Today, a man stopped me on the street. He said the stretch marks on my thighs looked like cuts, and asked me if I self-harmed. Before I was able to politely respond "No", he said, "I mean, I can see why you would." FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Same thing different taste
It's not what you think
Today, this guy who likes me accused me of cutting myself. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said, "Don't lie, I saw those scars on your thighs when we went swimming." I have stretch marks on my inner thighs, and now I have to explain them to him so he doesn't think I cut myself. FML
Bad women's anatomy
Today, my boyfriend noticed dark lines that look like scars on my inner thighs. He confronted me about them, thinking I was cutting myself, and now wants me to see a therapist because he thinks I'm suicidal. They're stretch marks. He won't believe me. FML
Assumptions
Today, I was asked why I have stretch marks when I’m skinny. The stretch marks are from when I was recovering anorexic. FML
Today, I had a rubber band around my wrist for too long, and it ended up leaving faint red marks around my wrist. My mom saw them, thought they were scars, and is now convinced I'm a cutter, "like the ones I've seen on the news," and won't believe my story. FML
Today, I noticed quite a few scars on one of my coworker's legs. I pulled her aside and told her that self-harm was never the answer, and if she needed to talk I was always there. Turns out she's just clumsy and trips a lot. FML
Scarred
Today, my niece asked why my veins were so close to my skin. She was referring to my stretch marks. FML
Today, on my break, I decided to be friendly and chat with a co-worker that everyone else always seems to avoid. He spent the next ten minutes telling me all about his abcessing sebaceous cysts. Apparently, "The scars look just like gunshot wounds." FML
Today, I was called by the counselor to discuss my "issues". She told me that other students had reported to her that they saw scars on my arms. I don't cut, I just have a hormonal and aggressive parrot who sees me as his personal tree. FML
Today, my brother saw my side when my shirt came up, and asked when I got a tattoo; the pink he saw was in fact my stretch marks. Worst of all, I had to show them to everyone to prove I didn't actually get a tattoo. FML
Today, a cute guy complimented me on my legs. I, being the awkward person that I am, panicked and replied, "Thanks, I grew them myself." FML
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rachaelward 19
Who even asks that question to a stranger in the first place? And what they added on made them even more of a dick
whyisitincapital 25
After his insult, you should have said, "However I do perform grievous bodily harm", and let loose on him.
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rachaelward 19
Who even asks that question to a stranger in the first place? And what they added on made them even more of a dick
PuggieKid 22
I was like 'oh caring strangers! Faith in humanity restored!' .... Till I read the last sentence. Sorry OP!
happle 21
Stop using that phrase.
ohjoy15 33
I think he was just trying to be understanding but it came out wrong. Maybe by saying "I mean, I can see why you would" he meant "I understand why people self-harm" or "it's not your fault". Wild guess. Just giving the stranger the benefit of the doubt as someone who has been on the other end of this too many times.
picturescrazy 24
Yeah, I also read it as the stranger being concerned about OP. Maybe he used to self-harm or knows someone that does and wants to reach out to others. Not everyone is getting the help they need in that situation since it's easier to ignore someone's struggles than it is to help them overcome them. I feel like the dude was just trying to do a good deed :) It's just unfortunate that he mislabeled the situation & insulted OP.
whyisitincapital 25
After his insult, you should have said, "However I do perform grievous bodily harm", and let loose on him.
cocainewhore 30
That's brilliant. Illegal, but brilliant.
sharksfan48 13
Society today can be summed up in one word: Asshole
Pilkipedia 8
Just a slight generalization.
persianninja 23
Asshole and Prejudice
Stephy94 9
If he wants to play that game, find a knife and cut him a few times before asking him the same thing.
ImAFaker 29
That would lead to OP getting arrested... Not such a good idea
domking1315 20
You may actually need help #4
UglyFatGirl 9
what the hell?!
flashback.miss 28
wtf, who would talk about self harm so lightly? there should be justifiable adult for assholes like those.
fluffycatsdad 33
Or justifiable assault, even.
ohSNAPyall 27
Assault with leeches?
revolution4ever 14
What a dick. I don't understand why people feel the need to be so rude, especially when it comes to other peoples body and lifestyle.
Ameel_fml 19
It makes me wonder what goes through their heads before they say such asshole-ish things. Do these sorts of people know they're assholes? Do they get enjoyment out of insulting random people on the streets? Or are they just socially awkward to the extreme? I mean, I know everybody has been rude at least some point in life. But it takes a special kind of asshole to say what the guy said in this FML.
YUMMYFRENCHFRIES 16
That is really rude for him to say. And maybe you should get some of that lotion for stretch marks...
Magicomoo 9
why? Its natural and her body.
hashshim 23
there's nothing really wedding with stretch marks it's just that a lot of people don't like the appearance of them, OP might be one of those people. I know I am.
