Today, I found out my grandmother passed away. When I told my boyfriend I began to cry. Instead of caring, he said "you're getting my bed wet," rolled over, and fell asleep. FML
I agree, your life sucks (57738) - you totally deserved it (3553)
On 05/04/2009 at 4:44pm - misc - by JessBaby (woman) - United States (New York)
you're better off without him.
if he cares more about his bed than your tears, he isn't the right guy
YDI
1. fo having a grandmother
2. for being a fuckin baby
#242 - On 03/04/2010 at 10:18pm by hellzrydaz
242, you're an idiot. in order to be born, you MUST have a grandmother.
#243 - On 03/19/2010 at 2:26am by Kgirl2cute
what an ignorant selfish ingrate boyfriend.
I've heard of guys having no feelings but this is out of control.
Dump him
That sounds so terrible... Why do girls stay with guys like that?
#7 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:11pm by althemaster
He's a dickweed.
Dump his ass and find someone who cares about your feelings.
#8 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:12pm by dothehelenkeller
what an asshole! you're way better off without him! dump his sorry ass!
and sorry about your grandma ):
#11 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:14pm by suckstobeyou3
Ditch him and hit the road! It will be one of the best decisions you'll ever make. My sympathies to you about your grandmother, too.
#13 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:15pm by x_eyebrows
So sorry about your grandmother :-(
I think it's time for a man, instead of a little boy.
#16 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:16pm by xThatRandomGirlx
You're an idiot if you dumped him straight off the bat.
First, you should've taken the opportunity while he was asleep and cut off his dick.
THEN dumped him by leaving it on his desk in the morning for him to wake up to.
#18 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:16pm by Coffee_Kaioken
What a dickhead!
Break up with him, he doesn't deserve anyone
Sorry about you grandma
#27 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:21pm by skinonskin
Sorry about your grandma hun :(.
Wow, how inconsiderate and rude. He definitely doesn't deserve you...
I'm sorry if this makes u feel any better my cousin died five days before my birthday and his funeral was on my birthday and if ur boyfrind doesn't care about ur pain then y be with him
#33 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:25pm by boxerbaby1
Dump that douche. He cares more about his sheets than your tears.
#44 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:32pm by coloradodude12
Im sorry but YDI. I hate people like him, and you. Why do you go out with such an asshole for? This doesn't sound like someone that would suddenly do something like this, he is probably a mean spirited person. Find a real man, not the one who treats you like a piece of shit.
DTMFA.
Sorry about your grandmother. :( we had a death in the family today too. My thoughts are with you & your family.
Ummm... I tend to be an evil individual that you know spreads bad and all (thats why im called demon child)... but damn, your boyfriend owns me. If i was a chick and if i was in particular you, wait wait.. im assuming your a girl, DUMP THE EVIL BASTARD. BTW My Grandma and Greatgrandma passed away in the same week, last week, so i feel you.
D.C.
#50 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:38pm by Demonchild
My father passed away recently and looks like my grandfather will go soon so believe me I know what youre going through. Im so lucky to have an amazing supportive boyfriend who is okay with me crying and soaking the pillows. If he cant be supportive in this then he isnt worth a moment of your time. Leave him and find solace in your family and even a support group if you need that as well. Make sure you take time to grieve and dont let anyone make you feel like you cant.
i love how people find a way to throw a YDI on ever FML.... What did this person do to kill her grandma and her boyfriend make such a shitty comment- nothing... and i wouldnt say YDI just because she chose him as a boyfriend.
BTW wtf #36 Im a guy and im not not a douche bag... Im an amazing douche bag. Extremely hot at times and extremely cold.. Always there to comfort... Ur probobly sad cause no dude wants to bang ya. If i ever dated you, id hit and run..
yep your a damn emotional &^$#ing *$#@.
D.C.
(Reppin males)
#58 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:46pm by Demonchild
Well, that's a dick move. I'm sorry about your loss; you have my condolences.
#59 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:47pm by NoBounceNoPlay
just remember, you're miserable because you're sticking with what's comfortable. you'd rather be with a douchecock just so you can trick yourself into thinking someone likes you. either find someone who would actually care for you or quit complaining about him being an ass. you chose your situation and deserve it.
