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By Foreveralone17362562 / Wednesday 16 April 2014 02:18 / Canada - Cold Lake
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  Nickb55  |  17

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

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  jnanderson  |  17

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

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  cat0720  |  17

What's wrong with you? When I was in middle school everyone had a boy/girlfriend for only a few days. It didn't mean everyone was a slut, it meant everyone was immature.

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  Laurenluvz  |  20

Yeah! (Referring to the original comment) I mean, I'm 16 and I haven't really had my first kiss either. It's nothing to be ashamed of, really. Though I assume it's not your fault, it's better to take things slow before things get out of control. It's like the overused term "better safe than sorry." I would rather be how I am now for now than worry if there's a chance I could be pregnant.

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hell yeah there are and were.especially where I'm from.but its part of a life style its how people are brought up and the way kids view relationships early on in life.me even though,and especially back then,being the introverted shy person that i am i never really fell sub ceptable to the pressure that encouraged that kind of thing.due to the way i was raised by my two parents.there were lessons i got really appreciative also when i went through highschool when i would see first hand how my friends, male and female, would psychologically damage one another with sexual tendencies hurtful conversations many other demonstrative ways of treating one another which is why i always was of a mindset of taking things slow.

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  jazzy_123  |  20

17, I couldn't disagree more. When it comes to dating, your partner will treat you the way you treat yourself and allow others to treat you. Personally , I don't let people bad-mouth me and always stick up for myself, so I can only remember one time a man was disrespectful to me and I kicked him to the curb. My friend on the other hand is a people-pleaser so his ex would walk all over him.

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  TheMathMajor  |  20

Yeah, I'm my boyfriend's first kiss and we started dating when he was 21 :) that stuff doesn't matter so much. Also, #17 that's a really old school view of things, and I know that people still think that way, but it's really gross. Basically you are saying women deserve less respect if they are romantic or sexual from a young age. What about men? That mentality really goes back to when women were thought of as property, and why still in some countries women are prosecuted for being raped because now they are "damaged goods"

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  falon142012  |  20

Same here! I didn't date anyone or anything until I was 17. Then I started dating this guy. Now we're very happily married. :-) So OP, be patient. Someone will be happy you waited!

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  pl0xs3rver  |  20

120: When you said you didn't date anything until you were 17, I had this mental image of you sitting down at a dinner table with a lamp. "Oh, I love the new bulb you're wearing, darling. It looks very hot on you." No? I'll show myself out then...

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^ I wouldn't be so sure of that. When I went to the pool last time there was two ten year olds making out and in the change room two 12 year olds discussing blow jobs.. really creeped me out. There are sexually active kids in that range.. in my opinion it's just nasty...

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  iAlissa  |  48

@31 Yeah. My mom is a third grade teacher and a child was recently expelled for grabbing girls hands and shoving them down his pants. Not all kids are cute and innocent... Mind you, this young boy was 8.

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  jazzy_123  |  48

I believe when teachers catch children doing that, they should investigate the parents instead o taking it out on the child. When my friend was small, her babysitter would have sex in front of them. Fortunately, my friend didn't end up messed up in the head or anything, but there's an example of influence.

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in front of them?i wont even try to understand their methods of thinking when they decided to do that.well ok ill try because that situation just makes my mind wonder,what would make u feel like it was ok to start getting it in blatantly in front of a kid it must of been some inebriated modes of thinking that's all i gotta say.

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  TheMathMajor  |  48

Yeah they should investigate the parents too, but the kid should also be punished. Otherwise he'll go on thinking that behavior is okay. 8 year olds have a sense of right and wrong.

By  Nickb55  |  23

I am a guy who hasn't even dated anyone and I am 17, OP. I am not upset though since I know that if I had found the right person I would be dating them already, it's not our time yet. Kepp your chin up.

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  FucYoCouch  |  23

I'm now 18 and I'm in the same situation. I've not had my first kiss nor dated yet. I'm actually rather proud of that fact. It doesn't bother me because I know I haven't met anyone special yet. It's okay, Op, you aren't alone!! I believe that a first kiss should be something you won't forget. My sister is younger than I am(she is 17) and she doesn't even remember how old she was when she had her first kiss. Just be patient(:

By  KeannaLove  |  41

There is nothing wrong with not kissing anyone at 17 OP. It will happen in time, and when it does, it will be all that better. As for your cousin, I would start supplying her with condoms and birth control early.

By  Enslaved  |  46

10 years old already with a boyfriend? Seems rather young. If it's puppy love/ a crush okay but if she's already kissing at that age? I'd worry more about her than you.

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and they seem to be throwing that shade on here as well,I'm sorry to hear that dude.id be highly upset with my if i heard that kind of shit about my little sister if i had one. i know i would with my older one.

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I'd give you shit too for calling your sister a slut #13. If you treat your own sibling like that, I can't imagine how you'd treat a girl not related to you. Maybe that's the reason why girls don't want you.

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  jnanderson  |  23

#52, it's not like I want to call her a slut, but she's got a new girl or boyfriend every couple of days, and from what I hear, she fucks half of them Facts are facts, whether you avoid them or not.

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Wow seriously? So you think that justifies you calling her a slut? I feel bad for her to have you as a brother. She is your sister for crying out loud! Maybe instead of being judgmental, you should ask her why she does it and warn her of the danger she puts herself into (STDs or unplanned pregnancies for instance), in one word, be a caring big brother! Besides, it sounds to me that you only hear rumours and you take them for facts. How sweet of you. If she truly sleeps around, maybe there is something wrong with her and you should look out for her. I think that 14 is too young to be sexually active but I totally disagree with someone calling women whores because they have multiple partners. It’s the 21st century, not medieval times. Women are allowed to do whatever they want with their body. Plus, if she was a boy, would you call him a slut too?

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  TheMathMajor  |  23

I wish I could thumb you up more, 64. That was really well said, and something I wish I had knowledge about when I was younger. I feel really bad about slut shaming an old friend I had when we were 14 and she was sexually active. It was just her doing what she wanted with her own body, and she knew perfectly well the bad consequences of sex and she avoided them. So it was really none of my business. I wish I could have a conversation with my younger self about that.

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  Axel5238  |  23

I agree with you find out the rumors are true. Though while having multiple partners does not constitute a "slut" just because they have hard more partners. But loosely hooking up and sleeping with people in general is considered slutty. The fact men do it is terrible and a lot of woman justify bad ideas of one night stands because men do it. It's not good behavior to be emulated no matter what. Regardless, bad choices should not without some sort of shame. I had a male friend in college that slept with a lot of people we called him a man whore and advised female friends who asked us not to sleep with him. He got a reputation for his behavior and eventually he had difficulty finding someone to hook up with.

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64 - Honestly, if a 14 year old boy had a new sexual partner every week I would call him a slut too. It isn't a term exclusively used for women. And just because someone is related to you doesn't mean you have to support their bad decisions.

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  Axel5238  |  23

Slut shaming is bullshit really. All to often it's used by women who use it as a defense to make questionable decisions when it comes to sleep with people. Just because you think it is a good idea doesn't mean it is. The men who constantly have one night stands should not be the basis for sexual morals and justification of shitty behavior.

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