ffffffffffffffuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu ake yes thats right fake because you know what no country could be thaqt stupid and child support is a PERCENTAGE of your income whats 50% of 0? 20%? 30%?

you're really stupid.

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yeah, since when is employment a determining factor in granting a divorce? at the very least the plaintiff should be able to say "i waive my right to child support" or something. why would her husband even bother looking for a job if he knows getting one will immediately result in divorce and child support payments?

Since you supported him and the kids for the last three years, you should have to pay the child support and pay him spousal support. If you were jobless and he was supporting the family that is exactly what would happen, it shouldn't be any different because you are the woman in the relationship.

Agreed 64.

IAWTT Judge is stupid, get another, or drop the child support shit. But you are the one who has been supporting so why even bother with it anyway?

Yes, because everyone knows that you can just go to a different courtroom if you don't like the judge that's been assigned to your case. Seriously, do you people even think? You might as well go ahead and get the judge disbarred and removed from the bench since you're going to the trouble anyway. Never in my life have I heard of a judge denying a divorce. All you need if you both agree is to sign the papers and have a lawyer file them. The details of support and custody don't stop the divorce from happening. Unless you happen to live in a screwed up state like California where judges rewrite the laws instead of upholding them.

Nobody said anything about it being easy.

The person who doesn't have the kids has to pay child support. Not that the one with money has to pay it. There's no point in the one with the kids paying it to the one without the kids, is there? Seriously. Think about your comments.

win!

REALLY...??? WTH are either of you saying - you don't know the circumstances...she could very well of had two choices...divorce or die...not your place to judge...

way to ruin the joke

Amen, To That!!!

yep. Just doesn't make sense to me. If it's true fyl, but...

yep, i'm with you on the bullshit statement. i have never called fake before but this would never happen. if by some strange chance this is real, op you need a new lawyer and a different judge because thats the most backward ass thing i have ever heard.

oh yes, because this woman Im sure feels that leaving her kids in the hands of their dead beat father and paying him to sit on his ass all day is the appropriate compromise for this situation? Obviously if the man cannot hold down a job for three years, hes a deadbeat, and thats probably one of the reasons for the divorce. Your suggestion is to give him the kids, and reward him for being a lazy bastard by her paying child support? OMG get over yourself. Giving up your children and money is not -gasp- even remotely close to the answer to this situation. If anything, the judge should be ordering him to find a job/work.

You know, Barbie, a person who is unemployed for great lengths of time might not just do it cause they're a 'deadbeat'. For example, housewives are unemployed for great lengths of time, and getting the kids and getting rewarded for being 'lazy bastards', as you say, by getting child support (not to mention alimony) is *exactly* what happens. Giving up their children and their money is exactly what many many men do when this situation is reversed. Read the FML with a slight modification: Today, I had my final divorce proceeding. The judge denied my divorce because my wife is unemployed. I can't get a divorce until she gets a job to pay child support. She hasn't had a job for 3 years. FML The only change is to the gender of the other party. Would you get all self-righteous about that? Way to respect gender equality...

So according to brilliantbarbie, my mother who has cared for me and my sisters all of our lives while my dad brings in the money is a DEADBEAT. So what if she drove us to school, cooked food, cleaned the house, took us to our friend's houses, she hasn't had a job for years, and is therefore a DEADBEAT.

Thing is, you're assuming the husband ever did anything to contribute to the household. True, it's an unfair assumption to say he was a deadbeat, but if the statement is correct, then it's correct. Me? I wouldn't assume that a woman in his position was a stay-at-home mom. Personal experience -- I happen to know a lot of deadbeat women too. From what I've seen personally, it's pretty hard to stay afloat with just one job and (maybe) a check from the government (also assuming the husband wasn't fired). It's hard to stay afloat with four jobs between two people with only one child.

It can also depend on the circumstances. Not everyone gets alimony.

According to the system, he would get alimony but if the mother takes care of the kids she still gets child support. That's how child support works.

the only way he'd get child support or alimony is if he got full or part custody of the kids but since he doesn't have a job there's no way he'd get any custody. A Father doesn't have many rights in court when it comes to getting custody

88's statement is true.

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because they're getting divorced and she has been having to support his weight, he should have to pay part of something and stop being worthless member of society