Today, my boyfriend's mother called me. She assumed that I bought him a PS3 for Christmas, and she and the rest of his family have only purchased him games to go with it. The thing is, I already got him an expensive gift. Now, I have to scramble to come up with the money to get this for him instead, and save the coat I bought for his birthday. FML
I agree, your life sucks (19662) - you totally deserved it (2606)
On 12/17/2009 at 5:30pm - misc - by countrygirl0118 (woman) - United States (Maryland)
(+3)I agree with 31. You already got him a gift, don't change it because his family was dumb. Give him the coat, don't go out and break your bank due to them getting him useless gifts.
If you actually go out and buy it, YDI.
#67 - On 12/17/2009 at 10:31pm by TheTruth1428
(0)why didn't you tell them 'no what gave you that idea, I got him a coat cause he needs one' and just leave it at that. they can return the games and get him something different.
(+1)They're probably playing mind games so that you'll feel obligated to buy it. I don't know why you would, because that's rediculous. Don't give in or they'll know it works.
#86 - On 12/18/2009 at 12:08am by YayAmerica
(0)Agree with #31. They are just manipulating you for having a PS3 at home. Tell them the truth. You are going to spend your whole life with that family. You have to be truthful and not playing their games.
(0)I like the "buy a different game system just to fuck with them" idea. I suggest a Wii, they're cheaper.
(0)and the wii wins. PS3s are crap, too big and too expensive.
And why would they assume that you'd buy a PS3 anyway?
#114 - On 12/18/2009 at 4:45am by tikimuppet
(0)well, i have a ps3 and i gotta be honest with you,they're expensive, but atm they're having sales and stuff but thats beside the point. just don't buy one, his family shouldn't assume you were getting one, just give him the coat =D
#121 - On 12/18/2009 at 6:49am by sillyzombiekid
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okay . . . if the OP can buy an expensive coat i will ASSUME that she is past the age of 10 so a wii is defintly not something I would want if i was 10+ seriously its probably one of the overated systems ever all the games on it are shit and have no proper longetivity whatsoever so if anything get him a 360/ps3 which auctually has multiplayer and not hello kitty island 5 revenge of the kittens
#124 - On 12/18/2009 at 8:04am by Unregistered
(0)Oh ho ho, congratulations, a person hating on what is one of the best systems out there. I'm sure you must feel so superior, huh?
What I love is that the majority of people who hate the wii haven't even played it. Everybody that I've talked to in person who absolutely hated 'the stupid wii because it's a game for five year olds' changed their mind when they actually played some decent games (like super smash bros).
Even the freaks that were obsessed by trash like Halo and Grand Theft Auto (I can say this because I've played all of them, they're all boring).
I can't comment on the PS3 though, seeing as I haven't played it.
(0)i own both a wii and a ps3. there are a few good games on the wii. namely, wii sports (resort), brawl, and ... ummm.... i guess thats it. i never touch the thing anymore because i got sick of them.
the wii is basically a good system for kids and drunken parties. ps3 has decent games but most of them are multiplatform. the main reason i got a ps3 was for the blu-ray and free online. mostly i use the ps3 for movies and my gaming comp for games though because my parents run the TV.
(0)I own a Wii, and there are many more great games for it. Some examples: Mario Kart, Mario Party 8, The Beatles: Rock Band (and all other RB and assorted 'hero' games, some, like GH5, having Wii-exclusive features), and New Super Mario Bros. Wii, among others.
#159 - On 12/19/2009 at 12:28pm by michabailey
(0)Nahh. The sonic games aren't the same since before they got the crappy 4kids voice actors in,I miss the megadrive days *sniff*
I'd say the wii was the most versatile console. I'd also say it had great longetivity as it has endless multiplayer possibilities due to having some of the best multiplayer games... like ever. If you get a wii just DON'T buy 3rd party crappy games, problem solved.
#167 - On 01/03/2010 at 8:20am by SecsNoises
(+2)You make the spineless girl rent out her ASS to U and ME.
"Scramble to come up with money" is a euphemism for whoring.
(0)You could have made them all look like idiots but instead you went along and spent more for a PS3 after you already got him a gift. Should have just told him, sorry already got him a coat, buy it yourself.
