Today, I hooked up with the guy I've been seeing. Apparently he doesn't believe in condoms and took it off without my knowing; I didn't realize until after. When I asked him in horror why he would do such a thing, he said "I love you. I want you to have my child." It had been our second date. FML
I agree, your life sucks (46783) - you totally deserved it (20375)
On 08/09/2009 at 2:07pm - intimacy - by SoniaLovesYou - United States (North Carolina)
oh also, I take 6 pills a day to control the symptoms, which don't always go away with meds, and I see four different doctors for my problem, so to have to see someone else and take another pill isn't exactly easy.
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Haven't people learned yet that sex ruins people's lives? Because, after all, this IS a website about stories of how your life got ruined. And many, many fmls are about sex. Sex is for making babies, and if you misuse it, like most people, you end up on here.
PS if this gets thumbs down and buried, good job. I don't care.
Sex ruins peoples lives? Are you saying you, as a result of sex have ruined your parent's lives? And I don't get where this conviction that 'sex is just for babies' comes from. For human beings, and a fair few closely related species, it is more than that. You may as well say 'food is just a fuel source', and that eating for enjoyment or socially is wrong.
#91 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:30pm by Apocalyptus
He didn't say sex always ruins people's lives. But in many cases, it does.
#93 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:36pm by iSmellNice
A direct quote: "sex ruins people's lives". I think that implies that CL41RE is saying that it does, in most if not all circumstances.
Irresponsible sex can and does ruin lives. The OP was trying to be safe and yet we're all insulting her for some reason.
#103 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:53pm by Apocalyptus
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Dude, just because your probably some stupid catholic bitch who doesn't believe in sex or fun, that doesnt mean u have to share your misery with the rest of the world when you cause yourself to be miserable! She isnt a whore her boyfriend s just a bit stupid and doesn't realize how having a baby changes everything.
p.s. you name shockingly resembles cum off! KumoFF7 i mean seriously, wtf? mean
#105 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:06pm by patheticnoob212
What the hell is with you idiots saying ydi for having sex on a second date? Is that a bit early to hook up? Probably. But for the love of everything holy she does not DESERVE to possibly have her entire future completely fucked just cause she made a simple mistake. All of you are sitting up on such high horses you can't even see the ground. Hell, I wouldn't be surprised to find out that each of you has had a one night stand at one point anyway.
hahahahaha #1
OP- You really had sex on your second date? That qualifies as slutty. But hope you don't have a kid.
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Wtf were you doing not in the kitchen, bitch? Know your place.
#160 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:45am by MisterHenry
This should be one of those times when its right for the girl to call "rape" even though it wasn't really. I mean, there's some implicit contract that you'll only do it with a condom, and he took it off without your knowledge or permission, that's breaking the contract, and if you knew you wouldn't have consented, making it rape.
The irony is, you are probably right.
I mean, it is the second date - and who the hell says she hasn't known him for awhile prior? Hell, I went on one date before I started 'dating' my current boyfriend, after knowing him a few months, and in less then a month we were fooling around - not having sex yet due to complications, but yeah. Does that make me a whore too, then?
#186 - On 08/10/2009 at 4:33am by BLNovelist
Actually, she deserves it. Anyone who has sex with someone they don't know very well should be able to handle the consequences. Shows just how a "simple, let me add, THOUGHTLESS mistake" can have a life-changing effect. Don't say she isn't to blame. Everyone has their own judgement, it's not anyone's fault if it's impaired.
#204 - On 08/10/2009 at 7:19am by Kiwi_Splash
now why would you say that? what's wrong with having sex on the second date if they both want it, both know what the deal is and take care of protection? obviously in this case, the guy turned out to be a fucking nut. but generally why shouldn't people have sex on the first or second or even third date if they want to?
#181: Clearly. She consented to sex provided he wore a condom. He took it off, making it sex she didn't consent to. I'm not one to cry rape, but, well, there's only so many ways of terming non-consensual sex.
#212 - On 08/10/2009 at 8:59am by noclevername
i won't say ydi but... if you're going to sleep with someone on the second date.... you should be careful
the fact that he said he loves you and wants you to have his baby doesn't really mean he loves you.
a man who REALLY loves you will respect your decisions in the matter and won't force his sperm on you, when you clearly indicated you didn't want him to get you pregnant.
#229 - On 08/10/2009 at 10:34am by were_giraffe
There's nothing wrong with having sex on the second date. I had sex with my girlfriend at the time on the third date and we're married now.
#235 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:14pm by esquared77
What's wrong with having sex on the second date?
Well, the fact that even if you use protection or are on birth control pills or anything short of having your tubes tied, the man having a vasectomy, or the man/woman being infertile, there is still the chance of getting pregnant. Yes, the girl thought that the guy had on a condom but even with a condom she still could've gotten pregnant. She should be ready for the consequences of her actions. YDI.
#249 - On 08/10/2009 at 5:18pm by livexlaughxlove1
This site is evidence that sex ruins people's lives? Based on that conclusion, I guess having a mom also ruins people's lives, since there are so many stories about inconsiderate mothers on this site.
Come on. There are plenty of happy, sexually active people, who have not had their lives ruined by sex, and will never need to post on sites like this about it because their sex lives are safe, healthy and happy. When you come here, you're only seeing the bad. That doesn't mean the good is nonexistent.
#298 - On 08/30/2009 at 7:13pm by neptuneflytrap
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third
#3 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:06pm by Unregistered
Seriously? How can OP not tell the difference between condom penis and no-condom penis??
Fake. If she was really concerned about this, she would have charged him with rape, since technically, if she agrees to sex with a condom and the condom is removed, then her consent is no longer valid, therefore, he just forced her to have unprotected sex.
What should OP do now? Call the police or start filing for child support.
#13 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:17pm by xTIGERxLILYx
not only that, but why wouldn't she be on the pill? She gives it up on the second date, so you'd think that she would be on it.
Anyway, OP deserves everything. I hope she got crabs or something.
#26 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:54pm by genius_man16
sex is good. as long as your safe. and she was TRYING to be, until the werido took OOFFFF the condom
you can't always tell the difference between a condom and no-condom, especially if there is a lot of...lubrication...going on down there.
#130 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:13am by cherlana32
"How can OP not tell the difference between condom penis and no-condom penis??"
