Today, I felt left out that all my friends are getting married or have great relationships and my boyfriend won't commit. I made a facebook up and pretended to talk with this really cute guy I made up. Today, I found out that my boyfriend is gay... he started hitting on my made up facebook guy. FML
I agree, your life sucks (43383) - you totally deserved it (11600)
On 05/27/2009 at 12:06am - love - by sounfair90 (woman) - United States (Alabama)
This is sad in sooo many ways .
Number 1: The fact that you make fake accounts and talk to yourself.
Number 2: The fact that this plan of yours helped you find out something really important, lol.
Number 3: Your plan ultimately backfired ...
YDI and FYL
#2 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:06am by addicted2hotpink
well... now you can confront him and be like "sooo.... when were you going to come out of the closet?"
but seriously FYL for having to make a fake account to try and make him jealous
You deserve that and more for trying to make him jealous like that. Even if he was straight, he'd be 100% right to not commit to someone as insecure and manipulative as you.
#5 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:11am by Nofuckyourlife
OMG.
i HAD to create an fml account just to comment on your fml.
IT'S THE BEST!
i mean,
obviously,
it sucks that he turned out gay & all.
but trying to achieve the same thing as you,
i ALSO created a fake facebook account,
& it turned out quite helpful actually.
but in the end . . .
all good things come to an end,
so yeah.
good luck.
:s
Are you entirely positive that he didn't know it was actually you, and he was just having some fun? I mean, yeah, maybe he is gay, which would suck for you, but if you haven't talked to him about it yet, he could just be playing around with you.
#8 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:28am by Insert_Wit_Here
Chances are it was easy to guess the account was a fake, and he did it to see your reaction? If he guessed it was you, it's not surprising.
It's more probable that it's that than him being gay all of a sudden despite being with a girl...
But yeah, sounds like there's a problem anyway, in the not-wanting-to-commit area. :(
Sounds like your bf has committment issues. He probably hit on you made up profile to find out more about the dude. You know, like an "overprotective" bf checking up on your contacts. Don't stress, I'm sure he's straight. Probably some sort of twisted test. Good luck
#12 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:35am by tWitt3rBuG
Ahahahahah! I'm so sorry for you... That is messed up... But I can't stop laughing... Ahahaha!
#12 are you serious???
#13 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:47am by asttro_boy
I don't think he's gay. I think you concocted this theory to cover up your insecurity about him not committing and you feeling worthless because of it.
Just a theory though =)
#15 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:51am by Yulia
#13 i just know alot of twisted guys who can't committ but will never give anyone else the chance to get with their girl!
#16 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:53am by tWitt3rBuG
better you found out now than years (and maybe kids) down the road. Then you really would be f'ed. but now think of it as an opportunity to find someone who would better for you than this ass.
are you the same girl who was desperate to make plans and made a fake account? at least you had a boyfriend for a while
#16 twisted?
Maybe you turned him gay with your commitment issues. I am tired of hearing how the only way some women can have a great relationship is to get married. Marriage is just a stupid piece of paper and an overpriced commercial celebration and the only reason you want it is because all your friends are having one. Grow up and stop watching all the drama TV your life isn't going to be any different because you have a $5K ring on your finger other than now you can show off your ring to all your friends. It's complete BS, try talking to people that have been married for a while usually they are completely miserable and probably a good three quarters of them would say that their life was better before marriage and would never marry again.
Wow. Your life is so screwed I don't know where to start.
FYL for having a gay boyfriend by YDI for acting so immature as to flirt with yourself via an imaginary facebook account.
I hope you at least have a real friend you can talk to about this because it sounds like you might need to!
aww, how sad. #21 had his feelings hurt by some woman who left him at the alter or broke his heart in some other way.
Marriage may be hell for some people, but it's pure bliss for others. Stop telling people how to live their lives - if you're against marriage, be that way but keep it to yourself. No reason to get down on every marriage out there.
#23 - On 05/27/2009 at 7:43am by Yulia
this is f-ed on so many levels, but any way you look at it - whether he's gay, or knew it was you, or whatever, it's probably time to close the book on this one. he doesn't want to get married, and there's nothing wrong with that. it's not for everyone. the two of you apparently want different things, so it's probably best that you part ways rather than trying to change each other's opinion. find someone who wants what you want, and let him do the same.
oh and grow up, because nobody is going to want to marry someone who is so immature.
#24 - On 05/27/2009 at 7:57am by fretforyerlatte
This is just unbelievably sad. I guess talking to him about his commitment issues made too much sense so you created a fake dude to get him jealous? Also, you said you felt left out your friends were getting married or had great relationships. Well you had a relationship too so I don't see why you felt left out there...
