Today, I had a softball team dinner, and I was sitting with a bunch of girls who were talking about how far they've gone with guys. One girl goes "I must be the least experienced one here, I've never even kissed a guy!" Surprised, I said "me too!" and high-fived her. She was joking. I wasn't. FML
I agree, your life sucks (49298) - you totally deserved it (6139)
On 04/06/2009 at 4:35am - misc - by annonymous (woman) - China (Beijing)
don't worry, having an nice first kiss is much more important than having an early one
#3 - On 04/06/2009 at 2:07pm by troubledcrystal
Aw, there's nothing wrong with that! People don't need to brag about how far they've gone!
#5 - On 04/06/2009 at 2:08pm by Inspired22
I wonder how old you are lol. There's nothing wrong with that...maybe they just happened to be particularly slutty girls?
how many girls have you kissed?
and there has to be 1 that has done nothing with GUYS, althought they may have done more with girls...
and yes i did just stereotype the sport of softball
#8 - On 04/06/2009 at 2:22pm by kwbuzz23wk
Agreed with #5 & #6, I don't understand why people feel like they have this need to compete in how far they've gone. If you haven't kissed anyone yet it just means you have enough integrity to wait for someone you really like...I don't see how that's something to be embarrassed about.
#14 - On 04/06/2009 at 2:35pm by nuga
Maybe it just proves you have self control? or maybe your ugly? I dunno here but either way having more cocks in you =/= popular or cool to guys or girls lol so unless your like 28 please trust me when I say this isnt an FML
#12, This is an FML. She feels embarrassed because she feels as though she doesn't meet the standards of the other girls. It may not be mature, but it's something she feels is a problem. Don't judge FMLs.
well how old are you? you probably shouldn't feel too bad, i'm 16 and never kissed a girl before, and i feel god awful.
That girl is a stupid slut. Punch her in the gut.
ahahahaha
#19 - On 04/06/2009 at 2:51pm by musicsnob79
So? Not everyone gives their soul away at a young age. My first kiss was in Grade twelve, same with most of my friends, many of which are very pretty.
How old are you? It's not really a big deal unless you're like 20.
#22 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:07pm by wallythedolly
mmhmm (agree with 21)
it's ridiculous, actually. i graduated from high school without getting a first kiss and felt awful about it, so i let my guy friend go for it right before i left for uni. yeah, then he stopped calling me for 5 months. so again, wait for a good one, no sweat. after going to uni i suddenly met all of these gorgeous, smart, hardworking amazing girls who'd never had their first kiss. why? because they're waiting for someone worth it. and in the end, guys go for the classy girls.
They're sluts. You aren't. Not an FML, get off this site.
#25 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:12pm by fail_truck
Neither have I and I'm sixteen. Though I feel awful about it... >_>;;
Then I think: At least I'm not a whore who breaks up with a boyfriend after a week or so.
/That/ shit drives me crazy.
Anyway, yay us for not being sluts... ^^
#26 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:15pm by SiLveRStaRLIGHT
I did the same thing with some of my friends, i know how you feel
#27 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:20pm by Heavy_sigh
This shouldn't be an FML. You have nothing to be ashamed of. When the time is right it will happen.
#29 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:24pm by synchroskater
I would much rather be in your shoes than carry the experience I do.
When it finally comes, make it as special as you can. Don't waste it or hastily give it away just to get the "kissed" status.
#31 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:29pm by wickedlove
As a smart, funny, good looking (imho) guy, I have to admit that girls hooking up with everyone in sight is generally a turn off. Most guys want a girl with some sort of class/integrity, or at least I do... thats my two cents
#33 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:31pm by Sure_Thing
I didn't have a first kiss until I was in college and I'm none the worse for it. It's really not that big of a deal, truth be told- definitely not something to rush into with somebody you don't like.
#34 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:45pm by Ninjahippy
Aww it's okay I didn't have my first kiss until 17!
That means you're more mature than them and don't need a boy. Trust me you come out with a less dramatic life without worrying about boys!!!