While having sex the condom broke. I couldnt freaken tell. I was enjoying the sex. My ass of a boyfriend never even told me it broke until I found out I was pregnant. When I told him he just said "Oh yeah, forgot to mention once a condom broke"
You as a man might be able to feel the difference but women don't.
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EVERYONE CALLING HER A SLUT IS FUCKING STUPID.
i'm betting you are still in middle school. :/
and know nothing about sex, for that matter
sex on a second date does not make someone a slut,
it makes them pretty damn fucking NORMAL.
there is nothing wrong with sex on a second date
you need to know if you are sexually compatible early on anyway :/
sex is not DIRTY or GROSS or any of those things
there is NO REASON to wait and have sex.
it is not SPECIAL. sex is just sex.
it's like eating cake, a treat, sure,
but there's no fucking reason to wait until your wedding night to do it.
: /
#162 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:57am by monicamischief
"it is not SPECIAL. sex is just sex." - Maybe if you didn't think that having sex on the second date is perfectly normal, you'd find it a littl more special.
You "NEED" to know if you are sexually compatible??? Well I think knowing whether or not you are compatible in terms your views on love, children, and how serious of a relationship you are looking for is a little more important.
#185 - On 08/10/2009 at 4:19am by twist_n_shout
I'm pretty sure whether or not she knew him prior to dating him IS relevant - most if not all of the assholes here that scream YDI for sleeping with him so early on claim the fact that she's a whore because she doesn't know the guy - and knowing him prior to even dating, I would think, would toss that bullshit reasoning out the window.
#187 - On 08/10/2009 at 4:35am by BLNovelist
actually, knowing whether or not you are sexually compatible is VERY important to a relationship. If the sex sucks, theres ALWAYS going to be a sense of being unfulfilled, and no matter how many kids you have, or what kind of job, or what other things you do together, you're never going to be truly happy. Tons of couples end up getting divorced because they waited to have sex until they were married, and it sucks, and they are unhappy, and they only stay together for a year or two because they can't take it anymore. Their needs aren't being met.
#231 - On 08/10/2009 at 10:49am by Gillypants
But there are even more couples out there who get divorced because they were so busy finding out their sexual compatibility, they didn't realize they were incompatible in terms of their fundamental beliefs and values!
#239 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:33pm by twist_n_shout
Not every girl can be on the pill. I can't because I have a family history of it causing cancer in my family. Like the OP I stick to condoms when I sleep with a guy.
#245 - On 08/10/2009 at 3:23pm by StarCutie83
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SLUT
#6 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:08pm by chipmunk95
*rolls eyes at #3*
Sorry if I posted this before, but how did you not notice that the condom was off? I though that plastic/latex would feel different from flesh, but correct me if I'm wrong, cause I've never had sex :P
But still, that's messed up.
#7 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:08pm by rv14142
Maybe it was her first time? It can hurt like hell. I know I wouldn't know the difference.
#58 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:01pm by catladymar
well then she fails for losing her virginity to a guy on their second freaking date.
and yes you CAN feel the difference, no matter how into you are, how excited you are, even if your vagina is loose as a goose and dripping wet you can feel the difference.
the OP is lying.
#99 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:43pm by bellaellaella
Wish I could say this WAS fake, but sadly it happened.
Although it shouldn't matter, I will go ahead and mention that the guy is Mexican and most likely grew up in a culture that generally looks down on contraception; but it doesn't excuse what he did. Thanks to those of you expressing concern; I plan on taking the morning after pill and everything should be fine, but I am still intensely freaked over this. To those of you thinking I deserved it, I'll mention that I DID know the guy previous to this and quite liked him; this was a part of himself that he kept hidden until now. To those calling me a slut: I agree that sex has taken over our culture, especially with regard to young people, but having what I thought was safe sex with someone I knew and liked (and didn't realize was a psychopath!) does not mean that I have no self control.
And Ichigoner, you're absolutely right - this guy and the "Be my baby's daddy!" girl would make a perfect couple, and probably end up making that octuplet mom look bad....
#106 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:07pm by SoniaLovesYou
im srry for calling you a slut i didnt read this comment before hand aand thought you barly knew him
I love that you clarified the situation!
I wasn't going to call you a slut or anything, you're 20, you're old enough to have sex with whomever and whenevr you want. You were trying to be safe and he screwed it up. But I'm glad you threw this justification in the face face of all the "slut"-calling people! I hate when people just jump to conclusions.
And you know how to spell correctly and use good grammar...I LOVE YOU for that ;)
Good for you for taking the morning after pill, too! That shows responsibilty...
#156 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:30am by Puolukka
While I will retract my statement about you getting crabs, I still think you kind of deserved it for not being on the pill if you're going to have sex with a guy who isn't your bf.
and by deserved it i mean deserve the freak out, not potentially getting preggers
#159 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:44am by genius_man16
Is it weird that I pictured the guy as a latino? Maybe I just know my cultures well. Or maybe I'm psychic! :D
or maybe you're just an idiot for automatically assuming that he's latino when she never specifies if he is.
#178 - On 08/10/2009 at 3:25am by lalalove_x3
i had a similar experiance with my daughters father (who is mexican too... lol) but it was the 3rd time we ever had sex.... i had made him wait 4months before doing anything witth him...
#183 - On 08/10/2009 at 4:06am by lokiitababii69
Sorry this had to happen to you.
Sad how crazy some people can be sometimes. Hope things work out for ya
so what happends when you can't be on teh pill because ti give you blood clots?
#198 - On 08/10/2009 at 6:33am by supercatgirl
You must have completely deadened nerves in there if you couldn't tell!! Flesh & flesh-coated-in-latex feel very different. Also, I agree with #7. Plan B, go.
Well, if she was dumb enough to do sex so soon, maybe she was dumb enough to not be able to notice.
Or, she might have been too concerned with the ~PASSION~ to notice.
[edit] Fuck, this was meant to be a reply. FML is being retarded for me.
#11 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:22pm by DameGreyWulf
just so you know not all people can use birth control like my girlfriend for example has clotting issues
#94 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:36pm by penecow290
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Wait, lemme get this straight? You had sex after the second date, and you're not even together? I think that's a YDI for jumping straight in there.
#12 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:15pm by Curtieeeez
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ydi for having sex.
ydi for not checking if he had it on.
ydi for having a vagina.
ydi for having a boyfriend.
ydi for being fertile.
ydi for not wanting a baby.
but seriously, dont fuck unless youre prepared to hold a burping puking crapping little shit in nine months.