I don't know what kind of man or relationship you ultimately want but it'd still be best not to compare your relationship with your friend's relationships.
thats lame.
and i suppose you didn't talk to him (through the fake account) and found out what he thought of you?
#27 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:07am by MegaPopTart
@23 No one hurt me and am in a good relationship.
I find it completely ridiculous that a marriage is the only thing that constitutes for some women including probably yourself a "good relationship". It's pathetic and sad the only way a man can truly say he loves you is to go into debt so that you can show off in front of a bunch of your friends with a shiny rock on your finger.
As far as telling people how to live why don't you practice a little more of what you preach. Look up statistics before replying to me with such an uninformed answer naive answer. ~50% of marriages end up in divorce court and in a rather small time frame which is funny considering the oath of until death do us part, heck look at the FML where the person helped pay for the wedding and it didn't last a week. For those that do last longer it is usually only for the kids which noble in intention but when you have two people that hate each other living together for the kids its probably better to split or you have people too broke to divorce and just start seeing other people.
Marriage has nothing to do with loving the person your with there have been many more relationships that have been successful without marriage than there ever will be with marriage.
#28- the reason why half of marriages end in divorce is because people are getting married for the wrong reasons and split at the first sign of a "problem". Marriage isn't really that bad and it does have to do with loving the person (well, when you're getting married for the right reasons). I don't think marriage is for everyone though...
Anyways, as some people have already stated, maybe he figured out it was you and wanted to just play along to see how you would react?? It's rather sad you had to create an account to try to make him jealous...
wow, you are extremely passive aggressive. grow some balls....
actually now that I think about it, that would help in two ways because then maybe he would be more willing to marry you! XD
You sound too young to be married since you had to resort to such methods to make your boyfriend jealous.
Anyway you'd be best friends with that one guy/girl who made up a fake facebook account to make plans with herself/himself.
#31 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:31am by barlessprison
@29 exactly and that is more of what I am trying to (with sarcasm) get across you don't get married because "I felt left out that all my friends are getting married" and you don't get married to play princess for the day. Ultimately if you truly can spend the rest of your life with a person you can do it with or without marriage. If you can do with all the better.
You aren't READY for a commitment. If you still play games like that, you are not ready to get married at ALL. You're acting like a teenager! It's also possible that your boyfriend guessed this and is teaching you a lesson for playing those childish games. Either way, if you're playing them, you obviously don't care much about your relationship. What if he took it seriously and had the more common reaction of dumping you?
#33 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:35am by silvermoonstar3
#28 - I never had my facts wrong. It is absolutely true that marriage is a source of happiness to some people...I never said how many people.
Why are you so angry at women who want to get married? It is a woman's evolutionary (not always purely shallow, materialistic) goal to have children (theoretically speaking of course), and most women in today's world want stability before they have children. I, as a woman, believe that a man who I married and who is committed to me will ultimately be the best father to my future children. If you're so very grounded in being realistic, that's my realistic view.
And then of course, there's the idealistic view that many women hold - of getting married and having a beautiful ceremony, and glorifying the desire of staying with someone forever. It's a glittery, glamorous dream - nobody said it was realistic - but don't get mad at women for having it. Just make sure the woman you're with doesn't uphold this dream, and let the rest of us dream on. Some of us will, in fact, realize this dream. But if everybody shuns it, nobody will realize it.
You can't control dreams. No cynical argument about how failure is the "rule," will sway us. Each one of us would like to be the exception.
#34 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:39am by Yulia
He actually may have been jealous of this guy & tried to see if HE was gay and if he could get him away from you. The commitment issues may come from something else with his parents, perhaps. Or he just might be gay. I've never been in that situation, but I hear you. But life will go on; I promise you that.
#35 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:50am by lovell_says_hey
hmmm... did you ever think of talking to your bf about the relationship instead of doing something sneaky to make him jealous? This sounds like something that would happen on Hannah Montana or some other teeny-bopper show. I'm surprised all your friends are getting married, how old are you?
#36 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:59am by uneekfreak16
I don't usually say this, but this one's gotta be FAKE. I just saw one VERY similar to this the other day. How do copy-cats like these even get through??
Part FYL (for finding out about the gay bf) part YDI for going in a convoluted path to get things out of him instead of trying to go directly to him and communicate. Why does no one seem to understand that as cliche as it is, communication is the MOST IMPORTANT PART of a relationship?
@34 I'm not angry at women who want to get married, I am bothered by people who are represented by the third part of your response which is part of my 'playing princess for the day'(or knight for the day) argument.