FKJVMMP 17
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
If you've got stretch marks on your thighs, I'm going to assume you're overweight. The guy, a stranger in the street, could also clearly see your thighs. So presumably you were wearing short shorts, or a very short skirt, or something similar. Not really the kind of thing I'd want to see walking down the road. Pretty sure the guy was trying to tell you the same thing, in the rudest way possible.
annie_nk 23
You can get stretch marks on your legs from growing up, asshole.
revolution4ever 14
Stretch marks don't mean your overweight.. OP could be really fit but just grew to fast. And the guy can just be saying shit to make OP feel bad. I feel assuming someone is overweight is rude. Maybe you should learn not to be a dick.
T1A2Z3 35
Guys actually tend to have more. They tend to grow pretty suddenly at one point. I know lots of guys who do anyway. Also. OP could have lost the weight from the stretch marks if that's what caused them.
Lizza330 28
The majority of women have at least some stretch marks, regardless of weight. I'm assuming OP is a girl, because I've never heard of guys having strech marks. I'm sure it happens though.
DKjazz 20
I've never gotten stretch marks during a growth spurt, so I have to ask: Is that variety of stretch marks vertical or horizontal? Stretch marks that I have seen (from weight gain, pregnancy) have been universally vertical, but all the self-harm scars I've seen are horizontal.
revolution4ever 14
Guys get them... My friend had them on his back.. I've had them on my thighs. Girls tend to be targeted though because it means they won't have "perfect" skin. Just another way for the whole cosmetic (hope that's what I mean) industry to make money...
salvorican 24
I have stretch marks on my knees.. I don't see how that could possibly be from being overweight. Stretch marks don't mean overweight at all
Zimmington 21
#9 both you and the guy who stopped Op are dicks! Cutting is a sensitive subject no matter what she was wearing
kaitlynjane 28
Whether they are overweight or not, they can wear whatever the **** they want to. I'm guessing OP is female, and believe it or not - not all women dress in order to impress men. I know, crazy right? No. To assume that what someone wears should always be attractive to you is BULLSHIT.
FKJVMMP 17
The guy was a dick, no doubt, I even said that. I don't know for sure OP is overweight, and if they're from growth spurts fair enough, but the far more likely explanation is that OP is overweight. As for cutting, I'm well aware it's a sensitive matter, and I'm hoping that the guy was being sarcastic when he asked, knowing full well that the stretch marks weren't scars (given I've never seen stretch marks that could easily be mistaken for cutting scars). If not, it makes him even more of an asshole. As for "dressing to impress men", I don't expect women to do that, but that doesn't mean I'm going to sit there and say an overweight women in skimpy clothing isn't kind of gross, and not something I want to see. It's not a sexist thing, overweight men in tight clothing, or with underwear showing is pretty gross as well.
CharresBarkrey 16
31 - So don't look? I'm sorry, I fail to see how you're making this into something that you have to "deal" with.
shan88 14
You sir, are an asshole!
TechFire 25
Shorts in the summer = skimpy? What?
MerrikBarbarian 9
18- I have horizontal stretch marks across my abs which came from rapid weight loss, so no, not all weight based marks are vertical. I'm also not remotely overweight. I wear a medium European sizes.. Small to extra small American. By the same token my scars from self harming in past don't all run horizontal. They run in all directions because I would go into a frantic attack mode and not even be totally aware what I was doing. Also if you have seen both- scars look far different than stretch marks. They are narrower and often raised, where as stretch marks are flat. Don't be so quick to judge people or assume things.
Cupcake040 17
I see older overweight men without shirts when I walk down my street and I just deal with it. Why is it that women who are overweight have to wear a parka in the summer(and op may not even be overweight)? Just a suggestion to the dick who started this.......don't say shit that you're gonna get attacked about because of your ignorance.
AestheticGuy 21
@27 I disagree with you strongly on that point I'm afraid. I'm sick of seeing overweight girls wearing denim shorts and crop tops, its disgusting.
JTHomer 13
He's not saying that the girls disgusting because she's fat. He's saying that he's assuming she's overweight, which is fair in todays society as obesity rates soar, and that she was wearing shorts. He is completely justified in his own right to complain about fat girls in short shorts and crop tops, just as much as fat girls are justified in wearing short shorts and crop tops! Yeah sure, you can do it, but please dont cuz somebody else is gonna have an aneurism for saying what everybody else is thinking. And to the people saying "I have fat people walking shirtless down my street all the time." Buuuulll$#¡%, because fat people typically are less confident then fit, or cut, people and so i would doubt that. Also, youre not bothered by it, maybe, but you definitely dont appreciate it judging by your tone, shading them doing such walking in a negative aspect.