#15 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:22pm by penizulaface
unfortunatly you cannot always. vaginas cannot tell the difference between things as sensitively as hands can. I had a condom burst and i didn't notice but my bf did and stopped immediatly. Luckily I was on the pill so it wasn't a big deal.
As the OP did not know he took the condom off she cannot say how long it was off for, he could have timed it very well so she wouldnt notice or took it off straight away meaning there would be no subtle change in senstation alerting her.
this DEFINITELY depends on the person, i don't use condoms because i'm allergic to latex and most types of rubber, i use other forms of contraception, but when i was still using them, i could always feel when the condom broke, and my bf usually did not notice.
#233 - On 08/10/2009 at 11:01am by Gillypants
Get the morning after pill, and don't EVER see him again. Some psycho that wants a baby this fast is NUTS. Of course, you are'nt too smart for having sex ON THE SECOND DATE! FAIL!
#17 - On 08/09/2009 at 7:30pm by OneandOnlyOne
Um... it's even more risky with two condoms, since they're more likely to rip.
THE MORE YOU KNOW.
#74 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:40pm by thebootyfaerie
how is it her fault that some crazy weirdo took off the condom during?
having sex on the 2nd date has nothing to do with it.
#144 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:51am by killingart
She consented to sex with a condom. He took off the condom, so it becomes sex she didn't consent to. Call it what you like.
#213 - On 08/10/2009 at 9:04am by noclevername
it doesnt matter that she slept with him that soon, ever heard of hooking up and not dating ? people do it all the time and fyi you cant tell if theres no condom just by feel
-"I couldn't tell I was drunk"
-"Was ur vagina drunk what you think it was the thinnest condom in the world? What am I a fuckin inventor I made a dick skin condom? Oh he hollowed out a penis and put it on WTF"
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thats what you get for not keeping your legs closed. i dont understand why people have such a hard time with that these days. i hope you learned your lesson and next time at least wait until you know the dudes last name..
I don't think she deserves it. If she wants to have sex with someone on a second date that's her perogative. She could have known him before. If I were her I'd tell him about the herepes they could share along with their child.
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Why don't you take responsibility for birth control?
She did but the guy took it off. Not every women in the world can go on the pill or have the implant.
And going by your picture musikbox, there is no reason for you to be on the pill.
#77 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:59pm by bskballa92
Good God, who has sex on the second date? You're both very nasty ass people! I'd check for STDs in addition to pregnancy.
#35 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:27pm by Phillay632
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second date??? nuff said YDI
#36 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:23pm by justmyluck1212
Sue him for any medical bills! Intentional infliction of emotional distress and battery!
#37 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:24pm by splinterette
Lmao User Name, you're such a fucking retard. Who would invade? Canada???? Mexico??? Cuba??? The Eskimos? Lmfao, get the fuck out of here. Dumb as fuck. Don't be an ignorant moron please. And PLEASE have some sort of common sense before posting retarded statements. Maybe people won't think you're retarded or incompetent.
Btw, OP, YDI and FYL. No one said to have sex after the second date. He loves you now but when you get pregnant, I'm sure he won't love you anymore. Sucks for you.
#118 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:31pm by Whatevers_clever
I think you should take your own advice Whatevers_clever. Your entire rant there showed just how ignorant you are.
1. There are a few countries in Asia/Europe that have the power to oppose america, especially if they make an alliance
2. The term Eskimo is a rude slang name for the Inuit, who live in Canada and Alaska
3. Just because it's the second date doesn't mean they've only been seeing each other for a week or less, I have been seeing my gf for months and we've only been on one actual date. And no, it isn't a internet relationship, and we see each other often.
And to OP: That really blows, and I feel bad that there are so many retards on this website... I guess not even FMyLife is safe from them. I hope nothing comes of it, although I really don't understand how you didn't notice the lack of a condom, I've been told that it's very noticeable.
If you'd been seeing your gf for months, you'd say that, you would describe your relationship as "this girl I've been on one date with". The OP was obviously 'on her second date' with the guy.
#243 - On 08/10/2009 at 2:43pm by Achromatic
Women shouldn't be judged more harshly than men for having any kind of sex. Period. Now I'm going to go prove my point and make a statement with my boyfriend by tying him up and branding him.
you put out after the second date? YDI x 1000 for being a slut.
#42 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:39pm by diabetic_rage
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YDI for boinkin' him on the second date.
#43 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:40pm by roberto7456
Idk if all the people above are messing around or are just complete retards, but if any of this is true.. he can easily be reported to the cops. Fuck that shit. Just because you (both) wanna get some, doesn't mean he has any right to impregnate you. WTH is wrong with people.
and what exactly would the cops do? if OP is over 18 then they can't do anything because she was consenting.. they would most likely just tell her that she should have been more careful or something of the sort
ZOMFG! You dirty slut! How dare you do what 75 percent of humans do and give in to your sexual urges before you're married?! You totally deserve it for that reason and that reason alone, because YOU (You, OP, not your psycho ass boyfriend.) were being responsible by wanting to have safe sex. (Annnd, I'm done with sarcasm...)
You don't deserve it at all. Seriously. Who gives a shit if it was your second date, or your two year anniversary. What he did was awful, plain and simple.
#51 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:52pm by AndelleRae
Agreed. I don't get why people are going so fucking crazy over this. Sex is sex. Who gives a shit when people decide to do it? It's a simple act of sticking a dick into a vagina. If they want it, go for it. It didn't give him the right to fuck her over like that - at least she was going for protection. And, FYI to all the idiots, it can be difficult to determine if a condom is on, especially if the woman is creating a lot of lubrication. FYL, dear.
#96 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:38pm by airbornerose
Agreed. Why do people care so much what others do with their genitals?
There are some major prudes on this site!
I call fake, for a girl who's obviously had enough sex to feel comfortable getting intimate with a man on the second date itself, you can certainly tell the difference between a condom and no condom. It's a little too evident!
Not necessarily, some condoms are super htin, plus if it was in the heat of the moment she might now have felt the difference....sounds like you're a little inexperienced to make that call
#54 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:59pm by vanaathiel
Even if perchance this actually is real, she deserved for having sex only on a second date, and for not noticing. I'm a virgin and a guy, but I can't imagine how you wouldn't feel if the condom wasn't on.