#117 - On 12/18/2009 at 5:43am by time4coffee
(-2)that's wen u say, no sorry, I got him something else. then she'll havta get a ps3 for him, therefore u save money n he gets extra presents.
(+4)dude who does she think she is 'assuming' you got him a ps3. FYL
#4 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:31pm by JERKKMONKEY
(+8)Seems like the simpler solution would have been to, you know, set her straight on the fact that you hadn't bought him a PS3. Either that, or your boyfriend's mom is scheming you to save them from having to buy the PS3 themselves.
#5 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:31pm by greatnt249
(+1)She's definitely trying to save herself some money.. Should have set her straight..
#6 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:33pm by lilhumanbean
(+5)Or you can just keep the coat as his Christmas gift and let his family learn to communicate better.
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break up with him, his family is trash
why break up with him? he wasn't the one to assume that she got him a PS3, it was his bad family. don't punish him for his families wrong doing.
#87 - On 12/18/2009 at 12:09am by greenboy919
(+5)There's enough communication between family to get him PS3 games, but not enough to know you're not getting him a PS3. I agree, it smells like a scheme. Hope he isn't planning on breaking up with you after the holidays.
#12 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:40pm by writerajere
(+1)What a bitch.
You should've told her that that wasn't going to be what you were going to buy,
#14 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:48pm by FritoLovesYou
(0)maybe his family should have asked you about it before they bought the games? unless you actually told everyone that you'd be getting the ps3, you really aren't at fault here and it certainly isn't your responsibility to get him one now. just tell his mum too bad, if she wants him to use the games everyone bought him she'll need to get the ps3 herself.
#16 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:50pm by miss_california
(+1)Seriously. Why would she only be calling NOW, once all the gifts were already bought? This is the kind of the thing you discuss beforehand. I know it's hard to do, but it probably would have been a good idea to let her know that you hadn't bought the system. Those things are expensive!
#51 - On 12/17/2009 at 9:28pm by honey_bee
(+2)his mother shouldnt "assume" anything. plus how old is he for planning gifts for him? no one said ur obliged to get a PS3. make his mom by it.
#18 - On 12/17/2009 at 7:54pm by jessxoxo28
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Wtf? You got him a coat? hahahaahhahHa
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why would you even get him a coat? WORST GIRL FRIEND EVER.
Just tell his mom you didnt get him a PS3, stop PMSing
#21 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:04pm by oliveolive
(0)Not everyone sits in front of a TV playing video games all day. Some people go outside... And to go outside in the winter you need a coat.
I got my boyfriend a coat and he loves it.
(+4)I'd be fucking ecstatic to get a coat for Christmas C: My boyfriend's mom got me one last year actually.
I also have a male friend who has an expensive coat and he loves it very much.
Nice, well-made coats are actually pretty delightful for some people.. especially those of us living in very cold areas (Jesus it's 18 F out and I just took the garbage out and it's tit-freezing cold)
(-1)What's wrong with getting a coat? My Dad got me a lovely $300 trench coat for my last Christmas in their house (Moved out three years ago) and I love it to death! Keeps me nice and warm all winter long!
(-2)Very cold? Umm.. that's like chilly weather. If you want to talk very cold, let's talk about -40 C weather. That's like holy-fucking-tits-I'm-not-standing-outside-for-a-minute-longer cold. And yes, I just recently went through that kind of weather. It sucked. Now it's like -10 C which is perfect-o. Makes me happy.
Anyways, I went off topic. Finally, an honest to goodness (unless there's more to the anecdote or it's fake but this sounds legit) FML. That definitely sucks. Give him the coat and tell the mother you didn't buy the PS3. I know people are saying to grow a backbone, but I'd probably be the same way as you just because I wouldn't want to get on the mother's bad side. But, this might be a scheme to get you to buy it so they don't have to or she thought you were going to buy it.. for some reason or another.
#59 - On 12/17/2009 at 9:52pm by luckyducky123
(0)My boyfriend asked for a coat for Christmas. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't think I was the worst girlfriend ever if I fulfilled that request.
