Today, I learned that my mother has been telling people that I need anger management. I'm not attending anger management, I'm attending therapy to aid in my recovery from abusive relationships. She doesn't understand the difference or why I find it upsetting. FML
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Today, my mom found out I’m in therapy and took it as an insult, like therapy was a criticism of her parenting. Um, maybe if she hadn’t spent my childhood telling me and everyone in our family that having me was an accident, that I’ve been a huge burden, and that she should have aborted me. FML
Today, as usual, my mom got shitfaced and started berating me for something. This time, it was for missing a therapy appointment. Not only am I unable to drive, it was her appointment. For her alcoholism. FML
Today, I got a lecture from my mother about how bad my stress has been, how I have to treat myself better and do something with my life. She still doesn't realize that most of the cause of my stress has been from her berating me about how stressed out I am. FML
Today, my mom put me in an anger management class because I said "crap." FML
Today, my mother threw a fit because the psychologist she got me suggested I visit a psychiatrist. Apparently, it's my fault because I "choose" to be so "crazy". FML
Today, going to my psychiatrist's appointment for my PTSD and depression, my mother yelled about how useless I am and how I torture her existence with my "abnormalities." She told the doctor how much I've improved and become such a delight at home for her and our family. FML
Today, I had my first therapy session for the issues caused by trying to please my overbearing, paranoid, self-centred mother. The first thing she did after we started driving home? Ranting at me and demanding to know if I'd been "talking shit" about her to my therapist FML
Today, my mum's response to my psycho sister being angry and threatening my partner, was that I should make her angry at me since she needs someone to hate, and I'm the default, so I handle it better anyway. This was after I asked her to get my sister professional help, and she denied the need. FML
Today, my mom found out that I've been having counselling behind her back for the past 4 years. I broke down in tears explaining everything. Her response was, "So you go and bitch about me behind my back?!" And she wonders why I'm depressed. FML
Today, I had to sit and listen in mortification as my mother tearfully told our therapist how much sleep she loses over my being morbidly obese. She doesn't seem to care that I'm body positive and happy with the way I am. FML
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RobinGoodfellow 47
Sorry, OP, that's really hurtful. Sit her down and talk to her about her ignorance.
foxwasalamb 24
the abusive ones. reading is hard buddy. i get that
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lyricalservant 21
Someone have a bad childhood
an3ph 20
You sound angry. Have you considered anger management?
diva239 8
I'm so sorry to hear that. ThAt is truly heartbreaking. I'd suggest your mother speak to a therapist to learn the difference and about your experiences?
ICouldntThinkOfaUsername 10
I know what's it's like to be in a abusive relationship. While mine wasn't physical, there was verbal abuse controlling and he threatened to hit me and my dog. I have my own issues from this. I wish you all the best OP. Your mum needs to understand what you're going through. Good luck with your recovery.
gerardwhy 21
I'm not trying to defend her because she is clearly in the wrong, but does she maybe think that you're the abuser?
Nysha 17
Even if OP is the abuser, anger management doesn't make sense - you ever see an abuser who couldn't cool right off when it suited them, like when the police showed up? Abuser programmes are an entirely different kind of therapy.
mistress_paz 30
Yes, my ex-husband learned how to be more manipulative and started accusing me of being "abusive" for not doing the dishes, etc. I don't know if there is an effective treatment for abusive people.
Goblin182 27
Let me guess who the abusive person was. Mom?
Wolfparable 22
That's rather cruel of her but it's good you are getting help very few do, don't give up on it.
Badabam_fml 14
Man that sucks OP. Your mum shouldn't be telling anyone that you're in therapy unless you've given her permission. Regardless of the type of therapy. Also, maybe she things anger management is for people who have been around people with anger issues? I mean, I'm guessing you explained to her what anger management is though, but just a theory.
TeacherTeacher 11
It sounds like your mother is your original abuser. You might want to talk to your therapist about how best to set boundaries with her. Congratulations on getting help.
Spadoinkle 10
Sorry, OP. You have obviously been through some hard times, but at least you are now seeking help. Many people don't, so I applaud you for it. Your mother's ignorance is inexcusable. She needs to understand what you've been through, first of all. She also needs to stop blabbing to other people. It's really no one else's business what you are doing, unless you are okay with it. I don't understand how she can get anger management and therapy mixed up. Either she's not the brightest person, or she is trivializing your problems and making it worse for you on purpose.