Today, my mother-in-law scheduled her neck surgery for the same day our baby is being born. She also fully expects my husband to drive her to the hospital and stay for her recovery. Uh, yeah no. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my mother-in-law told me to "just wait" until she gets home from her trip, because apparently, taking a vacation with her partner is more important than the birth of her first grandchild. Contractions started a few hours ago. Part of me hopes she misses it. FML
Today, my boyfriend's bitch of a mother had surgery and now I'm expected to be her at-home nurse. I haven't been able to sit down for more than 5 minutes thanks to her and I've barely slept. FML
Today, my mother-in-law was so rabid to meet her first grandson, she didn’t just nudge me aside to get to the delivery room, she two-hand shoved me in the chest so I flew backwards and down a flight of stairs. I’m now in a neck brace for a hairline crack to my vertebrae and can’t pick up my own son. FML
Today, my husband was supposed to have knee surgery but he wouldn't leave the house because he "got scared" no matter what I and even my mother-in-law tried to do. Now he can't have it for another six months and I took three weeks off work to help him that I can't cancel. FML
Today, my future mother-in-law informed me that since she is putting money into our wedding, that all the planning and arrangements are under her authority. FML
Today, my soon-to-be mother-in-law decided that she is going to be in charge of planning my wedding. All decisions must be approved by her, and anything she doesn't like will be thrown out. She also wants to go on our honeymoon with us to make sure I don't "defile" her son. FML
Today, I woke up to my mother telling me to sit up and get dressed because we had to go before it was too late. I had just woken up from surgery. She didn't want to be stuck in traffic. FML
Today, my mother-in-law tried to "accidentally" run me over. FML
Today, my mother-in-law screamed at the top of her lungs in front of our friends and family that I was stealing her baby away from her. I'd only suggested we go home because he had a migraine. Her baby is 24 years-old and has been married to me for a year. FML
Today, the father of my unborn child told me he isn't sure he'll be able to make it to the birth, since there's no guarantee of when it will happen, so he can't schedule time off. This would be understandable if he actually had a job. FML
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species4872 20
Should give her the ******* sausage from the handbag.
_Shake_n_Bake__ 11
Go to the same hospital then he can kill two birds with one stone
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Comments (36)
pettyjohn1995 14
Let's be realistic here, the odds of that due date being exactly right are likely not great. It's a general guide, not a set in stone timer. Her surgery is likely necessary and must be scheduled when the hospital has an opening. As much as it sucks that there is a possibility of overlap, your husband will likely have no real scheduling conflict. I think you can handle being without him for a few minutes, it's his mother we are talking about
harlequin360 3
Since she is talking about a day with certainty it is likely she is going to be induced or possibly have a c section.
PJSandWitch 3
Even if it was only an expected due date, it's still horrible that the mother in law demands him to be at her disposal. I'm due in February, and my husband is damn right unavailable for important appointments. He will be in stand by to drop anything he is doing, so he's not making any big plans.
pettyjohn1995 14
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Every expecting mother gets excited about their due date well in advance, and scheduling c sections or inducing well in advance is very rare. Major surgeries are typically scheduled months prior, so it's pretty safe to assume op is a couple months out at least It is infinitely more likely that op is just overreacting based on a possible due date she was given.
pettyjohn1995 14
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
OPs husband would probably also like to be their for his mother during an important medical procedure. It's a pretty big leap to assume the speculative due date lining up with a surgery availability is a sign of a vindictive mother in law, it's just an unfortunate coincidence that will, in reality, cause little to no real problems for OP
Mangascribbler 19
23, I wouldn't say so? My mother had to schedule her C-section with my youngest brother like, three or four months in advance because they didn't think she would survive another natural birth. It's not as rare as you imply.
pettyjohn1995 14
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
That is a very specific case, and as I said quite uncommon. The overwhelming majority of births are natural and unplanned. Rather than jump to the explanation that most favors op, I am simply pointing out that in all likelihood OP is worrying about a non issue, probably due to those wild pregnancy hormones.
domolovesyoshi 33
My sister has her c-section and inducing scheduled from her first scan. Months in advance and there was to be no rescheduling it.
