Today, I got home from visiting my long-distance girlfriend. I spent $366 to get a plane ticket to visit her for the week. The day after I arrived there, she broke up with me and I had to buy a ticket for an earlier flight home. With fees and penalties, I payed around $550 to be broken up with. FML
I agree, your life sucks (47276) - you totally deserved it (2712)
On 05/05/2009 at 12:07am - love - by broke (man) - United States (Kentucky)
(0)What kind of people click on YDI foor thinsg like this???
#1 - On 05/05/2009 at 6:25am by MagneticGuitar
(0)either trolls who click YDI on everything on this site, or people that accidentally clicked YDI! I agree with you though, that's awful :( poor OP!
(0)rule #1: long distance relationships will never work out. Proximity is one of the major facets of being in a successful relationship.
#4 - On 05/05/2009 at 6:36am by urallosers
(0)Wow... this shows that long-distance relationships are risky. Just don't go for 'em, they almost never work out. Plus, you are paying much more money for stupid shit like phone calls, gas, and plane tickets.
#5 - On 05/05/2009 at 6:36am by CousinSkeeter
(0)#1 people will click YDI no matter WHAT. It's weird but people just do.
That sucks though dude, sorry to hear. :-\
(0)#4: LDRs do work. I lived in WI and my husband is from Tokyo. We were away for 8 months total, and got married and are really happy. So yes, they do work, if you work at it and keep in touch and are actually COMMITTED to the relationship as opposed to letting your eye wander and experience communication gaps that last longer than every other day... though at least e-mailing every day is best, if not a phone call. Skype is super cheap to call phones around the country and internationally from the compy or lappy.
And as for the OP: At least she dumped you in person rather than through an e-mail or something pussy like that. Be grateful she respected you enough for that!
#8 - On 05/05/2009 at 6:54am by onigiriqueen
(0)#9: they weren't dating online, it's a long distance relationship. BIG DIFF. idiot.
#10 - On 05/05/2009 at 6:59am by ohhhhshizzz
(0)That's a bummer dude. Not really anything constructive one can say. Long-distance relationships are not known for success.
#11 - On 05/05/2009 at 7:00am by p00p0ster0us
(0)thats bitchy, but if she's not even nice enough to spend the week with you and let you down gently then in the long run she's probably doing you a favour
#15 - On 05/05/2009 at 7:53am by harlehatschi
(0)So the thing you're upset about is the money you spent? Must have been the love of your life...
#16 - On 05/05/2009 at 7:53am by The_Great_Zucchi
(0)that's cold. she couldn't have dumped you BEFORE you came all the way out there?
#17 - On 05/05/2009 at 8:04am by fretforyerlatte
(0)you shouldve taken a couple of her friends home with you
liquor and whores
#19 - On 05/05/2009 at 8:19am by SizeMayVary
(0)aww that sucks! I wouldn't do that to my bf, that's just cruel! =(
#20 - On 05/05/2009 at 8:35am by suckylifey
(0)#12: OH, and I wasn't calling you an idiot.
I was calling the OP, it wouldn't let me edit.
But it was going to say::
Idiot, for letting the FML end there I thought you'd say you kicked her ass or atleast stole her money & made HER pay!
#22 - On 05/05/2009 at 9:01am by ohhhhshizzz
(0)#15 so you think she should have led him on for the week and let him think things were okay before dumping him rather than being honest from the outset?
And OP I'm sorry, it sucks - I'm in a LDR myself and I know how much effort you put in...
On a picky note (and I'm sure I'll get yelled at for mentioning this but it's starting to drive me crazy)... it's "paid" not "payed".
(0)Why not stay? A cheap hotel wouldn't have costed that much for a few days. Then you could've taken your regular flight home.
#24 - On 05/05/2009 at 10:15am by rukusrazor
(0)There are too many FMLs like this. It sucks buddy, but we've already heard it.
#25 - On 05/05/2009 at 10:16am by PTERONOPHOBIA
Same thing happened to my brother. I wanted to kick that b!tches ass when I found out. It's just mean and spiteful. You don't deserve that.... unless you cheated on her or something.
