Today, my boyfriend broke up with me, claiming moving in was a bad idea and he is the type who needs his privacy. It was his idea to move in, he had to convince me. Now we are stuck, under lease together for the next 6 months. FML
I agree, your life sucks (15431) - you totally deserved it (1870)
On 02/04/2010 at 11:03am - love - by Awkward - Sent from mobile version
(+1)better to find out now rather than after you're married.
#32 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:51pm by Horney4her69
(0)If her name is on the lease, she's liable if he doesn't make rent or damages anything.
#64 - On 02/04/2010 at 5:04pm by hockeyhouse
(0)why not just have herself taken off the lease.
last time that happened to me i just walked into the estate agent and said i moved out and take me off the lease. was done in about 30 min.
if your partener or the ex is still there they cant keep you on the lease surely
#91 - On 02/04/2010 at 8:21pm by catriona_cd
(0)#46 "for shacking up" seriously? It would be the same after marriage except larger repercussions.
(0)That sucks. If it were me, I'd get a roommate and kick him out. No reason to be stuck living with someone unless you want to.
(0)this is true. living together past this point means one of you will be driven insane with whom the other brings home.
(0)#7 I agree!! so he learns to stick with his choices and war kind of privacy does he want?? hopefully nit to cheat on u!
#9 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:09pm by o0XMzMayX0o
(+1)Don't be shocked if next week he changes his mind again.
#7 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:06pm by geordieboysgirl
(0)If you draw a line down the middle, make sure you get the half with the bathroom. Oh and put alarms and bells on it. Sarcasm and humor are great for stress relief :)
(+2)If one of you wants to stay wherever you are living and the other agrees to move out, you can usually have the lease rewritten under the name of the one staying. Did that when I realized my now ex-fiance was a waste of time and energy. He moved out, I kept the place. (This works best when he's done something incredibly stupid that you can hold over his head to motivate him to get lost.)
#10 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:09pm by olivejuice001
(+2)olivejuice001 is absolutely right. Most landlords would rather rewrite a lease than have potentially volatile tenants. It's usually less hassle from his/her perspective to lose one of you than to lose both of you.
Have a chat with your ex about whether he wants to keep the apartment or if he'd rather leave and let you keep it (if either of you can afford it alone). In any case, make sure that the remaining person has all the keys to the place or future FMLs are inevitable.
(+1)I hope you're in one of those annoying relationships where you break up for two days then get back together, only to break up again the next week.
#12 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:14pm by saranottelling
(+2)Tell him it was suggested to cut the house in half. Whoever loves it most won't want to see that happen.
(0)Here's how you fix it: Bring over 4 or 5 hobos at a time and have loud gang bangs or bukkake. After about 8 or 9 of these sessions, I'm sure your ex-bf will be happy to buy out your half of the lease. Simple, no?
(0)Pretty much, although pyromaniacal arson fantasies came in a close second, and a scenario of extended periods of non-bathing was a distant third.
(0)Translation from Google's Douchebag to English translator:
privacy -> opportunity to cheat
Does that clear things up?
(0)Perdix: Circle-jerks are usually my second choice, but I like your style.
#79 - On 02/04/2010 at 6:01pm by alexisthename
(+1)Moving in together has been shown to be the cause of 99.756% of divorces. The hormanal palpatations in the uterine glands gyrate causing negative soundwaves to be picked up in the yellow cortex of the mans ocipital lobe making him more prone to violent tendancies. Its quite easy to understand really.
#17 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:23pm by alexandraa
(0)I think I can remember pointing out to you before, alexandraa, it's the red cortex. Not the yellow. I wish you'd stop guessing at these things. It makes the rest look like totally made up rubbish!
(0)I love it, alexandraa! You have real talent for writing junk science -- maybe you can be the science correspondent for FOX News ;)
(0)Aw, sad. But just think, if he couldn't sacrifice his privacy when you were just dating, what would it be like if you got married? If two ppl really love eachother, neither thinks of the other of invading his/her privacy. Well, they shouldn't, at least.
