Today, a coworker told me I was "fat shaming" them by discussing weight loss with other coworkers. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Same thing different taste
Today, a coworker complimented me on losing weight, and said that she wished she could drop a few pounds too. I was too embarrassed to tell her that the only reason I've lost weight is because I haven't been able to afford to eat. FML
Bodyshaming
Today, my coworker doesn't want to go to lunch with me anymore, after I lost a load of weight in lockdown and she's still "overweight." Apparently, I've "changed, and not the same person." FML
Today, I told my boss about a coworker that had been hitting on me. She looked me dead in the eye and said "I was afraid that would happen. He's a bit of a chubby chaser." FML
Make it make sense
Today, I was told it is "fatphobic" to "assume someone's weight is related to their food choices" and that I have a "problematic relationship with food." All because I didn't want to eat a bigger slice of the cake someone brought in at work. FML
Today, I decided to come out to a co-worker. She looked at me, then laughed, and said, "You can't be gay, you're fat!" FML
Siren alert
Today, after weeks of everyone at work avoiding me, I finally asked my coworker what was up. She informed me, “You’re 350lbs and try to dress like an office siren, it’s pathetic to look at.” FML
Boundaries
Today, I told one of my coworkers that she looked really cute today. Later she sent an email to me and cc'd the entire office saying, "It really makes me feel uncomfortable when you say things like that to me. And I shouldn't have to feel that way at work." FML
Today, my friend was complaining about how fat she was. To make her feel better I said, "Psh, you're not fat! In fact we're about the same weight!" She looked at me for a second, then burst into tears sobbing, "I'm fat! I'm fat!" FML
Concerned parent
Today, I tried to nicely talk to my daughter about her rapid weight gain. Having a family history of weight-related illness, I felt it was necessary. I offered to get thyroid tests, teach her to buy healthy food, and start routine exercise. She told everyone I called her a cow and had fat-shamed her. FML
Today, I got fired from my job at a weight-loss center because I was too skinny, and apparently it's too depressing for the customers to handle. FML
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niallo 23
Give them a crayon and a coloring book. Put them in their safe space, and close the door. This is political correctness at its best.
mamasquirrel78 2
Just because you haven't witnessed it personally doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Yes, there is a Fat Acceptance movement and no, it is not the same as body positivity. Fat Acceptance has been around for quite awhile and is supposed to be about combating anti-fat bias. However, most of the people within it use it as a way to convince themselves that they're fine, it's everyone else with the problem. They don't see being morbidly obese as a health problem and rage if a doctor tells them that dropping some weight may help their joint pain, hypertension, PCOS and may reduce their risk of several different types of cancer and heart disease. They believe that if a retail outlet doesn't carry their size, it's discrimination and that what they eat and the amount are in no way connected to their weight. These people are in no way body positime. Body positivity is about celebrating and believing in personal health regardless of size. These people denigrate anyone smaller than them, including other obese or overweight people that aren't their size. If anyone decides to eat healthier or ends up losing weight due to changes they've made to feel better (because many people in the BP movement do that), they are labeled as traitors or told they are fat shaming/fat hating. If anyone talk about weight loss around them, they are told they are fat shaming, like OP's story, even if they weren't involved in the conversation at all. These people are in no way positive. They're self hating underneath and project it outwards. They actually promote harmful behaviors because it is more important to continue deluding themselves that they're just as healthy as anyone else no matter how big they are, and some are quite large.
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A07 48
While you're on the subject, tell them they'll get a new year resolution discount if they join the gym in the first week of January.
lexiieeex3 32
Well if the shoe fits --or rather, doesn't fit in this case...
niallo 23
Give them a crayon and a coloring book. Put them in their safe space, and close the door. This is political correctness at its best.
Dat_Class_Tho 26
I guess it depends on what you said. If it was "I cut out carbs and already lost 10 pounds" then your coworker is being ridiculous/jealous and paranoid (for thinking it was somehow a dig at them). If it was "I feel so great after that cleanse, I don't know why people say dieting is hard. Like seriously- just put down the fork, piggy" then yes, that would make you the asshole here.
maritime1992 5
Ridiculous. While it's not good to put down people for their weight, I'm heavily against the fat acceptance movement. Let's not congratulate people for piss poor diet and exercise habits. Don't worry about that persin. they probably feel guilty about being unhealthy.