cootiequeen4444 11
I've had family (Two generations of them) schedule c-section in advanced just to make things easier for everyone. I don't recall any rescheduling of any of the ones I was alive for. I don't know about the thing where you induce a "natural" birth. But scheduling a C section is very common. If one isn't afraid of surgery, I don't know why people wouldn't do this. sitting on edge waiting for one's water to break at any given moment sounds like it would suck. In a nerve-wracking sort of way I mean. As the having a baby thing is exciting and all. Just ..uncertainty isn't very fun. for most people at least. I mean, there.is a chance the baby could come early But I feel the more certainty a parent has about things, then maybe they can enjoy the perks of being pregnant more. and so on.
GeeThatSucks 9
John, none of what you said is accurate. And you're being sexist.
InfiniteSunshine 32
The scheduling of births is not rare at all, they have been doing appointments to induce labour and perform C sections for years. Not to mention, doctors are pretty good at predicting days when the mother will give birth. My sister was born on the exact day the doctors predicted. So the fact that the OP is certain about her birth day is pretty reasonable. Also, I'm sorry, maybe this is just how I feel, but when you have a significant other, especially a pregnant one, they are always the priority. The mother-in-law can get someone else to drive and care for her. The husband should be with his wife who could give birth at any time close to that day. In all likelihood, she may very well give birth on that exact day and probably really wants her husband available, not only for support and care after she goes through one of the most strenuous things a human body can go through, but also so he can see his own child come into this world. Sorry, heavily pregnant wife near birth trumps mother's surgery.
Justy101 23
Ugh. C-sections are not at all uncommon. Over 32% of deliveries are c-sections in the United States. These c-sections are booked months in advance with the exception of emergency c-sections. The tone of the fml strongly suggests that the OP is indeed scheduled for a c-section that day, it doesn't take a genius to figure that one out.
Lindsey15 2
You are neglecting to consider the possibly of a scheduled delivery via c-section. She very well probably had the delivery day scheduled months ahead of time, meaning the MIL scheduled her surgery on the same day on purpose.
bayles313 20
of course this is a man talking. you have no idea what it's like to give birth. you need your husband there the WHOLE time. you don't just step out for a few minutes when your wife is giving birth sorry.
woodmr13 9
Are you ******* kidding me #15?
interesting33 37
That sucks. From her point of view, it could be that there is no other time to do it - I don't know how long she has been waiting or how serious the surgery is.
engineerosaurus 26
If it was scheduled, it probably isn't so serious that it couldn't be postponed for a day.
interesting33 37
But it might have taken a long time to reschedule it.
Bearsmomma 30
Sounds like some BS my monster- in-law would pull too. FYL
blackrose1996 11
Not a mother in law that's a monster in law
dguzman92 12
I hope your husband is there to see the birth of your child. Mother in law should think about taking an uber...
ViviMage 40
In the US, they won't release you to a taxi company, because the taxi won't run you to the ER if you have an issue. And medical transport to watch you for an emergency is $800 easy....
dguzman92 12
I didn't know that! interesting.
demonpuppeh 10
Not true. Source: I've done it 3 times
woodmr13 9
This is one of the few times I've honestly felt bad for someone on this app. It must suck to have to deal with that kind of thing.
ApplePie1994 27
She sounds like a real pain in the neck.
subtweetqueen 14
Okay, she either needs to postpone that surgery about a month or Lower her expectations for your husband. That's ridiculous.
ViviMage 40
No, you need to lower the expectations of the wife. Mom was there first in life! Wifey should put off labor and delivery for "dear ol' mum". Just mark it later in the calendar! /Sarcasm
ViviMage 40
Is the baby induced labor? Then she darn well knew he was unavailable. I had neck surgeries. I could get around after a few days. The foam neck brace is amazing help.
Ruskiy_Cherep 18
FML for the husband having been forced to choose between his mother and his wife birthing his child.
Hangryko 32
@Ruskiy_Cherep - There is no choice. OP should be his priority now at all times. The MIL will have to find someone else, especially since she deliberately chose the same date as the birth of OP's and her husband's child.