(-1)YDI for agreeing to live with someone when you were only dating them. Even if it was his idea, you had the capacity to say no.
#30 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:47pm by israelnotjacob
(+1)Perhaps now would be a good opportunity to communicate and build a friendship?
........Yeah, I didn't think so, either.
#34 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:52pm by MermaidSongXOXO
(0)Yet another reason not to move in with your boyfriend...
#35 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:54pm by snickerdoodles
(0)Yes, because it's much better to move in after you're married and have no idea how the person lives. Whether they're a slob or not. Whether they expect you to do everything for them.
Sorry, but I feel it's a much better idea to live with someone and understand what you're getting into.
(0)that makes no sense
would you rather she waited until she was married to find out she doesn't want to live with the guy?
snickerdoodles get your head out your ass and say hello to the real world
(0)I agree.
Living with someone first will show you if you're compatible living together.
A lot of people break up after they move in because it's not what they thought it would be.
'snickerdoodles' thinks she knows everything at 16..
but she clearly lives a boring, sheltered life.
I'm living with my boyfriend AND I'm pregnant
..so I guess that makes me look bad for having a baby and living with my partner outside of marraige.
(0)Sorry but though your logic is super sound the stats disagree.
People have more trouble having lived together before.
It's probably because they came in not entirely committed.
(0)haha oh no you shoul be married!
(obvious sarcasm)
tbh I'm not far of snickerdoodles age and i find it kind of sad how niave she is, I haven't had such niave/stupid views since I was about 11 :S
(0)@txgirl09 by all means don't move in straight away because that would cause problems, but waiting until matrige to find out you can't stand being with that person 24/7 isn't a good idea either
it's just getting the right balance between moving to fast, and bot moving at all
(0)It would only be naive/stupid if there were no stats to back it up. Divorce rate is higher among couples who live together before marriage than those who decide to wait.
(0)that's probably because the majority of people who don't believe in moving in before matrige, also don't belive in divorce, even when it is the right thing to do
also just because the 'stats' say that doesn't mean it's a good idea, I'm practically living with my boyfriend now, I see him everyday and talk to him all day when I'm not with him, I don't live with him though, but I might aswell be, this is the case for a lot of people.
(0)What I want to know is how many people these days are getting married before living together? Is it reallllllllllly that common as to where there's a "statistic" that says marriages are better if people wait until marriage to move in together? I mean c'mon.
#90 - On 02/04/2010 at 8:12pm by deadbunny17
(0)Im always so confused about this 60 day thing. Everywhere Ive ever rented is 30, but my bf said in Michigan and Minnesota, it was 60 for him...
(0)no. if you have a lease you are obligated until the end of the lease. there is no 30 or 60 day anything about it. the lease protects both you and the landlord from this. that is the point of a lease. if you were allowed to break it with 60 days notice, so could the landlord. do you want a landlord to be able to cancel your lease on you with 30 or 60 days notice?
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I'm first, your life doesn't suck can we get funny fml's
#37 - On 02/04/2010 at 2:56pm by vansbabe66
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I'm guessing the OP is a prude and the BF thought he would be able to get more action if they moved in together. Upon discovering that wasn't the case, he resorted to flogging his dolphin again or found someone that puts out. The BF needs privacy aka pussy. Put out or get out. Pretty simple solution, in my book.
(0)How is privacy also known as pussy? I never knew this.
#105 - On 02/05/2010 at 12:31am by alexandraa
(0)I'm in the same situation, although the lease has finally expired. I survived it. So can you. Stay friends and take up a hobby that gets you out of the flat.
#49 - On 02/04/2010 at 3:39pm by barrymjones
(+1)YDi for being in a fake relationship. and thats what you get for being happy. and thats what you get for letting someone covince you to do something you didnt want to in the first place. ha-ha
#54 - On 02/04/2010 at 3:52pm by oopsohwell
(0)if the lease is in his name, move out.
if it's in yours, kick the bastard to the curb and find somebody to sub-let!