#77 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:32pm by wingedtoad
(0)thats right, i would love to get a coat! had a 30min walk to work today and its -8*c degree, just wish i had one with a hood and fur inside, warm and cosy :)
(0)holy shit -40 that is freezing even for me. i only know F so i converted it thinking it would be lower. -40 is the wierdest temp lol. -40 F=-40C
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you just said you have to get a ps3 4 him, but then u said save the coat you got him for his birthday. CONFUSING!
#23 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:11pm by scoreseven
(+2)She was saying she bought him a coat for Christmas, but now she's going to save it and give it to him on his birthday and get him the PS3 for Christmas. Not confusing.
#32 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:27pm by conanismyidol
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Have fun banging guys for money. Hope it's worth it to buy this fella a ps3 and a jacket.
#24 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:12pm by NorfolkDude
(-1)YDI for not setting her straight. That's why you fucking speak up.
#25 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:16pm by Nakedsquirrel
(+3)'Now, I have to scramble to come up with the money to get this for him instead, and save the coat I bought for his birthday. FML'
no you don't, you just have to scramble to come up with the guts to tell his mom to stop being such a bigheaded jerk for assuming that you'd buy him a PS3.
unless, of course, you let it slip that you had bought it, in which case it would be your fault entirely, but since there is no indication in the FML of you doing so, i won't say anything more
#26 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:16pm by originalusername
(+5)This. If they wanted him to get a PS3, they could have pooled money to get him one, or they could have asked before they bought all the damn games. Now, they can either piss up a rope or put money into the PS3 fund, and OP, you should absolutely tell them so. YDI only if you don't put on your big-girl panties and do something about the shameful way they tried to take advantage of you.
#30 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:21pm by pope_suburban
(0)I agree with the majority...Screw mom and give him the jacket. Unless you had told everyone that you were getting him the PS3, then make his family (or him, for that matter) buy it themselves. WTF?!
#27 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:17pm by edeielia
(0)Wow. They should have confirmed it with you, first.
You know, since they didn't, you could always leave it for them to sort it out. After all, it's not YOUR fault they made baseless assumptions!
(+1)Although I would have liked the PS3 more then the coat, stick with the coat. if the guy already has a game station like xbox or wii then he should be content. If he doesn't then save the coat for later time and ask the family to pitch in on a ps3 fund like a previous comment already said.
(0)That is exactly what I was thinking. Did you buy it at a swap meet or something?
#103 - On 12/18/2009 at 2:27am by nokillnobeepbeep
(0)Buy him a really old PS1, like the original massive sqaure things and be like "O i got so confooz'd, your mum said you wanted it!"
Nah don't really, just lie and say you bought a PS3 and you got robbed as you were walking home cos you had to sell your car to buy it.
Do neither of those things, I just like the sound of my own typing.
#40 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:43pm by Alphabetica
(+2)I think what I'm going to say is just reiterating what's already been said. If you didn't offer to buy him a PS3, then it's the family's fault for assuming. From the sound of it, they planned this so that way you wouldn't have a choice but to buy him a PS3. Because if you don't, the family will hate you, which sucks, horribly. But his family sounds like a bunch of assholes anyways.
As I said though, if you offered and forgot or something, then you should pull through. And if worse comes to worse, can't you return the coat for some money to buy a PS3?
(+1)Simply tell the mom you didn't get him one because you already got him something expensive....then tell them to either save the games for a later time when he does get one, or to return them. Simple as that. Just because they bought games doesn't mean you have to rush out and get him a PS3.
#45 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:56pm by welderchick87
(-1)Why don't you just return the coat and buy the PS3?
#46 - On 12/17/2009 at 8:59pm by leighannamarie
(0)y dont u just tell them the truth? its their fault for assuming it remember the saying? 'assuming makes an ass out of u and me"??
#48 - On 12/17/2009 at 9:04pm by baby_gurl2405
(+1)How on earth did they get the idea you got them a PS3 OP? Depending on the answer, i may press FYL or YDI
(-1)Jesus, are you really that spineless?? Give him the coat and tell his mom to buy him a ps3, it's their fault for assuming it, Jesus Christ grow a backbone and a
stand up for yourself
(+2)The mother called you to tell you what they all assumed. Yup.
For his birthday, the mother will tell you they all assumed you would paint their house for them and bought brushes for you.