Magicomoo 9
#53 I am sick of seeing orange people but its not going to stop you from tanning is it ?
skyturtle 9
@31, I'm slightly overweight, so I guess I should stop wearing shorts in 100°+ weather just to please you.
j_729 18
@31 the worst is when overweight people wear little bikinis to the beach
AestheticGuy 21
@67 Not it wouldnt because I don't use fake tan, that stuff looks ridiculous. I use Melanotan II, look into it. Technology.
AestheticGuy 21
@83 Yeah, I know man it's disgusting, but we have to allow whales to be in their natural habitat.
j_729 18
@87 McDonalds?
AestheticGuy 21
@92 *McPoison
militarybrat 21
I have stretch marks simply from puberty. I have never been overweight. You need a biology lesson.
Zimmington 21
86- No one gives a **** if you don't use fake tan. You still look like a ****** Oompa Loompa! What's attractive about that?
jkmartinjk 16
@ 127: His name is Aesthetic guy; obviously he thinks he's hot shit, so I wouldn't even bother. Someone that is cruel enough to call a human being a 'whale,' doesn't deserve to be spoken to.
lolitaroze 8
#27 you are officially my favorite person. bless you
j_729 18
I don't understand why everyone disliked me....there are other swim suits they can wear its just that they shouldn't wear a bikini. Its just nasty
revolution4ever 14
@ 138... You were disliked because your comments were rude and were putting anyone who is overweight down, especially women. Your negative opinion are the cause of your problems. I'm proud of the people who are confident enough to go out like that all because of people like you.
ironik69 31
Quite lovely 138. I squeeze my fat ass into a bikini. I don't have a lot of confidence, but conversely, I don't give two flying ***** what anyone thinks. I'm going to be me. How dare you say that its "nasty." So, people should not get pierced, tattooed, get haircuts or shave their head, wear makeup, dye their hair, wear contacts or any other thing that distinguishes people from one another? You sir/madam are a completely obnoxious tool for saying that someone is gross. Some people can't help their weight, or skin color or anything else. We were all made differently. So, when I am wearing my hot pink bikini on the beach and you see me, either turn your judgmental little head until I pass or prepare to meet my size thirteens...something else that I cannot help or change.
holly1398 5
I'm 15, weigh 95 lbs, 5'9, and have stretch marks on my thighs. I'm pretty sure I'm bit overweight I grew 5 inches within 3 months. Not my fault, that's life
holly1398 5
Pretty sure I'm not overweight*
awkward611 26
I agree
bellydancer82 15
I'm underweight and have stretch marks all over my stomach, inner thighs, and upper arms. Why? Because during middle school, this magical thing called "puberty" happened and I shot up to 5' 11" by high school. And you know what? I don't give a shit, and neither should anyone else. A majority of people have stretch marks somewhere, and they're still beautiful. Whenever I modeled as a teen or whenever I belly dance in public, no one seems to care that I have stretch marks. Good luck finding a girlfriend who doesn't have stretch marks and is willing to put up with your ignorance.
BellaBelle_fml 23
I am 23, 5'9, 136lbs, wear size 4 pants, small tops, size 9.5-10.5 shoes, a D-cup, and I have stretch marks all over my thighs, hips, and breasts. Do you know why? Because five years ago I was diagnosed and hospitalized with severe Crohn's disease. I had to have a major and life-saving surgery that left me with a very noticeable scar from hip to hip, required several blood transfusions, was hooked up to seven IV's at the same time, had 11 inches of my colon removed because a section had burst and was rotting inside of me and was starting to rot and suffocate the surrounding organs, I was bleeding internally, I hadn't eaten solid food in over six months, and I had kidney failure. They were trying to find out what steroid would help me the best and the first one they gave me I had a severe reaction to. It made me swell up and gain almost 100lbs in water weight overnight. Which caused both of my lungs to collapse and put me into a coma. So, you tell me if you could go from being around 85lbs to around 185lbs within a 12-hour period and NOT come out with stretch marks! I also have scars in various places, some visible, some not, from being a past cutter due to the emotional traumas of being emotionally and physically abused by my father, as well as being beaten and violently raped by an ex. Am I ugly because of my scars and stretch marks that I EARNED in my fight for life? Should I be ashamed of myself because I am a survivor? Do you want me to go throughout my entire life hiding away from society because someone might think I'm 'nasty' or 'gross'? HELL NO! I'm damn proud of my battle scars! You are the one who should be ashamed of yourself with your arrogant, self-entitled, and ignorant attitude!
jeorgie210 4
I'm 16 and I have stretch marks on my thighs and calves from playing softball and being the catcher for 3 whole years. It's not from being overweight or pregnancy. Stretch marks are a beautiful thing.
smilingxbleeding 9
I didn't mean to thumb you down, sorry!:(
TaniasaysFMLL 15
He's just an asshole. Don't listen to him, who cares what he thinks! Don't let that ruin your self confidence!
AGB10 19
What an asshole. I hope you inflicted some harm on him.