And you are being really rude, ignorant, and shallow for assuming that someone being unemployed makes them lazy. Way to ignore the fact that job hunting isn't easy to begin, and that there are issues that sum up to people not being able to get a job because tend are way more competitors for a job slot than there are job positions. All in all, you sounds like a brat.

34 is exactly right, just because someone is unemployed does not mean they're lazy, because of my age it took me a long time to find any kind of steady job, and my father underwent surgery a few years back which didn't work and left him legally handicapped and unable to work because it puts him in enormous amounts of pain, but despite that he doesn't sit around all day doing nothing, he does a lot of housework and whatever volunteer work he can. Just remember, "It's better to appear a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." little something from one of my favorite historical figures, Mark Twain.

What if it's not an excuse, but the truth?

Like I said, just IMO I think if you really had feelings for someone you would find time for both, looking for a job would not be enough to keep you from wanting to see them. I've seen friends of both sexes get rid of people they are dating with some pretty lame excuses as to why they are at a point in their life that they can't date, but it all comes down to not being able to say there's no spark.

I've lost track of the amount of times in my 20's I used, 'I'm sorry I'm not in a place to date right now' instead of being honest and saying 'I'm sorry there's just nothing there'. I realise now it's less cruel to say the truth, so they can move on instead of thinking there's a chance down the line. I don't know one person who hasn't made up excuses...

While I understand that it's generally safer for women to turn men down with an excuse, the fact remains that just because you made them doesn't mean everyone jumps straight to lying.