do whatever you want, but I'm exhausted just reading that. You can be single and work on your issues and then maybe figure out a situation that doesn't flare up panic attacks left and right, but of course you can always be miserable as a couple, that sounds just great.
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manb91uk 22
He was there for you, now you have to find a way to be strong for him. Good luck!
cardin06 15
How did you even start dating?
mssileas 25
And has any of you ever considered you actually don't need to be in a relationship? I mean obviously you can do whatever you want, but I'm exhausted just reading that. You can be single and work on your issues and then maybe figure out a situation that doesn't flare up panic attacks left and right, but of course you can always be miserable as a couple, that sounds just great.
Iamthebanzai22 21
I swear there is a Hollywood blockbuster somewhere in this story. About overcoming adversity to be together. If nothing else, at least you understand each other's anxiety problems. Maybe you can whatsapp each other a * sign every morning to say "I love you and I would love to hear from you". It takes away the stress of having to string together a message. Look, you already overcame your problems to at least start dating, which is clearly no mean feat. Good luck!!
zuckerburg 21
The anxiety I can understand... if you were meeting for the first time. By the sound of it, you're actively seeing him and calling him your boyfriend. So the talk about exclusivity probably already happened... why then... get anxious? if you can't be relaxed around each other, I'm sorry love, but it won't work out. I would really like to know what triggered your panic attacks when going there.
Anna Clay 5
Agoraphobia, which is the fear of large open spaces that you can't easily escape. In my case, it was the mall and I just happened to be meeting up with him as well. Felt trapped by all the people around me who would see my anxiety and how far away all my escapes were, as I was in the middle. I wanted to be able to run out of there as soon as I started feeling sick and felt a million times worse when I realized I wasn't going to make it to the bathroom on time. All in all, a lot of things made it snowball and I was tremendously embarrassed that it happened in front of my then crush, now boyfriend 😅 It was my fear of it happening in front of him again that caused it to, well, happen in front of him again so many times.
RichardPencil 32
You should dump him and find a nice narcissist to heap affection upon because he thinks he deserves it.
bl3ur0z3 17
If you're the cause of each other's anxiety, maybe this relationship isn't good fir either of you.
jmilam90 9
If y’alls anxiety about each other is that bad, you don’t need to be together. Just sayin
Ellimac21 14
Maybe give him the same advices you were given and if you were given none, explain you had the same thing. You, more than anyone else, will be able to understand what he is going through.
Suaria 38
Honestly it doesn't sound like this relationship will work out. If you are both getting anxiety from each other, it might be time to say goodbye.