I didn't have a first kiss until I was in college and I'm none the worse for it. It's really not that big of a deal, truth be told- definitely not something to rush into with somebody you don't like. [2]
aw..
well, get to it. relationships are definitely something you cant miss.. they build character nd give you plenty of life experience.
how late you have your life experiences definitely influences your personality and psyche.
i had what i would consider a bit of a late start myself and when most people were maturing i was still pretty much a child as far as dealing with relationships. i definitely didn't have the experience most people did at my age, but over time i changed quite a bit, in some ways positively, in other ways not so positively but it's all part of molding who you are.
but as most other people said, dont rush it and get into it with people that u dont like just for the sake of saying you've kissed. but do get out there and really try to find someone u do like that you deserve and that deserves you.
my two cents
Kissing a boy isn't such a big deal... but kissing the boy you love is worth waiting for!
#40 - On 04/06/2009 at 4:13pm by csigabajnok
i feel your pain (although i'm a guy and in my case, i've never kissed a girl or a guy). but as said before, it's better to have a romantic first kiss than an early one with someone who'll dump you soon afterwards.
#44 - On 04/06/2009 at 4:25pm by QiScorpion
Omg I'm 43 and I've never kissed a guy either but that just means I'm not a slut, right? I'm saving my lips for that special someone. Kissing should only happen if you're in love.
#45 - On 04/06/2009 at 4:31pm by SomethingWitty
i haven't either, and you shouldn't feel bad about it.
i get being embarrassed in that situation but seriously i bet half of them are either making it up or they're whores who hook up with any guy.
so you should be happy your not some easy hoe.
wait for the right guy!
Yeah, bummer you didn't catch on that she was joking. So, yeah, FYL for outting yourself to your friends. It's all about posturing and status in high school. (Yes, I'm assuming high school) But big picture, don't worry about it. If you haven't kissed anyone yet, it's no big deal. Don't go out and kiss/make out just to keep up with your friends. Do what's right for you. Do it on your own terms, not what and when other girls on your softball team say you should do.
#47 - On 04/06/2009 at 4:37pm by AMelodyofJuly
I'm 18 and I've never kissed anyone. I understand why you were embarrassed, and sometimes I am too, but try not to let it get to you. It'll happen. And you're not alone.
#50 - On 04/06/2009 at 4:50pm by icanhazlizard
I've never kissed anyone either :P
I know what it's like to be talking to a group of girls who are all more experienced and having to admit that...it wasn't fun. I feel your pain lol.
this isn't that bad of a situation, least when they are in early 20's having gone through a few bad relationships will think that they would rather be you
#54 - On 04/06/2009 at 5:07pm by xtremelifter
im 19 and never been kissed! and im glad for it... trust me self-respect is way more important than showing off how many random people you let smooch on ya!
#55 - On 04/06/2009 at 5:13pm by summertimeblues
Half the girls were probably lying and the the other half are probably whores. Don't worry about it. Wait for someone who is worth it. And your team mates are obviously still pretty immature if they feel the need to sit around and talk about how far they have gone. Don't feel the need to "catch up" to that.
#56 - On 04/06/2009 at 5:22pm by tash14
I am a 24 yr. old guy. I've never kissed either gender, and it doesn't worry me in the least. In fact, I am quite proud of where I am in life in general, professionally, socially etc.
TV, magazines, and other media are drastically oversexed. From all the responses from all the people above indicating they have never kissed anybody, it seems that is very true. So try to stop judging yourself based on other peoples priorities. Your own priorities and goals can be, and should be, different from other peoples so set your own measures of success etc.
Don't worry, be happy. ;P
#57 - On 04/06/2009 at 5:23pm by Reasonable_man
LOL that exact same thing happened to me one time! I was sitting on a bus with two new friends, a guy and a girl, on the first day of camp. We somehow got on that topic, and the girl said that she's never been kissed. For some reason, I blurted out, "Me neither!" They both looked at me funny. She was kidding. She was like, "I was kidding, I've had many kisses." XP I should have known; she looked a little like a slut.
I'm almost 20 and have never kissed a guy. I'm not embarrassed about it -- I just want it to be something special when I do.
#59 - On 04/06/2009 at 5:45pm by everydayhero12
lmfao #57 no offense...but i can understand a teenager not having a first kiss but 24, thats kind of pathetic
o and those of u that r saying its being a whore to kiss a guy..its not at all maybe ur just ugly or not socially active.
