Today, and in the month since our son was born, my husband has lost interest in fatherhood entirely. This morning, our son had naptime in the kitchen, while he was also in the kitchen on a 2-hour work call, and according to him that was father-son bonding time just because they were in the same room. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my husband is so emotionally disconnected from fatherhood, he has yet to call our son by his name and instead just refers to him as 'It' or 'That' and occasionally just 'Him'. Sometimes he’ll even ignore him crying and just leave the room because the noise annoys him. FML
Today, when my husband told me years ago he wanted to parent just like his dad used to, I had no idea that meant helping with practical stuff like cooking and nappy changing, but otherwise ignoring our kid's emotional well-being and telling them to buzz off when they try to talk to him. FML
Today, my husband and son had their first DIY project. Less than 30 minutes later, our son’s crying in his room. Turns out my husband is just like his dad. “WHY ARE YOU STANDING DOING NOTHING? PASS ME THE THING. NOT THAT THING, THE OTHER THING. HERE, I’LL DO IT MYSELF. PAY ATTENTION, GOD DAMMIT.” FML
Today, my baby son latched onto my nipple for a feed, after a month of having to be bottle fed because he wouldn't latch. This would be fantastic, if it weren't for the fact that I'm his father, not his mother. FML
Today, and ever since I gave birth to my son, I’ve hated being a mom. I held him, waiting for the rush of love my mom told me I’d feel and… nothing, I was completely emotionless about holding my newborn son and it’s gotten worse. I really hate being a mom, and my husband just does not understand. FML
Today, my dad decided to have a little father and daughter bonding time. Unfortunately, his idea of bonding involves him sitting around at home, getting piss drunk, and falling asleep. FML
Today, I had to snatch my son's phone to hang up his “super important work phone call” and force him to pay attention to the nurse trying to hand him his newborn son, while his wife was passed out. He's so career obsessed, I don’t think he noticed his son being born at all. FML
Today, after opening up to my husband about my mental struggles after a difficult birth, I shed a few tears. He left me there to go take a nap. FML
Today, my wife is mad at me because she claims I don’t spend any time bonding with her son. It’s as though she refuses to understand that just because we are in different rooms, on separate PlayStations, doesn’t mean we’re not playing the same game, and talking through headphones for hours at a time. FML
Today, my husband is "too busy" and refuses to even talk with me for more than two minutes, but has enough time to spend hour-long phone conversations with his buddies. If only I were not stuck with him and our second baby at home during a pandemic… FML
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Justkidding100 41
he's one month old... ALL bonding with him is essentially just being in the same room.
poopface82 25
At that age, it’s all about survival. I didn’t even truly bond with my kids until they were a few months old and I’m widely regarded as a damn good dad. Cut the guy a break.
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Thaylok 17
That is a lot more than many fathers would do. What do you do while the child is asleep? I would hope you are getting some rest. I'd worry more I'd the father was planning on going out for milk/cigarettes. Give him time. when your child is awake more and more active, you may well see what it is you are expecting.
Chazzster 32
I’m sorry, but if Dad had refused to take his work call, lost his job, and then couldn’t support his family, how exactly would that be any better? … Both parents have a duty to care for their children and that includes providing food and shelter and protection and love. Many parents divide those roles as opposed to dividing equally each role based purely on what each can do… It would be great if Fathers and Mothers both had paid extended maternity leave. But that’s not usually the case. You have to make do with what you can do…
wiccaantje 21
The decent thing to do then, is acknowledging that you can't do something, like spend time with the kid, instead of acting like you actually are doing the thing.
Justkidding100 41
he's one month old... ALL bonding with him is essentially just being in the same room.
RichardPencil 32
I'd count that as Take Your Kid to Work Day!
SirEnigM0nk 22
Communicate to your husband your expectations for what you consider quality father-son bonding time. How is he to know otherwise? Considering your son's age, what he is doing is a good start.
spinningrecords 14
That early on is mom bonding time, dad should only be in the periphery. Give the guy a break, his time will come and he will do fine.
poopface82 25
At that age, it’s all about survival. I didn’t even truly bond with my kids until they were a few months old and I’m widely regarded as a damn good dad. Cut the guy a break.
Taurus_ChicKa 37
Did he want kids in the first place? Is this a conversation the two of you had? If not, that's a bad sign... if so, and the father was on board with having kids, he needs to know he can't want kids and then not show them any attention. It doesn't work that way. This coming from someone who has no kids.