Today, I snuck out of my house in the middle of the night. I ran into my dad carrying wine into another house. I didn't assume he was cheating until he saw me and said "I won't tell if you don't tell, please don't tell your mother". FML
I agree, your life sucks (57481) - you totally deserved it (2228)
On 05/25/2009 at 10:55am - misc - by Anonymous - United States (Pennsylvania)
Jesus, that really, really blows. I would definitely say tell your mom, but obviously this is a huge decision that shouldn't be affected by what random people online say. FYL x 100000
yeah i agree with 8, blackmail him then tell your mom anyway.
#9 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:06pm by angel03260
i would siriusly say tell your mom cuz this is a huge thing. definitely FYL :(
#10 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:06pm by siriuslysilly
Man.. Weak!
Thats horrible!!
So hows your relationship with your father after this?
I feel so sorry for you and your mom :(
#14 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:08pm by Pirate_argh
The whole sneaking out thing isn't a big deal...your mother will get over that. BUT THIS?? Never.
Tell her.
#16 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:09pm by frootloop25
I would tell your mom. Their relationship needs to end.
If he's going to cheat he doesn't deserve your mother.
Totally tell, and tell her that he was begging you not to tell her. :P
Stupid asshole. No offence, but I hate people like that. Secretly cheating. Phsfjskfj.
blackmail him for a week,
then buy something nice for your mother with some of the money you got from your dad and tell her.
#20 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:10pm by princessgaby
I agree with 16. Your mom will get over you sneaking out. I'd tell her.
#23 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:12pm by studentwoes
What are you all talking about? That's awesome! Now he has something on him and can use it for all sorts of blackmail fun.
OMG what an ass! & how nice to try & blackmail you! He could've at least tried to bribe you.
Tell your Dad to tell your mother or else you will (don't really, make him tell her, it's best to stay out of it as much as you can).
ummm no you should definitely tell your mother, he has no right to expect his CHILD to keep that kind of secret from their MOTHER. she deserves to know.
#26 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:13pm by audiogasmic
Agree with #25...Maybe you should talk to your father to see if maybe he could tell her, and explain to him that you're going to tell her if he doesn't. If you're mom's going to find out, it would be better for her to hear it from your dad than you. Maybe they can still save their marriage.
Either way, that's tough.
#29 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:17pm by uneekfreak16
ok dude, tell ur mom ASAP... who gives a crap if u get caught? I mean sorry if u do but, ur dads an ass and ur mom NEEDS 2 know to divorce that ass.....
#30 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:17pm by LiveLoveLife
If she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will probably be really hurt.
#31 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:17pm by Sourcandy86
Did he at least invite you in for some wine and to meet his girlfriend?
#32 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:17pm by bonafidehustler
D: That sucks. I would tell.
Sneaking out at night vs. Cheating on your wife?
What an ass.
#33 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:19pm by Stephai
this is so fucked. i agree with what others have said. sneaking out isn't a big deal. this kinda is.
#34 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:19pm by amykillswitch
#36 When someone in a marriage cheats, it doesn't always have to end in divorce. Sometimes people want to try and make it work, and sometimes it does. Do you really think the OP wants her parents to divorce?
#41 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:31pm by uneekfreak16
On the other hand, continuing with cheating even when your child knows is a pretty horrible thing to do so... I see where you're coming from.
#42 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:33pm by uneekfreak16
THTS AWFUL! u should tell ur mom, if u dnt, it will hurt u and ur mom even more and if u do tell ur doing the right thing. so either way its goin to hurt. omg that's just awful ha :(
Come on you guys, stop trying to cause trouble. Don't tell her. Most guys cheat on their wives; it's fairly normal; what she doesn't know won't hurt her. Besides, having a secret to keep from mom will make you and your father closer. Forget about blackmail, but simply realize he'll be more likely to help you out if you need alibis in the future, or in any situation where you need help against your tyrannical mother. She must by tyrannical, if you are reduced to sneaking out at night.
#45 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:34pm by 151Henry151
at #45. i think you're a total idiot.
cheating on ANYONE is not "fairly normal." i dont know where and how you grew up, but clearly you were brought up in the wrong surroundings.
and OP, FYL.