#55 - On 08/09/2009 at 8:59pm by israelnotjacob
#55... #54 is right. There are condoms designed to feel as close to nothing as possible. If they were using one of those, then there would have barely been a difference. Why do you think there's so many stories about couples not noticing when a condom breaks? You're proving the stereotype of virgins not possessing any sexual knowledge right and it's lame.
Furthermore, we don't know how much time had passed between the first and second date. We don't know if they already knew each other before the dating even started. And regardless, how is it any of our business? It's still fucked up that he tried to impregnate her without her consent.
#75 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:42pm by SomeonePosting
Exactly
And its not like she is thinking does he have it on? If she knew he had one on and then he took it off she is probably to busy thinking about other things like how good it felt etc...if it felt good idk, anyways the point is when we have sex we arnt thinking about the feeling of the condom on the guys dick, we are to busy thinking about how good it feels and stuff in that category
and yeah she sorta diserves it if it was the second date but then again they could of known eachother for years we dont know
#82 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:08pm by tab_ga1990
#82 says it right on.
i totally agree.
why would she even bother to think about whether or not he has it on if he put it on?
way to f.uc.k you over. FYL
Some women can feel a condom, some can't. I can go into what it feel like for me personally and what my friends have said, but I'd rather not.
I think accusations of cheating are irrelevant, the main thing is he went against her wishes and possibly got her pregnant : / not to mention abusing her trust.
#197 - On 08/10/2009 at 6:28am by misty_donna
YDI - why would you have sex with him anyways on a second date?
#60 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:06pm by ugottalickit
im actually quite surprised that your comment didnt get buried yet lol. but i gave you a thumbs up because your statement was partially true.
My thoughts exactly, YDI for fucking on the second date. Get to know a person first. Sure a ONS is different, but this isn't a ONS. So YDI for being a slut
#65 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:14pm by UpYourself
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Maybe this will teach you to think before you fuck.
Break it off, file a police report for rape, get the morning after pill, and stop having sex with people on the second date.
#73 - On 08/09/2009 at 9:34pm by orangef1zz
Its Hanger Time!
And CL41RE, go shove a cactus up your ass, sex is great. I feel bad for pansexuals like you
You deserve it for having sex with a guy you hardly know. Maybe now you'll learn to keep your legs closed and learn some self control.
Well you shouldnt be havin sex wit someone on your second date without really knowing everything about them
I've read this somewhere before...so either you submitted it twice (once a while ago, and once now), or someone is stealing this story and faking it as their own.
People are judgmental, idiotic fucks. Everyone is slamming the girl for deciding to have sex after 2 dates, but no one is slamming the guy for fucking her life over! Choosing to have sex early, and she did it thinking it was PROTECTED, is not anywhere near as bad as him risking impregnating her without her consent!
#98 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:41pm by airbornerose
have any of you ever been to college? waiting until the second date to have sex practically makes you a prude when you're a college student (I'm exaggerating, just to make it clear to any dumbasses). But with the hookup culture that I see every day, actually dating someone instead of just hooking up is impressive. Also, it's none of anyone's business what others do with their genitals, so stop calling her a slut. This isn't the 1950s.
With that said, what he did was wrong and possibly illegal. Good for you that you at least tried to be safe and get Plan B.
#100 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:50pm by greenfairy
im sorry but every one is so gullable. shes lying and shes a fucking whore.
#102 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:52pm by FMLROCKSMASOCKS
Hahahahahaha what a freak!!!! Well maybe u shouldn't have done it on the second date with HIM
#104 - On 08/09/2009 at 10:57pm by wowthanks123
its only your second date, have you no self respect for yourself? and if you planned on having sex you should have told him that a condom is a must. and he doesnt love you, im sure he said that because you gave it up so easily, and wants more and every girl wants to feel loved.
#107 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:13pm by Charmaine23
Why the hell would you have sex with a guy on your second date? and #100 I AM in college and if people found out i had sex with a guy on out 2nd date I'd be a slut!
But seriously what a creep! Go get the morning after pill just to be sure!
#108 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:13pm by Queen_of_Night
FYL &+ YDI
YDI for having sex on only the second date !?
&+ FYL because well, that happened. hahah.
#114 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:22pm by xxrawr_betchxx
Excuse me.
This woman is not a slut, she's a smart and wonderful girl.
So shut up, please, people and stop insulting my sister because there's no point in being vicious except for attempting to make yourself feel better. Guess what? It doesn't actually work.
I can't really believe I'm actually arguing on FML, but, honestly. This girl is actually real and some of us really really love her. Please. Stop being ignorant, close-minded, and cruel.
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she your sister well your sister is a SLUT srry to break it to you
agreeing with #116. OP didn't put up this fml to be judged!
#200 - On 08/10/2009 at 6:37am by misty_donna
WTF did she put it up for, sympathy? Has she never read FML before? Did she actually expect a lot of sincere, genuine, empathic and consolatory replies?
If so, maybe she's naive on more than one level...
#244 - On 08/10/2009 at 2:47pm by Achromatic
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Yeah, murder your unborn child, that's the definite way to go.
#122 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:46pm by sportastef
Yeah, cause I'm sure an unshaped fetus that doesn't have a mind of its own would really care if it's being destroyed. It's called 'canceling pregnancy'
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That's your fault for having sex on the second date you whore!
#119 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:34pm by jbomber461
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YDI for doing a guy you barely know.
#120 - On 08/09/2009 at 11:45pm by rsbaseballfreak
Coming from someone with the same experience I would like to clear up a few facts.
Firstly, this woman is part of a minute proportion of women who will admit to this happening, I was so ashamed I could barely tell my mum, let alone a bunch of idiots like you who seem to find this amusing.
Secondly, and this is serious, when a boy/man/psycho wants to take the condom off, he will and you won't notice, you don't even notice them breaking their stride, even for those with experience.
Thirdly, this person should be reported. I always regret I didn't have the guts to, since the same guy has made three girls pregnant and has tried the same with at least 5 other girls, I will always live with the shame that I could have stopped those unwanted pregnancies and not left them to contemplate abortion or raising a father-less child. Please, for the sake of yourself, this male and the other women who he may try to smooth talk into his bedroom, call the police, they can't help us unless we help them.
And ALWAYS, ALWAYS be proud that you could admit this experience to others, you have a lot more balls than I ever will!
The second date? Really? That's quite fast. Stop dating this guy and get on the pill. And be careful about what you do in the future.
I gave this a YDI, because you were not on birth control. I should have given you an FYL after reading the OP's comment. The OP trusted the guy enough to have sex with him, but he had other ideas. At least the OP is smart and responsible and got plan b.
