How do you know he even proposed? maybe it was her? how do you know he is the reason they are not married yet? Maybe she is the reason they are not married yet, maybe she is giving him that "i'm not sure if i'm ready yet" speech. Even if he is the one who proposed, she can still be the reason why they are not married yet. Maybe she wants HUGE wedding that they cant afford yet? did you think about that? Maybe she dont even want to get married. There are alot of woman out there who dont want to get married, but still have kids and get engaged. Why? i dont know, and for me marriage dont really mean anything, and it dont mean to my girl either. If she wanted ring just so others know that she is not available (some people do that too), i wouldnt have problem getting getting her that ring. Maybe they are like that? Maybe they dont even want to get married, just wanted those rings. "Hell, she's given you 2 children" that one actually made me laugh. So.. she made herself pregnant and "gave" him 2 children?" Sweetie.. no, THEY made 2 children. If she gave him 2, then he gave her 2 also. He never said that she gave birth to their first child, maybe they adopted? She would still be mother of his child. And even if she did gave birth, he was the one who made her pregnant. You really dont know anything about him or her, but yet you speak like she is your bestfriend and know everything. She said to him "No. They actually love each other.". That can mean 2 different things. 1. She dont love him (maybe she never did?) 2. She thinks that he dont love her. If its the 1. then she is evil succubus who dont deserve ANYTHING, and that guy has to run as far as he can. You dont play with others feelings like that. If she does not love you = she does not deserve you. Never waste you life being with somebody just for the kids. What happens when those kids are adults? yeah.. you breakup/divorce. Only then you have wasted all of those years, you could have found your truelove in that time, but you didnt, you wasted those years. If its the 2. well.. then she is kinda desperate. Why would you be engaged to somebody who dont love you? Really. I cant see any scenario where this is his fault. If she actually left him and said that, then it could be. But she is still with him. To all the ladies who will now start saying its because of pregnancy.. yeah right. I have seen many pregnant woman, but none has ever said to their partner that they dont love him/her or feel like he/she loves them. I have heard about ladies saying that they dont feel loved, but that is whole different thing. To OP. Stay strong. If she dont love you, dont waste your life with somebody who dont deserve you. YOU deserve to be happy, and you cant truly be happy when you waste your life. It can feel like its the wrong move now, but trust me.. in couple of years, or how ever long it takes for you to find the one for you.. you realize that every decision you made, every sacrifice you did.. it was all worth it. Kids are part of your life now, but you cant ignore YOU. YOU have to be happy so that you can be good parent for your kids. Dont become of those drunk dads who are miserable. Life is short, live it and be happy.

How is this his fault? getting married because somebody gets pregnant IS WRONG DECISION, and it could be the worst decision anybody could ever make. They did get engaged, so somebody proposed, so they are "getting married". He cant make decide alone when they will get married. Some of you people talk like we man can just go to any woman and marry her. We CANNOT get married by ourself. And why would it be mans responsibility to "marry" her? why isnt it her responsibility to marry him? There is something for you to think about. We dont know why they are not married yet, there could be thousand different reasons, and we dont know if its his or her fault. Stop blaming the man, he didnt do anything wrong here!!