Today, having split up with my husband, I tried to plan visitation so he could visit my sons, his stepkids, only to be told he has no intention of visiting kids that aren’t actually his, and that now we’re divorced they're entirely my problem and good riddance. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, in the aftermath of our breakup, I asked my ex-fiancee if I could still be part of her sons' lives since I've been basically a father to them for almost 12 years. She told me to fuck off. FML
Today, I filed for divorce after only two months because my husband would not allow my kids to attend their father's funeral. I know it's necessary and I have to get my kids away from this prick, but… FML
Today, in the middle of a rough separation, my soon-to-be-ex-wife, who refuses to acknowledge it's over, told the children that I'm still going with them on that long-planned family vacation. The children are ecstatic; I however might be a bit less. FML
Today, I asked my husband for a divorce. He said fine, as long as I got full custody of the kids. I did an actual double take; he didn’t want shared custody, he wanted me to take the kids, no arguments or negotiating, because he doesn’t want the kids anymore. FML
Today, after being unnecessarily cruel and smearing me in court, my ex had his first weekend with the kids since our split. He has texted me no less than 38 times, wanting play by play directions on how to take care of them. I wanna tell him to go fuck himself but I’m worried my kids will suffer. FML
Today, my husband dropped a bombshell when he served me divorce papers and a set of tests proving that our sons (7 and 9 years-old) are not his. I'm alone at home, scared shitless, and my poor kids don't understand where their dad is. I can't take them to their bio dad, since he died four years ago. FML
Today, despite the fact that he knows I need help, my recently turned 18 year-old son found an apartment and moved out, leaving me alone with my three toddlers. When I asked what I’m supposed to do for childcare, he just said, “Not my kids, not my problem. Ask their dads. Bye.” FML
Today, I made the mistake of telling my boyfriend I was taking my kids to my mother's until he has decided if he wants to carry on being a boyfriend and stepfather. While we were gone, he apparently realised how good his life could be without us, and dumped me. I fucked up. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he doesn't think he should marry me, because I have kids. They're his kids. FML
Today, my ex-wife brought the kids to me angry that she had tried to pick up some guy but the kids ruined it just by being there, so she brought them to my house because she couldn’t be bothered this week. The judge giving her primary custody is a travesty of our legal system. FML
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sarsuela 29
Did you live together for a long time so that your kids consider him as their father?
Jon Tessler 14
I won't say "you deserved it", but you shouldn't expect him to want to visit "step kids". let your sons know of his decision, and let them make the choice if they want to communicate with him.
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sarsuela 29
Did you live together for a long time so that your kids consider him as their father?
Jon Tessler 14
I won't say "you deserved it", but you shouldn't expect him to want to visit "step kids". let your sons know of his decision, and let them make the choice if they want to communicate with him.
thatslifeiguess7 16
Depending on age they may see him as a dad. We see him as a jerk. I hope the kids get therapy and in a big siister/brother program
mike3775 39
This a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation. On one hand, he was living with the kids for awhile atleast, so he should want to see them somewhat, but I can see why he wouldn’t want to as well (like he basically said already). I have to wonder though, if your sons made your soon to be ex husband’s life a living hell while you were married, leading to his reaction.
TexasKitten79 6
My ex was like this with our children, HOS biological children. some guys are just asses and it has nothing to do with the childrens' behavior.
mike3775 39
Not necessarily. My mom was married to my stepdad, and when I was a kid, my sister and I made my stepdad’s life a living hell, to the point when he and my mom almost got divorced, he straight up told her that if they go through with the divorce, he doesn’t want to see either of us (the kids). Of course, we mellowed with him when we got older (and I even apologized for making his life hell when I was 21 and in the Navy). I would not have held it against him for never wanting to see my sister or I ever again if they had gotten divorced. Also remember this, even women can be asses just like men. My first wife has not seen our kids since she walked out on us when I was at work and she dropped them off at my moms.
TexasKitten79 6
Sadly, you have no legal standing to demand visitation for his former step children. It sucks, if they love him and want to see him. I'm sorry.
sch00ln3rd 11
Same thing happened to me. Let him go. He’s a piece of crap. He definitely will regret it later.
Brightside86 31
This seems pretty reasonable. I could see him wanting visitation if the marriage was 5+ years. Though even then it's his call. Feels kinda bad for the kids if they've bonded. I have an ex who changes bf about every year her little one has known about 6 temporary father figures so far...
mike3775 39
That’s why my current wife never met my kids and I never met hers until we had been dating 6 months. I wanted to avoid things like that
Michael Sawyer 11
While it sucks for the kids(depending on the ages) he has ZERO legal obligations to your children. My ex-wife did the same thing with my daughter from before we got together. She was mom for 10 years then after the divorce not even an email/text message. She was 12 when we divorced.
Hether Duff Schwartz 1
as a mom who's kiddo has a bonus mom, I can tell you if her dad and his gf split up, my kiddo wouldn'tgive two loads of poop whether or not she continued contact with the bonus mom. even when she's known her since she was 3. kiddos a preteen now
randybryant799 21
I'm not surprised. It sucks but he's right. They're not his kids.
Mysterion420 2
They're not his kids so they are solely your problem.