#47 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:39pm by mimimi
#36, when I was fifteen, I was in a complicated situation with my boyfriend, and I cheated on him, and I told him. Instead of leaving me like he should have, he decided to make it work with me. I'm eighteen, we're still together and still in love.
Just because he cheated doesn't mean divorce. Contrary to popular belief, he could still love her. They still have a chance, but if she finds out from someone else other than him, she'll probably leave him.
#49 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:40pm by ThePerfectDrug
#45 - WTF? Cheating is normal? A lot of people commit crime, but does that mean it's right? In the same way, a lot of guys cheat on their wives. Does that mean it's right? No. Then again, I can't tell if your comment is serious or not.
@OP, tell your mother. Like others said, she can forgive you for sneaking out at night. Your father is another story.
You sneaking out would seem like nothing compared to this...I doubt you would still get in trouble if you told your mom she would have other things to worry about
#53 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:43pm by MarkeyMarc
Tell her. Your mom will be less hurt if you tell her now than if she finds out you both were lying to her (and she will find out). Meanwhile, maybe use it to your advantage in the meantime with your dad... :P (jk) I can't believe your dad would ever confess to you.
#54 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:44pm by dol567
#49: Right, because a 15-year-old hand-holding cuddlefest is totally analogous to a legally binding marriage between two adults.
MATURITY ZING!
#56 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:46pm by ZING_MASTER
#45 you piece of shit. You think using a holy promise as a tool for her to get closer to her dad is alright. Would that even work "hey dad lets talk about that secret for the 5,000 time to expand our bond".
"what she wont know wont hurt her"
so i should murder a guy and feel alright about it just becuase i wouldnt be caught. that is the logic of an idiot. keeping a child safe and setting boundries so she wont have a HUGE hole or have a unwanted tatoo or even prevent a possible addiction is bad?
You are either a very insensitive TROOOOOLL or a huge block head
#57 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:46pm by JohnFR33M4N
U definatly need to tell ur mom-she deserves to knows. Besides, sneaking out is nowhere near as bad as what your dad did-he can't hold that against you. I'm really sorry :-(
Guess your ma' deserves to find out. Tell him he should spill the beans himself or you will!
#59 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:46pm by bclaaaytz
I would say
blackmail him
milk it for all you can
then tell your mum
but do it soonish
but tell her definitely.
and er...you found out your dad was cheating
and you came on FML?
priority check is in order methinks?
Thats sucks. but you can always use it against him. What he is/was doing is way worse than what you did..
#61 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:48pm by BethanyKimberly
And 24: that's not awsome! How would u feel if some1 wuz cheating on u? Bcuz the OPs mom will find out sooner or later.
Oh my God
#45?
are you being fucking serious?
"fairly normal"
so that makes it OKAY?!
are you actually retarded?!
you are stupid. End of.
oh my god... Go and kill yourself.
Nothing good can come out of this. The best case scenario is your dad tells your mom and they try to make it work but forgiving is easy. Forgetting is the hard part and your dad's infidelity will always be at the back of your mom's mind. That's a pain she's gonna have to carry for a long time.
Wow.
Talk to your dad about it in private. Tell him that you're shocked by what you saw and explain your feelings about it. Then tell him that if he doesn't talk to your mom about it, that you will. But put the ball in his court to make things right.
I'm really sorry. That is messed up.
And yeah, after that, sneaking out is so not a big deal.
#63 according to the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, approximately 50 percent married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some time in their marriage. I would say that is fairly common. You are the idiot. Eat shit
@ #45 - Simply put, you are vomit-infested pustule on the backside of the corpse of a mentally challenged and defective polecat. It's true that people cheat. That does not mean that it is right and that they should be defended.
OP, I'm sorry. That's a shitty situation.
#68 - On 05/25/2009 at 2:58pm by NaturallyUnlucky
Tell your mother. Trust me I doubt she'll be pissed about you sneaking out over his cheating. She'll be ridiculously grateful, if not now then in a few years when she's more composed. You need to tell her, think of what she'd do if she caught your partner cheating.
