Today, I got a call from the police dept. My ex-boyfriend is applying for a job there, and they called me to ask if he was "a good candidate for a police officer." I had to start my day off by saying great, nice things about the guy who broke my heart and completely disrespected me. FML
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I feel the need to clear up some of this discussion! First of all--thanks to all these anon. people for defending me. I honestly submitted this immediately after getting the phone call @ 8:30 am, never thinking it'd be posted. Secondly-- is he a bad guy? No. I'm sure if being a cop is what he wants to do, and has his heart in it, he'll do great at his job. As far as the disrespect: it got to a point where I wasn't valued as a person, and some very vulgar, vile, rude and hurtful things were said/done to me, that wouldn't have been done if I was respected for who I am. If I was seen as a human with a heart and feelings, these things wouldn't have been done. Can I say that this will never happen to another female? No. Do I think he's pure evil? No. Saying bad things would have been purely vengeful and ruined a potential career. Also, I wasn't listed a reference, they required names and phone numbers of "significant relationships"--- I was asked if there was ever an assault between us, and about his moral character. That's it. I've had a seriously great laugh over realizing this was actually posted, and loved reading all the comments. Thanks!
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Zmeilerr 22
Why didn't you just tell them bad things?
Sariasprincy 7
As someone who knows a fair amount about the hiring process, you should have told them he was disrespectful. It is NOT grounds for disqualification, but it would give them a realistic idea about who he was. They would talk to him about it, but that doesn't mean they would DQ him. You should have been honest.
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Comments (316)
wanted4myeyez 7
y not just tell the truth.
juanegomez 0
u should've just told the truth...
dantheman31297 0
u didn't have to start Ur day that way u coulda said bad things
QueenClover 0
You didn`t really have to tell them anything at all. Or you could have stuck to the basic truths. You shouldn`t feel obligated to him if he dumped you.
franwins0827 7
Were you still together when he put you down as a reference? In any event, you were under no obligation to talk to them - you could have simply said that you are not comfortable answering their questions due to the fact that you had been romantically involved. I hope that you were truthful, at least, and kudos on taking the high road and not saying anything that would be untruthfully detrimental.
browntigga 0
you're way too nice...he's an idiot fo breaking your heart
varkey 7
why exactly didn't you say bad things then?
leo42_fml 0
you shou
ariel1 0
uh yeah. Ur fault u didn't take the opportunity for revenge...
meegsiiee 5
YDI! ! why you do that?!?!?