Today, it's been two years since my husband promised improvements if I stayed. He abided and we're good, despite a counselor insisting it was mere narcissistic manipulation, without ever meeting him. Did I mention she also claimed it would be "empowering" for me to leave, and set "a good example" on our kids? FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, the most manipulative man I know decided he's going to get me to be his next wife. I'm still in therapy after breaking free from growing up in a violent and manipulative household. He's working with me, so there's limited options of getting out of his presence. I'm scared for my sanity and my freedom. FML
Today, I finally got the courage to leave my controlling and manipulative ex. He took it well. And by "took it well", I mean he camped out my doorstep, held some of my belongings hostage, and tried to blackmail me into staying with him. FML
Today, my mother-in-law said I was manipulative, awful, mean, incapable of love, and the reason for my husband's depression. All because I got him to agree to inpatient psychiatric care after he expressed suicidal thoughts that included our children. She says it's ridiculous and he's fine. FML
Today, I tried to talk to my soon-to-be-husband about how he needs to take a more active approach in his own life. It devolved to him screaming at me and putting words in my mouth. This has been going on for six months. FML
Today, it's been a year since my wife agreed to an open marriage. A friend said at the time that she would get a lot more sex than me, and would end up leaving me. I ignored him because he's a basement dwelling Trump supporter who's never had a girlfriend. Turns out he was completely right. FML
Today, I escaped an abusive relationship, only for him to manipulate my family into thinking i’m crazy. FML
Today, I learned my husband thinks that our 10-year relationship has been a "step above mediocre" since 8 years ago, when we got married, and his family melted down that our wedding didn't happen their way, and thus began their undermining of our relationship. He believes it's "no one's fault." Uh huh. FML
Today, my husband suddenly decided he was going to stop talking about all the changes he needed to make, and finally do them. That's great, except that in less than a day, he lost his shit at me and our young kids for not immediately fixing everything about ourselves as well. They're still sobbing and he doesn't care. FML
Today, my husband and I finally agreed on something: marriage counseling. FML
Today, we went to couples' counselling. After a while the therapist said to me, “Madam, since we've started, your husband has managed two full sentences without you interrupting him, and most of what you said was, frankly, childish whining.” I'm starting to realise I might be the problem. FML
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Top comments
MomofTwins 19
Some therapists just project their own experiences on you. Learned that myself
Billsonhamsen 17
I've seen that word narcissistic used a lot lately. I think it's kind of a trendy word that people are using in place of more accurate words.
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Comments (9)
Rake 18
Sounds like a common redit, FML response.
Iamthebanzai22 21
And?
sarsuela 29
If you are good, why speak to a counsler anyway?
Yudith 28
Yeah! Cut the counselor visits. If you feel your husband is relapsing again, see a different counselor. This one looks like she saw one photo of the husband and built an altar to it.
Billsonhamsen 17
I've seen that word narcissistic used a lot lately. I think it's kind of a trendy word that people are using in place of more accurate words.
MomofTwins 19
Some therapists just project their own experiences on you. Learned that myself
Underscore_foo 5
Okay, big whoop?
emmalou 19
And you're still not listening to the therapist?
BloodyButUnbowed 32
I'm not sure how to vote on this, since it sounds like everything's fine, but I do admire you for ignoring bad advice even though you were probably hearing it from all sides. Congratulations on your renewed commitment.