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Am I the only one that finds it odd how often this kind of thing happens? Where somebody wants the relationship to end and the other person wants to get married? If somebody is going to break up with you, wouldn't there be at least some signs ahead of time? Wouldn't things be going downhill? Maybe it's just me, but I'm always kind of surprised at how many people there are who propose to somebody who is about to break up with them, and the person proposing seems to have no idea that their partner was about to end things.

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Didn't YOU ever learn anything in school, like how to get off your high horse and not be a raging dickweed to people? Did it ever occur to you that maybe they just had a brain fart and thought they had typed "must have" when they didn't, and just didn't catch the mistake? Because that happens. Geez.

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#44 English isn't my first language either. But I knew better than that by 5th grade, and this guy is 24. And it really is true what the good doctor says in his profile - this community has officially lost its sense of humour.

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What happened? Some people being unnecessarily offensive, others getting annoyed by it, and the typical person who thinks that just because people don't find an offensive comment funny, they have no sense of humor. It sounds like typical FML business to me.

Am I the only one that finds it odd how often this kind of thing happens? Where somebody wants the relationship to end and the other person wants to get married? If somebody is going to break up with you, wouldn't there be at least some signs ahead of time? Wouldn't things be going downhill? Maybe it's just me, but I'm always kind of surprised at how many people there are who propose to somebody who is about to break up with them, and the person proposing seems to have no idea that their partner was about to end things.

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I think that they know the other person is beginning to pull away so they want a solid commitment to solve that and, as a result, take drastic measures to prevent losing the other person...

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I have a couple ideas of my own of what it might be. 1. The person who is proposing may be oblivious to the signs of the person breaking up. Maybe it's a little bit obvious that the person will break up with them, but they're just an oblivious person. 2. The person initiating the break up may be giving no signs. Perhaps they expect their partner to just read their mind, or perhaps they're not good with communication or giving signs. But it would cause their partner to think everything is fine when in all actuality the relationship is about to end. 3. Perhaps the person initiating the break up is doing it for lame reasons and it's just all of the sudden. As in, they didn't give out any signs of it happening because this isn't something that's been a long time coming.

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I know a person like #6 is talking about. He felt that his girlfriend was on the verge of breaking up with him, went and got her name tattooed on his back in an attempt to guilt her into staying with him. It worked. But only for 2 more weeks.

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3 -- I'm sure there is, and I suspect that's why one partner proposes. It's not because they think the other person wants to marry them, it's because they're desperate, afraid of being rejected by someone they still care deeply about (however justified it is), and hope this last-ditch resort can "save" their relationship. It won't.

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9, I think you're right on the money about the lack of meaningful discussions between partners. My boyfriend of four months proposed last week, and of course I turned him down...I told him upfront that marriage and children are my two big no-go's, but I guess he thinks you can't be in a relationship of any seriousness without someone wearing a ring. I think people are so blinded by their own visions of the future that, consciously or not, they ignore all signs pointing them away from it.

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I once dated somebody who started talking about marriage. When he asked "what would you do if I proposed tomorrow?", I said "I'd say no. We have too many issues we need to work on, and I'm nowhere near being ready for that kind of commitment right now." We'd been having lots of problems (mostly in regards to his emotional and verbal abuse) and I'd been pulling away. We broke up a week later, and he said "I was going to propose! I bought you a ring yesterday!" Well....I already told you I wasn't interested in that. Some people refuse to see the problems, even when you tell it to them straight.

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I also agree that too many people propose without having serious talks of marriage. In my opinion, marriage should be talked about seriously several times before anyone proposes. I even like the idea of going and looking at rings so they get a good idea of what rings the other person wants.

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Maybe they're breaking up with heir significant other for not paying enough attention to them and their significant other is proposing because they don't pay enough attention to them and so they think everything is peaches and roses?

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I think it really goes to the role of perspective in the relationship. OP, for example, might feel their boyfriend never shuts up and let's her talk. Meanwhile, the boyfriend thinks OP is a great listener. It's not like there's an objective status of the relationship that is obvious to the parties involved. So it's pretty easy for one party to feel that the relationship is dying while another feels it is flourishing.

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Or they were dating for 2 weeks and he was desperate for a wife and she just found out she didn't like him very much so she wanted to break up and so he proposes without knowing she wanted to break up.

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We say "poor guy" and feel badly for him a little, but let's be real, we have no idea why this person is breaking up with their boyfriend. I'm saving the "it's really your boyfriend's FML" sentiment until we know what ended the relationship. For all we know, he could be an abusive asshole or a serial cheater who just happened to blow it for the last time with OP.

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Classic?? When the hell did this become a classic? I've only ever heard it happen on FML a few times but never, in my 21 years on this planet, have I seen or heard of this plot twist in my dimension 0.0 Also, you seem to be taking a lil too much joy out of this...

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Really? You've NEVER seen the scenario were one person wants to propose to the other but the other person is thinking about breaking with them? Not even in TV shows or something? That's like, sitcom gold.

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