He's the wrong guy for you, so dump him. Also, stick to solid relationships in this tough time. Sorry for the loss :/
#60 is insensitive, given what happened. But he/she is right about him.
#61 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:48pm by nobodyno
this happened to me, except he convinced me to do sexual favors for him then dumped me that night.
#62 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:52pm by crazyjay35
DUMP. HIS. ASS.
i wouldve pushed him off the bed, and if he didnt land on his face, i would have punched him with the sole intention of breaking his nose.
i dont cry often, but if i do end up crying my boyfriend better be hugging me as tight as possible asap
=]
i hope you did something horrible to his sheets after that.. like rip them in half or dye them pink
and sorry bout ur grandma
#63 - On 05/04/2009 at 8:52pm by _shit_happens_
Wow, just wow, how can you be such an ignorant douche bag? Dump his fagot ass, he does not deserve you, im a guy and i dont know how you can just have no feelings like that, im sorry for your loss :'(
What a douchebag. I seriously hope you aren't still with this prick.
Btw, I'm very sorry about your grandmother.
dump his ass! but first drag it out and see how much of his shit you can steal in the next week
#73 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:12pm by waterpoloweasel
I'm very sorry for your loss.
If you believe in the heaven business, I'm hopeful for you that she's there.
If not, I hope she lived life to the fullest and got to spend some decent time with you beforehand.
As for your boyfriend: you tell that boy that last time you checked, a boyfriend was supposed to be a shoulder to cry on and confide in with everything. Then remind him that since he obviously has a skewed definition of what's expected of him, you'd rather be with someone that won't make you feel even more like shit.
And proceed to never speak to him again.
#76 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:17pm by ChairmanMao
wow you should dump that asshole. hes not worth your time, and I'm sorry for your loss! =[
(a complete stranger cares and your boyfriend doesnt now thats sad)
i really am sorry =[
#82 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:29pm by Not2farWAY2close
im sorry for your loss,
but its time for you to get a new boyfriend.
maybe one who actually cares about you.
there's a moment for everything. let the man sleep and talk to him about it in the morning. if he's truly a douche, you'll find out one way or another-- but waking someone up in the middle of the night will surely piss them off. Pick your moments.
people like the OP just need to be more self-assured and less reliant on others.
#84 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:34pm by anteatereater
Given he's this totally awesome kind of guy, you're probably going to want to start carrying mace and a taser after you dump his sorry bitch ass.
Just sayin' maybe he's more than one kind of asshole.
He is totally unsympathetic. Next time he comes to you with one of his problems, give him a taste of his own medicine.
#93 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:41pm by jdkfgkjdfb
Seriously, leave him. My ex did this, and the happiest day of my life was the day I left. Good luck to you.
#95 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:50pm by Goodhairday
should of came back and dumped a whole bunch of water on the bed and said IS IT WET NOW? lol
#99 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:57pm by laugh_it_off
I have trouble believing this... what kinda of a douche would say that/not offer any condolences. Either its a bogus story, or you need to reevaluate your relationship.
What an uncaring, selfish asshole!! Go find a guy who would actually try to make you feel better and let you cry on his shoulder. If you have any sense this guy will be your ex by tomorrow.
And I'm sooo sorry about your loss :(
Sorry about your grandma, not sorry about your boyfriend, you chose him...
#107 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:10pm by mjsmclaren
Very sorry about your grandmother. Both of mine passed away when I was about 1 year old.
And regarding your boyfriend? I have to agree with all the people who have commented so far. You deserve someone who holds you when you cry.
Really, you have to dump this kid. Even if you think you love him, even if you always thought he was the one. Even if he made you feel absolutely amazing at times. He's not worth it. He will only continue to do this. PLEASE, for God's sake, do NOT stay with this kid!! There are millions of other boys out there who will CARE about your feelings!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
As for your boyfriend, DUMP HIS SELFISH ASS.
