Today, I saw a good friend beg and crawl back to her controlling girlfriend who treats her like a child for the umpteenth time, even after herself acknowledging that she got mistreated. I don't know what else to do to help her, or if I even should. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, unfortunately, my friend is a victim of domestic violence and I want to be there for her. The dilemma is that I was abused for 7 months by one of her buddies and she's basically making it out as if it didn't happen. Basically downplaying my trauma all because it's her "homie." Double standards or what? FML
Today, I agreed to help a "friend" again, after only finding out yesterday she'd been lying to me. FML
Today, the girl of my dreams rejected my advances once again. This is a girl who’s had her heart broken over and over again by cheaters and abusers. She can’t even recognize something great, even if it’s staring at her in the face. What do I have to do to end her vicious cycle of endless heartbreak? FML
Today, I was told I should try treating my wife the way she treats me when I seek out her affection, so she can see how bad it hurts. Not only could I never do that to her, but that would require her attempting to show me even the simplest form of affection. FML
Today, my girlfriend went back to her ex for the fourth time. I don’t know why I keep going back knowing that will happen, but… FML
Today, my girlfriend chose to hate-stalk her ex-best friend's social media, then angrily rant to me for over an hour about what she saw. This happens three or four times a week. They last spoke over a decade ago. The last time I suggested therapy, she didn't speak to me for a week. FML
Today, I realized that the woman I love, who is my best friend, deserves better than me at the nadir of my life. We're still just friends, but she's been a much better friend to me than I have been to her. It's time to disappear and fix myself. FML
Today, my girlfriend called me a "controlling, overbearing psychopath." What did I do? I found out her best friend is trying to persuade her to cheat on me and I demanded she cut her friend off. I'm better off single, I know, but it still hurts. FML
Today, I started self-harming again. My therapist keeps switching the subject when I try to bring it up, and my best friend has called me attention-seeking and selfish so many times in the past year that I’m too scared to ask for her support. I have nobody else to talk to. FML
Today, after I tried to give a friend I had for ten years a second chance, after we had a bad falling out because it was "too much for her" that I had a life changing accident and was not upbeat about it, needless to say she has been obnoxious these past 6 months and I should not have let her selfish butt back in. FML
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GoogieWithers 25
You can't help those that aren't willing to help themselves.
FluffythePink 23
Fact is that you can't do anything until she decides she's worth more. Abusive relationships can be like drugs. Addictive. Until she realises that and chooses to 'get clean' there's nothing you can do for her. Next time she comes crying to you, tell her this, flat out, no frills : "You're addicted to [partner] like she's crack. Until YOU decide to give her up and never go back, there's nothing I can do for you. I'll help you find therapy but that's it. Call me when you realise she's destroying you and want out." And then just stop being there for all the picking up the pieces and attention between breakups. You can't set yourself on fire to keep her warm anymore.
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GoogieWithers 25
You can't help those that aren't willing to help themselves.
FluffythePink 23
Fact is that you can't do anything until she decides she's worth more. Abusive relationships can be like drugs. Addictive. Until she realises that and chooses to 'get clean' there's nothing you can do for her. Next time she comes crying to you, tell her this, flat out, no frills : "You're addicted to [partner] like she's crack. Until YOU decide to give her up and never go back, there's nothing I can do for you. I'll help you find therapy but that's it. Call me when you realise she's destroying you and want out." And then just stop being there for all the picking up the pieces and attention between breakups. You can't set yourself on fire to keep her warm anymore.
jlc82 14
do yourself a favor and don't get involved. she'll learn eventually...or she won't but either way it's not worth your peace.
Rake 18
Helping with the symptom and not the problem. Suggest therapy to deal with her self esteem issues. Once she figured out her way in life, break up will happen naturally