I know how you feel...I didn't have my first kiss until just over a month ago (I'm 18) so yes it definitely is an FML when something like this happens and makes you feel worse than you already feel! Those of you who were lucky (or unlucky) enough to experience your first kiss earlier don't know what it's like to be stuck waiting and feel out of place with everyone around you.
ive never kissed a guy...but since im not gay xD
i agree with #60 too lol
#62 - On 04/06/2009 at 5:53pm by shroomis
I'm almost 21 and never kissed a guy either. The only time it ever bothers me is when I get all these messages from "society" in general about how it must mean I'm inadequate in same way. There's no right or wrong time to have any of these experiences. It's right whenever you think it's right. I chose not to get shitfaced drunk and make out with the first guy who hit on me like most of the girls I know. I chose not to date any of the insanely immature guys that I come across just for the "experience." I know lots of girls who felt like they were "late" in terms of being kissed and having sex, and they just threw it away just so they could say "yeah, I've done that." I have no problem waiting for someone who accepts me for who I am and someone who I actually really like. And I've found that there are a lot of people who are like me and like you, so you're not alone even though it seems like it.
okay well get off the internet and start whoring yourself around.
will that make you feel more accepted?
im with #54.
im 17
i get asked out every week,
and still havent kissed a guy
eh.
why bother?
#66 - On 04/06/2009 at 6:19pm by threeOHthree
It always surprises me how high and mighty people seem to think they are after "going far" with a guy. A lot of girls think that no one stays a virgin to 18 just because they're promiscuous. Not true. I know plenty of girls in your same situation, honestly, you're not missing out on much... different strokes for different folks.
aw, don't worry about it. i've been in that situation before and while it sucks, don't rush it either. go watch "never been kissed" and you'll feel better about it, knowing someday you'll find a good guy who will be worth that first kiss.
You tell 'em #21!
Seriously. High school is 5 fucking years out of your life!
You got your first kiss at 20? Boo hoo. You'll only have 60 years to have FULFILLING romantic relationships, eh?
The sluts get around 20 years to enjoy an STD before they drop dead.
Who the hell can say "You should have had a kiss by (10,15,20)?" You have a kiss when you have a kiss, and because someone is anxious to whore themselves for acceptance we put them on a pedestal.
If you had your first kiss at four and a half, does that mean you're a whore? NO! Jesus, don't ever give someone else the right to analyze your life. NO one, NO ONE, came from your family, your background, or shared your dad's sperm.
Rock on, #64! Society tells us who is a "loser" and who isn't. I'll be honest. I'm embarrassed too to admit these things in real life. And to be honest, I care what people think because I'm human. I think there are so many people that feel like this but the web of lies has been spun.
#69 is fantastic. :]
Don't worry about it. I'm sixteen, and I've only kissed one guy.
#70 - On 04/06/2009 at 7:24pm by WendlaMimii
lol i love the softball sterotypes because it is so true!!!
my team has like 7 or 8 lesbians on the team, some of which came out this year.
#73 - On 04/06/2009 at 7:45pm by softball10
lol well you could have said
that u were talking about kissing a guy not a chik
i havent either though and im 17
and im proud of that:)
JOIN THE CLUB!
#74 - On 04/06/2009 at 7:53pm by basketball03
i'm with 55 and 64. i'm 19 and have never been kissed, either :] it's not about not being able to - there will always be SOMEONE who would kiss you if given the opportunity, but some people just respect themselves too much and don't want to settle for someone they're not completely in love [or like] with. i'm not meaning to come off as holier-than-thou or anything, but you know what i mean.. self-respect shouldn't be embarrassing. don't let it get to you, it'll happen when it's meant to happen. :]
I was 17 which made me the last of my friends and what made it horrible for me was I didn't even like the dude. He kissed me... with tounge. SURPRISE!
#78 - On 04/06/2009 at 9:45pm by idrivefast
it's embarrassing, but you'll get over it
i had my first kiss at twelve and was more embarrassed about being pressured into making out with a guy i didn't even really like, i would have much rather waited
i'm guessing you're in middle school, early high school?
once you get to be about 16 or 17 no one cares "how far you've gone", don't stress
#80 - On 04/06/2009 at 9:55pm by waffles_128
i haven't had my first kiss either =( not joking, lol, promise. dont worry, we'll get there! and it'll be worth it =)
right here with you! 16 and never kissed a guy before :)
soo much better to wait for the right guy who cares about you than to hook up with so many guys that you forget who's who. haha.
#83 - On 04/06/2009 at 10:48pm by fmylife423
Dont worry hun, I've kissed a boy, but I haven't made out. Do that when you're ready, who cares if you haven't kissed a boy yet? You have so much time.
Hi #60 and #62, its me, #57. lol. You both sound so YOUNG! and that is kind of cute and funny in an interweb-trollish sort of way.