#71 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:01pm by stfuminjakid
omg!!!
that blows!!! big time...
tell ur mom. or make him tell ur mom himself... in this situation, u sneaking out is nothing
compared to wat ur dad is doing
i am so sorry
#74 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:04pm by jessxoxo28
I wouldn't normally wish this on anyone, but I hope 45's eventual girlfriend/wife that he hopefully loves dearly cheats on him. You need to see that it's not okay. It destroys families and ruins lives, you ignorant asshole.
What's most disturbing is even after being caught he still sounded like he proceeded to go over the woman's house and asking the child to shoulder a lie like that isn't fair. Definitely a FML for you and your mother. Might want to hide the sharp pointy objects before telling mom though.
I think you should tell your mother anyway.
One month of grounding is worth your mother knowing her husband is cheating on him.
FYL and FYourMom'sLife.
#81 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:09pm by mehwhateverr
I would definitely tell my mom. I'd be like "mom, I tried to sneak out last night (Mom interrupts here with how much trouble you're in and shit) and I saw Dad and he told me this:..."
#84 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:12pm by EmzoTheStrange
You need to tell her... NOW!
Also, I wish these posters came back to update us on the situation... like a Maury Show update. HOW MUCH WOULD I LOVE THAT? Lots... fuck.
#85 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:12pm by felicia123
#67: You fucktard, that doesn't make it okay
I hope someone who you love dearly cheats on you
see how common it feels
Wow I'm really sorry. I think you should make him tell her. No good will come from not telling her.
And if he tries to give lame ass excuses don't buy it. He knew what he was doing. Make him deal with the consequences.
#87 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:13pm by SierraStabler
I hope you took a picture with your phone (if you had a phone on you and it had a camara on it that is.)
That way you have proof.
But tell her, thats way worse then you sneaking out.
#88 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:13pm by Random_lurker12
I hope you took a picture with your phone (if you had a phone on you and it had a camara on it that is.)
That way you have proof.
But tell her, thats way worse then you sneaking out.
#89 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:13pm by Random_lurker12
That's kind of awful. I didn't know what to put. At first I put your life is fucked, but then I put you deserved that ones so it cancelled it out. Because the truth is, you should not have been sneaking out at night, BUT, your Dad should (obviously) not have been cheating. So idk what this is. Either way though, sorry about your father =(
#90 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:14pm by xo_emily_xo
tell your mom. she deserves to know. plus, when you tell her that your dad's cheating, she won't care that you were sneaking out. the whole cheating thing is more of a big deal.
#91 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:14pm by hakunamatata
I DONT CARE IF HES YOUR DAD!!!!!!! YOU TELL YOUR MOTHER SHE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW THAT HE'S CHEATING ON HER!!!! AND BY HIDING IT YOU'D BE JUST AS BAD!!!!!
#92 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:18pm by Matzaball300
#90
i dont think that finding out your own father is cheating on your mom is not a suitable punishment for sneaking out. Its the fact that the dad is cheating on his mom is so worthy of FYL
#93 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:18pm by JohnFR33M4N
you should talk to your dad about it and tell him to confront her about it. honestly, if you tell her, your dad could get really upset at you and break any trust with him, but then again she needs to know, in order to save what is left of their marriage.
Uhm..anyone saying to tell the mother...
EVER THINK THEY WERE BOTH SNEAKING OUT FOR A REASON!?!?! Perhaps the mother is a huge bitch and yells and hits them..maybe before jumping to conclusions and giving "advice" to someone..you should learn more of the situation. Given the limited information here..I would say...DO NOT BASE ANY KIND OF JUDGMENT OFF WHAT THESE RETARDED FUCKS SAY.
Oh. I thought I should say that I ran out of cigarettes and it is making me quite irritable. Sorry.
#97 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:26pm by DizzyDemon0
.. or because the mom just doesn't want her out late [as most are] and they were like "i'm outta here"... like.. most people I know.
FYL. You are telling, right?
#67, That is a couple's therapy statistic. How many couples with great relationships go to therapy? That statistic is beyond biased and therefore your point is null and void. So, "Go eat shit".
And #97, when you ASSUME you make an ASS out of U and ME. People judge based on what was told. I think that if the wife was abusive, this wouldn't be posted somewhere where people would read it, as it wouldn't be really FML-worthy. So don't go digging into information that was never there.