#53 - On 12/17/2009 at 9:35pm by I_am_stupid_also
(-1)YDI for trying to "scramble." Should just stick to your gift & that oughta teach ppl NOT to ever assume ANYTHING.
(+1)you are being played by his mother. Don't be fooled. Give the gift you bought for him.
#57 - On 12/17/2009 at 9:44pm by athenian01
(0)Stick with the coat, she should have checked with you first before getting him PS3 games, seriously..
#58 - On 12/17/2009 at 9:50pm by marc_with_a_c
(+1)She just "assumed" you got him a PS3.?? Did you hint it out that maybe you were getting him one.?? If you never even mentioned it then your boyfriend's mother is a real dumb ass.
#62 - On 12/17/2009 at 10:08pm by XHakudatsuX
(0)you dont have to find a way to get money. it will just show her not to assume anymore
#63 - On 12/17/2009 at 10:11pm by SookMauNoots
(0)You don't have to save up any money. Your boyfriends mother shouldn't have assumed you were getting him a PS3. Now she'll know not to assume.
(+2)if u don't we might soon get a new fml saying, "today was my birthday... everyone but my gf bought me ps3 games. my gf got me coat. the coat wa the best present. why? I don't have a ps3. fml
(+1)Sounds to me like she never thought you were getting him one, and just wants to guilt you into it so she doesn't have to. Don't fall for it.
(+1)ummmm don't let their family use you? Just a thought.
#68 - On 12/17/2009 at 10:33pm by MysteryJoker
(0)@65 it's for Christmas-not his birthday.
@OP You don't have to scramble to get him ANYTHING! His mom should NOT have assumed you were getting him a PS3, and now she'll suffer the consequenses(sp?). She needs to learn not to assume things.
(0)Um, no, you don't *have* to. You chose to. His family made the assumption, let them deal with the consequences.
#71 - On 12/17/2009 at 10:43pm by deaditegirl
(+1)The money they buy for the PS3 games, they should've gotten the system (throw in some money for it and all), and let him decide what games he wants to buy.
(0)Why the hell don't you just open your mouth and tell them you didn't get him a PS3? Why is this a FML?
#74 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:03pm by edgeofhysteria
(+1)as someone who understands how difficult it is to maintain a happy relationship with the "in-laws," I can see why you didn't say anything. Christmas is no time to teach his family a lesson on communication skills. If you're really strapped for cash right now, just return the coat and buy the ps3. You can save up and buy the coat for his birthday or just surprise him with the coat on a random day.
#76 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:19pm by lil_lucy23
(0)I also deal with in-laws, if you don't stand up for yourself, they'll walk all over you. What are they going to assume next time- that you buy him a car or get pregnant because they assumed they'd have grandchildren in the next year? YDI for being spineless
#118 - On 12/18/2009 at 5:55am by time4coffee
(0)it's a $200 gaming console. Not a $30,000 car or a priceless human life. relax. If you know so much about in-laws, you would also know how to choose your battles wisely. This is an unwise battle.
#134 - On 12/18/2009 at 12:21pm by lil_lucy23
(0)fuck them. give him the coat and tell his mom to go buy it herself, you already got him something.
#78 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:33pm by PinkRoseLove
(+1)Give him the coat. Tell the mom "sorry, this is what I got him."
Seriously, don't stand for that shit.
#79 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:33pm by beforethedawn09
(+1)Soo...what your saying is that ALL of THEM buy PS3 games...then say you had the PS3...This is what you do,when the mom tells you that they thought you were getting the PS3,you smile at her. Then,on christmas,give him the coat. When she's like WTF?! U say 'I never told you I was buying a PS3'. :)
#80 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:37pm by XxxTohardforuxxX
(-1)this sounds like at some point the OP may have been talking to the mother about POTENTIAL gifts and mentioed a ps3. perhaps the OP asked if her boyfriend would like a ps3 and the mother then assumed she WAS buying it, rather than simply taking it into consideration. The mother still should have called to confirm that was his gift tho.
(0)You totally deserve it for not speaking up. It's his familys own fault for assuming you got him the PS3. You could have very politely told her you didn't get him a PS3 and apologize for the confusion. But you had to pussy out and screw yourself over. Your own fault!