Can we please stop the double standard with women and sex? Men like sex, women like sex. If the man has sex on the 2nd date he is considered cool, but the girl is scorned for it. Be smart, protect yourself from pregnancy and STD's, and do what you think is the best choice of action. You only have one life, enjoy it.
#131 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:14am by Pethegreat
I agree that the pill is a good idea, but not everyone can take it. It can cause serious complications. Don't get me wrong, I take it myself, but it is not an option for every woman.
She was trying to be safe with a condom, unaware what this guy was up to. Not to mention, the condom blocks STDs.
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umm sweetie, you had sex with him on your second date, you had this one comin. pill or no pill.
#138 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:24am by truthhurts333666
Plan B might help prevent the OP from unwanted pregnancy, but STDs are still something to consider. Get tested.
#141 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:31am by englishmuffin
YDI for listening to all the morons who think it is fine to hook up.
#143 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:48am by I_am_stupid_also
I really do feel bad for you. You should report him or something. What a creepy creepy dude...
#146 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:57am by killingart
Morning-after pill. Now. You're in North Carolina, which might make it hard, but try a big city like Raleigh or something.
lmao at all the high and mighty ppl that are flaming the OP for having sex on the second date just to make themselves feel like they're doing something right with there lives. As if you cock therapists are completely pure and haven't so much as accidently dry humped someone, let alone actually had sex with them, or God forbid.......had a "hook up" o.0....dun dun dunhhhhhh Get the fuck outta here...damn hypocrites. So was she supposed to wait til the third date? Would that make it ok? Even if it was a week after the second one and she only knew him for 2 months? You people are fucking idiots......ok end rant :D
OP: that sux, though your post reminds me of the one where the chick yelled "Be my babby's daddy!!!" and locked her legs around the guy right as he came lol
#149 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:06am by razzumfrazzum
ok your a slut if you have sex on your SECOND date!!!!
#152 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:09am by twilightlover15
K, not a good idea to have sex that soon, but I suggest that if and when you have that baby you drop it off at his house and leave it there. If he's that obsessed with kids then he can take care of it.
#153 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:17am by xThatRandomGirlx
Humans and dolphians ane the only mamals that have sex for pleasure
#157 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:36am by RideOorDiee
Uh, Bonobos chimpanzees also have sex, both hetero- and homosexual, for more than just reproductive reasons. They do it for bonding and because they feel like it.
#158 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:42am by HannahCanadia
Morning after pill, dumb shit. They aren't expensive. Abortions, however, are. pay $35 now and save $600 later on. :)
600$ for an abortion?
where the hell are you from :|
here you can get abortions for free as long as its before the 3 month mark and only if its like a one time thing .
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ha, thats what you get for being a slut
#164 - On 08/10/2009 at 2:07am by Lifelooser
1) that sucks
2) calling people slutty accomplishes nothing
3) sex is not just sex or else people would not mind getting molested or raped, people would not naturally make suck a big deal out of loosing their virginity nor would they have a natural draw to make such a big thing out of sex. sex is okay, its good, but was created to be in a secure relationship(marriage.) it has been proven that people who wait for marriage have much less of a divorce rate.
Madmad, a couple who does not believe in premarital sex or birth control would most likely not believe in divorce, either. Your alleged sociological findings do not account for happiness or security. It's been my understanding that the religiously self-righteous attack the families of others because they are not content with their own choices.
Sex was never just "created," though I agree it should be saved for a mature, long-term relationship, which doesn't necessarily indicate marriage.
not everyone is totally pure whoever said that learn what your talking about. nobody is totally pure but you can be forgiven.
FYL. Please get yourself Plan B. This guy is a selfish jerk. I only hope there won't be a third date after this incident. Who cares if she had sex with him after only 2 dates! However, getting to know him a little better before hopping into bed might have given you some insight into what kind of crazy guy he is. I really hope you can get the pill, so this will not turn into a possible fuck my life for the next 18 - 22 years. Good luck OP!
not bad, when i get a chick to fall for that one, on the third date, i try, oops i slipped butt sex
#177 - On 08/10/2009 at 3:25am by fucentarmal
FYL, cause well. ouch,
but YDI, for having sex on the second date, you obviously barely knew this guy!!!
#179 - On 08/10/2009 at 3:26am by Devikarawr
I can only hope you stomped on his groin a few times, someone like that shouldn't be breeding. Don't forget to get yourself tested! >.
#182 - On 08/10/2009 at 3:50am by AloysiusWeasley
eh? only your second date and your already having sex with him? ydi
#184 - On 08/10/2009 at 4:09am by Paige_Nicole10
#100: I too am in college and see the same sexual culture you describe. Just because (almost) 'everyone does it' is not a defense. Also, it does not mean that everyone will make the same decision. We all have decisions to make in this life. However, I do think people are being harsh. The OP made a choice to trust someone, who she said she knew, or at least thought she did. It is HIS wrongdoing not hers, though the fact she had sex on a second date is controversial. I think everyone should try a little harder to understand this from her point of view, and remember we all make bad choices at some point.
#149 Some of us really haven't done any of those things. I am in college and have never had sex, but I'm not about to call the OP a slut for this. It really wasn't her fault. This was a matter of trust being misused and broken by someone else. The people saying she is a slut and nothing more should back off. Once is enough, around 200 is just cruelty.
lilyhm: I'm sorry this happened to your sister. I know this can be rough on everyone. I know some people really love her, so don't mind the ridicule of judgemental strangers on the internet. I hope everything has turned out okay, and I can't tell you how much I respect your loyalty and love for your sister. The world needs more people who actually care like you do.
OP: I can't even describe how much I empathize with you. It sounds like you knew and trusted this guy, and he betrayed you. I hope everything turned out all right. Never speak to him again. Forgive him if/when you can, but never forget. Don't ever trust him again, because you deserve better than that. If it is hard lean on your sister. Sometimes it helps to have someone just believe in you, and from the way she responded she sounds like she would go to hell and back with you. Not many sisters would. Mine definitely would not. FYL because this wasn't your fault. I hope you get plan B or something. I sincerely hope that your life is great, and you find someone who can actually value and respect your trust. As for everyone else, tell them to fuck off. It's your life, and nobody else's opinion matters, not even mine.