OP: Nobody my age cares one scintilla about those gossip markers of high school. I just thought it would be comforting to know there are many people like you out there. One of my female friends didn't date anybody until they were 27. Really, its pretty common.
#85 - On 04/07/2009 at 2:02am by Reasonable_man
I applaud you for being the anti-tramp of the team. Things will happen when they happen. Until then, there are other parts of life out there to enjoy.
#86 - On 04/07/2009 at 3:59am by YouDontSeeMe
yea i agree with #10.. this girl i know, who would brag about how far she went with her ex-bf, well i was talking to him later, and he told me they didn't really do anything... in reality the ones who talk more shit about how far they went haven't done shit.
but otherwise, just go with the flow, tramps get nowhere in life later..
#87 - On 04/07/2009 at 5:42am by ilaughatfmls
I'm 17 and have only kissed in spin the bottle.
It's not that I don't want to kiss someone or that no one wants to kiss me, it's that I haven't been able to find someone who I want to kiss.
I would much rather not be kissed than be one of those obnoxious skanks who give it out like lottery tickets.
#88 - On 04/07/2009 at 6:17am by tatertot8284
#64 and #69 could not have said it better.
For the longest time I was waiting and waiting and waiting for it to happen, and I was 17 when it did, and it's something I don't regret because my first kiss was with someone who actually meant a lot to me.
It's pathetic to make it a competition.
So, you know what, kudos to you for not whoring yourself out to the wrong people. =)
#89 - On 04/07/2009 at 2:24pm by RavishMe77
how old are you?
because i am 16 and had my first kiss when I was 15, and a bunch of my friends have still never been kissed and they are 16.
awh! it's okay! i turn 15 tomorrow and i haven't kissed anyone. don't rush things. you'd be surprised to find that there ARE people out there most likely older than you that haven't had their first kiss. be patient, because you may end up having a sloppy first kiss if you rush to have one. i mean, c'mon, wouldn't you rather have a very special first kiss at 18 then a sloppy one at the young age of 13? and besides, i bet half of those girls on your softball team are lying anyways.
#93 - On 04/07/2009 at 4:15pm by saminpajamas
so interesting to see the comments here. obviously, the ppl who comment on this fml are mainly the people who are suffering (enjoying?) a similar fate. it's great to see all the 16 and 17 year olds who are going through the same kind of thing, but once you get to the college girls who have never been kissed, you have to realize that's not the norm. it's like the people who swear off pre-marital sex. is it bad? of course not. but it's not the norm. in high school, some people will go very far, most will go a little, and a good deal won't even get to first. but in college, excluding very religious colleges (and perhaps single sex colleges), most people will at least get to first.
hehe, at least you can't be accused of being a slut.
#96 - On 04/07/2009 at 8:22pm by evilteriyaki301
bahah watch never been kissed with drew barrymore in it :P
this experience wont seem all that bad..
but i'm loving all the stereotypes here.
douchers.
but hey, at last your not a slut;)
be proud hun, youre still pure:P
#97 - On 04/07/2009 at 9:50pm by hollisterhottiex
Wait, girls who play softball like guys?!?!
Lololol jkjkjkjk. I'm sorry I had to.
And that sucks, I'm always wary of people when they say things like that b/c that's the kind of thing I would do.
#99 - On 04/07/2009 at 10:55pm by diana491141
U guys must all be ugly or something cause I am only 13 and get
More action than you guys... Btw all of you guys w.e. Sound like chiks who think ur hot when you rly probly hve like unibrows and fked up teeth with disgusting acne and mustaches... Yea u bunch of losers
#100 - On 04/07/2009 at 11:58pm by Purplepanda22
LOL at #100. You sound ridiculous, bragging about getting "action." Do you think any girl who respects herself would want to have anything to do with someone who probably just views her as another "notch in his belt"? This is a guy talking...Grow up!
OP: There's no shame in having high standards. If all you wanted was a cheap and tawdry affair, you would have probably already been through your fair share and moved on. Some people just want "action" and others want a relationship.
#101 - On 04/08/2009 at 1:29am by SgtSchadenfreude
no fail
they're bitches if they think you're not good enough if you haven't put out yet
there's nothing wrong in waiting...
besides... keep in mind some of those girls with "oh so much experience" often ...
1) are sluts (and possibly headed to the clinic for STD treatments...but yes they're cool don'cha know?)
