TooMuchAnxiety
Kailua, United States
Today, my ex-boyfriend asked me to homecoming, in front of the whole school, knowing I have social anxiety. I was forced to say yes to not seem like an asshole. Now I can't back out. FML
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candi10000 18
Don't buy a dress, if he asks to see it, stall. On the day of homecoming, you're suddenly too sick to leave your bed! Problem solved
WavRace 14
Or she can just tell him to **** off for putting her in such a predicament.
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candi10000 18
Don't buy a dress, if he asks to see it, stall. On the day of homecoming, you're suddenly too sick to leave your bed! Problem solved
WavRace 14
Or she can just tell him to **** off for putting her in such a predicament.
TrippingOnAcid 29
#21 Exactky. The FML says "Now I can't back out" but she definitely can. Even with anxiety I'm sure there's a solution.
FracturedMinds 21
Don't show up. He's an ex for a reason. Don't even have to make an excuse. He wants to put you in a shitty situation, put him in one too.
gquagmire 17
That's actually worse. She should have just said no.
AninOnin 24
@57, no, HE shouldn't have manipulated her into saying yes. No blame falls on her in this situation.
DoomedGemini 38
It's not easy, at least for me. Saying 'no' or backing out even if you don't like the person is very hard. Poor OP if that was me I might start crying
Hainesey 5
I have anxiety too. I can tell you, sometimes there isn't.
StrayCatXIII 7
trust me, anxiety of any kind is a total bitch. I'm 25 and i have seperation, social, and God knows what else. it's literally ruining my life and my marriage.
JerryClark 17
At least you didn't tell him what you actually thought, then you'd really sound like an ass.
1dvs_bstd 41
I'm pretty sure OP made that clear in the fml. Her ex-boyfriend is a ******* coward and to another extent, a psychological bully. He knew he was putting her on the spot in front of the whole school to ensure he gets a yes.. he prolly knows about her anxiety problem too. I know a couple of girls who'd flip him the bird in front of the whole school and just bounce.
TanzWolf 26
You shouldn't feel like you have to say yes. He's your ex for some reason, say no to the ass. If he was your boyfriend he had to have known about the anxiety.
lil_ham1644 29
It says that he knew about it; that's why he did it.
TanzWolf 26
Ahh, I'm tired, I misread. Either way, OP, you should not feel obligated to say yes to an asshole. Say no. Make him look stupid! It won't make you look like a jerk.
asvp_flacko 1
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They're obviously in high school. Who says she didn't do him wrong and he still loves her? But he did go about this the wrong way
1PersonIsMyWorld 22
I agree completely 73
ekim300 26
Sounds a little abusive if you ask me. How about sending him a message or talking to him in private to clear it out? Whatever you do, you better do it while you still can. Good luck.
Just_A_Tree 20
It is manipulative and controlling. OP doesn't need that shit.
mwali02 32
Despite your anxieties, there is no need to keep putting up with his nonsense. Send him a text message saying that you are not going with him, and call it a day! Enjoy being a free woman. Disregard what he says afterwards. He does not respect you, he was manipulative, over controlling, and clearly immature. He may have put you on the spot, but it's not too late for you to take control your life. He is in your past, so start enjoying the present. Good luck! :)
Cathrin 26
Not hard to see why he's your ex if he's willing to pull such a stunt. Definite FYL.
wolfstar126 25
Your not the asshole OP, he is.
ZombieSazza 34
Message or text him on the day saying you're feeling sick and can't go. Or your parents say you can't go. Anything, just use any excuse you can think of, you don't have to go, he's an ex for a reason.
Vestin 18
Why should she make any excuses up in the first place? If she doesn't want to go, shouldn't she just tell him she doesn't want to go?
SilverInGray 25
She might not feel safe to do that. An excuse might help her say no easier.
SubparAtBest 23
well you actually can back out. just don't go. if somebody asks just say u weren't feeling well. easy peasy
thesmeagol 22
Doubt anyone would ask. Not like OP is the only girl there and being that she has that bad of social anxiety, I doubt she'd be homecoming queen so she would go pretty unnoticed at the dance. Aside from the ex that is.
Billiam2002 2
You can always back out.
ohSNAPyall 27
Agreed. If he did it publicly to pressure you, knowing that you'd say no otherwise, then tell him you're not comfortable going with your ex.
patrickalamo 48
Just go and have fun. It can be as fun as you make it.