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Shut the fuck up, stop whinging, and get to work. The rest of us manage it without being so melodramatic..

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totally agree! suck it up, life is brutal and stop crying on FML! Get a life!

So's half the rest of the human population, most people just get on with it. People need to stop bloody whinging, grow up and soldier on, because that's life. Unless you're contemplating suicide, depression is not a reason to stop actually doing what you have to do, take some meds and stop coming on websites just to bloody complain. Grow up, and go to work.

What is with people missing key points to these stories? SHE IS OUT OF MEDICATION!

Maybe, she shouldn't have LET herself run out of meds. I know the effect not taking them has, therefore I am more bloody careful, and if I do run out of meds and feel like shit, I don't come on the internet and whinge about it, because it is MY OWN FAULT.

If you hate complaining that much, you should really just leave this site. I mean, this site's existence depends on whining, what do you expect? You could not visit a worse website if you hate complaining... except maybe MySpace... :P

It's not the whining, it's just that people complain, when they can actually do something about what has 'F'd' their life.

#19, exactly! EVERYBODY that I know who takes Xanax (prescribed or not) is a goddamn junkie. She can't manage her prescription, just like everybody else I know. Because of my experience with people like her, I have NO sympathy whatsoever.

Then again, my parents were coke heads who abused Xanax, Seroquel, Vicodin, Lortabs (*sp), and Fentanol patches so I wouldn't have any sympathy, lol.


YDI for being a dopehead and not having the cash to go buy some zannies on the street! :)