#82 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:42pm by grrrarrrg2
(0)Does he live at home? If so maybe they wanted the PS3 for them selves anyway
#119 - On 12/18/2009 at 5:58am by time4coffee
(+2)Umm...don't buy it. That was wrong of his family to assume you were going to buy him a THREE HUNDRED DOLLAR video game console. You should buy the games. They should buy the console. Give him the coat. Don't apologize. Don't feel bad.
#84 - On 12/17/2009 at 11:56pm by HarrietPotter
(+1)Fuck them. they expect you to buy a $199 game console while they get by with a couple of $60 games? that doesn't make sense to me.
#90 - On 12/18/2009 at 12:21am by badboybaker
(+1)If OP indicated she would be buying a PS3, then the family was just following her lead.
If she had said nothing about it, then just give BF the coat, and let the passive-aggressive family sort themselves out...
(-1)Why didn't you just be truthful to the mom? I bet he didn't get you anything expensive and you're going to break your bank to pay for some video games that is basically going to turn him from boyfriend to drooling zombie. Fuck that!
(+2)No, no, no, and again, no.
Everyone else has said it already, but since you can't be smart on your own and just give him the coat rather than buy a PS3 to appease your boyfriend's idiot family, it needs reinforcing: DO. NOT. BUY. A. PS3. It's not so much a money factor as it is a control factor. If your boyfriend's family can con you into getting a PS3 by mere assumption, imagine what they'll get you to do or buy in the future. Don't fall for their trickery. XD
#99 - On 12/18/2009 at 1:33am by Back_In_Action
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don't be a bitch get him what he wants not what you think he needs. Hell why don't you just wrap up the electric bill and say "see honey I got you the gift you wanted HEAT." his whole family knows he wants a ps3 and you want to prove a point and not get it for him or piss and moan about have to get it. You know your life is not F!@#ed, you are an insecure bitch who is worried that the ps3 will take time away from your needs. Or i could be wrong in which case fuck him and his mother.
(0)Seriously? That's dumb. I want a lot of things, does that mean I should get them? It would be awesome to get a PS3 (and a pony, and a car, and diamond earrings, and, and, and...) but getting something I need is much more personalized and thoughtful than getting the latest electronic bling. "Hi honey, I walked into Radio Shack and bought you the first thing I saw." Great.
Plus? Not having a coat, is kind of more important than having a PS3.
Plus x2? Looking at your beloved coat that your beloved ex got you is much more painful and stinging to your heart than playing the PS3 that the last bitch you fucked got you. There is clearly an emotional difference, and if you want us to seem like bitches? Yeah, passive-aggressive... we got it.
(+1)I have a feeling toast41 had a girlfriend leave him because he spent all his time playing his ps3 and is really bitter about it.
(0)Who would have thought a pimply, angry, Monster-addicted teenage boy would dream of being a Real Housewife of Orange County? Not me, but now that I've seen it, it's pretty damn funny.
#113 - On 12/18/2009 at 4:41am by pope_suburban
(0)Don't show up :)
Three hours later...
"Here is the 30 games we bought you for Christmas!"
"How will I play them?"
"Uh....do you mind buying a PS3 for yourself?"
(-1)I can't believe no one has suggested the best answer yet....Ask Santa to get it for him....Then it's Santa's fault, you aren't spineless and the in-laws won't hate you. C'mon people.
(+1)His family is wrong for assuming that you're getting him a PS3, unless you already put out the forethought.
On Christmas morning, just give him your present, and when he opens it and says, "Wow! A coat! I really needed this!" or comments on how nice the coat is, and his family says, "I thought you were getting him a PS3?", just say, "PS3? Who said I was getting him a PS3? I bought him a coat. What are YOU gonna do?"
#110 - On 12/18/2009 at 3:36am by NotFatEnough
(0)Don't do that. Just give him the coat, and his family will look like the fools they are for buying games without checking you were actually getting a PS3. If the family tries to make you feel guilty, just say plain and simply "I can't afford a PS3. I've already paid for a present for him." They can't hold that against you.
And even if the OP had suggested she *might* get him a PS3 for Christmas, his family still should have double-checked that she actually DID, seeing as their presents DEPEND on her getting him one.