#188 - On 08/10/2009 at 4:35am by shadow_woman
what a slut! Seriously YDI for being a bitch that have sex on second date. For how long do u know him 2 weeks top? And lets say that u know him for some longer time e.g. U spend some time talking on webcam, didn't u notice that he's alil bit odd and he will do such a thing. Although YDI, I still hope u wont get a kid out of this. Otherwise the kid would be rlly fucked up.
- Mommy where did I come from?
- Oh... Sweetie some retard took the rubber off his dick while I was a slut and here u are.
#192 - On 08/10/2009 at 5:44am by sarcasticbitch
Oh whatever people. she's not a slut, you're just fucked up. Get with the times. How come a man can get with hundreds of chicks and its cool, but a chick can't fuck one guy without being a slut? A slut wouldn't use condoms in the first place.
Anyway, hun, he's a creeper. I had me one of those. Get rid of him.
YDI wtf.must be retarded to not even realise that the guy took off the condom.were u high?
#199 - On 08/10/2009 at 6:36am by miscanon
This is why bitches should take it in the ass until they're married...
#202 - On 08/10/2009 at 7:11am by FlaminYawn
FYL for sure. Not sure how you couldn't realize the condom had been removed, but whatever, I guess everyone's vagina is different. Anyway, the two most important things to do are for you to head to your nearest drugstore to get Plan B and then get yourself tested for STDs. After that making it clear to him that all contact between the pair of you must be severed immediately is imperative. If he resists, threaten a restraining order.
jesus f***ing christ, some people on here really p*ss me off.
So what if she had sex on the 2nd date? Did u hear her? She said she'd been SEEING him a while - that could mean any length of time they've been hanging out/getting to know each other before going on an official "date." And what the hell does it matter anyway? Just because you have sex on the 2nd date, it doesn't make you a "slut." In fact, these days- I'd say it's pretty normal. You have to know if you're sexually compatible from the get-go. There's nothing wrong with that. I had sex with my b/f on the 2nd date and we're still together now - no complications. It's called LIFE, grow the f*** up and go find out for yourself.
And sometimes it's very difficult to tell if there's a condom on, due to many things - excitement, lube, being caught up in the moment, etc.... It's OK for you boys to judge and be all "how can u NOT tell? etc...." but NEWSFLASH - it's incredibly easy not to notice - especially if someone pulls a fast one and takes it off while you're all caught up in the moment.
Guess you haters wouldn't know - in fact, I'm guessing you never got laid. No-one with half a sensible brain who's known the joy and fun of sex would judge the OP for this.
As for the OP - I hope things worked out for u. But that guy sounds ALARMING.
#209 - On 08/10/2009 at 8:12am by fecked_up22
just because it was their second date does not mean she has only met him two times or that she has only known him since just before the first date. Some people know people for months even years before they begin dating. You cant say you deserve it for having sex when she deemed herself ready, you do not know her or him or the things that led up to that desicion being made.
that said this FML is not about the fact that she had sex, its the fact that she tried to be safe and regardless of the fact she is on the pill he had a condom on which he took off without her knowledge and continued to have sex with her. That could have happened after three years of dating the guy. He had forced something upon her which was different to what they had agreed too.
Its a damn shitty situation, stop making the OP feel worse for something that would have happened no matter how long she waited to have sex with the guy.
YDI for having sex on the second date. All of you who defend this action seem to be pushing the opinion that it's normal and ok to do something like that, and it seems to me that you are just making sure everyone is convinced that YOU are also right for doing so or wishing you could. You say that "that's the way it is these days, grow up," or "she doesn't deserve to have her whole life fucked up from one little mistake," but the facts are that just because something is one way these days does not make it right or optimal, i.e. national debt, global warming and humans' continuing contribution thereto. One mistake can destroy, or end, a life or more than one. Just because "these days" it's a common mistake doesn't mean that those who get the most unlucky results did not deserve the consequences of their actions. Our actions always have consequences whether we see them or not, and these consequences are not limited to only ourselves.
The one whose life is most definitely going to be destroyed is the resulting baby. It has a batshit insane father and a mother who makes stupid decisions that the world tells her are OK.
#215 - On 08/10/2009 at 9:27am by Nickelplate
WTF have you read the comments on this site, including the one by the original poster? (not the FML but a comment she made) SHE KNEW THE GUY ALREADY!!!!! who cares how long for. she knew him already had spent time with him, she had told him to use a condom and he didnt. Why cant people understand that even if she had waited he would have done the same thing. How would she have known that he was going to do that. People are good at hiding things they do not want us to know.
YDI. I'm sure it's already been said, but sex on the second date...You obviously don't know the guy all that well. And that is a risk when having sex. STDs and pregnancy...if you aren't ready for the possible consequences, don't do the action.
#217 - On 08/10/2009 at 9:36am by blondie1488
Let the girl do what she wants, don't judge her on having sex with someone soon, damn. I love how everyone here acts like they have never made a mistake. This is what the day-after pill, or an abortion, is for. Pretty simple solution to the problem.
#222 - On 08/10/2009 at 9:46am by hockeyguy289
Hmm... I skipped all the other comments because I don't have that kind of time to read them all, but like... Is it just me, or does it seem like having a child should be a mutual decision? Especially since the man doesn't have to go through the pains of childbirth and pregnancy, he should at least ask her. Which is why the "be my baby's daddy" FML is different. That woman obviously wanted a child, but this woman who wrote the FML didn't. That guy is a jerk, and you should most likely stop seeing him, OP. And if you do wind up having a kid, make him take care of it.
#226 - On 08/10/2009 at 10:11am by lologirl419
YDI for a lot of reasons: Having sex on the second date, relying on the guy to be in charge of birth control, and not paying attention enough to notice that he took the condom off. You're an idiot- go get the morning after pill so you don't pass on your stupidity.
#228 - On 08/10/2009 at 10:20am by deaditegirl
two words. restraining order.
i don't think you're a slut. though, i DO think you should be able to feel the difference between a condom and bare skin......
#230 - On 08/10/2009 at 10:47am by Gillypants
I wouldn't say YDI, but you really shouldn't be having sex on the second date. Still, it was stupid of him, and you should totally dump his sorry ass. And in that slight chance that you get pregnant, make the bastard take care of the kid.
that's disgusting that he did that to you. something similar happened to me once; go buy the morning after pill NOW. expensive... but worth it.
Morning after pill (also known as Plan B). It's a strong dose of birth control that will greatly reduce the chance you get pregnant. And tell your guy to get tested before he even TRIES to remove a condom.