Unless I'm much mistaken, Xanax is for anxiety disorders anyway, not depression, benzodiazapines aren't so good with depression.
~~~~* The more you know.

In my experience, when I have an anxiety disorder, it starts as panicking and usually ends with lots and lots of crying. How people panic isn't always the same. I do agree YDI for not keeping up with the meds then complaining, though

Same. I pass out when I have a panic attack, and cry a lot. It wouldn't neccessarily mean I was depressed as well though, if you were on both you'd be on an SSRI such as prozac, or citalopram, because it deals with major depression along with anxiety/stress/paranoia disorders.

You get in BIIIIG trouble. I think it's just you're only allowed so many "paid sick days", you can probably still miss a day. Because like, in retail most of the time you don't even get sick days, doesn't mean you can't call in sick and get someone to cover you.

Sick worker: I have pneumonia. I won't be feeling well for a month.
Company: Fuck you.

Ummm... That's not a 'lol'. You are either a very stupid person for thinking depression is being sad or a very terrible person for thinking that's funny.

A lot of people don't seem to grasp the concept of depression. It seems unfathomable to some people that there are reasons to be upset that can't be partied away. I don't get how so many people think anyone would be depressed by choice.

it is amusing not quite funny. more of a smirk than a laugh, but then lol isnt literal.
the term terrible is applied subjectively, and lets face it, she really doesnt care what you think.

i find it funny that you both bitch about peoples intelligence but see no difference between stupidity and ignorance. which in itself is ignorant, or by your definition, stupid.

You could also argue ignorance is occaisionally the same as stupidity. Not in all cases, but sometimes you can say something taht is both at once.

Also, maybe yous houldn't so so high and mighty, as I never said anything of the sort. I made an observation, no where in it did I mention stupidity or intelligence.

no, ignorance is not the same as stupidity...in any occassion. you cannot be ignorant and stupid at the same time on the one topic, being stupid negates ignorance.

you were responding to the person who said she is stupid, therefore i assume you agree with them. regardless, you just defended the point.

Some people have to realise that despite whatever life throws at you, you have to get on with it. Yes actually, I have suffered with depression since I was 8 years old, so that's 10 years, I go to work every day, even when I just pretty much want to sit and cry. Sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to make you feel any better, and being paid for doing so is inexcusable. And not really very fair. Life's hard, and yes, you do have to get over stuff, no matter how hard it is. I know how not wanting to get out of bed feels, and just wanting to curl up in a hole and die, every single second of the day, but hey, if I can put on a brave face, I'm pretty sure most other people could too. I'm not saying my life is bad, but yeah, I have serious mental issues that are extremely hard to live with sometimes, but braving it out, however hard, does actually make you feel like you are in more control of your life than bitching and complaining all the time. There are people worse off than you, and there are people better off, but that really doesn't matter, you just need to sort out your own life, stop feeling sorry for yourself and just try and get on with life, no matter what happens.

Again, right on! There are three kinds of people in this world when confronted with a fucked up situation:

those who don't care
those who bitch and moan
and those who....

DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Depression and Misery are more complicated then you give them credit. Life doesn't revolve around you, you control your actions, but your feelings and circumstances can be an entirely different matter.

Not everybody likes loud parties, depressed or not.

#18, you said it--you can control your ACTIONS

The OP DECIDED to eat up all of her zannies before her prescription could be renewed.

ah wahhhhh! Yeah, hey Drama Queen...Get up, shut the Fuck up and go to work. Get paid, get laid!!! Then you'll be in a good mood! ah haa haaa haaaa

At least she makes good points, has a valid reason for it and contributes to the discussion. Hint. ¬¬

I' m not whinging, I'm just making a point. If I was whinging, I'd say 'Stop whinging, you're runing my life, whing whinge whinge, I'm going to cry like a baby'
There is a difference between having a discussion about something, and whinging. It would do you a large amount of good to learn that difference before going out into that big scary world, and talking to people.

I'm basically saying, if you're depressed, instead of wallowing in your own self pity, and whinging to people on the internet, do something about it. I don't think there was any whingy crybaby inclinations behind that myself.

whinge? xD

'she lack the ability to take care of her own life'

There's the point. Well done.

I agree with Paprikacha. :o
I'm not sure how you could say she deserves it. o_o
I mean, isn't her life effed up? :/

She doesn't deserve it, but maybe saying how depressed you are on a public domain, isn't really the way to go about it. I think that's the point. The fact that nothing is being done, the OP isn't even trying, or so it seems. If I'm wrong, I apologise, but from the looks of it, there isn't anything being done, apart from whining like a baby.

Its not that she deserves it for being depressed, or taking her meds, or having a breakdown. But 1) why would you room with people who clearly would never care about something like that or who party if you're not a partier. And 2(the bigger one) : She never got her meds refilled. I take different medications for different all crucial reasons and no matter how busy I get, I find time to call them in and pick them up. So if she was neglectful, she can only blame herself for not being able to get out of that rut.

If you consider hanging yourself every day...isn't this a case of the blind leading the blind? I suggest finding some help. Living with those thoughts isn't healthy.

The problem with this line of thought is, if someone were obsessing over another person, thinking about them over and over until it began to destroy their life, we'd tell them to get over it. Quit being a creepy stalker and find someone who's interested in you to think about. How is this any different? If you think about hanging yourself everyday, that's your problem. Sure, find someone to talk to about it. But something personal needs to change. Not the people around you! In either situation, the person is unstable because they're choosing to obsess over something, it's just in one scenario it's socially unacceptable anymore to just tell the person to get a life, a hobby, ect. Why should people with normal coping skills be forced to cater to someone's ridiculous attention seeking behavior?