Or perhaps his family could keep the games for his birthday, and buy him a PS3 for Christmas??
(0)oh and to everyone bagging out the OP for buying a coat: some guys are practical and like practical gifts. Or, if he lives in a cold place and his other jackets are worn out or something, he may really love getting a new one. And some guys like clothes. There are plenty of guys out there who'd love to get a new coat.
(+1)oh honey this is just the beginning... she will continue to manipulate you for ever UNLESS you get on her level. i know why do that well because these types of mothers dont get it when you say no, literally, my mother-in-law never got it when she would make something up that i was to do! i ended up being the b*tch for saying anything! so i got down to her level and she doesnt know what to think! i.e. when my husband first joined the military and was in basic training she would only call to find out how many letters i wrote him vs her... i would tell her but she wouldnt tell me how many... guess who won... of course! now i play real dumb with her and SO SHOULD YOU! unfortunately you will have to by saying oh i thought you were getting the ps3 didnt we dicuss that at (insert when you did) oh well i dont have the money for it bc i thought you were getting it for him! oh well he will learn his lesson by not telling everyone to buy him one! works everytime to shut her up!
#115 - On 12/18/2009 at 4:52am by cofcgrad07
(+1)unless you said that's what you were getting she shouldn't have assumed you were getting it.
Give him the coat and a game and then say to his mum on christmas day "i thought you said you were buying the PS3". Turn her scam back on her
#116 - On 12/18/2009 at 5:33am by catatonicsleep
(+1)um, seriously? why didn't you just say you didn't get him a PS3? she can't get angry at you for not buying one! if she wanted him to get one for christmas, she can fucking buy one herself. she shouldn't assume you were buying him one unless you said you were... and if you did tell her that... you stuffed up a little.
#120 - On 12/18/2009 at 6:43am by nenagh_
(+1)your boyfriends mom is a dumbass who goes out and buys a bunch or expensive games without even checking if you had bought a ps3 yet? I'd tell her off u shouldn't have to come up with the money for her mistake
(-1) #70 that's right, I have a ps3 for gaming, xbox360 I want it better gaming console, ps3 better all round, not for gaming. stuff the family, give him a xbox in a coat fir all those long nights of gaming
get him modern warefare 2
#123 - On 12/18/2009 at 7:45am by PyroDeath19
(-2)what do you get when you take an xbox360, downgrade the graphic by a tenth, make all of your game characters look like fucking retarded stick figures and remove the multiplayer. a Wii. Nintendo gets an F in enjoyability and an A in marketing a piece of junk
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HI AGAIN I'M THE OP! first off the coat is nonrefundable, and I got him it because we do live in a harsh area and he has to walk to work wearing a million sweatshirts at the moment.
second, no he doesn't live with his folks, we live together so in a way it would be for me too but i thought the coat had a more pressing need.
third, i had discussed with his sister and his brother in-law that no, i was not getting him a PS3 until his birthday because blistering cold takes precedence over playing games. AND i had said if you really want to get him a game that's fine, but he won't be able to use it til February.
THEN his mother called me, and told me about them all buying him games. I said to her on the phone, "I've already bought him a nice coat and was waiting til his birthday for the game system." She then said, "Oh, well I knew that, but we knew you'd probably want to get him the system too since we've all bought him games." One game is okay, but everyone buying him a game makes it look ridiculous and then he'll have all these games and not be able to use them for 2 months.
ALSO i don't want to fight with his mother. This is the first Christmas I'm spending with them and on top of it his dad has bone marrow cancer and lymphoma and has chosen to stop his chemotherapy treatments, so this may be the last Christmas they all have as a family. So I'm not going to cause a fight.
FINALLY, all you who commented calling me spineless, maybe you should learn to reserve comments like that considering that sometimes you cannot fit all of the story into the text space provided. But I guess your bad behavior must be a product of your upbringing. Very poor manners.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
#126 - On 12/18/2009 at 10:11am by countrygirl0118
(+2)i read your whole story - i still wouldn't have bought him the PS3.
I would have said to the mother, quite politely, if you'll purchase the PS3, I'd be happy to give it to him for Christmas so he can play all the games you bought. Unfortunately, as I told you before, I bought him a new coat, and I don't have the funds to buy him a PS3 as well.
