By Lori - 04/11/2015 18:46 - United States - Littleton

Today, I agreed to go on a date with this really nice guy. Halfway through the date, he started talking about his wife and kids. FML
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NoirSpartan 11

Maybe you misunderstood him when he said date, but meant instead to have a casual meeting amongst friends. If he truly is a nice guy then I'm sure he means no harm.

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Blodwast 16

Probably not a date on his part as he wouldn't have told you otherwise.

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604 11

Well... They are the most important people in his whole world.

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c_wyld 21

Talk about your blackmailing abilities.

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higgysaurus 18

The guy could have an open relationship with his wife.

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bonermonkey 31

Even if he does OP didn't know that, which isn't fair.

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higgysaurus 18

Also, why would someone offer up information that you could blackmail them with? Especially on a first date

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Earl_KarmasBitch 34

Yep, the correct response to this is to say "They sound great, when can I meet them?"

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Blodwast 16

Probably not a date on his part as he wouldn't have told you otherwise.

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chinaski7628 32

You'd actually be surprised at how many men will tell you about their wife/SO on a first date—especially those you meet through Internet dating. It's usually followed by "I'm going to break up with her as soon as her birthday's over/she's done grieving for a dead relative/she finishes school, etc...." (or something similar). I'm not sure if women do the same thing to men, but this has happened to me and several friends. Or it's possible he got half way through the date and decided he didn't like OP and thought the best way to let her down was to invent a wife and kids. Either way, he sounds like a jackass.

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juturnaamo 29

Polyamory and open relationships are becoming more acceptable too. He could be available without being single.

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NoirSpartan 11

Maybe you misunderstood him when he said date, but meant instead to have a casual meeting amongst friends. If he truly is a nice guy then I'm sure he means no harm.

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gosh_mate 30

Get out of there asap. A married man is not someone you want to associate with. Maybe he thought he was just being honest (they may be in an open relationship or something), but it's seems like a lot of unnecessary drama.

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One_Way 43

As others have said, he may not think of this as a date but a casual outing between friends. Or he may be in an open relationship. We'd really need a follow up to know for sure. But what I want to know is, why can't OP associate with married men? I associate with more than one married woman and it's never cost me any drama. As long as no one is immature or possessive, there is no reason to cut off all contact.

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the_real_dvd 21

I'm married. I've seen no point to divorce as it's expensive and unnecessary at this point since I've found no one else to marry yet. At some point, I will need to make that decision. In the meantime, I desire and enjoy the company of women- not just for sex, but for the dichotomy women bring to my life. Should women run from me just because I've committed to taking care of my responsibilities while searching for a woman I can be happy with?

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the_real_dvd 21

I should make it clear we've been separated for a long while.

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the_real_dvd 21

Easy for you to say. It's expensive and neither of us care to go through with it now. I'm not stopping her from dating. We get along way better now than ever.. so what business is it of yours. Point is, I'm honest with every woman I go out with about my current situation so that they don't have any surprises.

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sylvienoir 18

When you post your life details on the Internet it becomes everyone's business.

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Badkarma4u 17

You know people like 19 who are married but have been separated for years, some over a decade are out there. Some even live in different states. They just feel no need to get a divorce. They keep the spouse and kids on their insurance and taxes. They live that way until one of them wants to remarry.

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the_real_dvd 21

^exactly. I see no need to get a divorce. She's on my insurance. I take very good care of her and our kids. We get along. We don't need the dirt and stress of divorce. But since I do date, I feel it's best to be up front about my situation. I guess according to FMLers I should walk away from all that.

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SuperWhoMarvLock 22

Why do people think this is okay?! If a couple has an open relationship, fine, but at least TELL the person you're involving BEFORE! If there isn't an open relationship and you do this, you don't deserve any sort of relationship, period.

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Schmavid64 13

If it is an open relationship then at least you can say he brought it up on their first date and not a couple of months into things.

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iAlissa 34

Better to find out now! Sounds like he didn't really think of it as a date though, considering he brought his family up

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lalala96 19

What a ******' asshole. I'm sorry OP people suck.

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takeittoem 8

Hopefully this is just a misunderstanding - otherwise, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. Tell the wife if you're up for it; she deserves to know.

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