Today, I'm stuck in a bad relationship with a man who won't work to get ahead in life, and whose family looks down on me for being a different race. If I dump him, I'll have to live with my racist dad, who will smuckle endlessly about how I "learned a lesson for dating outside your race." FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my dad claimed that while he's "definitely not a racist", most of his friends sort of are, so was there any chance at all I might dump my boyfriend, because me dating a black man reflects badly on him, and soon he might not be welcome at the pub anymore. I'm this close to cutting him from my life entirely. FML
Today, my father informed me that I will have no chance of dating a good man if I keep up with these interracial relationships. And that he won't be supporting me through college if I continue this "rebellion." My boyfriend is half black and loves the same music, sports, and movies as my dad. FML
Today, I found out why my ex of three years started an argument with me that quickly lead to our break-up. He said he would be talking to people of a different race to make life "easier." I should've seen the fact that he dislikes our own race from prior conversations. He ended up getting into a relationship two months later. FML
Today, it's been a year since the man I loved for more than a decade moved in with me. I felt so lucky at the time, only to suddenly notice more and more that he's a huge racist. Against MY race. Bye bye decades of my wasted time. FML
Today, I'm in a relationship with a guy who yells at me everyday for things I didn't do, is in a dead-end job and is not attractive whatsoever, but I can't bring myself to break up with him because he would get to keep the dog. FML
Today, my mother yet again went on a long rant about how much of a loser I am as I have "never had boyfriend" and I'm 26. Truth is, I've been in the same relationship for over five years but it "doesn't count because he's black." FML
Today, I broke up with my girlfriend, because her military father, who doesn't like me, continuously threatened my safety for dating her. Now he's threatening to kill me for dumping her. I can't win. FML
Today, my girlfriend was given an ultimatum by her dad: come back to China and marry the man he picked for her, or stay here at uni with her 'white devil boyfriend' (me) and be shunned by her whole family forever. She chose here for her future career, but I think she resents me for it. FML
Today, I introduced my girlfriend to my parents. After she left, they told me they disapprove of her because of her supposedly lower social class. Now I have to either dump her or lose the money they set aside to pay for my university tuition. FML
Today, although we are Asians, my father told me not to date other Asians, particularly anyone Chinese or Vietnamese, because I will have nothing but trouble. He's also not fond of me dating Black or Latino people. No surprise, he wants me to bond with my old, stupid, white supremacist high school classmate again. FML
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tiptoppc 21
Similar scenario but not same outcome. Maybe you should cut ties with both and run out to be on your own? Both my wife (black/asian/hispanic) and I (pasty white w/southern US family) had to go no contact and be exclusively on our own. But when family constantly interferes, it makes it less likely to try to strive for your best when family can be a boat anchor. If the problem stems from familial status, the solution is to cut out toxicity and maybe your partner doesn’t see a point when his family is there to remind him he’s still tied to them and if they aren’t happy, they’ll make sure to make him unhappy.
Rake 18
So you are staying with your man because you don't want your dad to tell you I told you so?
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tiptoppc 21
Similar scenario but not same outcome. Maybe you should cut ties with both and run out to be on your own? Both my wife (black/asian/hispanic) and I (pasty white w/southern US family) had to go no contact and be exclusively on our own. But when family constantly interferes, it makes it less likely to try to strive for your best when family can be a boat anchor. If the problem stems from familial status, the solution is to cut out toxicity and maybe your partner doesn’t see a point when his family is there to remind him he’s still tied to them and if they aren’t happy, they’ll make sure to make him unhappy.
Rake 18
So you are staying with your man because you don't want your dad to tell you I told you so?
TomeDr 25
Reach out to a woman’s shelter. They’ll help you with an exit plan and get you the support you need.