#26 - On 05/05/2009 at 10:27am by 100308
(0)Did you meet her on myspace, "date" for a days, then decide to meet her? lol. YDI for paying that much on an online GF. (hey, he never said it wasn't, so we can still rag on the stupidity of such a long distance relationship, for all we know, he might have never met her in person and he ended up not being who she thought he was)
#27 - On 05/05/2009 at 10:53am by primogen18
(0)Like other people said, at least she had the guts to break up with you to your face instead of something cold like through email. Same with doing it right away instead of leading you on for the entire week.
#28 - On 05/05/2009 at 11:06am by littlegolferboy
(0)I don't believe in breaking up over the phone/cell/text message cause it just make you look like a chicken but in this case it would have been okay. That way he wouldn't have spent all that money and gone all the way for nothing. I give her kudos for doing it in person, but come on...
#3: that's just not right.
(0)What a bitch. Usually I believe a face-to-face break up is best, but in situations like this....it just isn't. Sorry, dude. :(
#32 - On 05/05/2009 at 11:30am by audiogasmic
(0)#27 youre an idiot, i was reading this on my iphone and found a computer to tell you how much of an idiot you are,
if you really think it was an online relationship don't you think she would've broken up with him ONLINE? how does he deserve it? he paid to visit his "long distance girlfriend" not "online girlfriend" (pay attention) and she broke up with him, HALFWAY through his visit; and that was cute how u tried to justify your assumptions, almost anticipating someone to make fun of you
and to all the people saying "atleast she did it in person
-would you really rather spend almost $600 and most likely take a weekend off work to visit your bf/gf to be broken up with a day before you leave? or would u rather be broken up with over a phone call? if you picked in person you should mail me money cause you don't deserve it
(0)Your ex-girlfriend is a stupid ,stupid bitch.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, be glad it's over, 'cause she sounds like a crazy one.
(0)I've been there. I know it sucks. Except my long distance boyfriend pretended like everything was okay for the week I was there and broke up with me out of the blue right when I was leaving.
#36 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:04pm by bri79
(0)Why would you pay all those fees to go back early? take the rest of the trip as a vacation. Anyway, she should have broken up with you over the phone.
(0)what you PROBABLY forgot to mention is that you guys were already in a bad place concerning your relationship and you thought you could save it if you just went home and tried to make up or w/e... so it's nobody's fault but your own that you spent all that money. and she PROBABLY told you not to bother because there was really no point in trying to salvage the relationship... now how would i guess all this? because i'm the girl that dumped him, and he cheated on me with my sister. nice try though.
(0)Eek. What a bitch. I bet she thought it would be honest to tell it to your face which is a niave move because you're out a whole bunch of money on a girl who doesn't care.
But #38 does bring up a good point even though [s]he is more than likely just a troll and not the real girlfriend: did she tell you not to bother coming out to see her?
(0)forget that noise! that almost happened to me. trip already booked. unexpectedly got dumped days before the trip. I demanded that he reimburse me for plane ticket expenses for being such a dick and waiting until the last minute to break up a long-term long distance thing. i paid a change-flight fee and went to visit a friend and have fun in another city instead.
#41 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:31pm by lifeisperfect
(0)Ok, firstly, you definitely did not add all of the context. You guys may have been ending for a while, and you were holding onto a thread of what you used to have. Long distance def doesn't work when both parties aren't committed. And did you surprise her with this trip or what? Because that puts her in an awkward position if she had been wanting to break up with you for a while, but wanted to do it face to face like any good person should do it. Would it have been better over the phone??? or better yet, through facebook??? and you didn't have to leave early either. I'm sure it was a decent enough sized city (or there was a close enough one nearby) that you could have stayed at until the week was over. It sucks that she dumped you, but thats life. get over it.
#42 - On 05/05/2009 at 12:36pm by lafemme
(0)It sounds like you're better off without her! Obviously this girl did not have enough curteousy and respect to break up with you before you spent hundreds of dollars on an airline ticket to go and visit her.
