Today, I asked my girlfriend's dad for permission to take her hand in marriage. He said no, because he doesn't want her marrying a "sexist idiot who treats her like property", which he thinks asking permission amounts to, then told me to grow up. FML
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Today, I asked my girlfriend's father if I could marry his daughter. He smiled, shook my hand, and said "No. Now get out of my house." FML
Today, I asked for permission to marry the girl I love. Her father not only said no, he said "HELL no!" FML
Today, I asked my girlfriend's father for permission to take his daughter's hand in marriage. He asked me "Which one?" I said "Uh, the one I'm dating... Lisa." He belched and said, "Yeah sure, throw 'er off a cliff for all I care. Piss off, boy." So much for chivalry. FML
Today, my girlfriend's father sent me a text message that simply stated "You ruined my relationship with my daughter." I wanted to ask him for his blessing to marry his daughter. FML
Today, my boyfriend asked my father for permission to marry me. My father refused, on the basis that I'm the only person in the house with a job, and if I leave he will have to start looking for work. My boyfriend won't marry me without his permission, and my lazy father won't change his mind. FML
Today, I proposed to my girlfriend. She said she wanted to accept, but that she'd basically have to get her mom's permission first. Apparently the answer was no. The worst thing is that she really is this unhealthily dependent on her mom, and probably wasn't lying about needing her permission. FML
Today, I proposed to my girlfriend at a dinner with our two families. Not only did she flatly reject me, my dad said, "Good call. He's not ready." FML
Today, my boyfriend went to ask my dad for my hand in marriage. All I could make out from the door was mumbling, until profanities started flying. My boyfriend shouted "well she's a SINGLE bitch now!" and stormed out of the house. My dad still refuses to tell me what happened in there. FML
Today, my girlfriend rejected my proposal, claiming she refuses to get married until she finally finds her dad, so he can walk her down the aisle. Babe, he walked out when you were 7 and hasn't been seen or contacted you since. Just say you don't wanna marry me so we can both move on. FML
Today, my fiancé asked his 13-year-old sister what role she wanted in our upcoming wedding. Her response was "Saying I object!" FML
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P_M95 8
If she truly loves you she shouldn't care what her parents think. As long as you are an honest nice guy.
hazardmuffin 21
Asking for his blessing would be respecting his view. Asking for permission makes it sound like his daughter's choice isn't really hers, which is where the "tradition" came from. Back when women really DIDN'T have that choice.
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CeeCee_fml 16
Even if he did not agree with the way you went about it, was all of that really necessary? Some people are more traditional than others and there is nothing wrong with that. He did not have to be a dick about it. I actually find going to the parents/guardians before popping the question cute, but that is just me. Anyways, in a way he kind of gave you his "blessing" to marry his daughter anyways because according to his rant his opinion does not matter. So I say to hell with him and ask his daughter anyway. Good luck! :)
alexandraerin 6
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I agree! Traditions are good, progress is bad! OP, make sure you post pics of the bloody bedsheets after your wedding night so we can confirm the marriage was consummated.
chosha_fml 27
All these people slamming the dad, when he is clearly showing respect for his daughter and her autonomy. Good for him!
clrichmond2009 24
agreed! if my husband had asked my dad for permission to marry me, I'd have likely said no when he popped the question!
FabiusSpeck 3
wow what an idiot then you should love your husband really much
outoftown 27
Family tradition collision! Sounds like you didn't get to know her family well. My dad had the same outlook, but would've just chuckled and cleared up your misconceptions.
Carsman6665 4
Well if he thinks its unnecessary and immature than he couldn't be mad if he married her anyways.
EdenCrystal 21
I understand you are trying to respect her father's opinion but traditions like that need to go. The daughter's permission is the only permission you need. In a way, her dad was right. I still feel bad for you though. Hopefully you two can spend the rest of your lives together!
smokecloud_ 37
If you don't like the tradition, don't do it. There are people, myself included, who would be tickled pink if their SO asked for the parent's blessing. (Blessing being a better word than permission) I'd see it as showing my family respect, and wanting a nurture an amicable relationship. Yeah, it came from a time where women were property, blahblahblah, but haven't we progressed beyond that? If it's not something you like, cool. Don't participate. But don't act like everyone who asks for a blessing/permission to marry is a sexist, stuck-in-the-middle-ages pig. Oh, and OP, go through with it! :D Like everyone is saying, he kind of DID give you permission. Most in-laws suck anyways. Eh, what can ya do.
emilyyy_maryyy 14
Maybe you should have asked for his blessing and not necessarily his permission. Still, FYL OP. I hope you still propose.
Tundulinski 7
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I always thought that asking the father for permission was a time honoured tradition to see if the father thought the gentleman suitor was worthy of his daughter! That father is twisted!
Dynosaur_dollie 38
He's not twisted, that tradition had to do with daughters being a father's property in the old days. A marriage was at one point more of a transaction between the suitor and the father. Now many people view it as a sign of respect for the father, clearly this father views it as it once was and not a sign of respect.
weveallbeenthere 30
go to vegas
xThatOneWeirdGuy 18
I know you meant well, but he's kind of right. It is your girlfriend's decision only. Hopefully you can make amends. Good luck OP
Chazzzor 10
Ask the girl first if she wants to marry you. Then and only if she says yes do you ask the dad - if the daughter thinks it's a good idea. When I was young after asking my girlfriend to marry me and giving her a small ring, then I asked her father. He responded by asking me what I'd do if he said no. I said that she was over 18 and we would get married anyway but we'd like to have his blessing.
Raesin 21
So you basically asked him permission and then laughed in his face that you'd do it whatever he said. How rude.
Zebediabolical 45
There's a difference between permission and blessing. If he'd asked permission and the dad had said no and they went ahead anyway, that would be a slap in the face. But asking for someone's blessing is more along the lines of 'Well, I love your daughter and I'm going to be in her life for a very long time. Can we bury any problems we have and try to be decent inlaws.'
Chazzzor 10
Not quite - I was honest and had balls. I did't mean to offend him, but his daughter was old enough to make her own decision. BTY - the more I got to know her dad the less I liked him. But I never treated him with disrespect.