2) or only got the "experience" because they dropped their jeans for the first loser who tried to get into them.
hell when they tease you - and you know they will because they're immature - just point out that the guys you see are fucking ugly. include their boyfriends as the ugliest and that "I'm not THAT desperate..." (especially if you're referring to one of THEIR boyfriends)
:D
#103 - On 04/08/2009 at 3:13pm by were_giraffe
OMG IF YOU LIKE GUYS AND DON'T LOCK YOURSELF IN A CLOSET YOU R TEH SLUTTY
This place is going to way of YouTube as far as stupidity. Having no success with the opposite sex compared to your peers can be embarrassing, even if it's just because you're young.
i hate those conversations... dont worry, i'm 17 and never been kissed, and i couldn't care less. people usually don't try to give me crap for it though
#105 - On 04/08/2009 at 9:49pm by ohwowthatsucks25
While I'm sure that's embarassing depending on where you fall in the high-school sterotyping, it's nothing to fret about. I mean, I hadn't gotten my first kiss until I was 19. Don't worry about it too much.
Like #101 said, no shame in having high standards. Your first kiss may not be spectacular (I know mine wasn't a fairy-tale, for sure) but it's worth it when it's someone you really like. So you're higher-set than those others girl? Good for you.
So what? I've never kissed a guy either and I have nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm actually pretty content with my life while fourteen year olds are having sex and getting pregnant. I'm seventeen.
#107 - On 04/09/2009 at 4:12pm by IAmBridgette
hopefully, they didn't fing out. there's really nothing wrong with that.
#108 - On 04/11/2009 at 3:50pm by Gotz_No_Love
omg they sound like sluts!!! I bet some of them already have STDs..... anyway I never kissed a guy til I was 18 either! Who cares? Besides sooner or later you will find out that guys are assholes! So dont worry about them yet... Keep your head up, remember, you ARE beautiful.
Whoa, how do you know what she looks like?
OP, I'd keep a better eye on who's lurking outside of your window from now on.
aw, im in the same boat, dont worry. and i dont think people who are saying "itll happen someday" have ANY idea what its like to be the one waiting around by herself. its not easy, and its pretty lonely.
#110 - On 04/19/2009 at 12:32am by ftsk_fan_12
oh and whoever said they are 43 and havent kissed a guy...get off this website & go talk to people in reality
#111 - On 04/19/2009 at 12:35am by ftsk_fan_12
I hadn't kissed a guy up until...well, a week ago tomorrow xD And I'm almost 17. Nothing shameful in it. Don't worry.
I hadn't kissed a guy up until...well, a week ago tomorrow xD And I'm almost 17. Nothing shameful in it. Don't worry.
I promise, this isn't unusual, I'm a guy, my first date/kiss was at 17, and I know of boys and girls alike who haven't even been kissed and they are 20, it's not weird and it doesn't mean anything bad, It means your cautious and don't throw your self on the first guy you meet.
#115 - On 05/08/2009 at 8:00pm by anonymousJ
i 100% agree with #14.
and i haven't kissed a guy or girl either but i'm only 14, so i'm not rushing to go "far" with anyone.
#116 - On 05/19/2009 at 9:44pm by Amandaisdreaming
i agree with #116 , im 14, never had first kiss. this actually made me feel better knowing im not the only one who hasnt had her first kiss XD
I didn't get a boyfriend OR a first kiss until I was 18 and graduating high school, and I haven't had a boyfriend for two years. I don't miss it. I'm naturally a loner, and I hate having to deal with awkward relationship stuff. Going for quality instead of quantity is absolutely a valid attitude. Don't let others pressure you into growing up too fast. It IS possible to be happy without someone else.
#118 - On 07/24/2009 at 8:36pm by kittengrl39
Im 13 and ive had sex.. its with someone i hope to have a future with though, and were really good for each other.. yeah... i think it really depends on the situation you're in.
im 13 too but i'd never kissed a boy but some i know have had sex
#120 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:49am by YOMyLifeSuck
Okay 2 things: the young people on here that are like 13 and 14 complaining that they havent had their first kiss either need to quit complaining because even if they still have to wait like 2 years before it actually happens its still earlier then when i had mine. And all the people who think that all softball players are lesbians need to go actually talk to the softball players because we definately arent. I went through high school with people thinking i was a lesbian because i played softball. It wasnt fun because im straight and thats probably why i didnt get my first kiss until 17 and even that guy asked if i was a lesbian. People need to quit stereotyping.