Failure is only the rule in marriages that exist for the wrong reasons there is nothing wrong with trying to secure a lifelong mate that will make both of your lives easier in child rearing and general life. But because her friends are doing it she wants it too, keeping up with your friends is not a reason to get married.
YDI for making a fake Facebook account and talking to yourself... I'm sorry but that's just lame.
#46 - On 05/27/2009 at 9:40am by freddofrog
OR, your boyfriend found out about your little atempt to make him jealous, and screwed you over. I would do that :P
If not, i'm sorry to hear.
#47 - On 05/27/2009 at 9:41am by Ironictwistofcak
3some says what?
( yeah, I know it's not really possible to accomplish )
#48 - On 05/27/2009 at 10:25am by rukusrazor
Relationships are hard and wonderful whether or not ur married.marriage is wonderful(I am married) but also comes with a lot of pratical benefits ie tax cuts. BUT to get married because you felt "left out"...yikes you will get divorced! Marriage (or a long comittment without the paperwork) is based on trust not scamming your partner to get what you want.
#49 - On 05/27/2009 at 10:26am by kristina3514
wow, manipulative much? I don't blame him for not wanting to commit to you...even if he was straight, he probably has the common sense enough to not get trapped with an insane person for the rest of his life.
Are you sure he's gay? Maybe be found out about the fake website, and did it to fuck with you. Or maybe he thought the dude was real, and was trying to scare him off. Or maybe he's gay.
this is so bad I dont know which to click....atleast you dont have to question what you dont have that another person might... i'm sorry its a wee bit amusing to me
#55 - On 05/27/2009 at 11:16am by AgentGreenEyes
First off, pretending to be something to make a good impression on others is not a sacrifice that anyone should make. Be your true self, don't pose and pretend, and people may start appreciating you more because you are doing things that fit your true nature, and therefore things that you are good at/work well for you. I've seen so many people just fail completely at life simply because they try to do things that don't fit their nature simply to impress others.
Secondly, isn't it good that you now know of your boyfriends true nature? You see, he was pretending to be something he's not, and you have even noticed that it feels unnatural, and it's just not working out. Isn't it better this way, rather than getting married with someone who is not even attracted to you? Think of it as a good thing. YDI, because you deserve to have the knowledge necessary to not make mistakes that will haunt you for the rest of your life.
Good luck with honesty and bettering your life. If you keep living this way, then FYL.
HA HA HAHA HAHA HA
#24 + #25 hit this one out of the park! Kudos to you two : D
@ OP - My gut tells me that he knew it was you and was trying to fuck with you for being a manipulative bitch. If not, even better!!! I hope he finds the perfect man for him and invites you to the wedding so you can see what true love is and the REAL purpose of marriage.
YDI 1000% but also FYL because DAMN YOU ARE PATHETIC!!!
Honest conversation > Manipulation
learn that or you will never be happy.
Obviously he is messing with you. Your fake guy probably only had you as a friend. Do you if he was gay and hiding it he would hit on a guy knowing you would see it on his wall?
#59 - On 05/27/2009 at 12:04pm by uscscreenwriter
YDI for fake Facebook accounts.
Also, YDI for caring so much about what society says your relationship status should be. Astoundingly, there's more to life than getting married.
#61 - On 05/27/2009 at 12:10pm by deaditegirl
my question is how your bf decided to start talking to the made up person if he didnt know him. and if it was because "the guy" knew you, your bf obviously would have know you would know about it, if it was on his wall at least. even so...the story doesn't make sense
#62 - On 05/27/2009 at 12:14pm by tokyooo123
Look at it this way: Your boyfriend has the hots for you, no matter what your sex is. If that's not true love...
Wow this is a YDI and a FYL in one.
YDI for making up an imaginary bf, who does that? It screams desperation because you need a man (even a fake one will do apparently) to feel confident.
However FYL for having a gay boy friend who hits on imaginary friends.
#14 all the way. I mean I usually joke about Facebook/ Myspace being an excuse not to actually socialize, but this is proof. I had a myspace for 2 weeks, you know what I got friend invites for? Some pez dispenser, Beer, a few close friends who I have better ways to communicate with anyway, somebody who recognized me from elementary school, and some movie page... AKA nothing I actually give a shit about. I like to *gasp* call friends... maybe email them... and actually see them in person. I stopped visiting and a bunch of people thought I died, which I guess not living on the internet means to some people. I guess it's different being 22 and growing up without these silly social networks.
