Today, my daughter got her first house. As soon as she had the keys, she turned on me, ranting at everything she thinks I’ve done to wrong her, and how she never wants to see me again. I don’t understand, I paid for all her furniture, and we still go on mother/daughter trips. Where did I go wrong? FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my daughter got upset because, even though I bought the car for her when she got her license, I told her it was her responsibility to pay the tax, insurance and MOT every year. End result, my daughter is a selfish brat and I returned the car, but lost a bunch of my deposit money. FML
Today, my mother told me she thinks it is time for me to move into my own place. I agreed with her and went to look at studios/flats online. She later came into my room, saw me looking at places and then got pissed off at me, saying that I hate her for wanting to leave her. FML
Today, it’s been a few months since I moved into my first house and apparently I know nothing about being an actual adult. I keep getting everything wrong or messing up. I just want to move back in with my dad and pay him rent again. FML
Today, I finally got all of my finances to move out of my house. My mother, instead of being happy for me for moving out of her house, blames me because she needs my rent money, states I will not be happy out in the world and disowned me because I didn't move out when she wanted me to. She wanted me to stay until she was 55. FML
Today, my marriage of only a month is falling apart because my wife is furious that I allowed my daughter to move in with my mother, who lives just a few houses down. My daughter wanted to go live with her grandma and I agreed because my wife brought in four kids and my daughter had virtually no space. FML
Today, I took my girlfriend to get her nails done, gave her 500 spending money, took her to eat, bought her son a TV, then bought her clothes. We get to her house, she steps inside then gets furious her son had made a mess and hadn't cleaned his room. She told me to take the TV back, which I did, then got reamed for doing so. FML
Today, my daughter refuses to make eye contact, won’t eat any of the food I make, and still throws tantrums in middle school. I have no idea where I went wrong raising the brat. FML
Today, my idiot daughter is sat next to me crying because she took her ex to court for child support, convinced she was gonna get paid, even though her kids live with their dad full time. Now she's paying HIM child support and can’t afford her flat anymore, so she wants to move in with me. FML
Today, my daughter told me she wanted to divorce me. FML
Today, my brat daughter got pissed that I didn't spend "enough" money on her Sweet Sixteen party. She threw a tantrum and told my husband about my affair. FML
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Chazzster 32
One interpretation is that daughter was resentful of how she was raised but using OP to get stuff. That’s a very ugly picture and if it were true it should be the end of the gravy train for daughter… OP, I think you deserve an explanation from your daughter about the issues she is upset over and what she expects of your relationship. Bear in mind that just because she wants or expects something doesn’t mean she gets it from you. It’s pointless to try to buy love or friendship regardless of who they are. Once you start down that road the demands never end and eventually you will be through with the charade.
cuz803 46
You gotta have some type of peace offering and neutral talk with her to see where she's going with this. Things are not being specified and mystery will only hurt more.
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cuz803 46
You gotta have some type of peace offering and neutral talk with her to see where she's going with this. Things are not being specified and mystery will only hurt more.
Chazzster 32
One interpretation is that daughter was resentful of how she was raised but using OP to get stuff. That’s a very ugly picture and if it were true it should be the end of the gravy train for daughter… OP, I think you deserve an explanation from your daughter about the issues she is upset over and what she expects of your relationship. Bear in mind that just because she wants or expects something doesn’t mean she gets it from you. It’s pointless to try to buy love or friendship regardless of who they are. Once you start down that road the demands never end and eventually you will be through with the charade.
RichardPencil 32
Don't ask us -- listen to what she said in her rant.
Nazmazh 18
Yeah, this has big "missing missing reasons" energy
Anderling 33
Without further context, I don’t know which version, if any, is the truth. The following post is admittedly all speculation and not much substance, if any. But as a counterweight to the others in this thread, I will say that a lot of children of narcissists will play along while they’re working on gaining financial independence, and when they finally get it—such as, say, obtaining a furnished apartment—they’ll sever contact now that they’re no longer obligated to play along if they want to have a roof over their heads. And from observation, usually when this happens, the narcissist parent will feel completely blindsided by the sudden shift in dynamics and automatically reject the clear reasoning laid out by the child, often omitting it entirely when retelling the story later (“missing missing reasons”). What did your daughter tell you, exactly? Is there any truth to it, at least from her point of view? Did she actually enjoy your mother-daughter outings or was she just playing along and you didn’t notice because this was how you felt things should be? Some things to consider with the aid of a therapist.
jobekka 20
she probably told you