If this is his dad's last Christmas, then it shouldn't be about presents at all. It should be about spending time together as a family. Not his stupid mom who bought a bunch of games for a system he doesn't even have. F his mom's life for making Christmas so commercial.
(0)May sound heartless, but I still think its inappropriate for the bf's mother to expect OP to buy him a ps3 in addition to a coat. You don't buy someone a car stereo and ask their SO to buy the car! This puts the OP in the ultimate uncomfortable position of having to stand up to the mother, or fork over $200 (I don't know exactly how much ps3's cost, but I'm guessing their around that range). I would still politely say that I've chosen another gift though. If you let the mother walk all over you now, wait until (if) you marry him!
#131 - On 12/18/2009 at 11:40am by sweatteaforme001
(0)Based on what the mother said, I wouldn't believe her about the cancer either.
YDI for dating a hillbilly.
#145 - On 12/18/2009 at 4:36pm by I_am_stupid_also
(0)Wow, if she already KNEW you weren't buying a PS3 and then went and bought games anyway, and THEN told you to go buy it, then that is one manipulative mother! If you can't afford it, then you can't afford it, and it'll be them that's embarrassed when he wonders why they bought him games when he doesn't have a PS3.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Yeah, it might ruin the "surprise" of a present, but you don't have to tell him you're getting him a coat. You just have to tell him you're NOT getting him a PS3 Or weren't going to. Or something like that. Maybe he'll decide to buy his own PS3.
(0)Yup...and out comes the sick family member card.
Like I said before, this has manipulation written all over it. To be perfectly honest, it's a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. You putting your foot down and not buying the PS3 should not be grounds for a family squabble. If it is, his family needs to take a good, hard look at what the holidays mean to them, especially when this may be their husband/father/grandfather's last Christmas with them. I dare you to tell his mother that. If she reacts negatively, then that just reinforces the whole point and you have no need to associate with people like that. If you're in this for the long haul and you go from potential to future daughter-in-law, something's gotta give.
#161 - On 12/19/2009 at 2:25pm by Back_In_Action
(-1)Why are people so mean on this site? Countrygirl0118 I feel for you! I would have done the same thing in your situation! I hope for the best with your boyfriends father! Take care!
#127 - On 12/18/2009 at 10:29am by luckigirl1378
(0)Op, don't buy him anything. Give him the coat. The family didn't want to spend the money so they are taking advantage of you. You have just been used. I would tell them, oh you thought I was buying him something else without even talking to me. I don't think so.
(-1)are you fucking stupid? don't but the PS3, keep your coat and give that to him. YDI for thinking you HAD to get him the PS3. tell the bf's mom you didn't get a PS3. your such an idiot.
(0)do not listen to everyone telling you to give him the coat. the time to make a stance was when the mom originally spoke to you. now you've confirmed that you're getting the ps3 and have to stand by it. otherwise you'll just look like a spiteful bitch at christmas. plus, you'll ruin everyone else's gifts and it may not be their fault if they truly believed you were getting it.
next time stand up for yourself and tell the truth- it's too late now.
(0)Sorry, but YDI. I mean it sucks that she just assumed that, but you should have set her straight. You're letting her walk all over you, and if you want to have any kind of future with that man then you need to stand up to her right away. So you just f*ed yourself over.
#136 - On 12/18/2009 at 12:56pm by skippydoda
(0)Okay it was their fault to assume, my guess is they brought the games like idiots before they confirmed with you. They don't have the right to call you up and expect you to have accomedated their assumption so fuck them!
#137 - On 12/18/2009 at 1:00pm by mustlovemarvin
(0)Idiot, why are you being manipulated into spending more money on your boyfriend by his parents. Ask them where did they get that idea. And do as you originally decided. Otherwise prepare for a life, manipulated.
#139 - On 12/18/2009 at 1:48pm by XantesFire
(+1)I don't think you should fight with the mother especially since this could be your boyfriend's father's last Christmas, but you shouldn't just buy the PS3 by yourself. You should talk to his mom and say that you'd be glad to help THEM buy him a PS3, but it's not your responsibility to buy a gaming system for Christmas when you already bought him an expensive gift and you told her that he wouldn't be getting the PS3 until his birthday. I really think you just need to sit down and talk to her about it. She shouldn't assume like that it is kinda rude of her.