Firstly, just because some journals deam cheating as 'common' does not make it 'normal' or 'ok.' What are these so called statistics that state at least 50% of marriages have cheating involved, jut because it is printed in a journal does not make it fact, these studies are based on studying 100-200 people that are supposed to represent the multi million living in a country. Therefore, you must take everything you read with a dash of salt and learn to stick with your morals instead of accepting what is written in academic papers and thus lowering your standards.
As to the OP, I'd tell, no one disserves to be cheated on, especially by their significant other, that is among the worst betrayels. They say everything happens for a reason, now that you have this information, you should use it.
#67 that explains why 50 - 60% of marriages FAIL, it may be normal to cheat on your spouse in today's society but that doesn't make it ok in ANY situation, some couples can make their marriage work after one of them is found to be a cheater but in more situations their marriage ends up failing. Husband's or wives that cheat are scum in my mind, you have somthing great and your throw it all away cuz your selfish and you want more? or in the situation where you fall out of love with your spouse, at least have the decency to tell them and work it out so you dont look like an ass hole.
OP that really sux don't tell your mom she really should hear it from your dad. you should have a talk with him ask him if he still wants to be with your mom and if he does tell him that he needs to drop the tramp and fess up to your mother, if he tells her there is a much higher chance that their marriage will work out. If you find out that he dosent really love her any more then make him talk to her (that would suck but its better for the both of them, its not healthy to be in a relationship when either one or both participants dont have feelings for the other, in the long run it would be best for the whole family) , you don't need to get caught up in this, dont get involved unless your dad absolutely refuses to talk with your mom
#103 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:37pm by crzymonkeyxo
It would be absolutely funny if you actually told your mom and she goes to confront him, saying you snitched. The both of them patch things up and well.... Sorry though.
#104 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:37pm by melikeulongtime
Ow. Actually, you totally could tell her. She'd be so distracted by yelling at your father, I doubt she'd even remember that you snuck out. Or you could even say that you followed him because you were suspicious.
I think you should tell her. Your dad cheating on someone he's married to (your own mother) is worse than a teenager sneaking out of the house. And he bribed you not to tell her. He is all in the wrong. Even if he is your dad and you love him...it's just not right. Your mom will most likely eventually find out and if she ever finds out that you also knew and didn't tell her she might be a little hurt by that. FYL
95: wtf?!?! 1st off, the OP dznt deserve it, 2nd off, nothing says the OP is black, and 3rd off, even if s/he is, that's no reason u rasist asshole!
say that u followed ur dad cuz u were suspicious, and tell her! once a cheater always a cheater. but u should also blackmail his ass for awhile. and if he tries to blackmail u back, juss pretend u dont care cuz yall both know what he did is wayy worse.
#109 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:49pm by soundmind311
Omg #45 you're an ass too! Her mom needs to know!!! I'm really sorry.. I found out my dad was cheating on my mom too.. they also divorced and my mom had a really hard time getting over it, but she did. Good luck though =(
It is incredibly selfish of your dad to ask you to keep that secret. He needs to start acting his age and take responsibility for his actions. I don't know the situation, but I can't imagine keeping this from your mother is a good idea... you need to make your dad tell her. I'm sorry for this terrible situation that you're in :( Good luck.
And for anyone saying that cheating is "normal", you're all ridiculous. Seriously. Also, don't blackmail him... your mothers feelings are far more important than getting what you want out of your dad. I don't know what's wrong with people these days...
#111 - On 05/25/2009 at 3:50pm by Muse_89
Here's what you have to do: Tell your mom that you were sneaking back in. Tell her that first, then tell her about your father. She won't get you in trouble for being honest, especially if you act like you feel bad, and your mother gets to know the truth.
You have a horrible father. I'm sorry, but no father should wager with his child after getting caught cheating. They'd at least try to talk about it first. Better yet, a good father wouldn't cheat in the first place
=(
@67: Yes, you can't deny that it is extremely common and a lot of mothers prefer the "don't tell me and I don't know" if they have kids and don't want to ruin the marriage, but that still doesn't make it right.
That's like saying fatal car accidents happen every minute so it's perfectly normal and okay, and people shouldn't complain when their parents die in one.