#115 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:23pm by MURPHYCHACHO
you deserved it only because you stayed with a kid like that, but I also gave it ylif because thats fucked up
Ditch that piece of ****. I cannot believe how some of us spend our whole lives looking for someone, while others treat their boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/whatever like this. He doesn't deserve you.
pee all over him and his bed when he's asleep.
leave a note and say it's over.
best way to dump him.
#120 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:42pm by 6daysoverdue
I'm not one to support crying for stupid reasons, but grandma dying definitely falls outside of the scope of "stupid things girls cry about". He sucks.
#121 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:44pm by Cormophyte
pee all over him and his bed while he's asleep and leave a note saying it's over.
best way to dump him.
sorry for your loss! I hope you had sweet memories to reminisce on!
#122 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:44pm by 6daysoverdue
I cannot believe how some of us spend our whole lives looking for someone, while others take things like this for granted and treat people like ****. Ditch him, he doesn't deserve you.
#60: Obviously been dumped before, because someone deserves their grandma to die? And their bf be unsupportive. Yeahhh real logic there lexxy.
#127 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:54pm by ohhhhshizzz
My Condolences, but I seriously hope you dump that douche goblin you call a boyfriend.
#128 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:58pm by Petorious09
woah... if my boyfriend said that to me, i would slap him so fucking hard so many times, then id go home, and if i lived with him, id go to a friends house
#129 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:05pm by CourtneeMalakian
I dont have to tell you... 122 people just stated that same thing Im about to say.. dump to jerk! Your better than that!
#130 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:08pm by 88bellydancer
I wonder how all these FMLers end up with asshole boyfriends/girlfriends all the time. The world is worse than I thought.
#131 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:10pm by TydusArandor
DUMP HIM. My ex was the same way. I found out my Aunt had two weeks to live, and he decided to go get drunk with friends he never let me meet, instead of coming over liked I asked him, because HE had a "rough day". Needless to say, he gained "ex" status two days later.
Like everyone else said, DUMP HIM!!! Sorry about your grandma. That must be so hard. (((hugs))) Also, I accidentally clicked YDI but didn't mean it (of course)
#133 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:11pm by dol567
no offense, but you deserve that simply because your boyfriend is a douche... and even after that you're still with him... he gets a FAIL....
#135 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:14pm by legion_hexx
YDI for dating an ass. i have no sympathy for girls who date douche guys then get all mopey when they're treated like shit. you know he's an ass, leave him or quite bitching if you won't better your own situation.
#136 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:26pm by thisismyname
AWWW poor girl i feel so bad for you what a fucktard dumb his ass, sorry for your loss but you need to dump the bastard
I hope you punched him and then broke up with him after that...
#140 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:46pm by BarbieSwag
If this is true, please dump him, for your own self-respect.
#141 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:48pm by susie1234_5678
He's a D - Bag, unless it was like 2:30 AM, in which case he wasn't listening (still a d - bag move, but much less so)
#142 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:48pm by theclash06013
WHAT an asshole! I am so, so sorry. Please get out of there, and quickly. There are better people out there, and you don't need to be burdened with his insensitive, selfish presence especially when you're grieving.
if this is true then you should do the following
1) make sure your boyfriend is in a position where your foot can easily reach his crotch for maximum effect.
2) kick him in the crotch...atleast thrice. After all, balls are for men, not little boys who get off on treating people like shit.
3) profit (lol sorry had to throw that in)
BTW #138 WTF kinda job makes you so tired that your respond to someone who just lost a family member is "You're getting my bed wet" I know of soldiers with PTSD who treat their spouses better.
#144 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:51pm by someone1989
ouch... my sincerest apologies
you should toss his sorry ass to the curb and be like "gtfo"
also, #138 how ignorant are you? if my girlfriend's grandma died, i'd be comforting her, not whining over something so trivial as getting the sheets wet. hes a douche and you are dumb
and again, sorry babe. hope you feel better :)
#145 - On 05/04/2009 at 11:59pm by afiellerddr
sorry about your grandmather. sorry for your loss.
dump him, ditch him. live your own life...try to make you a person. Donot try to count on him.
