Today, my dad has dementia and has been getting my name wrong with increasing frequency. During one of his lucid moments, he ended up admitting those wrong names are actually of his other 7 kids, my half siblings to various women, 5 in this country and 2 in Europe, but I’m not to tell my mother. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I had another phone call with my mother; she has rapid onset dementia, and never gets my name right anymore. Already terrible, but she consistently calls me by my abusive ex-partner’s name instead of my own, so I get double trauma. Obviously F her life, but also FML
Today, I heard from my dad for the first time in over six months. It was through Facebook, in a message blaming my brothers and me for his horrible life, and in which he spelled my name wrong. FML
Today, my mom called me by the wrong name. This isn't the first time. It wouldn't be so bad, except I'm her only kid. FML
Today, I found out that I've been calling my boyfriend's dad by the wrong name for the past two years. No one had told me sooner because they liked laughing at me for it when I wasn't around. FML
Today, my dad got so drunk that he forgot my name. He started calling me "It". FML
Today, 98 year-old mom with dementia thought she was talking to one of my dead sisters and not my wife, telling her she'd better never tell me who my real father really, that I ruined her marriage. She won't have me ruining her reputation, so her getting pregnant with me from an affair was my fault apparently. None of my siblings ever told me. FML
Today, my dad came out of jail. He showed me his tattoo of a Bible on his chest with all his 13 kids' names on it. I'm the only one whose name is spelled wrong. FML
Today, I found out I was named after the woman my dad was having an affair on my mom with. FML
Today, my father called me to ask what my middle name is. He apparently needed to know it to remove me out from his will. FML
Today, my dad called my by the family dog's name, and stared at me blankly as if struggling to remember my name when I was annoyed. FML
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Iamthebanzai22 21
I would recommend that you tell her. As his dementia gets worse she will constantly be treated to stories about the other women as he forgets what he can and can't tell. Do you really want her to be subjected to years of this humiliation? Also, with this situation, it is inevitable that she will find out. You don't want her to also find out that you helped him keep this secret. Yes, there is a possibility that she will kick him out but he made his choices and choices have consequences.
mccuish 25
How do you even know he actually means it
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mccuish 25
How do you even know he actually means it
Iamthebanzai22 21
I would recommend that you tell her. As his dementia gets worse she will constantly be treated to stories about the other women as he forgets what he can and can't tell. Do you really want her to be subjected to years of this humiliation? Also, with this situation, it is inevitable that she will find out. You don't want her to also find out that you helped him keep this secret. Yes, there is a possibility that she will kick him out but he made his choices and choices have consequences.
Nikki 17
Obviously shitty of your dad, but new siblings could be cool!
Chazzster 32
The truth is you have no way of knowing at this point if Dad has multiple other children or if that’s just a delusion. If it were me, I would assume what I think is the best case (?) and assume Dad is confusing reality with what he might have imagined. Real or not, I wouldn’t be the one to break the news to Mom. This is a terrible situation for both of them and there is no reason to make it worse for Mom if this were real - especially if there is no actual proof. By the way it’s completely pointless to argue with someone with dementia or delusions. You will never convince them, and even if you did an hour later they won’t remember.