I actually disagree with the kind of therapy you're suggesting. Psychodynamic therapies, like psychoanalysis, don't have much success with anxiety disorders. Plus, they're expensive and last a long time. I would suggest maybe a mindfulness based therapy, with some metacognitive and behavioral components. Dialectical behavioral therapy is good for anxiety, and tends to combine those elements. These kinds of therapies can produce lasting results in just 6-8 sessions as well, making them very cost-effective for the client.

Nobody said they want it, at all. It might just do some good to at least try to do something about it, rather than bitching about your life on the internet.

THE WHOLE POINT OF THE SITE IS TO WHINE! Look at the title people! Also, it's "whining" not "whinging." And I understand that at the wise age of 18 you feel that you know exactly what everyone else goes through and exactly how life should be handled. How exactly is she supposed to "do something about this," with "this" being her depression and anxiety? Those two go hand in hand. It's not like she can't be anxious because she's depressed. She didn't say she used all of her sick days because of her depression/anxiety. Maybe she had the freakin swine flu and missed some days. Plus, mental issues can cause physical symptoms. It's not like you go into a doctor's office, say, "Oh hey, I'm depressed," and they give you some magical pills and you're cured. She may have a lifelong affliction and is trying to find what medication works. I don't think it's too much for her to ask that her roommates be a little more understanding. Seriously, people like you make me sick. You think that because she posted on this website, she's whining and not trying to improve her life. Obviously, by forgetting to refill her prescription, it's an invitation for her roommates to be shitheads. You shouldn't assume everyone's condition is like yours, and they should adapt the same way that you do. Maybe you're a stronger person with a better support system. Maybe she has a worse case than you do. But for you, a person who has been through this, to pretty much tell someone who is going through a hard time to "walk it off" is negating any effort being made to help people with mental problems. It's not like it's her fault. It's your brain's chemistry, and that's a little bit complicated, and takes more than just a party to fix it.

My dear, I'm British, we call it whinging here, for a start. The fact that she has run out of sick days suggests she has had a lot of time off, and not just swine flue. The fact that she has obviously been prescribed these pills and has allowed herself to run out is careless, it has happened to everyone on these types of medication before, maybe this is the OP's first time, but hopefully after this, she won't let herself run out again, because if she needs them, she will feel awful for not taking them, and it makes things 10 times worse. I'm not saying partying will fix it, I'm saying that feeling sorry for yourself is no way to make yourself better, and complaining on a website isn't either. I've always thought myself to be fairly weak when it comes to emotion, but I've had a long time to work on putting on a brave face, but I've tried since the very start of being diagnosed to be brave, and some people don't even try, I guess I just don't understand that, because hey, my logic is that if an 8 year old can do it, I'm damn sure an older person who understands it a hell of a lot better can too. I'm not saying I'm wise, I just know things about this kind of situation, and I don't believe that complaining on the internet, or even mentioning depression on the internet will make anything better. You just get called an attention seeker, when in fact you actually need to seriously talk to someone, so you're putting yourself under unneccessary stress. Not everyone is the same, but I just don't think telling the people on here is a good thing for a person's mental health, because if you're insecure, people who comment on these things aren't sympathetic, and it's hard to be really, when you know things CAN be done, it's just a question of trying, getting up out of that computer chair, and trying to do something with your life, and get yourself a sense of meaning. I know I've come across as mean, or cold, whatever, but I havn't intended to at all. I know how serious depression is, I've been surrounded by it since birth, so I just want to help, I just think that people should keep their chin up, even when it's hard to do so, because it is possible, you just have to try, or think about it. Sorry for the essay.

That's kind of what I meant, it looks like they're fishing for sympathy, rather than doing anything.

No, mental breakdowns aren't quite that serious. Breakdowns don't mean hospital, or being sectioned. It's just an awful time for someone. I agree that they shouldn't be posting on FML though.

What makes it hard is that "breakdown" isn't really a clinical term, so there's no good way to know what someone means by it. I, for one, wouldn't have called a night crying in her room a breakdown, as awful as it probably was for her. The term "breakdown" I think naturally suggests that she needs to take some time off from her life to focus on dealing with her mental state and getting back to a place where she can function in her normal routine, and for most people that involves some kind of institutionalization.

They would not be firing her over a medical condition. They would be firing her because she violated her contract and did not show up to work as assigned.

Reading comprehension fail...#83 didn't suggest she not go, he just suggested that if she went and didn't have a good day, they shouldn't fire her, as it's due to a medical condition.

Fair enough, then they fired her for inability to adequately do her job. They are not firing her because she is sick, they are firing her (hypothetically) because she is not doing her job.

You can't really separate the two. Anxiety disorders have a huge cost to society and, yes, most of that is due to lost productivity in the workplace. But if a company fired someone whose productivity fell due to a psychiatric condition, then yes, technically they were fired for their psychiatric condition. Someone's productivity could also fall if they broke their collar bone, because even office jobs require two hands for maximum efficiency. So if you think someone should be fired for lost productivity due to anxiety, you should think it's fair for someone to be fired for lost productivity due to a broken collar bone. It would be inconsistent to think otherwise.

Agreed. Looks like your just gonna have to suck it up. I know it's a horrible thing to go through, but people have made bigger sacrifices than you.

Well, "breakdown" isn't a clinical term, so technically people can use it as they please. But I do agree that it tends to imply something pretty severe, and that people probably overuse it.

Also, Xanax is used to treat anxiety, not depression, although the two often present together.