#65 - On 05/27/2009 at 12:36pm by primogen18
Uh, you should go out and meet real people more often instead of creating make believe accounts and talking to yourself. YDI for lying.
maybe he figured out it was you and was hitting on your made up facebook guy to spite you
#68 - On 05/27/2009 at 1:10pm by mustangsami118
why are people on here so critical? so you did something pretty immature, but if he is gay, he's been lying to you in a MUCH worse way. there's nothing wrong with being gay but if he knows you want a commitment than it's awful of him to keep you in a relationship that wouldn't go anywhere.
however the theory that he figured it out and just did it to mess with you is also very possible, in which case that would be more of an fml because then you probably screwed up all chances with him anyway by acting like a 15 year old.
#69 - On 05/27/2009 at 1:19pm by lovelikewar
I doubt he's gay. If he had half a brain he knew it was you, no doubt about it, #59 hit the nail on the head...you were probably the only friend listed on the account. Either that, or you actually went through with the process of adding other people, waiting for them to accept (assuming they even would), and talking to other people through your fake account to put together a believable profile. You dont sound like you have the smarts or patience for that...And if you did have both of those you wouldn't have bothered with the whole thing. You lose
My boyfriend broke up with me after a long time of completely ignoring me, so I know how you feel, sweetie. I'm so sorry. :(
This is blatantly faked. OP wouldn't feel the need to create a "fake" boyfriend if they already had one, and besides, their friends would notice they were dating some random bloke.
You definitely deserved it. Now, stop with the pity party and find a guy who will spoil you like you want only to be that bastard's first wife in the end. Really, handling a situation like that as immaturely as you did is deserving of something like this. Plus, your bf might not be gay, he could be bisexual and you're just throwing a hissy fit cuz he likes guys as well.
#74 - On 05/27/2009 at 2:37pm by charadeslondon
Your fml shouldn't be that your boyfriend is gay, your fml should be that you actually made up a fake facebook account and had a conversation with YOURSELF.
#75 - On 05/27/2009 at 2:45pm by DamnAshleyyy
You deserve that for being manipulative and selfish. So what if he doesn't commit? That's his choice and if he doesn't want to then that's that. Grow up.
Haven't you ever watched TV or read books? Making up fake people never turns out well.
#80 - On 05/27/2009 at 3:22pm by seven_to_twelve
YDI for being a passive-aggressive bitch. Sorry for your closeted friend though.
#81 - On 05/27/2009 at 3:25pm by FoundManyLemons
ever think that maybe he knows its you and he's messing with your head?
you deserve it. don't play stupid girl games. 9/10 times they backfire. boys dont respond well to them.
maybe he knew it was you, and was just doing that to be like "haha"?
#83 - On 05/27/2009 at 3:42pm by BABiiGiRLx0x
#43 - I agree with you there. Wanting to get married because everyone else is doing it is definitely a bad idea. But do you see how your response to the OP lashed out against the sanctity of marriage as a whole?
Oh, and since not everybody is rich, for some women a marriage that is small, in their home, and is simply a celebration of their love in front of their close friends and family, is basically the dream. Let's not get carried away thinking that every woman is a spoiled brat =]
#85 - On 05/27/2009 at 3:54pm by Yulia
who says hes not bi.jeez.but still.thats honestly kind of pathetic.
#86 - On 05/27/2009 at 3:56pm by LaTuaCantante
how do you know he's not bisexual or something?
jesus christ, there IS a middle ground, op. if your boyfriend won't commit, i don't know, why don't you talk to him and find out why instead of being pathetic and making fake accounts?
Well, if you wanna look at it this way; he still likes you...
#89 - On 05/27/2009 at 4:15pm by breaksprinter_
Do you mean gay as in liking buttsex with guys, or gay as in so lame he talks to made up people?
#90 - On 05/27/2009 at 4:19pm by I_am_stupid_also
lol, that'd suck XD how long did you know your bf for? shouldn't you have known he was gay by the way he acted if you knew him long enough...?
#91 - On 05/27/2009 at 4:26pm by xDarknessInZero
I'll be your boyfriend. I promise I'm not gay.
But seriously, I'm in the same situation. All my friends and all the great girls from high school are getting married and having kids. Nobody's going to be left when it's time for me to get married.
#21 is great. You deserve it for being a shallow person that not only is willing to essentially lie to somebody you supposedly care about, but that you're doing it entirely to get a stupid title.
this is kinda like a post from earlier in the week
oh and... that's just lame :/
the fact that you made up a person, I mean :D
lol he probably found out you made the account and is fucking with your head.
#99 - On 05/27/2009 at 5:50pm by Failercoptor
He could be bisexual, don't worry.
But he shouldn't be cheating, so yeah, fyl.
#100 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:13pm by michelle4srs
he probably found out it was you because you didnt realize that you gave him a hint on the profile or the way you were talking. it's probably his way of getting back at you for not trusting him.