(0)How can someone who can't even spell paid correctly have that much money to throw away? If you're that upset about the money you spent, maybe you shouldn't have spent it. You're obviously not heartbroken, so I have no sympathy for you, sorry.
#45 - On 05/05/2009 at 1:19pm by coffeennicotine
(0)LDRs are one case where phone breakups might be more kind.
#47 - On 05/05/2009 at 2:12pm by FoundManyLemons
(0)Damn man, that sucks. I understand that some people feel bad about breaking up with people not face to face, but I think a phone call would've been appropriate there.
(0)Most US airlines (minus Southwest) will let you standby on earlier flights with no penalties. Just in case it ever happens again.
#51 - On 05/05/2009 at 3:21pm by horker1
(0)Sorry Dude. But look at it this way: Experience always comes at a cost. in your case was a very quantifiable cost. Around 550 bucks. Live, learn, and move on.
#52 - On 05/05/2009 at 3:37pm by maxximillian
(0)That happened to my best friend -- spent about $600 and cut her Christmas vacation with her family short to see her boyfriend in Colorado. He then broke up with her after a day of her being there.
#53 - On 05/05/2009 at 4:21pm by asomedaywriter
(0)Thats when u do not by a ticket back early but find one of her friends who doesn't (even better if she does) know u, the closer the better and spend one extra night. O and make sure she finds out.
#55 - On 05/05/2009 at 4:46pm by Figure_it_out
(0)shouldve complained and demand her to give you money.
#56 - On 05/05/2009 at 4:47pm by lilhommiedizzle
(0)FHL for not telling you before you got there? O if you were like my ex, we had broken up but he suprise visited me to sorry for cheating in person! He probably paid over $1000. Point is i didn't ask him to visit me coz we were over. If this is the case YDI coz sum guys just don't listen. It aint cute when you cheat!!!
#57 - On 05/05/2009 at 4:52pm by tWitt3rBuG
(0)WTF is a "long distance" girlfriend?
You shouldn't be too broken up about this. First, you learned an expensive and important lesson: dont spend a lot of money to go visit a "girlfriend" that you rarely see. Second, now you're free to have a real girlfriend, instead of a pretend one.
If it helps cheer you up... just pretend it didnt happen! Now that you're back home, you can just still pretend she's your girlfriend. You'll still never see her (just as you usually never saw her) and she'll never know that you still think she's your girlfriend. In fact, you can have a dozen "long distance girlfriends... that is, a lot of chicks who live far away from you that you never see. If that's what you're into...
(0)tisk tisk tisk... we've all heard it " Long distance realationships don't work." but guess you found that out..sorry for your loss I guess
#61 - On 05/05/2009 at 5:31pm by RiChY_BaBy08
(0)#59 Just because a relationship is long distance doesn't mean that the people involved never see each other... obviously if you live half the world away from your significant other you're not going to see each other often, but that's not always the case. My bf and I live about 250 miles from each other, and while that's obviously long distance we see each other nearly every weekend... you just find the cheapest travel options and take turns.
(0)That Sucks Dude, Bitch Shuda Called You Beforehand If She Wanted To Break Up
#64 - On 05/05/2009 at 7:09pm by Always_And_Never
(0)What a bitch.
I bet you were hoping for a lot of sex. I would've done the motel thing... and send her an e-mail with a pic of the girl you're fucking every night.
(0)Aw, I'm sorry ):
It still sucks, but I completely agree with #8
#67 - On 05/05/2009 at 9:06pm by xohxbrittanyrae
(0)Wow. She could've at least dumped you before you spent money to go see her. I'm sorry.
#65, don't be a jerk. If you don't care or want to give any words of support in situations like these, then don't comment. In fact, don't read FMLs. In fact, don't even come to the website. And obviously the OP cares. If I were him, I would be upset too.
#27, he never said he met the girl online. Maybe he did, but it could just as well be that they dated, and she moved, and they wanted to continue their relationship.