#146 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:00am by cactusstar
So, usually I'm more of a "let the poor guy/girl sleep!" person, but this is way over the top even if you're on severe lack of sleep.
Granted, before going to bed when he's tired is not the best time to bring this up but you don't say "you're getting my bed wet" when someone's crying over losing a loved one. Ever. Even if you haven't had any sleep in a week. Even if you didn't have coffee all day. You just don't. I get being a bitch when you're sleepy, but this is totally out of line.
Sorry about your loss though.
#149 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:23am by no_one
On one hand, people sometimes say things they're later not aware of in their sleep. On the other hand, if you're posting this as an FML, you should probably do what everyone has said and dump him.
You know you deserve better, or else you wouldn't have posted this.
#150 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:35am by Yulia
How are there so many people who are willing to be with jerks like this? Its not like something like this comes out of nowhere. There had to be signs of jerkiness before. Why put up with that? I find it hard to feel sorry for people who willingly date people like this. They're asking for it.
#158 - On 05/05/2009 at 1:37am by mouseintern
Holy crap, what a douchebag! I don't understand how a guy can claim to care about somebody and then not give two hoots when she's upset. Further more, I don't understand why guys like that get girlfriends in the first place!
Obviously, we don't know the entire story, but this one seems pretty damn straight forward. Unless there's some magical explanation like he's deaf and you have allergies that make your eyes stream and he was confused or something, I would dump him. You deserve better than that.
And sorry about your grandma :(
#162 - On 05/05/2009 at 2:11am by Nirah
Sorry about your grandma but YDI just like all the other women who choose to be with dickheads like this.
wow that sounds like my ex. when my grandpa passed away, he wouldn't hold me or console me because "crying is a sign of weakness" and "I don't sympathize or mourn the dead, so you shouldn't either" same with when my grandma passed a year later.
#168 - On 05/05/2009 at 3:18am by 1life2live
awww sorry that sucks just next time ur boyfriend starts being sad "my mom just died" or "spills his heart" E.G. "I love u i want to be with u forever" just laugh hysterically
and why are people here so damn sexist not all guys are complete dickwads not saying im not one
but still u damn sexist grrrr
"there's a moment for everything. let the man sleep and talk to him about it in the morning. if he's truly a douche, you'll find out one way or another-- but waking someone up in the middle of the night will surely piss them off. Pick your moments."
Ok, you *may* have a point. If he was still half asleep and not yet lucid, I could understand. Maybe he was still in dream land and didn't understand what she was saying. It's not clear from the OP. But if he did understand, regardless of whether he was just woken up or not, he is a jerk. Case closed.
Did he kill her? lol
jk jk..but yeah.. what an ass.
#177 - On 05/05/2009 at 7:41am by evilralphwiggum
Wow, what a douche. I mean even if he was asleep and kind of incoherent, you're still capable of some coherent thought when something major happens.
He's just not worth it.
If by the time you read this you're still with him... you'll be deserving a lot of FML in the future and you'll be the only one to blame. Sorry, but true.
ha! I am amazed at some of the things I read on hear. I have had plenty of friends who date guys like this, and the stay with them. Both girls who I was just friends with, and girls I badly wanted to date. What is with women dating asshole guys? I can almost guarantee she is going to stay with him, too.
Well, while he sounds like the most insensitive J*CkA$$ in the world, he was also half asleep I suppose. That wouldn't be a comfort to me. I think this is a sign, your grandmother dies and he doesn't care. My friend's boyfriend freaks out if you even mention Annie cried. I think you need someone more suited for your needs. If you don't have a boyfriend who cares (and no offense, he doesn't care) then you are just a toy for him to use. I think, if you were in his bed, we know what he wants. I think you need to take care of yourself and ditch that loser. I am sorry, but he's just not that into you, he doesn't care, in your time of need he abandons you. What does this mean for your future? You screw him, then he lets you cry or scream or whatever until he leaves you because you are "too needy." Which you aren't (not in this case) and now you need to dump his a$$. I'm sorry, but you would have to be super pathetic to stay with someone who doesn't love you.
