Today, my roommate in our barracks posted trans hate-speech on Facebook. My choices are to report him and risk ending his military career, confront him and risk him finding out I'm trans, or do nothing and live in fear of him figuring me out. FML
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Today, my girlfriend trusted me enough to tell me that she's trans. I have no problem with this, the problem is my sister overheard her. She ran and told our parents, who are also our landlords, so now either I dump the woman I love or we'll both be homeless. FML
Today, I can't look my roommate in the eye because he walked in on me showing my drag friends my new dress on Discord last night. My roommate is really conservative. We used to get along so well too. FML
Today, I'm a closeted trans man, and I feel terrible every time my family calls me "she" or "girl". Help me, I don't know how to come out. FML
Today, I lost a second friend to QAnon conspiracy theories. Worst yet, he started messaging everyone I know on Facebook, telling them I'm a hypocrite who doesn’t “do his research.” Those who don’t now think he was my gay lover believe we were lab partners. What do I do with that? FML
Today, I came out as transgender to my extremely accepting and religious family over Facebook. My feed is currently flooded with plans for my exorcism. FML
Today, I logged onto Facebook to see one of my "friends" had used my account to post a coming-out story. It had comments on it such as "I knew it!" "Finally." and "That explains so much." FML
Today, I was staying over at a friend's house for the weekend while the rest of my family goes to Cuba. Her neighbor started hitting on me. As it turns out, "he" was actually born as a "she", and now I'm apparently a transphobic bitch for not being interested. Two more days to go. FML
Today, I finally opened up to my roommates about when I came out as gay to my parents, and how I was beaten and disowned over it. One roommate saw this as the perfect time to hit on me, since he's also gay and thought I was hot, but wasn't sure if I swung that way. Glad he was so invested in me pouring my guts out. FML
Today, it was a coworker's last day. Over the last 6 months, he has been talking smack about me because he assumed I'd ratted him out for a Facebook post, ranting about our place of employment. I decided to confront him after work to let him know that I didn't do it. He then reported me for harassment to all of my supervisors. FML
Today, while I was out to eat, I was approached by the restaurant manager. He told me that while he respected my personal choices, his patrons didn't feel comfortable with someone who used to be a man using the women's restroom. He thought I was a transsexual. I am a naturally-born female. FML
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bobsanction 18
It's not your duty to protect his career. Reporting him is your duty to your fellow military members, and to refuse to is to dishonor your uniform.
Sagar Nair 12
Follow your protocol. If it puts his military career at risk that’s all on him. Military don’t need people like him. You’ll be doing the right thing. Thank you for serving our country.
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Sagar Nair 12
Follow your protocol. If it puts his military career at risk that’s all on him. Military don’t need people like him. You’ll be doing the right thing. Thank you for serving our country.
bobsanction 18
It's not your duty to protect his career. Reporting him is your duty to your fellow military members, and to refuse to is to dishonor your uniform.
Sagar Nair 12
That’s not for you to decide.
julfunky 29
What you really mean is “we don’t want people who don’t abide to my idea of sexuality.” Trans people understand their sexuality just fine, YOU just don’t like it.
s_ve 7
100% well said
William Uy Vu Le 9
You should definitely report him - I’m sure you can do it anonymously. At least ask your higher ups for advice, I’m sure they’ll counsel you accordingly.
clair_brodie 35
I am sorry but you need to report them. We do not need that kind of person in any type of leadership role.
TheSminty1 17
You aren't risking ending his career, he did that all on his own
thatkorean 5
He wants to be bigoted let him but not when wearing that uniform. Report him.
tounces7 28
Seems like the first choice would be obvious. There's no room for that in the military AT ALL. As per the immortal words of your drill sergeant - You are all equally worthless.
guiltyschuldig49 12
Report him. Someone with a mindset like that does not deserve to be in a career that requires protecting people of any and all types.
skippydoda 32
Freedom of speech means the government can't stop him from posting it. That doesn't mean he is free from the consequences from others.
juggalo2 22
How can he out you as trans? If you're not receiving medication, then it's entirely psychological right? If you just said "I'm a man" could the military somehow judge you identify as a woman?
mekiswrite 21
It's not about whether OP is currently transitioning or not, OP is worried about being harmed by the roommate if they find out OP identifies as transgender.
AdrianAmato 10
I already transitioned and am not obviously trans.