Trust

By :// - 04/02/2013 00:26 - Netherlands - Nijkerk

Today, my mom accused me of stealing money from her purse. Being totally innocent, I reminded her that the only other person with access to it is her boyfriend. She said she trusts him because she loves him. They've been dating for 2 months. I've been her daughter for 25 years. FML
I agree, your life sucks 44 250
You deserved it 2 526

Same thing different taste

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laya_fml 26

Your mother trusts her boyfriend because she loves him, but she doesn't trust you. It kind of sounds like your mom just told you that she doesn't love you.

Some people fall head over heels in love. Or just fall on their heads in love. And crack their ******* skulls...in love. Either way.

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That's pretty bad, how she would trust a guy she has only dated for 2 months than her own daughter. Sorry to hear OP.

When you are in love (or think you are) your brain will ignore flaws in that person to a degree. This is what is happening here

laya_fml 26

Your mother trusts her boyfriend because she loves him, but she doesn't trust you. It kind of sounds like your mom just told you that she doesn't love you.

She sounds more like a teenager than a responsible mother.

Maybe she meant a physical love? But that still is a terrible reason to trust somebody.

That's exactly what it is, her mother doesn't love her daughter in the right capacity. My mom accused me of stealing too, I was completely innocent, and then she actually told me she despised me. I recommend the OP do what I did - get away from her mother, because that is an unhealthy relationship which will always leave her heartbroken. Nothing hurts worse than your own mother hating you, abusing you, and accusing you. As hard as it is, she needs to get away from her mom.

Some people fall head over heels in love. Or just fall on their heads in love. And crack their ******* skulls...in love. Either way.

oj101 33

People are quite often blinded by new and shiny things. The novelty will pass eventually.

The novelty or the positive sign on her bank account...

4, I think she was just applying Barney Stinson's one rule: new is always better.

And the next exit, according to his Freeway Theory, is 5 months away, so she couldn't get out of the relationship even if she wanted to.

31- Except when dealing with scotch...

Something is pretty ****** up when a mother accuses her daughter instead of her "trustworthy" new boyfriend

seems to me when someone loves a person they deny the bad side of them.

^ agreed. Love is knowing your partners faults and loving them anyways, not ignoring them.

Love is acknowledging everything right and wrong about a person (that you know anyway, though acknowledging they have secrets works too), and willing to stick with them through the best or worst of days. (Even if that sticking together means after walking through hell you start fighting. Like siblings - they could go back to back against the world, then turn around and brawl.) Ignoring what's wrong with someone is ignorance.

egc573 40

Jeez, who's the mother here? Hope it doesn't last long OP.

she will realize she was wrong when he screws her over.

And it's been 2 months... So I'm sure it's already happened.

wlddog 14

And she wonders why her kids don't love her back.

CharresBarkrey 15
wlddog 14

Turnabout is fair play. It was simply a logical conclusion based on the viewpoint that parents teach their kids how to deal with the world. Logically, love must equaled trust in her mind, and the mother trusts the boyfriend and is in love with him. However, the mother does NOT trust the daughter, then she can not love her daughter. If no love is between them then the daughter is prone to not love the mother back. The statement still stands. If the mother loves and trusts the boyfriend, and not the daughter, chances are the daughter does not love her back.

Too bad you can't break up with your mother.