Second date and you are sleeping with him? YDI for being so easy.
Learn some self respect.
#237 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:46pm by SarlaccBits
Hmm. This is both an FYL and a YDI. FYL because the guy obviously has more than a few screws loose. But YDI for sleeping with him on the freaking SECOND DATE. Man, people are such utter *whores* these days. And I say that about *both* genders.
#238 - On 08/10/2009 at 12:56pm by MagicMarker
first of all, there cannot be guy sluts.
he can use girls, but that does not make him a slut because he has a penis.
only girls can be sluts because we have a vag.
second, almost everyone has a one night stand.
its not that big of a deal, she doesnt deserve a kid for that.
third, your supposed to laugh at fmls, not argue and get mad at them.
stop taking everything so fucking seriously and laugh once in a while.
kay? thanks.
#240 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:35pm by mandyreid_
To reference knocked up......
Did you think he was wearing a dick-skin condom? YDI for being a moron.
#241 - On 08/10/2009 at 1:51pm by itypedformiles
how could you not tell the difference between him wearing a condom and him not?? i'm confused. i think you're lying...there's def a difference in the way it feels...
#246 - On 08/10/2009 at 3:26pm by marinewife88
-.- creeper much?
YDI, maybe not have sex on the second date, and MAYbe get to know him.
Now you get a creeper's baby, congrats.
And how can you not tell the difference? its not that hard, without a condom feels better.
You seriously deserve that. You're extremely slutty for having sex on the second date.
Take the time to know the guy first, dumbass.
Wow, I've never been so disgusted with the comments on FML as I am right now. Calling this girl a slut is inappropriate; she tried to be responsible (re: wear a condom) and have a good time and it turns out that her trust was misplaced. I would be interested in seeing how many of the people claiming she deserved it have ever (a) are still virgins- in which case they have no right to judge this girl, having never been in a situation like that before- or (b) how many have had a one night stand in their lives- in which case they're being hypocrites. Furthermore, I don't want to be "that bitch" who pulls the sexism card out now but I seriously doubt that anyone would call a guy who had sex with a woman on the second date a man-whore; they'd probably congratulate him. The girl is in control of her sexuality and suddenly that makes her a "slut"? I don't think so.
What, you guys have NEVER made a decision and regretted it later on? Tell you what, next time you come on here with yet ANOTHER lame, moronic whiny story filled with emo self-righteous teenage angst about how you were drinking underage or partying or whatever and how your parents caught you I'll say YDI right off the bat and give no thought to your side of the story either.
#250 - On 08/10/2009 at 5:25pm by tasha2010
What's wrong with having sex on the second date?
Well, the fact that even if you use protection or are on birth control pills or anything short of having your tubes tied, the man having a vasectomy, or the man/woman being infertile, there is still the chance of getting pregnant. Yes, the girl thought that the guy had on a condom but even with a condom she still could've gotten pregnant. She should be ready for the consequences of her actions. YDI.
#253 - On 08/10/2009 at 5:40pm by livexlaughxlove1
nothing anywhere says that she is not ready for the consequences. She has not said she is pregnant, all she is worried about is the fact that this guy did something like that to her. By your reasoning we should avoid sex even with contraception cause we might get pregnant, do you actually know how hard it is to get pregnant. Its actually fairly difficult as there is only a few days where you can concieve. I can understand you making this comment if she had decided not to have sex with a condom but she did. It was not her fault that it was removed without her knowledge.
MORNING AFTER PILL RIGHT THIS FUCKING SECOND. NOT KIDDING. RIGHT NOW.
#256 - On 08/10/2009 at 6:23pm by GrapefruitZoe
karen its only cuz i luv u. even tho it was only our second date i felt a connection 2 u. and my penis is 2 small
#257 - On 08/10/2009 at 6:38pm by stryker0530
word to #4. generally, you should determine if someone is bat-shit crazy before you have sex with them. and that usually takes just a bit longer than 2 dates. skank.
#258 - On 08/10/2009 at 7:05pm by awoodenhouse
OP- Sucks for you. No matter what you (and your possible future child) don't deserve to have your life screwed up.
To the Rest of Yall- Question. If sex on a second date isn't considered slutty. What is? Maybe sex on the 1st? But that can pretty much be just a one-night stand. Does that mean one-night stands aren't slutty? Or is it only slutty when you're not in a relationship with the person i.e. a random hookup? So then by that logic, having a f***-buddy would be okay and unslutty. But what about having multiple f*** buddies? Can people be considered slutty by the number of people they've slept with and when?
Face it. People have different opinions of what is slutty and what isn't. Personally, I believe having sex with someone you don't care about is slutty. And since he said "I love you" and she found that insane- to me- she fits the category.
#260 - On 08/10/2009 at 7:21pm by nightDREAMERms
You deserve it for One) Having sex on the second date, and Two) NOT NOTICING HIM TAKE THE CONDOM OFF.
#261 - On 08/10/2009 at 7:43pm by FatJasmine
Get your asses out of your heads. I'm not here to completely defend the original poster - but I find it incredibly immature and one sided that everyone is calling her a slut/whore. What about him? He agreed to have sex on the second date and was just as eager, clearly.
F*cking double standard.
Er, Not really. They're just calling her a "slut/whore" because She's the one complaining about the consequences of her actions. If the situation was reversed and it was a girl that told the guy that she was on the pill and she really wasn't people would be calling him out too. (Example: "What about STDs stupid! YDI for being a Man-whore.")...In fact, I think I HAVE seen that on here.
#293 - On 08/19/2009 at 5:46pm by nightDREAMERms
Thats what you get for sleeping with someone on the second date.
#267 - On 08/11/2009 at 3:06am by marenchristine18
Sue that motherfucker! And then get a restraining order. He sounds like a nut job.
Also get tested.
#268 - On 08/11/2009 at 5:25am by ZeroMachine
Rule number 1 of dating: Don't stick your dick in crazy, or if you're female, don't let crazy stick his dick in you. FYL
Well... to be honest, I think you kind of deserved it. Both of you, for having sex on the second date. I mean I'm not a prude, but I think you should know the person for at least a few weeks before taking them to bed.
YDI for jumping into bed with someone on the second date. Get to know the guy first, then you won't have this problem.
#272 - On 08/11/2009 at 11:41am by daarlingdamsel
Maybe you shouldn't be such a W*O*R*, then you wouldn't have this problem. You are what's wrong with America today.