#114 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:12pm by airplanefood
HAH THATS AWESOME !
What an awesome deal.
Now you can do whatever you want for the rest of your life.
#115 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:12pm by amanda_panda_
i agree with #9. use it. and then maybe instead of telling her. help her to figure it out. like be really obvious sneaking out next time so she follows you. or something like that. maybe say something about how he's been buying so many things (like wine) and ask what they've been doing with all them. you know? make her wonder until she gets curious enough to figure it out. either that or tell your dad to stop being a dick and stop cheating.
#117 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:15pm by lilyluna
Tell him, "either you tell her or I will." It was a completely dick move on his part to ask you to keep that kind of a secret from your mother.
#119 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:24pm by FrostyNorth
I know you don't want to get in trouble, and I'm sure you love your dad, but you need to tell your mom. Be totally honest and say that you were sneaking out (so that when your dad tries to hold that over your head, you're already in the clear) but that you saw him taking wine into a different house and repeat what he said to you. Now, it's very possible that your father will say "Oh well s/he is just trying to get out of trouble since I caught him/her" but stick to your story. The key is honesty. If you hide nothing then you won't be victim to any of your father's tricks. Eventually all liars trap themselves into corners. Sometimes it takes years for that to happen, but one way or another your dad will get busted. Out of love for your mother, make it sooner rather than later.
I agree with 118. You may have snuck out but everything happens for a reason. I seriously doubt your mom is going to be mad at you for sneaking out after you tell her about your dad. She has the right to know, and it's not fair to you for him to ask you to keep such a big secret. And besides if you keep sitting on this it is going to grow and fester inside of you and come out in other ways. I think you need to get it all out before this get worse and ruins you.
#122 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:30pm by aldpeace
#108.
that is called trolling. that is the funny kind of trolling
#124 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:47pm by JohnFR33M4N
You should soo tell her. Sadly, and in a way happily, she would probably be too upset to ground you for life?
FYLx99999999999999999!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#125 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:51pm by Somebody52
I seriously hope you told her. She deserves to know. Your dad is clearly a douche, both for cheating and for laying the responsibility of his secret on your shoulders. God, what a prick.
#45, cheating on your wife is not "normal". Cheating on your wife is f***ed up.
OP, Tell your mother! And I'm sorry about your dad being a cheater :(
#127 - On 05/25/2009 at 4:51pm by EasilyUnamused
awh thats horrible, i have like no idea what i would do...
#128 - On 05/25/2009 at 5:14pm by xo3velyn
Talk to your dad before you do anything life changing.
#130 - On 05/25/2009 at 5:16pm by FerreThoughts
Oh my gosh that is so funny, that is so High School, "don't tell, if I don't tell"
#131 - On 05/25/2009 at 5:21pm by cordvaughn
Hahahahhahahahaha WOW I can't believe that no one gets that 45 is being sarcastic...
OP - that sucks so much. I'm sorry. I really hope you told your mom.
ok , don't listen to people in here . Blackmail him for a week , make him buy stuff that you liked then .Tell your Dad to tell your mother or else you will , it's best to stay out of it as much as you can so you won't feel that guilty when your parents decides to devorse or make up
I wouldn't tell your mom, nothing good would come of it. You don't want your parents to get a divorce.
You shouldn't tell your mom, nothing good would come of it. You don't want your parents to get a divorce.
sneaking out of your house and cheating on your wife are completely different. i highly doubt you'll get in that much trouble once she finds out what your dad is doing....tell your mom, she deserves to know.
136, it's pretty clear it's toward it's end anyway if the dad gets caught and tries to BS something like this to his own kid. That's just messed up.
If I were the mom, I would definitely want to know.
Tell her.
Hmm. I'm pretty sure him cheating on your mom is a bigger issue than you sneaking out. So do what you gotta do then tell your mom. During the fight tell her that you snuck out.
Like she'll notice!
#141 - On 05/25/2009 at 6:12pm by AliciaContreras
wow i'd totally tell, it will take the focus off of you sneaking out.
#144 - On 05/25/2009 at 6:21pm by baysidebird88
Now you have something to hold over his head tell him to take you on an all day shoppingspree and buy all the crap there!!!!! oh yeah what does YDI mean cuz i see it all over this website.
