Today, I messaged my two best friends for emotional support. I don't normally do this, as I feel like I'm bothering people, but I was having a breakdown. One never replied; the other said, "Everyone is having a hard time" then talked about her own problems. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, after I supported my friends through heartbreak, had long conversations at 4 a.m., stayed late at work to help through breakdowns, I finally broke after a series of bad experiences. I decided to reach out. All I got was, "lol that sucks", "Oh, would you believe the week I had" or simply no response. FML
Today, I finally shared some of my insecurities and difficulties I’m experiencing with a close friend. The response was great, they listened, and gave advice. Later I met another friend, who said that they’re here for me. Everyone was just trying to help, but now almost everyone I know knows. I feel worse than before. FML
Today, I texted a friend saying I urgently needed his help. He gushed back along the lines of, "Glad you reached out, everyone has noticed your terrible frame of mind, you’re a suicide risk." I meant help with a tricky Excel spreadsheet, but thanks for the support I guess. FML
Today, I had a mental breakdown. Many things have been going completely wrong in my life, and I finally decided to let my boyfriend know about it. After about an hour of explaining and pouring my heart out, his response was, "I think we were better off as friends." FML
Today, my best friend texted me and told me she broke up with her boyfriend. Trying to be supportive, I sent a long message about how he never deserved her and that I was there for her if she needed someone to vent to. She replied, "Are you high?" FML
Today, after my therapist told me I should open up to my friends more, I sent a message to a pen-pal and told her that I had asked for and found help with my postpartum troubles. She replied that I'm a bad friend for "always burdening her with my problems." FML
Today, I wrote a post about how I was thinking of attempting suicide. Not one single person contacted me to see if I was alright. FML
Today, I was hanging out with my best friend. Depressed, I started telling her about my terrible week. A woman came over and asked me to not be so "whiny and negative" in front of her children. FML
Today, I was feeling really down and decided to text a friend to vent to someone about it. Then I realized, I don’t have any friends. FML
Today, I tried to tell my dad that I was really struggling with my mental health and didn't think I could stay alive much longer. He laughed. This comes after telling my "best friend" last week and having to wait three days for a reply. FML
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Pinkdahlia75 1
You need better friends
Chazzster 32
Remember this - People who want emotional support from friends and families need to have a history of likewise supporting their friends and family. People who are frequently in need of emotional support but don’t likewise take a positive interest in listening to others when they need support will eventually get the response you got. I’m not saying OP is “needy” and doesn’t support her friends, maybe her friends are needy… Generally speaking if you want to be a good friend, you support your friends when they need and want that. If you do that, unless they are selfish and needy, they will be more likely to support you. Ultimately, though friends and family are usually not equipped to deal with major depression, anxiety, or other emotional problems. For that you need to turn to a professional.
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Chazzster 32
Remember this - People who want emotional support from friends and families need to have a history of likewise supporting their friends and family. People who are frequently in need of emotional support but don’t likewise take a positive interest in listening to others when they need support will eventually get the response you got. I’m not saying OP is “needy” and doesn’t support her friends, maybe her friends are needy… Generally speaking if you want to be a good friend, you support your friends when they need and want that. If you do that, unless they are selfish and needy, they will be more likely to support you. Ultimately, though friends and family are usually not equipped to deal with major depression, anxiety, or other emotional problems. For that you need to turn to a professional.
RichardPencil 32
So sad for you. Do you have Russians bombing the shit out of you? Ukraine has problems. You want to keep saying you have problems?
Pinkdahlia75 1
You need better friends
wrenavery90 12
Wow. I'm so sorry. I think you need better friends.