Today, I finally told my boyfriend that I’ve been dealing with depression, and apologized for my bad moods. I wrote him three kinda long-story-short messages telling him why. His response? “It’s alright” and continued playing Raft. I expected something more… empathic? Am I selfish? FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I admitted to my boyfriend of three years that I have been suffering from depression for a while now. He took it as a good time to dump me. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend of nine months that depression runs in my family and I think the reason I've been flipping shit so much lately may be that I am depressed. Not five minutes later he decided a break would be "the best thing for us right now." FML
Today, I had a mental breakdown. Many things have been going completely wrong in my life, and I finally decided to let my boyfriend know about it. After about an hour of explaining and pouring my heart out, his response was, "I think we were better off as friends." FML
Today, I was feeling really down and my boyfriend refused to be there for me. It’s funny because a couple of months ago he was going through the same thing and I did everything I could to comfort him. FML
Today, my boyfriend was cold and distant with me, after holding me the day before and telling me to my face we were OK and that he wasn’t upset anymore. I tried to give him space originally but he insisted he didn’t need it. Now I just feel stupid. FML
Today, I sent my boyfriend a long and heartfelt message. He responded with "tl; dr". FML
Today, I got in a fight with my boyfriend. I sent him a long message pouring my heart out about how hurt I am that he constantly ignores me or responds to almost everything I say in monosyllables. He texted back "ok". FML
Today, I realized I apologize too often as I said I was sorry to my boyfriend as he broke up with me. I apologized for being sad and making him feel bad. FML
Today, my boyfriend who’s rage quit multiple games, screamed cuss words for hitting too many red lights, and broke his new phone when a legendary Pokémon escaped after a raid in Pokémon Go, told me I was too dramatic. Sorry for being depressed that my biopsy results weren’t good. Shit happens, huh? FML
Today, I was feeling really down, so I texted my boyfriend and asked him to tell me why he loves me, thinking he would cheer me up. His response? "Don't bug me with this stupid shit anymore. You always ask such dumb questions." FML
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Chazzster 32
Unfortunately our family, spouses, boyfriend or girlfriend are not usually trained to deal with depression. Furthermore some families have a learned reaction of intolerance to signs of depression which they think is a sign of weakness. If there are no other problems don’t be too harsh on your boyfriend for not knowing how to deal with your announcement. Depression as well as other mental health issues are very real and can have a major negative impact in your life. I urge you to see a mental health professional if that is an option for you or at least someone who is used to counseling people. Mental health issues need to be dealt with honestly and openly but our families and friends are often not able to do that.
Brightside86 31
He's a boyfriend not a therapist. I wouldn't expect/depend on him knowing how to help you deal with your depression.
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Jon Tessler 14
nope not selfish at all. go see a therapist or MH doctor to get a handle on it.
Chazzster 32
Unfortunately our family, spouses, boyfriend or girlfriend are not usually trained to deal with depression. Furthermore some families have a learned reaction of intolerance to signs of depression which they think is a sign of weakness. If there are no other problems don’t be too harsh on your boyfriend for not knowing how to deal with your announcement. Depression as well as other mental health issues are very real and can have a major negative impact in your life. I urge you to see a mental health professional if that is an option for you or at least someone who is used to counseling people. Mental health issues need to be dealt with honestly and openly but our families and friends are often not able to do that.
Brightside86 31
He's a boyfriend not a therapist. I wouldn't expect/depend on him knowing how to help you deal with your depression.
bidet 10
You got empathetic on staff.
SJKatt 15
I mean, sure, maybe he could have extrapolated that you needed more than that if he had those tools in his emotional toolbelt, but this FML sounds like you mean you sent him an apology? Says you apologized for your depression. (Which, don't. It's not your fault that your brain chemistry is out of whack.) He accepted your apology. Are you selfish? No. You are within your rights to want someone who engages more in your conversations and relationship. But maybe he can't give that to you from where he is currently in his life.