Today, a coworker told me I was "fat shaming" them by discussing weight loss with other coworkers. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Same thing different taste
Today, a coworker complimented me on losing weight, and said that she wished she could drop a few pounds too. I was too embarrassed to tell her that the only reason I've lost weight is because I haven't been able to afford to eat. FML
Bodyshaming
Today, my coworker doesn't want to go to lunch with me anymore, after I lost a load of weight in lockdown and she's still "overweight." Apparently, I've "changed, and not the same person." FML
Today, I told my boss about a coworker that had been hitting on me. She looked me dead in the eye and said "I was afraid that would happen. He's a bit of a chubby chaser." FML
Make it make sense
Today, I was told it is "fatphobic" to "assume someone's weight is related to their food choices" and that I have a "problematic relationship with food." All because I didn't want to eat a bigger slice of the cake someone brought in at work. FML
Today, I decided to come out to a co-worker. She looked at me, then laughed, and said, "You can't be gay, you're fat!" FML
Siren alert
Today, after weeks of everyone at work avoiding me, I finally asked my coworker what was up. She informed me, “You’re 350lbs and try to dress like an office siren, it’s pathetic to look at.” FML
Boundaries
Today, I told one of my coworkers that she looked really cute today. Later she sent an email to me and cc'd the entire office saying, "It really makes me feel uncomfortable when you say things like that to me. And I shouldn't have to feel that way at work." FML
Today, my friend was complaining about how fat she was. To make her feel better I said, "Psh, you're not fat! In fact we're about the same weight!" She looked at me for a second, then burst into tears sobbing, "I'm fat! I'm fat!" FML
Concerned parent
Today, I tried to nicely talk to my daughter about her rapid weight gain. Having a family history of weight-related illness, I felt it was necessary. I offered to get thyroid tests, teach her to buy healthy food, and start routine exercise. She told everyone I called her a cow and had fat-shamed her. FML
Today, I got fired from my job at a weight-loss center because I was too skinny, and apparently it's too depressing for the customers to handle. FML
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niallo 23
Give them a crayon and a coloring book. Put them in their safe space, and close the door. This is political correctness at its best.
mamasquirrel78 2
Just because you haven't witnessed it personally doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Yes, there is a Fat Acceptance movement and no, it is not the same as body positivity. Fat Acceptance has been around for quite awhile and is supposed to be about combating anti-fat bias. However, most of the people within it use it as a way to convince themselves that they're fine, it's everyone else with the problem. They don't see being morbidly obese as a health problem and rage if a doctor tells them that dropping some weight may help their joint pain, hypertension, PCOS and may reduce their risk of several different types of cancer and heart disease. They believe that if a retail outlet doesn't carry their size, it's discrimination and that what they eat and the amount are in no way connected to their weight. These people are in no way body positime. Body positivity is about celebrating and believing in personal health regardless of size. These people denigrate anyone smaller than them, including other obese or overweight people that aren't their size. If anyone decides to eat healthier or ends up losing weight due to changes they've made to feel better (because many people in the BP movement do that), they are labeled as traitors or told they are fat shaming/fat hating. If anyone talk about weight loss around them, they are told they are fat shaming, like OP's story, even if they weren't involved in the conversation at all. These people are in no way positive. They're self hating underneath and project it outwards. They actually promote harmful behaviors because it is more important to continue deluding themselves that they're just as healthy as anyone else no matter how big they are, and some are quite large.
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Cabezilla 9
Should've said "I wasn't talking about you, you ******* cow"
linnie_wesker 20
Like other commenters have said, it totally depends on what the OP said. I've had annoying coworkers who loudly discuss dieting and exercise in the break room and give -everyone- unsolicited advice. Or maybe it was totally innocent and the coworker snapped. At every job I've ever had starting in December and going through January it was WEIGHT LOSS WEIGHT LOSS WEIGHT LOSS everywhere, posters in the break room, e-mails, notices on the boards, etc. When I was recovering from bulimia and I had to put up with that at work I ******* snapped and filed complaints with corporate nonstop until they pulled all that bullshit. Don't judge the coworker with such little information.
sweetpotato301 7
Totally get where you're coming from, but you made them take it all down? Surely a couple of posters isn't a big deal- it might have motivated someone to become more healthy. Obviously it shouldn't be plastered everywhere and emails are going too far but if you made them take literally everything relating to weight loss away, I think that's kind of selfish.
Amber Parkey 6
What a whiny child....... I'm sorry you are forced to work alongside someone who lacks basic adult skills. Fat shameing herself. She's obviously not happy others are doing what she can't or won't.
steeck1 6
People are just way too sensitive. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a healthier version of you.
ACCOUNTKILLER 18
If they have a big enough problem with their weight that any mention of fat people or weight loss "triggers" them, then they need to do something about it and lose some weight.
liamthatonekid 5
fat shaming isn't a thing lmao