#57 - On 02/04/2010 at 4:15pm by smallk
(+4)What your boyfriend really meant is that he did not realize that women were actually people and not just sex toys. He was probably confused the first time he saw you without makeup, or the first time you said no to sex. Then he must have been totally shocked the first time he heard you taking a shit. Just get him to take you off the lease and never talk to him again.
#58 - On 02/04/2010 at 4:16pm by jadedarchangel
(0)Yikes! That's a horrible situation to be in. I probably wouldn't live with my boyfriend for that reason but I can see pros and cons. Pros being you get to learn more about the person cons being what happens if you break up. I hope things go well. If not, you could try suing him if you can find something. I don't know much about law though :/
(0)hey maybe his idea will change once he spends 6 months with you!
#71 - On 02/04/2010 at 5:29pm by alicia_was_here
(0)Oh man, the same thing happened to me! My ex and I were sharing a 4 bedroom house with 3 other people, and he convinced me that it would be better of we moved into our own apartment. I was reluctant but finally agreed, with the stipulation that we get a 2 bedroom apt (just in case). Unfortunately there were no good ones in our budget range, so we got a really nice one bedroom. 2.5 months later, he announced he was moving back with his parents. I couldn't afford the rent by myself. I got the last laugh though, because I asked his ex girlfriend to move in with me, and now we've been best friends for the past 6 years!
(0)YDI for allowing yourself to be convinced to do something you didn't want to do
#85 - On 02/04/2010 at 6:45pm by grayscale_red
(0)Kinda agree with #58
Same thing happened to me. Boyfriend wants out, as soon as things got slightly "difficult" (ie; not the constant booty he expected, small apartment, me getting sick). And yes, HE was the one who wanted to move in together in the first place.
Serves me right for assuming the guy had more maturity and life experience. I can't believe how clueless he is about the ups and downs of REAL life. Douchebag.
(0)let the property manager use your deposit money so that you can break the lease
#87 - On 02/04/2010 at 7:49pm by dareturnofone
(0)Give him some space for a while, then try to fix it. That might just be what he needs.
#92 - On 02/04/2010 at 8:26pm by yeahtoastman
(0)shove him in the spare room lock the door then he can have all the privacy he wants!!!
#97 - On 02/04/2010 at 10:11pm by angeleyes22
(0)You're stuck. At least it's not a year-long lease. Learn from this and save some money in the meantime. Look at it as an opportunity to sock away as much extra cash as you can. That way you won't resent him as much and you'll get something out of the 6-month sentence.
(0)you can get out of the lease. fyl though. he sounds like a dick.
#103 - On 02/05/2010 at 12:11am by xxmarlboroxx
(0)no ur not stuck. the same thing happened to me recently. in my case he asked me to move 15 hrs away with him and when we got here he says "this isn't what he wants right now" so I'm making him get my name taken off the lease and he is also paying for a moving truck to move my stuff again. he's the one who got u into this mess... he can get u out!!!
(0)[Insert obvious comment about making your bed and sleeping in it here.]
#112 - On 02/05/2010 at 12:13pm by blastvortex
(0)wow some people are so unforgiving... much better to find out you're not suited to living together now rather than after you're married- and then either faced with the choice of unhappy marriage or divorce.
You never truly know someone until you've spent oodles of time under one roof with them, paying bills, sorting out who does the chores, seeing how they react when you're sick or not looking sexy, learning how to work out arguments....
I'd rather have someone put up with me through all that *without* being legally obligated to me- that way I'd know it was because they loved me, not tied to me by law. THEN i can choose to get married and know they're with me cos they love me, not because it's too hard to divorce.
Besides, where are the statistics that say how many of those marriages are HAPPY ones?!! Just becuase two people are still married doesn't mean it's a SUCCESS, it's only a success if they're still HAPPY.
#115 - On 02/07/2010 at 1:16am by anotherllama
(0)you brought up the break up and you're eating your words, sorry but i gotta say ydi. and yes, i know you're v.
#116 - On 02/07/2010 at 11:33pm by iknowwhoyouare
