Today, I hung out with some old friends for the first time since losing about 50 pounds, going from clinically obese to a healthy weight. I even bought a cute new dress for the occasion to show off my new body. No one noticed the change. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I got to see my best friend for the first time in months. Her first reaction was to say, "Wow, you gained a lot of weight." I actually lost a fair bit. FML
Today, I walked downstairs in a new outfit, after dieting for 3 months, and losing just over 20 pounds. My mom took one look at me and said "You'd better keep going." FML
Today, my boyfriend suggested I try on some old clothes, after weeks of eating better and exercising. The good news: they fit again, and are even a little bit loose. The bad news: somehow, I look fatter now than I did before I started trying to lose weight. FML
Today, I proudly showed off my new body, after losing 80 pounds. My life-long best friend immediately uninvited me to her upcoming wedding, and won't explain why. FML
Today, I went to a high school reunion. An old friend I hadn't seen in a while suddenly came up to me and gasped, "Oh, thank God!" I was about to greet her and catch up when she added, "I'm not the only one who gained weight!" FML
Today, my best friend told me I lost weight. I was happy because I've worked hard to shed off those pounds. I asked her what changes were evident, she told me that I now have a neck. FML
Today, I was at the gym and saw an old friend. I have put on a lot of muscle in the past few months, and she said to me "Wow, you've really gotten big." Just by habit I said "You too." Turns out she's gained 45 lbs since I'd last seen her. Oops. FML
Today, after months of dieting, I finally reached my goal weight. Excitedly I told my boyfriend, who gave me a beautiful dress as an early Christmas present. It was a size too small. FML
Today, I took the kids to the pool. I'm short and 20lbs overweight but they talked me into it and I put on a swimsuit for the first time in 10 years. As soon as we got there, a girl my height but a good 150lbs heavier said, "It's so nice to see another big girl in a two-piece!" FML
Today, I came back from my 3-month vacation in France. During my vacation I lost 32 lbs and I was so excited to show off my new body to my boyfriend. When he walked in the door, he didn't notice me, but he did notice my younger, thinner and tanner sister strutting around in her bikini. FML
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lchollett 22
Who cares? You did it for yourself, and as long as you feel happy, that's really all that matters.
kevinfmls 12
Don't be so down. Maybe they forgot? I'm not helping, but congrats on the weight loss!!
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hi358 6
Just saying, but if you went from obese to losing 50 pounds, then it's not that odd that they wouldn't notice.
adjwejaelwkdc 21
"Clinically obese" means having a BMI of over 30. If you're six feet tall, weighing 225 means you're clinically obese, whereas weighing between 185 and 225 classifies you as "overweight" (BMI between 25 and 30). So, yes, losing less than 50 pounds can easily mean the difference between "obese" and "normal weight."
PhoenixChick 26
Some definitions of "obese" are literally being 50 pounds above your ideal weight
Algorithm 24
A 5'5" woman is clinically obese at 180 lbs and hits normal weight at 150. It's definitely possible for 50 lbs to be the difference between obesity and normal weight? I'm not sure where this train of thought's supposed to be going.
hi358 6
OP never mentioned her weight before and after, therefore, there is no reason to tell me about what the definition of obese is. If her friends didn't notice, I assume that she was quite obese.
southerngalslove 15
There's that word... ASSume.
yellowzinnias 20
Exactly. People are confusing "clinically obese" with "morbidly obese." Clinically obese generally equates to ~50+ pounds over a normal weight limit for your height and muscle composition. Morbidly obese generally equates to ~100+ pounds over a normal weight limit for your height and muscle composition.
EliGolsdworthy 7
Maybe they never really cared about your weight? But congrats though c:
trashboat911 10
They probably don't remember you as heavy as you remember yourself
Brandi_Faith 34
I think this is most likely what happened. Op, you said they haven't seen you in a long time, so there's a chance they just thought of you as smaller then you were. There's also the huge possibility that you had gained some weight in the years they hadn't seen you (let's say 20lbs in 2 years) so to you, you have lost 50lbs, but to them you've only lost about 30. So if you weighed around 150 when they last saw you, then gained 20 more in the (let's say) 2 years you hadn't seen them, then you lost 50lbs total but only 30 since the last time they saw you. Either way, you lost a lot of weight and got to see some old friends, so congrats on all of it!
RememberSchlitz 9
I feel ya, OP. I lost 70 pounds over 6 months of serious exercise and dieting, and the only person (besides my wife) who noticed was my lives-nearby mom. She asked me if I had cancer.
Rabite 28
On the other side there are lots of people who are really ill and get complimented for their great weight loss. It's a sensitive topic. I always get a mix between "too fat" and "anorexic" while only changing a little bit in between a 10 pound interval.
serously 11
They were probably jealous so they didn't say anything. Congrats!
yerawizardlizzy 27
Or they were just unsure how to broach such a sensitive subject. Just because someone doesn't act the way you expect them to doesn't mean they are jealous. What if they are already at a healthy weight? What's to be jealous of?
serously 11
I was just trying to make OP feel good about themselves. Calm down
thecitizen 15
Don't be so self-conscious! It's awesome that you did that and you're trying to show off but just because no one says anything doesn't mean you aren't beautiful.
kyu_Q 19
OP maybe they just love you for who you are and not how you looked.
MashaV 6
Its ok, OP, I'm sure they noticed and were proud of you. Maybe they were afraid to say anything because they didn't know how you would react: some people can be very reserved about these topics, and maybe they were afraid that you wouldn't like it if they pointed it out. I know I never comment on even close friends' weight change, even good, unless they start the conversation first. Either way: congrats and way to go!!
anonymous198913 26
Why do you care? It's shouldn't be about making others happy. You feel good, and you like it. That's all that matters.
Jenn50 19
I think it's pretty normal to want people to notice and acknowledge your accomplishments. Sure, it's healthier to let go of what other people think of you, but most of us still appreciate it when people compliment the results of hard work.
tikatica 17
1)clinically obese is not just 50lbs, 2)just because no one said anything doesn't mean they didn't notice
yerawizardlizzy 27
Of course it can be just 50 pounds. When I weighed 180 I was clinically obese. Losing 50 pounds would have put me in the "healthy" range for my height on the BMI scale. Now if someone tips into the moribdly obese range, then yes, 50 pounds wouldn't cut it no matter your height.