#147 - On 05/25/2009 at 6:31pm by qazqwer313
oh your poor mom :(
but on the plus side, if you do tell her, she wouldn't even be mad at you because all of her anger would be focused on your dad lol.
wow, that's just a sucky situation overall.
#148 - On 05/25/2009 at 6:38pm by sierragrace21
Your dad is an ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
you should punch him in the face!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#149 - On 05/25/2009 at 6:46pm by creeptastic11
Get everthing you can out of it for a little while then snitch on him atleast then you know you can't get that in trouble because they will have bigger problems to deal with. But in the end your gonna have to tell your mom theres no other choice . She does not deserve that and you got to look out for her sice your dad isn't.
#150 - On 05/25/2009 at 6:51pm by trapiadora
It shouldn't be much of a dilemma.
tell your mom. She'll get over you sneaking out and in time she'll get over your dad cheating.
Don't tell your mother. First of all, if she was doing it right he wouldn't be cheating, Secondly, it's not your place to get in the middle of their relationship, Thirdly, everybody cheats at that point, if you don't, then you definitely have thought about it, or you're a lucky person to have a partner who still satisfies you.
wow he's a whorefacee
i feel sorry for your mom
ahaa withh a bottle of winee(:
#154 - On 05/25/2009 at 7:27pm by cookiee00
I would still tell my mom. She'd owe it to me not to ground me after I told her. LOL. That suck though. But seriously TELL HER!!!
#159 - On 05/25/2009 at 8:00pm by acro_actress95
DO NOT BLACKMAIL! are you crazy! that's such a bitch thing to do! just because he's a dick you don't have to be one too... just do the right thing and tell your mom.
#160 - On 05/25/2009 at 8:01pm by lifewithsarah
Tell your mother anyway. Pricks like that will hurt anyone they have to as long as they get what they want. If he wants to be with this other woman so much, let him. He'll only do it to her with someone else too.
Tell. Immediately. Your mother can take him for half of everything he owns and then you can move away.
#161 - On 05/25/2009 at 8:03pm by Nemephosis
#153 Not everyone does it and you know plenty of people cheat on spouses they love and care for. But they want the sex with someone else. They don't want the spouse to find out because they love them as twisted as that sounds. Regardless they should tell the mom because no parent should make his kid lie because he couldn't keep it in his pants.
okay dude you should definately read this...
if you want to tell your mom then thats cool too but heres wat you should do.
talk to him bout it. find out the extent of the relationship.
if its serious enough then tell her.
but if he is going to end it then you could use it to your advantage.
and not only would it work out for you but you would probably have a much better relationship with your father.
so its a win win situation.
BLACKMAIL.
and tell him to stop, if you don't want to tell the mom. I can understand why you wouldn't want to tell her.
Contrary to popular opinion, the truth will NOT always set you free.
The truth will cause more pain than needed.
So, you're and idiot if you tell. It'd be your fault they get a divorce. Do you really want to live your life realizing you're the reason your mom and dad split up?
Definitely tell your mother. You won't get in much trouble unlike your dad. He's going to be on the hot seat and about to get his butt whooped.
No. Don't tell your mom. Talk with your father and get him to tell her. It will be ten times worse if your mom hears it from you instead of him. He needs to have the balls to own up to his issues.
Btw, this is one of the BEST I've ever read! Ha ha!
I was going to say tell....but #174 is right.
it's up to your father to tell.... and to stop.
so i'd say...
1) stop sneaking out of the house yourself
2) tell dad that if he doesn't stop you'll tell mom.
3) and that if he threatens you with retribution you'll tell her anyway.
4) if he stops, do not bring it up or use it against him
#175 - On 05/25/2009 at 9:25pm by were_giraffe
171 - Do you really want to hide this and then his dad can go on cheating behind her back?
I'm really bad at wording things. XD But you know what I mean.
Awww, I am so sorry about that, hun. ):
It'll work out eventually.
#180 - On 05/25/2009 at 10:20pm by michelle4srs
Oh wow... seriously, tell your mum, that's fucked up. You're not going to get in trouble for sneaking out when she finds out what her husband has been doing!