Aylla89 3
There is no fat acceptance movement. That is just paranoia. The only movement, if you can call it that, is happiness, body positivity, and confidence. For any body type. You know, the things that can in part help stop self harm and suicide? The thing we all strive for? The point isn't to brainwash people into thinking being too fat, (or skinny) is ok or the goal. It's for people to just be happy with who they are. You've seen big sassy people and skinny people. Whatever people think, think of their health aside, they are perfectly ok with who they are. Their personal life choices do not affect you. You being all "but wahh mommy, they are ewwy eww gwoss." is not an excuse or reason. This applies to men and women both. Now if someone isn't happy with their body, truly unhappy, yeah they should strive to make changes. The person in this story did overreact quite a bit, but they aren't the only one. Hint hint. You can say oh they need a safe space, but they apparently aren't the only one who need it from a visual thing. If anything, being anorexic and bony is becoming a movement by your logic too. Seeing XS/ extra small clothing in kids and teenager and adult clothing? No. Not normal. Not healthy either. It's just as disgusting. Mind your own and keep walking if you see something that triggers your eyes. Focus on yourself, not others. That includes your loved ones. If they want to change they will. Being happy and confident should not be viewed as a bad thing.
pettyjohn1995 14
You and #5 are getting at opposite ends of a spectrum, there's got to be some happy median in there. Body positivity as a means to make people comfortable in their lives is indeed fantastic, but consider that those with the most unhealthy lifestyles also tend to be the least likely to acknowledge the problem (alcoholics, addicts, smokers). Its not beyond being reasonable to add the obese to that category. I can at from my own experience, having been overweight from around age 12 til last year, that I was woefully unaware of the health risks my weight posed. I was continually reinforced by family, friends, and the media that my weight was ok, perfectly normal, had that continued I would never have changed. Instead, someone like #5 intervened and encouraged me to seek out real information about the health risks and motivated me to lose 70lbs in a year. You're right, positivity about your body is key to happiness, but long term happiness comes from being both comfortable and healthy. There is such a thing as going too far in pursuit of health, leading to malnourished or anorexic children you mention, but let's not let that dissuade anyone from pursuing a proper, healthy lifestyle. I'd like to propose a line of thinking somewhere between these two comments. One that encourages health, that is not afraid to point out those that need to change their lifestyle, but one that does so out of genuine concern for individual wellbeing rather than "shaming." Perhaps a type of intervention for the masses on the genuine risks of obesity, ways to get help, to change, and especially to prevent children from growing up learning these same flawed lifestyles.
maritime1992 5
14, I got bored after your first sentence so I did not read your comment. there is indeed a fat acceptance movement. you typing novels on my comment won't change that. I believe in being positive and accepting the body you're in while achieving a healthier you. I don't condone bashing and I don't want anyone to feel bad about themselves. what I don't condone is not making steps to a positive lifestyle and getting defensive about it.
Aylla89 3
How did you manage school or anything else, not having the ability to read more than a few words. Laziness or learning issues. What a sad pity. Not only that, but you completely disregarded, what I thought was a relatively well thought out counter point. Not perfect, but decent. Short enough for you?
finian1108 19
let's play spot the fatass
mamasquirrel78 2
Just because you haven't witnessed it personally doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Yes, there is a Fat Acceptance movement and no, it is not the same as body positivity. Fat Acceptance has been around for quite awhile and is supposed to be about combating anti-fat bias. However, most of the people within it use it as a way to convince themselves that they're fine, it's everyone else with the problem. They don't see being morbidly obese as a health problem and rage if a doctor tells them that dropping some weight may help their joint pain, hypertension, PCOS and may reduce their risk of several different types of cancer and heart disease. They believe that if a retail outlet doesn't carry their size, it's discrimination and that what they eat and the amount are in no way connected to their weight. These people are in no way body positime. Body positivity is about celebrating and believing in personal health regardless of size. These people denigrate anyone smaller than them, including other obese or overweight people that aren't their size. If anyone decides to eat healthier or ends up losing weight due to changes they've made to feel better (because many people in the BP movement do that), they are labeled as traitors or told they are fat shaming/fat hating. If anyone talk about weight loss around them, they are told they are fat shaming, like OP's story, even if they weren't involved in the conversation at all. These people are in no way positive. They're self hating underneath and project it outwards. They actually promote harmful behaviors because it is more important to continue deluding themselves that they're just as healthy as anyone else no matter how big they are, and some are quite large.
Dave_Davington 34
That's Tumblr for you.
MikuandKaito 24
I'm pretty sure it's real life.
Dave_Davington 34
It's real life when Tumblr bleeds into it.
RinoaHeartilly 36
No, Tumblr is the crazy/obsessed fandom site.
Whydoyouask 11
#7 I don't think he meant it literally but that is the essence of Tumblr. They embody the stereotype of sensitive millennials and are a laughing stock to everyone else.
pickle682 17
It sounds like they are just self conscious and looking for other people to share the blame with
moondoglou420 17
Did you laugh in their face? Because you should have.
kiki1705 20
"oh I'm sorry, did I invade your safe space? I guess its range must have been getting bigger lately....you know....just like its owner's."
alvarny 17
if you were discussing his weight loss...