#101 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:17pm by dfynggrvty
FYL indeed. :( I'm so sorry that you're not only dating a commitment-phobe, but someone who is also a potential cheater, and gay. Triple FYL.
It's obvious when accounts are fake on FB. I'd have messed with you too.
#105 - On 05/27/2009 at 6:42pm by MoobyTheCow
Wow, some girlfriend you are. If you're in a relationship where you can't even bother talking to your other about things like that, you know it's not him who's the problem.
#106 - On 05/27/2009 at 7:16pm by containsnosoy
I'd rather have my boyfriend not love me than be a lonely fool who makes fake Facebook accounts.
#108 - On 05/27/2009 at 7:51pm by RazorbladeSmiles
Wow, that sucks. Poor you...and our poor boyfriend...poor fake facebook guy. :P
#109 - On 05/27/2009 at 7:57pm by Jabie
This is why it's stupid to start every FML with "Today"... cause obviously she didn't need the first part
#110 - On 05/27/2009 at 8:09pm by conservatank
You should have just been mature and talked about it, rather than made up a fake facebook to make him jealous. Now, you are going to look like an idiot bringing it up. And how do you know he is gay? he could be bi-sexual? And maybe he actually enjoys being with you. Just talk to him!
#113 - On 05/27/2009 at 9:14pm by shiikitty
or he's trying to mess with your mind like you tried to mess with his. way to be a great girlfriend.
#114 - On 05/27/2009 at 9:56pm by lalalahello2
This is extremely fake. Not only would your boyfriend not hit on a guy that you had been talking to if he were trying to stay in the closet, but he especially wouldn't do it if you were that guy's ONLY friend and the ONLY one talking to him.
Otherwise, you're just stupid and he was messing with you like other people said.
#117 - On 05/27/2009 at 10:38pm by chris81589
What is with people making up fake facebook accounts? Pathetic, and you totally deserve it for being a loser.
#119 - On 05/27/2009 at 11:36pm by coffeennicotine
What are you, 12? This makes no sense.
"My boyfriend won't commit, so I'll make a fake Facebook account and flirt with another guy so he gets jealous and finds me untrustworthy" ?????????
YDI.
maybe the reason you're in that sad relationship is:
you just want to be in a relationship for your reputation instead of for the fun
Ahaha. LAAAAAAAAME.
Didn't someone recently just post one about making a fake facebook account?
#122 - On 05/28/2009 at 2:45am by wastedkarma
Ya think maybe there's a REASON you're not in a successful relationship? Talking to yourself on fake Facebook accounts MIGHT have something to do with it. Creepy girl. YDI.
#127 - On 05/28/2009 at 12:03pm by jmarie
maybe he did it to get back at u. he knew u made it up
#128 - On 05/28/2009 at 3:39pm by ireadthistoomuch
I once had a boyfriend leave me for my male best friend. It happens, and trying to win him back is pretty pointless. If you're marriage-minded, try to find a guy who is also instead of a commitment-phobe. Rumor has it that they exist. Good luck.
Agreed with #3...it was immature behavior. But, it's better to find out that way than walking in on him with another guy physically.
#133 - On 05/30/2009 at 3:53pm by IAmBridgette
hahaha i agree with comment #2
i bet you turned him gay
#134 - On 05/31/2009 at 2:08pm by LovelessEva
he may not actually be gay, he could be bi. a lot of guys have gfs and sleep around with guys b/c they want to indulge their sexual fantasies, but are in love w/their girl. of course that's not exactly great, but still...it happens
#136 is right, ive known that to happen more often then people think.
#138 - On 06/01/2009 at 12:38pm by primogen18
It's sadder that you made a fake Facebook person to talk to...
#142 - On 06/03/2009 at 3:31am by nonconscious
#3 i am offended! I'm 15 and i'm way more mature than that. It's quite sycophantic really.
#144 - On 06/04/2009 at 8:47am by BryonyRogers
that sucks but u shouldn't have to try to make him jealous but if u hadn't done that u would have never known he's gay. Everything happens for a reason.
He might not necessarily be GAY. Unless he told your made-up guy straight out, "I'm gay," then he might just be bi.
#150 - On 07/29/2009 at 3:28pm by mcmahonfan
Ok, Ok i have MANY things to say about this, many people could be right, he could know its you, he also could REALLY be gay, BUT HE COULD KNOW ITS YOU AND BE HITTING ON YOU, NOT THE FACEBOOK DUDE!
#151 - On 09/15/2009 at 7:38am by candygrl122
he could have known it was you
if not, then he probably is gay or bi, either way hes cheating on you
