Today, the guy I've been dating said we couldn't see each other anymore because he needed to focus on his career. He's unemployed. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me. His excuse was that I never had time for his needs anymore. He’s unemployed but I guess me working and studying to get my degree so we could move out of his parents’ house was too much. Now I have no place to go. FML
Today, my girlfriend broke up with me because I was unsuccessful at a job interview, and she didn't want to be with someone who "has no future". She's unemployed too. FML
Today, my boyfriend broke up with me, right after I turned down an amazing job opportunity in another location, just so I could be with him. FML
Today, my fiancé dumped me because he claimed he needed to "focus on his career and his engagement." When I asked him how dumping me would help with his engagement, he immediately replied with, "No, I mean my other one." FML
Today, the guy I have been seeing left town to visit his family for three weeks. A few hours later, he called me from the airport to say he is never coming back. FML
Today, my boyfriend of two years told me that he sees no future with me. It's alright though, because he says we can still "coast along" until he meets someone else. FML
Today, I had an amazing date with an amazing guy, but he hadn't realized he doesn't have time for a relationship, and I don't have the emotional capacity. It's just the wrong time. FML
Today, my boyfriend and I broke up. He said it was because he wanted to 'do his own thing'. So gaming 24/7 like he has for the past two years of our relationship, then. FML
Today, my boyfriend of four years broke up with me because he wanted some independence. He moved back into his parents' house. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he needed to reconsider coming to see me for financial reasons. I'm the one paying for the airfare, giving him a place to stay, and covering his expenses while he's here. FML
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SubparAtBest 23
Well I would say finding a job is an important step in one's career.
OriginalOrange 5
Maybe he just got one, or is investing in one
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zaidthunder1 27
I'm not dating because I'd like to focus on my career. He has a valid point as long as he's saying the truth.
Tripartita 45
Ugh, I remember when my paid escort said the same thing to me. Now that was confusing…
kristinjeaneen 21
His gaming career?
zman938 8
If he was good enough that could potentially be a high income job. But no, he is probably looking for a job right now or just got one.
kristinjeaneen 21
Or perhaps I was making a joke and you all just take things way too seriously.
SubparAtBest 23
Don't snap at people because you got some down votes, it usually results in a long string of buried comments.
puppies4life 10
What's so bad about gaming careers? Both professional gaming and entertainment gaming require talent
_Desiderata_ 9
OP, I've been in a very similar situation of being dumped, so I know how much it hurts. I'm sorry to hear it happened to you. However, you can also choose to look at the situation as a blessing in disguise. I say this as someone who's been unemployed. Even though I didn't dump anyone, I wasn't happy on dates (because I was so bummed out and stressed about being unemployed). I knew I wasn't much fun on those dates and was sometimes just a Debbie Downer. In a way, your ex spared you from having to deal with all that. This does NOT justify what he did -- it's just another way of looking at the situation which might help you feel better. Also, remember that time heals all wounds. *Hug*
xxDeeStar 27
It sucks from your point of view and I'm sorry for that. But if you think about the situation a bit more, he might just need more time for himself since he's already unemployed. He may not exactly have time to focus on anything else. And being in a relationship comes with many responsibilities. It's really hard to juggle a career and relationship. Many people can do it, but others may need more time to secure themselves first. (Unless he's using this as an excuse, in which case you should def move on). And you're not "worth less than a career". (Just saw your title). Hope you feel better OP!
panda900 9
Could be either or. Maybe he's finally realized he needs to get it together & focus on getting his career (hopefully) Or he's just giving a sorry excuse. If he is getting it together - then give him space & he'll be much better for you after a short while. If it's just an excuse - then I'm sorry but your dodging a bullet. You can't force anyone to improve themselves
JerryPotter003 2
He thought you were in the way of his job hunting. Put yourself in other people's shoes sometimes
TheNewGuy03 29
Does a career entail slaving away at a 9-to-5? Maybe he is working on getting a job? Is he actually working on something personal? Like ... did you ever talk to him about it?
Britt125 16
There are many aspects to focusing on a career. Like getting the skills needed, or actually working your way into the career. Perhaps he wants to focus on finding a job? And frankly, looking for work is a full-time job all on it's own. Especially in the current economy, it's not at all easy to get a job most places. If you want something more than part-time work at McDonald's or Walmart, you've really gotta fight for it. It's also very stressful to be out of work, he might just not have wanted to have anything else to worry about, or might have felt like he can't pull his weight financially in the relationship or something. Like if he doesn't feel like he afford to go out and doesn't want to make you pay all the time, that's probably not easy to deal with. But it might have been easier to say he just wants to focus on his career. But if he's like content being unemployed and isn't even looking for a job well maybe you dodged a bullet then.
deltax 8
probably why he needs to focus on his career. Tbh, that sounds a lot better than him staying unemployed and having you pay for it