#184 - On 05/25/2009 at 10:55pm by babydoll86
your dad is such a douchefag. If he doesn't want a relationship with your mum then he should just ask for a divorce, not just go around cheating. Blackmail him and then tell ur mum. fuck up his life for good.
#185 - On 05/25/2009 at 11:06pm by Blithe_626
wow that rly sux... tell ur dad that either he should tell ur mom, or u will. thats so awful. n 45, there is something rly wrong with u if you think that cheating is normal.
your mom will forget about punishing you, when her husband is cheating. so, i'd tell her =]
#187 - On 05/25/2009 at 11:14pm by justxdream
Now thats just str8 out a FML.
I would tell my mum, just put urself in ur mums place she thinks she got a good marrage goin and the father to her children is sleeping around with another woman.
F-UR-LIFE if u dont tell ur mum
#188 - On 05/25/2009 at 11:25pm by UrRightFML
Tell your mom your dad is a no good lying cheating selfish bastard.
#190 - On 05/26/2009 at 12:08am by 2Chances2Fail
Your dads the man. Honestly thats the one of the funniest thing Ive ever heard.
#191 - On 05/26/2009 at 12:21am by jennajamison
real FML.
tell your mom. she deserves to know. or even better, make him do it. not your responsibility.
#194 - On 05/26/2009 at 12:56am by k1o2a3l4a5
Disregard #45, they're headed for some major consequences and they don't know it. Your dad doesn't deserve your mother or you. Tell your mother! Bust your dad's sorry ass for cheating, let alone for trying to make you part of his game.
You should defintatley tell your mum, and its better for you to deal with your parents now instead of later. It might be hard but it will be on your mind constantly if you dont tell her.
Although your dad might get angry at you for telling... it's better.
OR perhaps you could convince your dad to tell her himself... it will be really hard but at least
your mum and dad can sort it out properley?
hopefully it all works out!
#198 - On 05/26/2009 at 2:08am by iloveclothes
tell your mom... or convince your dad to tell her.. either way, she needs to know
#199 - On 05/26/2009 at 2:31am by frivolous_nerd
although this sucks, its quite perfect
u can blackmail him, he'll do anything xD
#201 - On 05/26/2009 at 5:17am by the_holy_one
that is fucked up
don't listen to these sick bitches, i caught my dad cheating on my mum and i regret not telling her...
Tell her now you'll be better off -_-
Finally! Something original.
FYL. Still, I'd blackmail fuck out of him.
#203 - On 05/26/2009 at 8:16am by ChelseaChops
You tell ya mum that you spied on your dad, not sneaking out xD
#204 - On 05/26/2009 at 9:29am by Sucks2beYouxD
if she tells her mom then shes going to be in the middle of it, and her father will deny it and her mother might not believe her. Use this info to your advantage, ytour in control of ur house now. black mail like a mother fucker. then maybe try and find out ur dads schedule that he goes to that other womans house and u and ur mom can go on a little night ride to find daddy being a SCUMBAG.
#205 - On 05/26/2009 at 10:50am by milyfesuckz2
Owch.
That one really sucks.
and #205 makes very good points.
#207 - On 05/26/2009 at 12:16pm by SarlaccBits
He seriously thinks that sneaking out of the house is equivilant to cheating so the two of you can make some sort of deal over it?
Honestly, tell your mother, because when she finds out (at some point she will), if she also realises you knew and didn't tell her, she'll be angry with you, too.
And as someone else said, if she's just found out her husband's having an affair, I highly doubt punishing you for sneaking out will be the first thing on her mind.
#209 - On 05/26/2009 at 1:48pm by dancing_bear
im not sure if im rite or watever but i think u shuld tell ur mom..that u were sneaking out and that ur dad was cheating sorry to hear about that too
#213 - On 05/26/2009 at 5:32pm by i_hate_my_life22
Don't listen to all these people telling you to tell your mom. You need to tell your father to tell your mom. Since you were sneaking out of the house, I assume you're a minor. If they divorce/separate over this, then it's not something that you are going to want on your conscience. Give your father an ultimatum, and if he won't tell her, then you should.
