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OP here -- we told her. We didn't have a choice. She was devastated and will be for some time. She's spent considerable time at farms, so she gets the whole cycle-of-life thing but it's different when there is an emotional connection. There won't be any dogs in the near future. Maybe in the spring we can talk about adopting a rescue dog.
By JDCH_99 / Thursday 27 August 2015 15:36 / Canada - Toronto
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By  StormfrontX33_fml  |  24

Death is always unexpected, so please take your time explaining. No matter what age, death is hard for us all. Even losing my fiancée not long ago, I break down and still am trying to hold on. Our support network makes all of the difference in the world. We don't have to bear through life alone. Just be there. That's all anyone can do or ask for. RIP Joy.

By  chuchusheep  |  19

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By  chuchusheep  |  19

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  MrSassypants  |  31

Actually, I was reading numerous articles that said if you lose something valuable, even a living thing like a person, it is way healthier to replace it immediately than giving time to get over with it because without replacing it you just keep thinking about it. It's like distracting yourself until the pain goes away, like counting to ten when angry.... Now that being said, I wouldn't replace a living creature no matter how much healthier it is for my mind, heart, and body. I still get sad to this day when I think of Chester, my pet tickle-bug I had for a couple weeks as a kid. It was traumatizing for me because that's when I first grasped the concept of death.

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  xAmethystx  |  12

Yes, sometimes people would rather have time to grieve. But for a child who's dog died on her birthday? You need to try and make the day as happy as you can, and a new puppy will help.

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  Cassie4840  |  7

I agree that for a child, it may be better to get a new animal to make the day better as well as help distract her. Maybe not a puppy though, because if they were close that could make her hurt more; seeing the new puppy and thinking of her old dog. It might be time for a kitty, or some fish!

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  GhostFox  |  33

Or the OP could do the rational thing and leave the decision on whether to wait or not up to their daughter, instead of possibly either traumatizing her by forcing her to replace him, or by making her think animals are exchangeable.

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  klutz44  |  28

I highly recommend the book Dog Heaven by Cynthia Rylant to help deal with the loss of a dog. Be prepared to sob. I haven't read it in years and I'm tearing up just thinking about it.

By  taliwhaker  |  7

Couldn't you have waited till the next day?..

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  JustinJK  |  21

Mommy where's my dog? We took her to a farm where she'll have more room to roam. That's what my mom told me about the dog my grandma bought me that she didn't want. Don't lie to your kid. just be honest or they'll be resentful later on.

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  justash12  |  10

#3 I agree and disagree. Waiting to tell her would have been easier, but she is old enough to notice that the dog is not around. Not seeing the dog would make her ask "oh where is the dog?" And lying to her would have been even worse when she did find out what happened to the dog

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  poorjudgement  |  25

I really think #3 is right. It is her birthday, she will remeber for the rest of her life that her dog died on her birthday. Every. Single. Year. I would tell her that the dog is very sick and at the vet, let her have her b-day, and tomorrow, on a regular day, tell her that he died. Our parents told us our dong run away. They never told us truth, but at some age we got what happened. It was the least painful way.

By  StormfrontX33_fml  |  24

Death is always unexpected, so please take your time explaining. No matter what age, death is hard for us all. Even losing my fiancée not long ago, I break down and still am trying to hold on. Our support network makes all of the difference in the world. We don't have to bear through life alone. Just be there. That's all anyone can do or ask for. RIP Joy.

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  The_Big_Boss  |  20

You're not very smart. Death is always expected. I expect to die one day. I expect you to one day aswell.

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  VGQ  |  18

I'm so sorry to hear about your fiancé. But I agree with you. My brother's dog died on his 6th birthday, you never know when things like that are gonna happen.

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  GhostFox  |  33

Stop trying to sound wise, you just sound like an ass. You know that they meant that the exact timing of death is unknown, unless you cause it yourself. You got your suicide date penciled in on a calendar somewhere? No? Then shut up. Yes? Then you need to talk to a doctor.

By  sunnyray812  |  31

Reading that made my heart ache. :( I'm so sorry for you, your daughter, and her dog. I hope she will still have a good birthday anyway. Losing a pet is (to me) losing a family member.

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You see your family members as pets? truly you are a sociopath.

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#41, you're a fucking douche bag..and do you even know what a sociopath is? She probably wouldn't have compassion for much if she was one. #10 I view my pets the same. Growing up my mother would often refer to our dogs as our brothers, they are family and I love them like they are. OP I'm incredibly sorry for your daughter's and yours loss. At least he passed away peacefully in his sleep so your daughter can get comfort in knowing he didn't suffer.

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Clearly she has no compassion or empathy for her family if she only views them as pets for her to play with until she grows bored. I view my pets as potential food and/or bait during the apocalypse

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