Wow!! You are all acting like fools, fucking mormon, happy clappy, inbred fucks. She gets violated and you all make a joke of it. Just because you losers have shit lives and lovers, are close-mnded and know nothing outside of your little worlds gives you no right to take it out on this girl. She should have gone to the police straight away, doesn't matter if she consented, he did something that was outside of what she agreed with and has essentially endangered her life.
See, this is one of the very few exceptions I'll make in regards to abortion, it is okay for this situation. IN MY OPINION
#278 - On 08/11/2009 at 7:14pm by spillproof
why would you even go that far on your second date? YDI
#280 - On 08/11/2009 at 9:02pm by rockenrobyns
This is rape. If you discussed condoms before having intercourse, him removing the condom without your consent or knowledge is a form of rape. He engaged in a sexual act that you would not have consented to if you knew. I suggest you contact the authorities, get tested for all STIs, especially HIV, and pregnancy. If this guy doesn't believe in condoms, who knows what he has? I think if there is a hell there is a special place reserved for these types of assholes.
#281 - On 08/11/2009 at 10:26pm by diegobrass
Yes, I'm glad you said this, Diegobrass. I meant to say that in my first comment but somehow left that out.
And, to SoniaLovesYou: I hope that the prosecution is successful if you decide to press charges.
#292 - On 08/18/2009 at 11:32pm by CharlieDudek34
I marked both because fucking on the second date is never a good idea, but what he did was disgusting and he needs to be medicated. That's some sick shit.
#285 - On 08/12/2009 at 5:09pm by theodivine
A couple of things strike me here:
We don't know if the couple in question has been casually seeing each other or "talking" before actually going on dates. Although sleeping with someone on the second date may seem a little forward to some people, it's unfair to judge someone else who does it. It's even more unfair to just tell the girl she is a whore when the guy jumped in bed just as quick.
What the guy did was very wrong and is inexcusable, but there are steps the girl could to to ensure this stuff doesn't happen if they are going to be sexually active, which is why female condoms and birth control were invented.
#286 - On 08/12/2009 at 11:36pm by indianabummer
First, what an asshole for "Not believing in condoms". Because really, it feels the same either way, so dont be such a douche for going around and (possibly) impregnating girls despite their wishes
Second, YDI for being such a slut and having sex on only the second date
It feels like you're fucking a Ken doll. How could you fail to notice it NOT being like that?
#289 - On 08/16/2009 at 8:17pm by Travestie616
wow i hate when people rush like that. my last bf like never saw me and he was txting me and stuff and he said he loved me like two days in. and he was also telling me how much he cared about me,yet when i told him i was upset he wouldnt do anything about it. which is one of the reasons i broke up with him
#290 - On 08/17/2009 at 1:49am by omgwtflolz
SoniaLovesYou, I'm so sorry that that this guy did this to you. It's just such a horrible thing for someone to do to another person. I hope that any std tests you choose to get come out clean and that you don't get saddled with an unplanned pregnancy. That's so scary that he would do that and say that. I don't know the specific laws in North Carolina, but his actions might be illegal, so you may be able to press charges, if you felt that would be a good choice for you. I wish you the best of luck in regards to all of this.
#291 - On 08/18/2009 at 11:10pm by CharlieDudek34
wtf does "ydi" Mean.!??! Someone please send me a private message explaining. lol. Thanks. :D
#296 - On 08/30/2009 at 5:09pm by xosugar13ox
Please ignore all the people saying you deserved this. No one deserves this. Also, a few whiners tried to say that "she shouldn't have blah blah" and "female birth control etc," and they need to shut the hell up. It is not solely a woman's responsibility to use birth control, especially when they had obviously agreed on him using it. Quit attacking this woman, people. She is the wronged party, here.
He took that condom off WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT. That's called rape. To anyone who automatically wants to disagree with that, rape is not all violence and force. She consented to sex with him under certain circumstances and safety precautions. He took advantage of the consent she did give and had sex with her in a way that she did not consent to, which absolutely counts as rape. Consent for protected sex does not give him the green light to start doing whatever he wants when her clothes are off. This is rape, and is very much a FYL, to say the least. No one deserves to be taken advantage of like that. I fell very badly for you, and I hope everything turns out ok.
#297 - On 08/30/2009 at 6:54pm by neptuneflytrap
wow that really sucks for you sorry about that
but not saying this in a bad way you hadf to have sex with him on your second date you must have thought something more was gonna come from it unless you just a slut or something...
at least he loves you?? haha sorry
ok thats just freaky. seriously for your sake i hope you were joking. and no ofence. but who has sex on the secon date?! like seriously thats just screaming ruin my love life!!!!
but hopes it wored out ok
dude thats fucked up!!! wat an ass!!! is he carzy!!! 2nd date!!! WTF!?!?!? can you say stalker status.....
#302 - On 09/20/2009 at 10:13pm by all_american_grl
wtf happened to having MORALS? what kind of decent person "hooks up" on the second date?? YDI, you barely knew the guy. should have gotten to know him before doing him cuz then you would have realized he's kind of insane and this wouldn't have happened...slut
#303 - On 09/25/2009 at 11:54am by elliekinslurvsya
I would have looked him dead in the eyes and told him, 'ever heard of abortion?'.
Men who pull that shit need to have their balls cut off.
#306 - On 10/11/2009 at 3:10am by eatyurbrains
It's your own damn fault for being so easy. Maybe if you knew he was a little strange maybe you wouldn't gotten to this point. I hope you don't get pregnant... you'd be another single mom statistic.
#307 - On 11/12/2009 at 5:45pm by Josh_Factor
JESUUUS CHRIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JAWED HAVE MERCEY ON THIS POOR SOUL... I woulda chop off he balls n fed him to my dog or grinder dem... who di fuck give him the right to di that... he had no eight even tho it was just the second date.... but hey SHIT HAPPENS......
#308 could you have any worse grammar? you reminde of Jim from Huckleberry Finn
#309 - On 11/21/2009 at 5:47pm by LaughAtLaugh
That's what you get for being so easy and sleeping with a guy on the second date. YDI
#310 - On 11/29/2009 at 1:13am by SexyLatina89
lol i thought hooking up was only like kissing...... or is it sex too????? can someone explain to me what it really is?!?!?!
#316 - On 03/01/2010 at 6:10pm by lolrofl818