#214 - On 05/26/2009 at 7:15pm by bigcrazymike
That's terrible!
Seriously, tell your Mom. It's more important that you not getting in trouble, and she has the right to know. Not only for the sake of their marriage and her dignity, but for health reasons... who knows what he could be bringing home because of this.
Plus, I highly doubt that you sneaking out will be a priority for her with a cheating husband on her plate, so don't be too worried about that. It just might be better for her to hear it from you than to find out some other way. Though hurtful, she'll appreciate your honesty and support.
I'm really sorry to hear about this though. Bless you and your family. Hope everything works out.
I agree with #218, thats a shitty situation. Talk it out with your parents and try to get a marriage counselor. Divorce ain't pretty, at least not for my parents.
its gud to establish bonds and agreements with your parents, plus you just got a lifetime free passs
#221 - On 05/26/2009 at 9:04pm by shirvon100
It's likely that you're a teen which means you're supposed to sneak out anyway, it's in your nature. Chances are, unless you were committing a crime, you couldn't have been doing anything that bad to begin with. Either way. tell your mom, you would not want to have this on your conscience for the rest of your life, and it seems to me that this was not the first time he's done this. Tell her.
1. You didn't assume your dad was cheating on your mom? What other explanation could there be for him sneaking out in the middle of the night, into another house, with a bottle of wine? For real.
2. Tell your mom. It doesn't matter if she's a controlling bitch or anything like that. She deserves to know. My boyfriend cheated on me in November and a friend was covering for him and other friend claims he didn't know anything about it [which I don't know if I believe or not]. I knew something was up and I knew something was going to happen. Lo and behold, it did and I had to find out the hard way - seeing a giant hickey on the side of his neck.
#224 - On 05/27/2009 at 12:26am by sickinlove13
lets just say that my pops cheated on my mom for 8 years and my whole family knew sept my mom and my sisters and i. i wish that my family had said SOMETHING over those long 8 years you know?! you should tatle!
Agree with everyone that says tell your mom. Its a pretty big decision, how close are you with your parents?
Tell your mom! Fucking scummy mother fucker hahaha that's you're dad!
#228 - On 05/27/2009 at 9:25pm by Errrkkellayyy
Make the right choice and tell your mother. Not to be cruel, but at least you won't get in trouble for sneaking out.
#230 - On 05/28/2009 at 4:29pm by calicokitea
I agree blackmail him and tell your mom use a the blackmail as evidence : such as him buying you new things that are expensive then show to your mom but stick to her side because that will be a though time. hope things work out.
#231 - On 05/28/2009 at 6:11pm by booklover13
I've actually been in that situation before. I blackmailed my dad into telling my mom himself. I promise you, it will make you feel so much better in the long run if you confront him about all this. Don't let it build up inside.
Are you sure he was cheating? May be he was taking wine for a secret party or something... and his saying "I won't tell if you don't tell, please don't tell your mother" doesn't imply he was cheating.
I would definitely tell your mom, I'm pretty sure you sneaking out will be over looked XD
#234 - On 05/29/2009 at 4:53pm by Layjin_Nailo
Dude be careful. You snuck out so you're probably young but not too young (I'm gonna guess 15-17). Be careful because telling your mom will most likely end in divorce which there's a good chance that will wreck you mentally. Try getting your dad to stop
Tell your mom.
Because first of all that is a sin & that is just WRONG.
What if he brings a STD or AIDS what if he gives that to your mom.
& she dies all because you dint say anything to her.
Honestly who cares they wont even be worried about you sneaking out they will be to busy disscusing what happend & so on between them to.
#237 - On 06/11/2009 at 8:18am by ShinyShine
Internet advise is just that...
So here's my two cents. (definitely FYL btw.)
Your mom really needs to hear this from your dad. Having him tell her would be best, but if not you will need to tell her. (and strong arming /blackmailing him into telling her isn't a bad idea persay...)
If you don't, you will likely mess up your relationship with her b/c in her eyes, keeping this secret makes you culpable to the act. That will take a lot longer to forgive than just sneaking out at night. Plus if you are more worried about sneaking out at night than a fairly important relationship incident, then you'll come off as a dumb little kid to her. Which won't help matters.