#68 - On 05/05/2009 at 9:25pm by ILoveJace01
(0)WHAT A BITCH!!!! At least she could've broken up with you over the phone, so you wouldn't have to spend $550
#70 - On 05/05/2009 at 9:49pm by noshitsherlock
(0)dude... My friend did the same thing to his girlfriend. I must've told him like a hundred times just to break up with her over the phone but no, he wanted "to do it in person so I don't look like an ass."
Best part? Her plane got in Wednesday and left Monday. He broke up with her on Thursday.
Moral(s) of the story:
it could have been worse
&
your girlfriend probably just thought that she was actually being nicer this way.
#71 - On 05/05/2009 at 10:02pm by 7_______7_______
(0)Michael??
if not...
i gotta say this to everyone else.
i was in the same situation...i broke up with him because he ignored me once he landed and continued talking to some girl that called him babe and said she missed him and loved him. and his response to who is this was "some girl i met threw my sister"
gotta hear the whole story.
but if she really did break up for no reason. holy crap this chick needs a reality check
#72 - On 05/05/2009 at 11:15pm by ivegotanangel
(0)you didn't have to leave so penalties are YDI
better than a dump email or text... even over the phone would sorta suck.... though i've done a break up over the phone....
#76 - On 05/06/2009 at 12:13pm by yes_yes_yes
(0)i agree with #6. this really makes me sick to my stomach knwing that people really do shit like this. sorry! there are wayyy more people out there!
(0)I know how that feels happened to me on V-day up in WA.
#79 - On 05/06/2009 at 8:11pm by nelsonsrms
(0)yeah same here. my girlfriend let me drive 30 hours to visit her for a week, then 2 days in she tells me she doesn't want to be my gf anymore and expects me to be ok with it, like i'm supposed to spend the rest of the week with her and make her feel good about herself. but no fuckin way . . . i peaced out and spent the rest of the week with some really good friends an hour south, drinking and fucking my vacation away.
(0)if 38 is telling the truth than i take back my initial FYL and call you a gigantic gaping asshole and to stop feeling sorry for yourself and work on abeing a non-crappy boyfriend...
However, if she's just some crazy chick, than, i'm sorry that happened and there are plently of other chicks out there who actually live near you.
#81 - On 05/06/2009 at 11:54pm by waxstigmata
(0)As for people saying LDR's don't work - they do if both people want them to work. I was in a long distance relationship for over a year and we are now married.
As for the op, you should have flown Southwest. No fees to change your tickets. :)
(0)Oh nooo you poor thing =( That was inconsiderate. I hope you find someone nicer.
#86 - On 05/07/2009 at 7:22pm by redmuffler
(0)#33 he never actually gave any details on anything, for what we know he got out of a situation that was going nowhere anyway. Not being an asshole, just realistic. If he actually had known her and spent more time with her before she moved away, then it's a different situation. If they planned to move near eachother, different situation. If a relationship goes on where it's just seeing someone a week every few months or so, with no intentions to see more of eachother, then its going nowhere.
#87 - On 05/08/2009 at 1:35pm by primogen18
(0)haha, wow, that sounds like my story. A week before spring break, i bought plane tickets to visit my friends and my ex. My ex and i only broken up because i moved a couple months before. So my friends and i set up this elaborate way for me to surprise him...the day after i bought the tickets..i found out he had a new gf. it fucking sucked
#88 - On 05/08/2009 at 10:36pm by heyyitsmee
(0)wow wat a bitch i would've made her pay for the ticket home
#90 - On 05/10/2009 at 3:19am by cguardchik_012
(0)Just hire an assassin or sniper. One shot and shes dead.
#94 - On 05/17/2009 at 8:08am by 111newmenultra
(0)Tough break buddy. But you are the umpteenth person to write "payed" -- I hope your math is better than your spelling.
#95 - On 07/05/2009 at 7:06am by woltfire
(0)welp, have to take that as a lesson learned. Bitches suck
#98 - On 04/02/2010 at 5:34pm by bittersweet1