#140 - On 12/18/2009 at 2:49pm by fntsyreality
(-1)fuck the fag who says the 360 is better. lies. 360 sucks ass almost as much as wii. but give him the coat. don't tell the family. make them look like dumb asses
#142 - On 12/18/2009 at 4:02pm by lelanator5
Tell them that they bought he games so get the system. You wasnt aware of that situation so its on them now. You already got your gift for him.
#146 - On 12/18/2009 at 4:49pm by FYLbecauseYDI
(0)Did he ask you for it? I am not sure how the mother assumed you were getting it--unless the mother is just a bitch.
(0)Today I had my mom call my girlfriend and convince her to get me a PS3for Christmas. It worked! IMMD.
(-1)Because going into a store and making a return is so hard. Damn near impossible, really.
#151 - On 12/18/2009 at 11:19pm by AndreaHatesYou1
(0)You could always just keep the coat and give it to him for his birthday, as you said. And then you won't have to spend more money for his birthday later on. You're just paying for everything up front now.
That being said, sounds like she is manipulating you, because they don't want to spend $300 on the PS3 when they can spend $60 for a game.
(0)Well you already bought a coat, and put thought into your gift. So don't change it just because his family had assumed. Let them look like asses. They deserve it for putting you in that position.
(0)HOW DA FUCK can someone....ANYONE assume what YOU want to do? screw them. period
#155 - On 12/19/2009 at 2:27am by EveryDayJackAss
(0)I understand you don't want to get into a fight at christmas, and don't want your boyfriend to be unhappy with receiving games that he cannot play. But still, you said you would buy it for his birthday. To me it sounds like his family has little inspiration and goes with the easy option to buy games.
You in contrary put some thought into your present and got something he can really use. His family cannot expect you wait with the coat till february, because he needs in january. So either stick to your original plan (it's not your fault that his family just assumed you would buy him a PS), or make it an early birthday present.
(+1)They probably don't want to spend the 300 bucks on it and know you'll feel obligated to get him it for them, and they get to buy the thing that's a fraction of what the gaming system costs, win for them, lose for you. I say give him the coat, then the family will look like fools. If they get mad at you tell them that his mom assumed that you were getting them that randomly, and you never did anything to hint that. If his mom dries to redeem herself in front of her family just say "I don't care what you say to try and redeem yourself, because you did call me and give me the pressure that everyone was getting him games over an assumption." Then leave it at that. Then they can look like fools to his family and you'll look like the one that actually cares, and especially about his needs since he needs a coat probably.
(0)Also, like hetizmij said, give it to him as an early Birthday present (At Christmas), and get the PS3, it might be a lot of money, but the smart members of the family not in on it, and the mother just said to everyone that he was getting one, not telling them they were manipulating you (if they are), then the smart ones will go "Oh, they might've planned to get him the coat, then when the mother said you were getting the PS3 she didn't check it with you first and was maybe just trying to save money and make you get it." Then next time the mother tries to manipulate you, you'll have some people to back you up, and a few people who will be smart and not believe your mom and waste their money for something that your not gonna get em next time, and then if you look like a bitch for making it look like you changed you mind then someone will be behind you that can point out the mom manipulated you last time.
(+1)No you don't HAVE to scramble to get him a PS3. It's their fault for assuming incorrectly, and you should explain that to them so they can return the games.
#160 - On 12/19/2009 at 2:22pm by GriefBacon
(0)Who cares? They are the idiots for assuming and not asking, they wasted the money. Why do you have to scramble for the money to get him a pretty expensive gift. Let the family do it if they are like that.
#162 - On 12/21/2009 at 6:20pm by justintodd95
(0)wow, that was selfish and dumb of his fam to assume..u shoulda sed "no i got him a coat, i cant afford a ps3, why would u even assume that?" they got u, they knew exacly wat they were doin, they jus ddnt wanna spend the money themselves
#165 - On 12/29/2009 at 10:11pm by CaramelQUEEN33
(0)please tell me you know how to spell in real life and this is just to be a troll. If not then you are sad.