#183 - On 05/05/2009 at 10:46am by LaceyPatrickson
Dump him now. I swear to God if you stay with this piece of shit you deserve it.
#185 - On 05/05/2009 at 11:38am by audiogasmic
FACT: Many girls like dating assholes and being treated poorly.
#190 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:17pm by music_at_work
FACT: Many girls are also victims of abuse.
Dump him if it's a trend.
#191 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:22pm by carpe_cotidie
yeah, that's what you get for picking a douchebag as your boyfriend........i can feel no sympathy for you, because YOU were the one who chose him. end of story
#192 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:42pm by ihatedouchebags
Do yourself a big favor and dump your boyfriend before you start thinking that kind of behavior is acceptable and end up in a string of empty relationships that leave you bitter and disappointed.
If it was up to me, I would get a bucket of cold water and throw all over him AND his (apperently) "very special" bed.
#196 - On 05/05/2009 at 3:36pm by MissH
137- wow. you're just as bad as the op's boyfriend for saying that. I'd guess you don't have a girlfriend. You're pathetic.
I'm sorry. Go find a new boyfriend. Believe it or not, most people would care. Sorry for your loss.= (
And for all of you who say that she deserved it for picking him... i guess you've never misjudged a person before? I guess you're just so fucking wonderful that you never make a mistake when it comes to picking a relationship? You people are morons. It's possible to think someones a good person until they prove themselves otherwise. Maybe she'd deserve it if she stayed with him after this. Otherwise, don't judge. What if this was the first time he was a jerk and she realized her mistake? Regardless, her grandma died, so stop being assholes.
"Today, my girlfriend was over at my place, in my bed, when she decided to tell me her grandmother died. And right when she told me, she started crying all over it, so I pointed it out to her before I went to sleep. Now my bed is wet, and she's probably going to go post this online for neo-feminists to bitch about me for liking a dry bed. FML"
#199 - On 05/05/2009 at 4:28pm by MozillaFirefox
oh hey mozillafirefox i'm the furthest thing possible from a feminist and i even think this girl's boyfriend was in the wrong here. i don't care WHO it is, you don't treat people like that. if it was her best friend and not her boyfriend people would be reacting the exact same way. chill out.
#200 - On 05/05/2009 at 4:55pm by eeejit0102
Apparently the sarcasm wasn't thick enough, so here's more.
A man's dry bed is his castle. A dry bed a day keeps the doctor away. Dryness is next to godliness.
Also, I pity da foo' who doesn't know that tears dry fast anyway. If anything, he's just stupid for bothering to complain.
#202 - On 05/05/2009 at 5:23pm by MozillaFirefox
he's a douche bag for that, unless their nice sheets, in which case put down a tarp or something how insensitive are you. He worked hard for those sheets. I'm kidding. Im really sorry for that a-hole move of his and your loss
I would dump something nasty in his bed while he's sleeping in it. Perhaps vinegar. Or fire ants.
#215 - On 05/06/2009 at 2:31am by aliasanonymous
This probably wasn't the first time he's treated you like crap. Dump him, you spineless woman. You could probably do much better. Maybe.
Also, listen to #212
#216 - On 05/06/2009 at 6:28am by RespondomaticMan
time for a new boyfreind! what a jerk seriously dont thnk about it.. DO IT DITCH HIM LEAVE HIM!!!!! you can do better. sorry about your grandma
#219 - On 05/06/2009 at 6:06pm by ibrakefordonuts
thats true, he could of been asleep.
but still, i cant help but think, what an asshole.
#232 - On 05/10/2009 at 4:16pm by aquariusbeauty
i hope you wrote a note saying "DUMPED!" and then put tape on it and punched him in the nuts with the note.
Oh wow.. I would have gone and filled up a bigg jug of water and thrown it on him on his bed and said no.. NOW YOUR BED IS WET. and walked out.. what a douche..
#238 - On 05/29/2009 at 2:48pm by Luv4pink1721
Slap him across the face and say "when ur grandmother dies I won't even pertend to care" or something like that. Ur boyfriend should really care more
#240 - On 06/02/2009 at 11:59pm by dancergirl743
